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Breach of Contact or Residence Order: What to Do

By: Abigail Taylor - Updated: 14 Aug 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
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A 'contact order' is an order made by the court that determines who is entitled to communicate with a child (either through face to face meetings or telephone calls, or indirectly such as by letter). A 'residence order' is an order made by the court that determines where and with whom a child lives. From April 2014, these orders have been replaced with a single 'child arrangement order' which covers both issues (given that they are intrinsically linked).

You can apply to the courts for a child arrangement order. For most parents, this will be the end of the matter, and both parties will comply with the order. However unfortunately for some parents, this can be the stage at which further problems begin, if the other party breaches the order.

What is a breach?

Arguably anything that does not comply with the order is a breach. For example if the order states that the non-resident parent should have contact every Friday from 5pm and contact is not provided until 5:05pm, this is technically a breach of the order. However it is important to be reasonable; the courts are unlikely to take any action if the breach is insignificant.

The courts' guidance states that unless a breach is regular and intentional, they will not usually take action to enforce the order or punish the breach. Further it is important to consider the needs of your child first and so some flexibility may be needed on occasion.

"I have a contact order which says that I have contact with my 14 year old daughter from 6pm on three evenings a week. My ex-wife has agreed that she can play netball for her school team on Wednesday evenings until 6pm which means that I won' see her until 7pm. Can she do this?"

Whilst it would have perhaps been better for your ex-wife to discuss this with you first, try to be flexible. Does your daughter enjoy playing netball? The courts consider a child's welfare as paramount and so her participation in such activities (if she wants to take part) will likely take precedence here. However if this causes you problems, perhaps ask your ex-wife if you can swop the day that you see your daughter to a day when she is home earlier.

"I have lost my job and have been unable to pay child support. I have a court order to see them twice a week. My ex is now saying that if I can't pay child support, then I can't see my kids. Is this a breach?"

Any changes to a contact order must be agreed by both parties. One party cannot unilaterally decide to change the order or apply additional terms. If they wish to do so, they will need to refer the matter back to the Courts.

"I have met someone I really like and would like to introduce my kids to her. I have a court order to see my kids every Wednesday and Sunday. However, my ex has said she doesn't want the kids to meet my new partner and that I can only see my kids when she's not there. Can she do this?"

Concerns often arise over a new partner being introduced to children. However the Courts will not impose a restriction on whether this person can be present during contact unless they can be shown to be a risk to the child's welfare (e.g. someone with convictions for violence or sex offences).

What to do if there is a breach

1) Discuss

The first step in the event of a breach of an order should be to try to discuss this with the other party involved. Whilst this can often be awkward when a relationship between you has broken down, this is the quickest and cheapest way to resolve the problem. When approaching the discussion, try to be flexible. If the breach has occurred due to a change of circumstances (such as the child moving from primary to secondary school, or the other party changing jobs) then maybe you could agree a way to vary the order to something that could realistically be followed.

[The Court does not have to approve any agreed amendments to the order. However make sure that you have this agreement in writing to protect yourself should a further dispute arise.]

"I've had a court order for three years to see my children and everything was working fine, until we had an argument last week when she refused to let them come, after the third week in a row. Admittedly, it got a bit heated and we had a big argument on the doorstep. She called the police and now she has taken out a non-molestation order against me. What happens now?"

If you are unable to contact the other party directly (for example due to a non-molestation order) you may need to ask someone you trust to try to discuss the issue with them, or as per step 2 below, ask a solicitor to correspond on your behalf. In this situation, it is likely that some amendments will be needed to current contact arrangements so that you and your former partner do not see each other. For example one of you drops the children off at school and the other collects from school. Contact or Children and Family Centres will also assist with the transfer in such situations.

2) Write

If you are unable to get anywhere by discussing the issue with the other party, write to them setting out your concerns and proposals to resolve the problem. If you have a solicitor, you may wish to ask them to write to the other party reminding them of their obligations under the order. [Keep a copy of any letters / emails sent in case you ever needed to refer to these in court.]

