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  Ex changing kids school
Posted by: sandman - Yesterday, 09:14 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (5)

Hello all,

I have a child arrangements order by consent. Children live with ex and have contact with me 3 nights a week. We both live within walking distance of school and 2 after school clubs. Ex is now threatening to move away and change kids school. She wants to move away 10 miles to the outskirts of the city.

My question is what are my legal rights? Does she need my consent to change kids school?

Thanks for all the help

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  Father's Lives Matter
Posted by: Kate - 04-20-2019, 10:16 PM - Forum: THE LOUNGE - Replies (1)

I read so often on here how the current Family Court system is not “fit for purpose”. What can be done about it other than through political channels? I saw this from a minor political party, and it’s great to see that it’s being recognized as an issue, but until the party in power address these problems then things will go on as they are.


It’s called Fathers' lives matter. I’m just back from a family gathering, where I’ve been told of a 40-year-old who has just taken his own life because of family issues. He was not directly related to me, but is part of the large extended family. I suppose you could say that of all humanity.

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  Do you trust ?
Posted by: SeanS - 04-19-2019, 09:59 PM - Forum: THE LOUNGE - Replies (6)

When solicitor says ‘trust me’ - do you trust him or her ?

I had that moment at a previous hearing when we differed on our approach to what the position statement says, I had my way in the end. But when it was time to go into the court room, solicitor suggested it would be better he went alone as it would look good on us from court perspective that we are helping the proceedings. I was little surprised, this is when he asked me to ‘trust him’ I had mixed feelings but I let him go alone.

I don’t go to the extent of suggesting he was sabotaging my case but given their profession of making money out of people’s issues I don’t fully trust them. Had anyone come across anything like this and what you would have done. By the way this solicitor knows everything about my situation/case that I’m reluctant to change at least just yet.

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  Parental Alienation
Posted by: Skintdad - 04-19-2019, 12:24 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (2)

There is currently an open petition to introduce a law that recognises Parental Alienation as a criminal offence, that seems to be gaining some momentum. 6500 signatures and the government has to respond at 10000 signatures. 
Rather depressingly, twice as many people have signed a petition asking for a law to protect brown hares!?!
Hopefully this link will work, but I am a computer biff so if it doesn't please could someone who knows what they are doing post it?

Interestingly, I posted the same thing on mumsnet........................they asked where they could find the petition about hares?

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  Does it ever calm down
Posted by: Naive - 04-19-2019, 08:14 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (3)

I’ve been with my partner for two years. Child says recently that ex has yet another partner. I’ve got friends in this position and they tell me things calmed down when the ex gets a partner but it’s not calming down for me. Ex is still playing games and mediation is booked. I can see my partner is getting pissed off and is apprehensive about going through it all again. I just want to raise my daughter and concentrate on getting married. I’m so thoroughly exhausted.

Anyone else in this position? How long did it take?
We’ve been split officially for nearly 4 and half years now.

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  Kids bank account
Posted by: Russell1972 - 04-16-2019, 07:53 AM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (2)

Bit of an odd one this...  I'm trying to open a bank account for my son (12) - I have a duplicate birth certificate but as I am unable to provide a utility bill from his mum's house (where he lives 300+ days per year), banks will not open an account for him.  So essentially, despite going into the bank with my son and with proof of ID, unless the mother provides a utility bill to prove his home address (which there is no chance), it's a no go.  I offered proof of my address where he spends 60 days per year but bank will not accept.  I asked the bank if they were deliberately looking to exclude non resident parents (I was getting frustrated...) and have now closed my own savings account with them.

Obviously lying and saying he lives with me permanently would solve the problem I guess, but as a point of principle, this is borderline discrimination right?

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  Straight forward question please
Posted by: beehive84 - 04-15-2019, 09:45 AM - Forum: THE LOUNGE - No Replies

We are fully divorced, house is on the market.
Estate agent is likely going to advise ex to lower market price which I'm in agreement with.

If the ex disagrees then I understand it's a court application.

How much grace period is required to notify her my intention of going to court
Which form is it that I need to fill out? We have a consent order whereby it was agreed to market the house.

I largely just require the set process.


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  Ex having children stay at other peoples homes
Posted by: Tom_W88 - 04-15-2019, 09:27 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (5)

Morning all.

Found out that the kids have secretly been staying over at my exes new boyfriends home based in Warrington.

I know he has been staying over at my old marital home as again the kids have brought it up (although he isn't the first bloke to be around my kids)

Whats best to do now I am in this situation? 

I still haven't introduced anyone else to the kids, I believe it isn't fair on them or even their mother.  

Should i say something? Keep quiet?

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  Need advice for my partner.
Posted by: Akarou - 04-14-2019, 08:20 PM - Forum: THE LOUNGE - Replies (2)

Hi guys,

For once I am not posting a question relating to myself, but actually for my partner.

My partner has an 8 year old son who sees his Dad from Saturday Afternoon until Sunday dinner time. This was an arrangement he requested when they separated and has been in place for the last four years roughly.
Now my partners ex has been extremely volatile in the past, abusing her, financial control and physically abusing her. Now he seems to have decided to change his approach now that my partner's son is 8.

He has been probing questions and asking her son if he would like to move over to where he lives to be with him, he is promising him things like aquariums and puppies to try and manipulate him into moving some where he doesn't truly want to be.

A bit of background about their relationship is that the son's father often cancels last minute to collect him because something has come up, frequently shouts out the son according to the son himself. He also refuses to purchase any clothing for his son himself and instead requires everything to be provided for him to care for his son.

My partner is distraught and I can't see her go through this as he is confusing her son and using him as a weapon to hurt her intentionally.

What can we do to protect her son from this emotional abuse?

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  Ex wants to take kids abroad
Posted by: sandman - 04-14-2019, 04:30 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (5)

Hello all,

I have a child arrangements order whereby the children spend 3 nights a week at my place. The order does not state the kids live with both parents.

Ex wants to take children to her home country (Mauritius) to see her family for 4 weeks over the summer. I do not want this to happen as I do not trust her to look after the kids properly. Kids are 10 and 7. I also have a doubt as she may not return....it is unlikely but possible. My greatest concern is that children are not ready to face all the questions and talk about our divorce. It has not been a year yet and the divorce is still raw in their minds. Still coming to terms with the new arrangements. We visited Mauritius as a family in 2016.

I know I need to go back to court to change it to live with both parents but what else can I do to prevent her from taking the children abroad? She has the kids passports. Is there an alert I can put out to have her stopped at the airport? How can I have a copy of the passports. She does not want to give me. All help appreciated.

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