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  C79 application problems
Posted by: Sadman2016 - 09-17-2020, 09:30 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (3)

I'm attempting to fill in section 7a ie reason for application on my laptop and it's just not functioning.  I can only add a limited amount of words, spacebar doesn't work if you backspace, cut and paste doesn't work ie you can cut but can't paste.    Am I missing something or is it just a badly designed form?

Worse on my smartphone.

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  Cannot agree
Posted by: mikec - 09-14-2020, 09:06 AM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (3)


My ex and I cannot agree on Finances or Child arrangements.  We've tried mediation, there have been various solicitors letters sent back and forth, but if anything, the negotiations are going in the wrong direction.  We separated 3 years ago nearly.

My solicitor assures me that it makes absolutely no sense to go to court with the finances as there isn't enough money on the table to pay the lawyers.  We don't own a house to sell.  It's mainly about spousal support payments, savings and a pension of mine.

I found out about Arbitration and suggested that but she doesn't want to do that.  Can anyone suggest anything else?  I think we need to go through this as part of a consent order to make the divorce official or something, is that right?  What if we never sort it out?!

We can go to court over the child arrangements as apparently that's a lot less expensive.  But if there alternatives to that I'd like to hear them.

Anyone been through this?



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  Best way around this
Posted by: Bluebear - 09-13-2020, 08:15 AM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - No Replies

Even though my ex is claiming 2000 a month in benefits, never works and does not allow me to see my kids, I still have to pay 500 every month. My question is has anyone managed to do extra work or get second job without having to pay ex more money as I'm looking to save for a house and that's having a massive impact. Was thinking of maybe setting up a van and man business and just pay my partner as an employee

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  Do existing arrangements count for much?
Posted by: Fatcat1980 - 09-11-2020, 08:32 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (12)

Quick question: 

Let’s say you’ve managed a successful shared-care arrangement for a couple of years or more with exactly 50% of nights for each parent, shared day-to-day care, 50% of school holidays and no restrictions on access at other times, other than if infringes on the other parent’s plans or privacy.  No issues with cooperation, flexibility or conflict.  No suggestion that the kids are in any danger or risk of violence with either parent. Everything is backed up with written communications but no formal custody agreement exists and, for the sake of school and doctor, the kids are registered at their mum’s so that she can claim universal credit.
If those parents subsequently fall out and one starts trying to force changes to the amount of time the other parent has with their kids or even fight for legal custody, presumably a mediator would take the previously successful arrangement into consideration?  I believe I read this somewhere in the past and that family courts would frown on a parent if they effectively weaponise the kids or manipulate arrangements for financial gain.

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  Finding a Fact Hearing
Posted by: Sb1353 - 09-10-2020, 12:15 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (12)

Hello all,

As some of you may know, I separated with my ex over 2 years ago when she left the family home to live with her parents. She was suffering from postpartum and her condition was getting worse every day. Her father Was the one that cause the separation. Anyhow, I applied for child arrangement order day after she left. Like other dads on here she made false allegations when she left. Allegations are from rape in marriage to kidnapping children and taking them abroad. Allegations were investigated and dismissed by the police and police referred her to professionals for help. However CAFFCASS recommended for finding a fact hearing. This was in 2018. Since I have been to the court for 4 times and each time hearing was cancelled and I was stuck with this. I have been seeing my children in contact centre 2 hours a week since 2018. This was stopped due to COVID 19 in March. After pushing solicitor contact was reinstated via video call for only 30 minutes a week.

To cut the story short I am now back to court next week for 2 days hearing and I am asking for tips if anyone else went through the same thing. Just for your info I have witnesses that will attend the court and supporting documents from the police and other authorities. There are loads of contradictory in her statement and interview with the police.

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  Thank You
Posted by: AK2018 - 09-08-2020, 09:07 PM - Forum: THE LOUNGE - Replies (3)

Hi All,

It's been a while since last time i have logged in.