3) Consider applying to Court

Court enforcement should only be used as a final resort, as this will be added expense, and will generally only serve to increase tensions between the parties.

In order to apply to the Court for enforcement of a child arrangement order (or contact order / residence order), you will need to fill in, issue and serve form C79 (which can be found on the HMRC website). The Court will wish to see that other methods of resolving the issue have been attempted, which is where copy letters (as in point 2 above) are useful.

If you wish to apply to vary a child arrangement order, you will need to use form C100 (which can be found on the HMRC website)

If you are considering making an application to Court, seek independent legal advice. The Citizens Advice Bureau can provide you with free and independent legal advice in this regard.

What can the Court do if a breach has occurred?

There are a number of options open to the Court in order to punish the offending parent and try to ensure that the breach does not occur. Which route the Court takes, will depend upon the circumstances including the severity and frequency of the breach, and where the child resides.
  • The Court can impose a community service order, requiring the parent in breach of the child arrangement order to undertake up to 200 hours of community service.
  • The Court can fine to the parent in breach.
  • The Court can impose a short prison sentence on the parent in breach. (This is however very rare, as the parent in breach is usually the parent with whom the child resides and the primary carer.)
  • The Court may also impose an order for the parent in breach to pay the other party financial compensation if the breach led to loss (e.g. a cancelled holiday).
If in doubt, it is always best to seek legal advice. Citizens Advice Bureau provide free and independent legal advice and can be contacted on 03444 111 444.

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My son has his children there is a court order .the mum only have contact 1 night after school and every other Saturday and 2 days a week in the holidays he allowed her to have them for a week now she is not letting him have them back where do he stand ( the social services took it to court and took them off her this was in September 2017
Helpless - 14-Aug-17 @ 9:37 AM
Hi my ex is due to have children for 3 weeks of summer holidays but has now got a job and can't have them. Children would have to go to childcare as I also work. He is refusing to pay for the childcare during the 3 weeks that he should be having them. Court ordered. Where do I stand and what should I do?
Carlin - 12-Aug-17 @ 10:08 AM
I have a court order for my two youngest children which I've had for 4 years. My youngest son, aged 11 didn't come last week wher my ex said" he's upset with you for not coming to his leavers assembly so doesn't want to come" . He was fine on the day and knew I had been called into work, as my new partner dropped him off at school. This was totally out the blue and didn't know what to say at the time. I've gone toda to pick my children up from their mothers and again, my little boy wouldn't come. I insisted he told me himself and said he was upset as apparently I joked about not going. Also, he was upset that I'd laughed at him when we were playing archery in the garden! He refused to come and stayed with his elder sister- conveniently the ex had "nipped out" My eldest daughter -15 nearly 16 fell out with me because she hates my partner and I refused to go on holiday without her and her daughter and in turn am not taking my s all stems from their mother, it's been 5 years since we split and I'm still getting crap through the kids. My elDest is convinced I have a criminal record as her mum told her I have. The ex falsely accused me of assault and even put my then 10 yo daughter on the stand in evidence. I was exonerated in court as I had mobile phone recordings of her actually attacking me. But guess what, nothing happened to her. Nothing, nada. So much for perjury. I have Cafcass reports showing the children are being corrupted by the mother yet still nothing gets done. I'm at a loss what to do. In one hand, if my son doesn't want to come, I don't want to force him. Yet at the same time, he's 11, and an immature one at that. The mother is just doing her usual smirking away. What gets me is 6 months ago, my eldest was begging to live with me, she hated her mum. I talked her round and won't let the kids play me off against their mother. Yet it never ever goes the other way. She a typical hard done by single mum. She's on £50k a year plus £475 a month off me as I have a 5in 14 night order plus half the time in holidays. Never spends nothing on them, takes them on holiday with the grandparents as they pay to the lakes or wales. Me, despite being knackered financially, provide clothing (full wardrobes at mine) take them on foreign holidays Etc because my kids are everything. It's mugging here who bought them all iPads, laptops yet no matter what I do, the ex still slags me off to them. I'm really stuck what to do. What to I do with regards my youngest not coming? How do I pursue the court order not being followed? What do I do to stop the constant twisting of my kids by the ex? I really am at the stage now where I'm going to just give up and walk away. Why pay rent on a four bed home when me and my new partner could make do with a 2 bed? If I could have my time back, I'd have walked away, changed phone numbers and never contacted any of them again. Just cough up the maintenance and start afresh.thats the advice I g
Billc72 - 7-Aug-17 @ 10:25 PM
Should add as it maybe relevant I reside inScotland. I know Scots law maybe different from rest of uk
Phoenix - 28-Jul-17 @ 3:03 PM
Bobby - Your Question:
Hello, I had a contact order as my ex-partner was given permission to leave the uk in 2009. Not long after, I asked to see my child before they left; this was denied as they claimed that it would be detrimental to our child as their departure was imminent. I have now learned that they never left the UK and have since had another child. What can I do?

