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  pros and cons re: NMO undertakings
Posted by: BirminghamUK - 09-13-2021, 12:09 AM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - No Replies


can we have a discussion about pros and cons re: agreeing to an undertaking if an individiual is faced with an non molestation order.

In my case I think i should have went the 'undertaking route' back in July 2020, I say this because I've been down cop shop 4 times now (one volountary/interview under caution AND 3 of them being arrested, once at station upon volountary arrival and twice at home), i am expectung to get arresting at least once more....

if I took the 'undertaking' the power of arrest wouldnt have been there and I wouldnt have spent 40+ hours in custody 'collectively', nor would I have looked like a right pillock in public being taken away by police officers in a the back of a van in front of my residence.

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  Holiday in term time
Posted by: Ollysdad - 09-10-2021, 03:06 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - No Replies

Any advice on how I get my ex to stop going away in term time? It really frustrates me she has asked my opinion and I have told her I completely disagree but she doesn't listen. My son is now going to miss a week from school after being back less than a week??

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  Can anyone take out a NMO against someone else randomly
Posted by: BirminghamUK - 09-02-2021, 02:18 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (6)

to take out a NMO on someone, surely you have to prove the relationship with them i.e. brother or sister, wife or husband

the respondent cant just claim 'dont know who it is and shrug it off'... can they?

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Posted by: Sb1353 - 08-31-2021, 11:01 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (8)

Hi all,
It has been a while that I’ve posted to this forum.
I have the children for summer holidays for 2 weeks which one week was at the begin and last one was at the end. It was all done in court order. It was Crystal clear where I pick them up and where to drop them off. However, on last day where they were due to be dropped off at their mothers, I had few messages through the app we use to communicate that I was meant to drop the children at 10 am. I didn’t see the messages till lunch time. I responded and told her the all was arranged through court order and she wasn’t having any of it. To cut the story short, I screenshot the court order and sent it to her.
Same time my 3 years old child told me that someone was at the door so when I went there I saw 2 police officers asking for me. Children saw that and they were scared so I asked officers to stay outside so I can talk to them. They said mother reported that I threatened to take the children abroad and same old lies to get the police out on me.
I told the officers that there is a child arrangement order in place and I wanted to show them that but officers didn’t want to see it. Anyway I showed it to the officers that they are not due till later on. They were satisfied that ex gave them wrong information. I told the ex if this to happen again I will report it as harassment.
My question is do I do that to stop her doing it to me and I am sure she will do it again?

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  This site is 'Not secure'
Posted by: Sadman2016 - 08-30-2021, 05:42 PM - Forum: The Lounge - Replies (3)

According to my PC server - should we be concerned?

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  Mum breaking CAO prior to Dispute Resolution Hearing
Posted by: Sadman2016 - 08-30-2021, 05:25 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - No Replies

Our hearing is at the end of the year after 2 adjourned hearings.   Our child's mother in the meantime is being very vindictive and difficult and has not made child available on 3 planned contacts since the first hearing and is threating to do so again this week.   What can I do to stop this?

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  NMO to support a CAO application
Posted by: BirminghamUK - 08-23-2021, 05:45 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (3)

For at the past three years I have been an applicant in a child arrangement order application
last year when I went to vary the order for more 'meaty' rights, i was slapped in the face with a NMO by the ex. Followed by fabricated evidence and court manipulation, contact then became indirect for what would seem like more than a year....

As this NMO now is coming to an end, im being faced with increasing threats by telephone and by hand delivered letters etc from the ex.

The police are pushing for me to get an NMO against her due to the recent incidents.

Is there any reason why the ex might want to manipulate me into getting an NMO against her?

If I get an NMO against her, will it have a benefit to my CAO application or will it have an adverse effect?

I am suspicious of everything she does, because theres always an agenda behind everything, they are paying money for this kind of advice on how to beat the non custodial partner inside AND outside of court.

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  Domestic Abuse - Important Law Changes
Posted by: DevotedDadToo - 08-06-2021, 12:18 AM - Forum: Your Court Results/Outcomes - Replies (4)

There is some hope for those going through Parental Alienation.

The new Domestic Abuse Law is to include what happens post-separation. This could include Parental Alienation as it is a Coercive and Controlling behavior that happens post-separation.

It could help a lot if people contact their local MP to support including 'Parental Alienation' in the 'Domestic Abuse Bill' as a 'Coercive and Controlling behavior'.

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  Kids and new partner
Posted by: jc22_uk - 08-04-2021, 09:36 AM - Forum: New Partners, Relationships - No Replies

Hi Guys
Desperate for some advice, my marriage ended in Oct last year, have a new girlfriend now.

Ex Wife poisoned my sons (7 & 9) about my new partner from the outset.  Said all kinds of inappropriate things about me sharing a bed with my new gf etc, driven past her house to show when I was there, tried to blame her for the reason "Daddy isn't here anymore" etc.

It's really hampering me trying to move on and is damaging the boys.  (My ex has a new bloke and she forces him on my sons whenever she can - hypocritical).

We went away last week to Norfolk with my gf's kids and mine, had a largely good time.....Eldest still a bit cold, but thought we made massive progress. Back to their Mum's now and now they're saying they don't want to meet with my new partner this Saturday and are being rude via text message.

Feel like I'm fighting a losing battle, my new gf couldn't be kinder and sweeter to them, making far more efforts than their Mum ever did.....Don't want to upset the lads or lose my girlfriend.  
How did you guys approach this?

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  School Holiday Advice.
Posted by: andynumpty - 08-02-2021, 09:27 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (1)

So our last CAO states that our child is with me during the 6 week hols week 1, 4 and 5. With ex 2,3 and 6, this was what she asked for. School dates came out last Christmas and the school broke up on the Friday and it was her weekend. I mentioned this to her at the time and stated that the first week starts on the Saturday but as its her weekend I'd start in on the Monday if she wanted. Asked her to confirm this but if she didn't it would start on the Saturday as the 1st week, she never replied. I mentioned this again in Feb but still didn't get an answer so I knew what she was going to do. I booked a holiday starting from the Monday to cover myself and my boys holiday time. I mentioned about pick boy up 2 times in the week before the Saturday and once again no issue was mentioned.
I turned up at my house, which she is stopping in until boy turns 18, only to get a text that its her weekend and he won't be coming out and if I didn't leave she will call the police.
As I know how she operates I knew this would happen. Instead of mentioning this 7 months ago she waited for me to turn up to collect our boy only for her to be able to stop it happening.
I text back saying that this is the start of the 1st week as per the order and will wait 15 mins for her to bring him out or I would take matters further, she never did. I wnt back on Monday and son came out.

so, who is right or wrong.

If I have "week 1", as per the order, when does it start?

If school breaks up on a Wednesday does it start on the Thursday, If Thursday does it start on the Friday and if Friday does it start on Saturday or Monday?

Does it matter who's weekend it is?

Any advice before I take matter back to court to enforce the current order.

I could have quite easily booked a Disney trip for my boy starting on the Saturday only for him to be heartbroken if his mum wouldn't let him go.

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