I would like to say thank you to all dads for their help and support with my case... Charlie7000 and many more...
After stressful 3years I have finally got decree absolute.
Quick summary:
Child order 50/50
Financial 60/40... family house will be sold

I wish all the best to all of you.

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  Child Periodical Payments Order
Posted by: Powerkiter - 09-08-2020, 03:05 PM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (2)

My Consent Order states:

"By agreement between the parties the applicant [me] shall pay to the respondent periodical payments for benefit of the children of the family. Payments shall be at the rate of £X per month per child, payable monthly by standing order. Payments shall start on 1st December 2019, and shall end on:

a. each child respectively attaining the age of 18 years or ceasing their full-time education whichever shall be the later; or

b. a further order.

In the event of a CMS calculation being carried out before 1.12.2020, from the effective date of any CMS calculation, periodical payments made under this paragraph for the benefit of the children shall be received by the respondent on account of any sums falling due under the CMS calculation."

Do I need to do anything on the 1.12.2020 or do I just carry on paying the current amount?

I've had a pay rise (well increased dividend) which will mean that I should pay around £30 a month more. Do I redo the calculation now and start paying my ex the revised amount or wait until the 1.12.2020?

My order relating to child arrangements says that my children should stay overnight on a Tuesday every other week. They don't stay as my ex says they don't want to (I think she is having some influence). Do I include this in the number of nights as the order makes provision for them to stay overnight?

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  Cafcass - Yay
Posted by: invisibleintellectual - 09-07-2020, 12:47 PM - Forum: Outside Involvement, CAFCASS etc - No Replies

OK so some of you know I am going for my second round of court action here - something I have desperately tried to avoid.

I have my CAFCASS appointment within the next 30  days - this time I feel more confident going into it.

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  Has any one called 101 before
Posted by: civic4 - 09-02-2020, 09:57 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (6)

So my ex is constantly breaking court order basically laughing at my face saying, it not valid, during covid, although my solicitor and law, government say I can. I ask again if I can see the kids have them for weekend straight away she said no. Going on about covid saying people dying etc. Although she been on holiday with them for 2 weeks. I was wondering what would happen if i called 101 which the local police saying she wont let me have the kids, especially if I driven 120 miles to fetch them.

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  Went to see a solicitor due to covid
Posted by: civic4 - 08-31-2020, 10:19 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (3)

Well I finally went to see a solicitor, as I got fed up of my ex using covid as an excuse and brainwashing the kids, and blackmailing me for more money just to see them. To cut a long story short she never agreed to the court order, about handovers used every excuse possible why she couldn't meet me, but I did see them but making 120 mile journey or 240 mile round trip in a night. Since covid I didnt see them for 11 weeks then started hassling me for more money, it was her choice for me not to see them. Then when I was stupid enough to give more money she conveniently let me see them round hers, which was awkward as we dont get on. Final straw was I eventually got to have them round mine, but couldn't see anyone not even my parents, so couldn't do much with them. So I went to see a solicitor, basically he told me watch she doing aload of rubbish, mental bullying and government even said you can see your children and close family. He basically gave me a couple of options, dont know which one best.

A: he can write a letter to her explaining my legal rights and it a serious matter, she breaking the law. How ever what I been through in past I cant see that phasing her. Plus I think it add more fuel to fire.

B: apply back to court and can get him to represent me and try and get court order amended so I can see children routine even during the covid 19, and try and get handover working again. In the interst of the children, amount of miles I do at night as I do get tired especially winter. That be ideal one, but he said could end up costing me up to 7k, which I cant see her making it easier, as my first time I went to court was hard work took 3 hearings.

C: apply for for court and represent my self to reinstate the court order, that be more affordable , but I wont have all info like a solicitor would to back myself up, but probably cheaper option, as at moment I not financially in a position to get a solicitor to represent me.

Has any one represented them selves a 2nd time in court, what was the outcome.

At the moment I have also been referred for counselling as this year been a struggling, and the blackmail, threats and abusive messages really got I to my head now. Been struggling with my mental health, so not feeling the strongest at moment. Like most of us on here we just want to spend time with our kids. Why do women make it so hard for us.

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