Our Response:
In this case I suggest you seek legal advice about taking the matter further and/or back to court to seek regular contact. Dependent upon the circumstances, the fact your ex deceived you for this length of time and breached the court order will not go down well if the matter goes to court.
SeparatedDads - 24-Jul-17 @ 11:05 AM
Hello, I had a contact order as my ex-partner was given permission to leave the uk in 2009. Not long after, I asked to see my child before they left; this was denied as they claimed that it would be detrimental to our child as their departure was imminent. I have now learned that they never left the UK and have since had another child. What can I do?
Bobby - 21-Jul-17 @ 7:01 PM
Angel - Your Question:
As I am a were there is no legal aid but how do I go about on the breaching court order side off things. As I said before I am ment to have my daughter for one tea time contacted one day week and dont get it ive never had it plus every other weekend shared I also get no school information and no medical information and not the correct contacted as my daughter who is aged 11 reached school age my contacted was ment to be increased and my exs wont increase it he takes time off me.school holidays are ment to be shared but I get 1 to 2 weeks thats it. I can never take her on holidays ive had to cancel day trips due my exs saying no he is very controlling towards every thing he never alows her to attend her own cousins birthday partys and not even her own half sisters. all he dose is acuse me off false allegations I dont get no parental responsibility even I do have it and know say in his actions and when my daughter asks for extra contacted to see me I just say to her ask ur dad. contacted is ment to be one day a week tea time. every other weekend and school holidays 50/50 Christmas and birthdays alternate but it all gets changed and days taken off via my exs it not fair on any off us.

Our Response:
If you need to take the breach back to court to have the order enforced you can represent yourself in court, please see link here .
SeparatedDads - 30-Jun-17 @ 2:50 PM
Angel - Your Question:
Hi I am ment to be haveing regular contacted with my 11 yr old daughter and my exs takes contacted off me its ment to be one day a week tea time contacted and ive never had that in my life with her. And its ment to birthdays and Christmas alternative and plus every other weekend eatch order says as our daughter reached school age my contacted should be increased but my exs never increase,s it ie school holidays I get 1 to 2 weeks that's all he wont allow her to go to none off my familys birthday partys ie her cousins and he won't let her attend her own half sisters either so far ive lost out on loads on loads off day trips ive had to cancel due him saying no and my daughter asks me why she can not see me when she asks her dad for extra contacted time with me I just sometimes dont know what to say I just say ask ur dad. and give her hug.

