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  Advice on separation
Posted by: Tp123 - 01-07-2018, 08:22 PM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (9)

New here. Going through a bad time with other half. 2 month of old baby who I adore.
In truth we have just grown apart and are different people after 10 years. It has been coming for a while. We don't get along no matter how hard we try. No domestic issues etc. Just a two different people which is sad. Both decent decent jobs and supportive families around us.

So where would stand with deaing with this?
Do stay put in the house? Large house
What chace have I got of having 50/50 custody with my baby? Can my other half make it difficult? She has openly said 50/50 is not an option. Maybe that is because it is more me who has had enough.

Any advice would be appreciated.

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  "Reasonable" time to hand over passport?
Posted by: andynumpty - 01-07-2018, 07:10 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (2)

Ok, I have an order stating that my ex has to hand over our sons passport in "reasonable" time if I need it for a holiday.
Has anybody have to take this to task what time is considered "reasonable"?

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  Need to see my son
Posted by: leroyg - 01-07-2018, 08:08 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (4)

I have been separated from my partner for about 6 years now, I have been through solicitors and mediation without success, my ex is very unreasonable and very difficult to communicate with. I only get to see my son now if I see him in the street when we have a little hug and a kiss or on his birthdays and Xmas when I drop off his presents.

I've dropped messages and notes through her letter box to try and get access to my son and have spoken with his Grandfather, who convinced me that he would to able to sort things out but that has never happened  Sad

She's been in a new relationship now for the last year or so and just got married a couple of moths ago and had the cheek to my shock and horror to come to my work and ask if I would consent to her changing his name to her new partners name, and when I refused started shouting and screaming that she had previously changed his name to hers and would change it again.

I have been told recently that she's talking about moving abroad and now I'm worried that she has changed his name and that she's going to leave the country with my son without my consent.

I need some advice on how I can find out if she has changed his name and how I can get access to see my son on a regular basis without having to spend money on solicitors fees etc.

Any help or advice would be very much appreciated.

Thank you
Lee

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  EU Law
Posted by: Manxmann - 01-07-2018, 01:10 AM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (2)

I am not sure where to start with this. 
I live on the Isle of Man where the laws generally follow UK laws but the processes are not the same.
We are signed up to the European Convention on human Rights and follow EU directives and laws.

I am representing myself because my former lawyer was, at best, incompetent. At worst - well many of you will answer that for me.

Thanks to a mental breakdown 7+ years ago I served a prison sentence of about 5 months for a crime that did not involve my children or my ex.
Social Services were automatically involved.
Since then my kids have been on the register for risk of - physical harm, sexual harm, emotional harm, back to physical harm and once again, the latest repeat, emotional harm.
Each time one is disproved social services change it to another - because of allegations.

I might be seeing ghosts in shadows,but I doubt it.

During Residency proceedings my children were 'appointed' an advocate who, straight after the hearing, started work alongside the lawyer for social services. The Guardian ad Liteum ( or however you spell it) was appointed by that lawyer and is socially antiquated with, not only the Social Worker, but also his manager, the laughingly titled Independent Chair of Child Protection and a large number of social services staff.

I forgot to mention that an independent investigation into social services in the Isle of Man has found them to be, according to the government, in need of improvement.

The rest of the world would see the findings very differently, especially when you consider that the lead person is paid by - you guessed it - the Government of the Isle of Man.
 
Can anyone help me by telling me what, according to EU law, family life is?
What, according to EU law, constitutes a reasonable exemption to the Right to Family Life?

Any and all advice is welcome
Thank you in advance

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  Blocked Phone Number
Posted by: Readingram - 01-06-2018, 03:41 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (3)

Hello, i have posted on here a few times about my battles in family court.  The last hearing we had i was given fortnightly visits in a contact center and fortnightly phone calls with my daughter.  The contact center appointments have gone ahead with no problems but my wife has blocked my mobile and landline number so i have to borrow phones to contact her.  I have emailed her solicitor asking her to unblock my numbers, but have not received a response.  Is there anything i can do to get her to unblock me? Or do i have to go back to court?