Our Response:
If there is a court order in place, as specified in the article your ex can be punished by the courts if he does not adhere to it. If your ex has breached the order then you can either ask a solicitor to write him a letter outlining the terms of the order and the repercussions if he doesn't comply with it. Or you can take the matter back to court to have the order enforced. If you cannot afford legal representation, you can self litigate, please see link here .
SeparatedDads - 30-Jun-17 @ 12:32 PM
Issue with ex's new - Your Question:
I am being taken back to court because I have apparently hbreached the court order allow my ex to see our daughter. This order was made 6 years ago BUT he moved abroad 4 years ago so it hasn't been in force. He recently returned back to the uk with his other child following major issues with the wife , she was drinking uncontrollably and he took the child without his permission out of the country. I allowed him to have regular contact with our child when he returned but after a few months the wife joined him and I suspended contact. This was after me saying I didn't want the wife around my child and him ignoring my request twice.This is not the first issues the wife has had , she had her first 3 children removed and later adopted because she was having issues with drink, drugs and was in an abusive relationship. This was several years before she married my ex. The original order states the wife is not to be left alone with my daughter but after having such major issues involving police and their child being put at risk. I have said he can see her but without the wife. Where do I stand legally ?

Our Response:
It is likely all the information given here will be taken into consideration by the court and a new issue ordered. While there has been a breach, the fact circumstances have changed over the last few years will also be taken into consideration, as will your concern with regards to his wife and her relationship with your child. It is unlikely you will be punished for the breach.
SeparatedDads - 30-Jun-17 @ 11:24 AM
As i am a were there is no legal aid but how do i go about on the breaching court order side off things .As i said before i am ment to have my daughter for one tea time contacted one day week and dont get it ive never had it plus every other weekend shared i also get no school information and no medical information and not the correct contacted as my daughterwho is aged 11 reached school age my contacted was ment to be increased and my exs wont increase it he takes time off me .school holidays are ment to be shared but i get 1 to 2 weeksthats it .. i can never take her on holidays ive had to cancel day trips due my exs saying no he is very controlling towards every thing he never alows her to attend her own cousins birthday partys and not even her own half sisters .. all he dose is acuse me off false allegations i dont get no parental responsibility even i do have it and know say in his actions and when my daughter asks for extra contacted to see me i just say to her ask ur dad .. contacted is ment to be one day a week tea time .. every other weekend and school holidays 50/50 Christmas and birthdays alternate but it all gets changed and days taken off via my exs it not fair on any off us ..
Angel - 29-Jun-17 @ 9:16 PM
Hi i am ment to be haveing regular contacted with my 11 yr old daughter and my exs takes contacted off me its ment to be one day a week tea time contacted and ive never had that in my life with her . And its ment to birthdays and Christmasalternative and plus every other weekendeatch order says as our daughter reached school age my contacted should be increased but my exs never increase,s it ie school holidays i get 1 to 2 weeks that's allhe wont allow her to go to none off my familys birthday partys ie her cousins and he won't let her attend her own half sisters either so far ive lost out on loads on loads off day trips ive had to cancel due him saying no and my daughter asks me why she can not see me when she asks her dad for extra contacted time with me i just sometimes dont know what to say i just say ask ur dad .. and give her hug.
Angel - 29-Jun-17 @ 7:58 PM
I am being taken back to court because I have apparently hbreached the court order allow my ex to see our daughter . This order was made 6 years ago BUT he moved abroad 4 years ago so it hasn't been in force . He recently returned back to the uk with his other child following major issues with the wife , she was drinking uncontrollably and he took the child without his permission out of the country . I allowed him to have regular contact with our child when he returned but after a few months the wife joined him and i suspended contact .This was after me saying I didn't want the wife around my child and him ignoring my request twice . This is not the first issues the wife has had , she had her first 3 children removed and later adopted because she was having issues with drink, drugs and was in an abusive relationship. This was several years before she married my ex. The original order states the wife is not to be left alone with my daughter but after having such major issues involving police and their child being put at risk. I have said he can see her but without the wife . Where do I stand legally ?
Issue with ex's new - 29-Jun-17 @ 4:13 PM
I am being taken back to court because I have apparently hbreached the court order allow my ex to see our daughter . This order was made 6 years ago BUT he moved abroad 4 years ago so it hasn't been in force . He recently returned back to the uk with his other child following major issues with the wife , she was drinking uncontrollably and he took the child without his permission out of the country . I allowed him to have regular contact with our child when he returned but after a few months the wife joined him and i suspended contact .This was after me saying I didn't want the wife around my child and him ignoring my request twice . This is not the first issues the wife has had , she had her first 3 children removed and later adopted because she was having issues with drink, drugs and was in an abusive relationship. This was several years before she married my ex. The original order states the wife is not to be left alone with my daughter but after having such major issues involving police and their child being put at risk. I have said he can see her but without the wife . Where do I stand legally ?
Issue with ex's new - 28-Jun-17 @ 10:38 PM
I went through a painstaking court process and build-up over the last 15 months in wanting to see my son via a Contact Order. As a result in March I obtained a court order to see my son on a regular basis, with progression to sleepovers built into the order. Also as part of the order I was served a Non-molestation order that prevented me from picking and dropping off my son, to which my parents had to do. Then three weeks into the order and each occasion with my son was brilliant. My ex sent a derogative comment to my elderly mum and since has prevented me seeing my son. Currently waiting to go back to court next month. If I have no-one to pick my son up for contact. Has anyone else go through this and what services and answers are out there for me seeing my son. I would appreciate your constructive answers, please. I so miss my son every day and seems unfair after paying more than £12k feel the legal system isn't doing me justice. Are there barristers out there that can help me. Many thanks.
Sad without son - 28-Jun-17 @ 4:25 PM
I have a court order in place to see my children every other weekend from Friday to Monday(School to school). My ex wife has deceitfully decided that she will only allow me to collect them at 5pm Saturday to 7pm Sunday. She has done this to claim more money through the child maintenance service and despite me showing them a copy of the court order and proving that she has lied to them saying that I had agreed to this new change, they have ruled in favour! This has meant that child maintenance has increased so much that I have to move out my home as I can't afford to live in it. As I can't afford to pay the 40% of my wages that CMS now insists I have to pay, my ex has not let me see my children for almost seven weeks now despite the court order. I can't afford a solicitor to go back to court!
Will - 8-Jun-17 @ 10:27 PM
What does it mean when social workers say the main residence should be with the mother because she is in the family home still where the child has lived for 4 years? Is there a difference between shared/joint care and shared/joint custody? Who has parental responsibilityfor the child if it is joint care/ custody? If half the state benefits go to each parent does one parent claim them then give half to the other parent or can you both claim halffrom the government so you actually get it? James
James - 6-Jun-17 @ 7:10 AM
We have a family arrangements order & i have contact . but resident mother is making variations & breaches to the order so that I'm losing loads of time . On one occasion she took my son out of school for a week to go abroad- on the week I'm supposed to have him 4 nights . The summer holidays are approaching & we are suppised to have half each in alternate weeks . I'm terrified she plans to breach the order then as its the time of year i have contact most . I an fed up with the biased court we have been using & am thinking of applying to the high court for enforcement & variation to simplify the order to a shared custody 3 days on 3 days off regardless of time of year except summer & Christmas holidays . Question is , which forms do i need to enforce compliance , request a variation & what options do the court have to ensure she obeys the order? And is the high court a realistic option ? I am unrepresented & feel the high court won't be able to do anything before the summer holidays . I am falling sick due to the stress & worry . Pls help me
kidsnotweapons - 3-Jun-17 @ 9:21 PM
Selwyn - Your Question:
I have a Residence Order in my favour of my daughter. Residence was awarded to me due to drink and drug abuse by my ex-partner (my daughter's mother). The order provides for all contact between my daughter and her mother to be supervised by nominated members of her family. There is also contact provided for the Maternal grandparents (MGP) at which the mother may also be present, but only if agreed between the MGPs and me. Recently, this additional contact took place without my approval and my daughter also told me that there had been unsupervised contact on more than one occasion. I know they will just deny it if I write to them (they all lie like other people breathe and they lied throughout the court process) but my daughter is almost 8, so she's unlikely to have got it wrong. I feel helpless that once a Court Order is issued, you're on your own and there is no one to Police it.