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  s91 (14) Order
Posted by: herewegoagain - 01-06-2018, 01:54 PM - Forum: Outside Involvement, CAFCASS etc - No Replies

Anyone had experience of it being suggested by Cafcass that they (only, not the ex) are made the subject of a s91 (14) Order? and if so how they successfully challenged it. I am arguing that it would be contrary to the outcome of previous hearings all of which demonstrate that I am not a vexatious litigant and that the best way to avoid Court is to avoid behaviour that breaches previous Orders or the proven wishes of the children (as per Orders granted re: time and holidays etc.). i.e. hand over the passport or permit a holiday etc. etc. we've all heard it all before to distraction.

Additionally I am planning to argue that the ex has put the children in a position where the Court is the only protector (through my asking the Court to enforce these 'rights') of their interests. 

Any thoughts?

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  Trial Separation....finances
Posted by: sad al - 01-06-2018, 01:25 PM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (4)

So the situation has concluded...we are doing a 3 month trial for what its worth....dont think will try...

Anyway we are all friendly just now, plan is for 50/50 split of kids time and she will move into her parents for the 3 months and I will stay in the family home.

What is reasonable regarding who pays joint mortgage, maintenance, child benefits, tax credits?

Currently I have me paying full mortgage, no maintenance as 50/50 split and she gets child benefit and tax credits....

Thoughts??

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  Finally My appeal hearing date next Wed
Posted by: asd1270 - 01-06-2018, 09:23 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (13)

Finally  My application to Appeal hearing is on  Wed , after that totally bulls up at the last contested hearing and the  final Court order in Oct, written by some mickymouse muppet which I never saw or heard in that hearing or even agreed too.

So im hoping that the money spent to get to this point has a positive outcome. I know that the Barrister has a good  rep   as he is well know in the circuit of family law. Lets see if the books, and radio shows that he does lives up to expectations.

Hopefully the transcript and witness statements and historical events mostly after the court order convinces the Judge to put the current order aside and mark it down for a retrial.

I have been so child focused throughout the whole mess from November last year .Its my role as a profession yet the system does not support or listen to Male victims of Domestic abuse.

I found that  my professional views working in the field of Safeguarding does not apply if you are parent with the same views. How contradictory it all is.

I mean a parent raising concerns of physical ,emotional assault and nothing happens  vrs  a professional raising the same concerns and hell breaks out.

or a parent raising  fact based evidence  Vrs a professional completing a report based on hearsay. 


I have really lost faith in my profession as no matter how much you can scream in relation to safeguarding you child from harm both physical and emotional the system is not concerned. 

I recently contacted Courts and  SServices again with ongoing concerns of neglect and emotional abuse towards my son since the last order.
the response I got was there was nothing they can do and I will have to wait to for the appeal hearing?
If had my work boots on Im sure things would be dealt with differently.

I am fortunate to put some level of protection in place for my son but what it does not stop is the emotional impact it is having on my son. The impact will be long term as the system fail to recognise or even understand the Welfare of the child and they are the ones that are meant to being following the welfare check list.

So Hopefully a father whos been a victim and  who has been a primary carer and resident parent has the same procedures followed to safeguard the children in their care. 

You dont simply ignore what is procedures because I am a father. I see many mothers (many falsely claiming DV) and getting the system supporting them 100 percent. Simply Shocking.

What Ive learned through this whole process so far is.
I cannot work anymore  at the level of professional work I had previously done, which is like for the last 20 years. Its because I seen first hand how biased  the who network is.

Fact based evidences means nothing NOTHING!!, In my previous post I mentioned if a father attended court with a axe in his head inflicted by the wife it is OK??, or that lying is ok, abusing a child is ok, Abduction is ok, common assault is ok?

I really hope that I get this order put aside, its a mess, a REAL MESS ie 2+2 = 17. overnights etc

Wish me luck guys as I will be sticking to my original position which I think is fair considering all the shit that has happened.