Our Response:
You may wish to ask a solicitor to write a letter reiterating the terms of the agreement and the repercussions if your ex and her MGP's breach those terms. It will at least be a sharp reminder and can be used as evidence that you have attempted to try to resolve the situation out of court, if you need at any point to take the situation back to court to have the order enforced.
SeparatedDads - 31-May-17 @ 11:25 AM
I have a Residence Order in my favour of my daughter. Residence was awarded to me due to drink and drug abuse by my ex-partner (my daughter's mother). The order provides for all contact between my daughter and her mother to be supervised by nominated members of her family. There is also contact provided for the Maternal grandparents (MGP) at which the mother may also be present, but only if agreed between the MGPs and me. Recently, this additional contact took place without my approval and my daughter also told me that there had been unsupervised contact on more than one occasion. I know they will just deny it if I write to them (they all lie like other people breathe and they lied throughout the court process) but my daughter is almost 8, so she's unlikely to have got it wrong. I feel helpless that once a Court Order is issued, you're on your own and there is no one to Police it.
Selwyn - 30-May-17 @ 3:15 PM
I have a Cao for the last few year. Due to some issues with my ex the social services had to step in. They interviewed our kids and the out come was that they wanted full shared Care... This only means an increase of one day more at my house over the repeat two week agreed care. The ex is refusing to comply with the social services report. Do I need to fill in a new Cao or is it a specific issue order? Or is it a c2 form Thanks
Tj - 26-May-17 @ 11:52 AM
wm - Your Question:
A court order was givin to allow my ex to see his child. He told me weeks ago that he couldnt get her on a certain day but was never agreed that this would be ok. Said he was doing one thing and done somthing totallay different basicailly lied.is this a breach on his behalf? Can I stop contact?

Our Response:
Mediation should still be the first port of call if you cannot agree on an issue or if the breach is insignificant (your ex gave you plenty of notice). If you stop contact altogether, you too will be in breach of the order and as that is an 'intentional' and 'significant' breach. If you stop contact and you will not consider mediation in order to try to resolve the issue, your ex will have the option to take the matter to back to court.
SeparatedDads - 25-May-17 @ 11:40 AM
A court order was givin to allow my ex to see his child. He told me weeks ago that he couldnt get her on a certain day but was never agreed that this would be ok. Said he was doing one thing and done somthing totallay different basicailly lied...is this a breach on his behalf? Can i stop contact?
wm - 24-May-17 @ 7:54 PM
Rose - Your Question:
My partner has a court order to see his daughter two days a week and one weekend every month. it's very relaxed, unfortunately. this is not working at all! The mother is constantly bad mouthing the child's father to her and infront of her to which she understands (at 3) and repeats to us, is claiming her new partner is her replacement dad and would be confused if they were both in the playground (children foto same school), she constantly stops him from seeing his daughter and sending upsetting, horrible and hundreds of texts to which is taking its toll on the both of us, he just wants to see his daughter like any father and desperate to make up for the lost time, love and memories. HELP! What do we do next?

Our Response:
As specified in the article, the courts' guidance states that unless a breach is regular and intentional, they will not usually take action to enforce the order or punish the breach. Further it is important to consider the needs of your child first and so some flexibility may be needed on occasion. However, any changes to a contact order must be agreed by both parties. One party cannot unilaterally decide to change the order or apply additional terms. If they wish to do so, they will need to refer the matter back to the courts. If your partner's ex continues to breach the order, in the first instance a letter from his solicitor reminding her of the terms of the order and the repercussions if she continues to breach it, may do the trick. If not, your partner would have to apply to the courts to have the order enforced. It is worthwhile him keeping a diary of all the breaches for evidence should the matter have to go to court.
SeparatedDads - 22-May-17 @ 12:30 PM
My partner has a court order to see his daughter two days a week and one weekend every month... it's very relaxed, unfortunately... this is not working at all! The mother is constantly bad mouthing the child's father to her and infront of her to which she understands (at 3) and repeats to us, is claiming her new partner is her replacement dad and would be confused if they were both in the playground (children foto same school), she constantly stops him from seeing his daughter and sending upsetting, horrible and hundreds of texts to which is taking its toll on the both of us, he just wants to see his daughter like any father and desperate to make up for the lost time, love and memories... HELP! What do we do next?
Rose - 21-May-17 @ 9:14 PM
Bill - Your Question:
I have a court order for contact which my ex breaches on a regular basis but what she does is get children to phone me to say 'Mummy says we can't see you for a while'This is emotional abuse and very upsetting for the children.It's high time police were given powers to give out penalty fines of £100 to breaching parents then we Dads wouldn't have to go back to Court.

Our Response:
If your ex does this, you may wish to ask a solicitor to write her a letter reminding her of the terms of the order and that no parent involved can unilaterally change the order.
SeparatedDads - 19-May-17 @ 1:11 PM
I have a court order for contact which my ex breaches on a regular basis but what she does is get children to phone me to say 'Mummy says we can't see you for a while' This is emotional abuse and very upsetting for the children. It's high time police were given powers to give out penalty fines of £100 to breaching parents then we Dads wouldn't have to go back to Court.
Bill - 19-May-17 @ 12:10 AM
It was decided in court my daughter would live with her maternal grandma a couple of week ago. Me and father was in court last week for contact and I have found out father has been going to his mums to stay there as he split from his partner don't know what to do. It was agreed contact 2 hours a week for 4 weeks then go from there. I have informed social services but not heard anything back.
kimbo - 16-May-17 @ 8:28 AM
I have a son in England, I live in Canada and am a Canadian. My sons mother was diagnosed with a brain tumor in 2012 before I could move them to Canada. When she finally told me to come get my son as she could not look after him I travelled to get him, but in the few days it took to travel her parents had taken my son. We went to court, and I have a custody arrangement that when I am there in April for Easter I have custody of him. I did not travel there this Easter as I was injured at work and am facing surgery to my dominant hand. The custody order states the grandparents have to bring my son to Canada for two weeks this summer, three weeks next summer, and a month in 2019. I have Skype visits each week and this is going well. I was in contact with his grandfather about when he had planned to bring my son to Canada so I could book time off. Things were going well, and just recently the grandparents told me that they would not be bringing him to Canada because I did not travel at Easter, although the court order does not state I have to. They further went on to tell me that if I come to England I can only have my son for one week like I would have in April.
Todd - 12-May-17 @ 8:53 PM
Dazza - Your Question:
I have a contact order to see my 13yr old. A mobile was provided by me so we can chat/text. We have been meeting up every other weekend and all was going well. She decided she wanted to meet my fiancée and her children. This was 3 weeks ago. I have barely heard anything and I know that my ex wife is the type of person to be controlling the mobile phone. My texts every morning and evening go unanswered. What can I do? Until I hear from my daughter that she is the one that doesn't want to see me, does this then constitute as my ex wife interfering?

Our Response:
If there has been a breach in the contact order, and you are not seeing your child at all on the specified days, then as stated in the article you would have to either try to resolve the matter directly with your ex and if she refuses apply to take the matter back to court to have the order enforced.
SeparatedDads - 2-May-17 @ 12:09 PM
I have a contact order to see my 13yr old. A mobile was provided by me so we can chat/text. We have been meeting up every other weekend and all was going well. She decided she wanted to meet my fiancée and her children. This was 3 weeks ago. I have barely heard anything and I know that my ex wife is the type of person to be controlling the mobile phone. My texts every morning and evening go unanswered. What can I do? Until I hear from my daughter that she is the one that doesn't want to see me, does this then constitute as my ex wife interfering?
Dazza - 1-May-17 @ 7:27 PM
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