Every other weekend contact for the mother plus 2 tea time contacts on the 2nd week. Its near to what the standard contact arrangements are for separated parents. Well this is what is usually awarded to no resident parents.

Parenting programme to be completed and mother to secure her own accommodation  before any over night is considered
Dv awareness programme.
Family assisted order 12 month 
restriction on Oversea travel.
supported contact till mother has successfully completed a parenting programme.

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  gomfexwoz?
Posted by: asd1270 - 01-06-2018, 07:58 AM - Forum: THE LOUNGE - Replies (2)

Hopefully this joker can be removed.


Finally  My application to Appeal hearing is on  Wed , after that totally bulls up at the last contested hearing and the  final Court order in Oct, written by some mickymouse muppet which I never saw or heard in that hearing or even agreed too.

So im hoping that the money spent to get to this point has a positive outcome. I know that the Barrister has a good  rep   as he is well know in the circuit of family law. Lets see if the books, and radio shows that he does lives up to expectations.

Hopefully the transcript and witness statements and historical events mostly after the court order convinces the Judge to put the current order aside and mark it down for a retrial.

I have been so child focused throughout the whole mess from November last year .Its my role as a profession yet the system does not support or listen to Male victims of Domestic abuse.

I found that  my professional views working in the field of Safeguarding does not apply if you are parent with the same views. How contradictory it all is.

I mean a parent raising concerns of physical ,emotional assault and nothing happens  vrs  a professional raising the same concerns and hell breaks out.

or a parent raising  fact based evidence  Vrs a professional completing a report based on hearsay. 


I have really lost faith in my profession as no matter how much you can scream in relation to safeguarding you child from harm both physical and emotional the system is not concerned. 

I recently contacted Courts and  SServices again with ongoing concerns of neglect and emotional abuse towards my son since the last order.
the response I got was there was nothing they can do and I will have to wait to for the appeal hearing?
If had my work boots on Im sure things would be dealt with differently.

I am fortunate to put some level of protection in place for my son but what it does not stop is the emotional impact it is having on my son. The impact will be long term as the system fail to recognise or even understand the Welfare of the child and they are the ones that are meant to being following the welfare check list.

So Hopefully a father whos been a victim and  who has been a primary carer and resident parent has the same procedures followed to safeguard the children in their care. 

You dont simply ignore what is procedures because I am a father. I see many mothers (many falsely claiming DV) and getting the system supporting them 100 percent. Simply Shocking.

What Ive learned through this whole process so far is.
I cannot work anymore  at the level of professional work I had previously done, which is like for the last 20 years. Its because I seen first hand how biased  the who network is.

Fact based evidences means nothing NOTHING!!, In my previous post I mentioned if a father attended court with a axe in his head inflicted by the wife it is OK??, or that lying is ok, abusing a child is ok, Abduction is ok, common assault is ok?

I really hope that I get this order put aside, its a mess, a REAL MESS ie 2+2 = 17. overnights etc

Wish me luck guys as I will be sticking to my original position which I think is fair considering all the shit that has happened.

Every other weekend contact for the mother plus 2 tea time contacts on the 2nd week. Its near to what the standard contact arrangements are for separated parents. Well this is what is usually awarded to no resident parents.

Parenting programme to be completed and mother to secure her own accommodation  before any over night is considered
Dv awareness programme.
Family assisted order 12 month 
restriction on Oversea travel.
supported contact till mother has successfully completed a parenting programme.

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  who can you show a Section 7 report to?
Posted by: herewegoagain - 01-05-2018, 06:19 PM - Forum: Outside Involvement, CAFCASS etc - Replies (13)

Can you discuss this in confidence with anybody for the sole purpose of seeking advice?

Would it be acceptable to share it with a retired solicitor who had requalified as a mediator albeit in a different field?

Does anyone know where to find the definitive answer to this on the web?

Thanks

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