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  Asking as the new partner
Posted by: Scott0161 - 01-04-2018, 11:40 AM - Forum: New Partners, Relationships - Replies (5)

So I am currently with my girlfriend who has 3 kids to another man, these kids all get on really well with me, everyone does in the new family I have met. The only person who doesn't is obviously the ex, he wants her back still and is very violent towards me whenever we are in contact. I can understand why but there is definitely ways of working things out rather than kicking off with me everytime I am there.

So my question to you all is, what sort of legal things or parental things can he do to stop me and my girlfriend being together?
He is on the birth certificate and they were not married. I plan to move in with my girlfriend later this year around the 1 year mark we will have been together so I would like to know what he is capable of doing?

Thank you

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  Advice needed please
Posted by: K79 - 01-04-2018, 09:34 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (1)

My ex partner is dictating when I must collect the children and planning things to do with my children on my agreed days. It is not a formal arrangement and we are currently beginning mediation proceedings as a result of our indifferences. When I next have the children, I intend to keep them for longer to make up for the time I have missed with them. As their father can I just clarify that I have the same rights to do this as their mother?

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  Creating a parenting plan, what good tips or warnings have you got?
Posted by: Tamagoto - 01-04-2018, 07:42 AM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (4)

Hi everyone, I’ve yet to post a long cathartic rant about how my life fell apart 9 months ago but suffice to say, wife had an affair, is currently in my house, doesn’t want me to see the kids for 50% of their time. I’m taking her to court to get a formal order based on this.

I know I need to create a parenting plan but have seen from a lot of posts here that it’s easy to get the parenting plan wrong, either too much detail, not enough or other issues that crop up.

Have you got any nuggets of wisdom that helped you? Anything you wouldn’t do again?

CAFCAS gave me this link to create something online which I presume my wife then gets to say yes or no to http://www.splittingup-putkidsfirst.org.uk/home

I thought this might make an excellent sticky at the top of the forum if we get some great useful replies!

Thanks for anything in advance.

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  mother withdrawing son from me
Posted by: miketyson9292 - 01-04-2018, 02:44 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (3)

Hi , recently got told about this website , im 25 have a 3 month old son who ive never been given the chance to meet so basically , i was with my sons mother for a few years we decided to have a child as we thought it was the right time financially etc i was there for her everyday through the pregnancy i even gave up 2 jobs to move to manchester to be with her so she didnt have to go through this alone few months later as the pregnancy comes closer she starts to slowly push me away to the point where it went from us being happy and excited for our child to her completely removing contact with me moving house not letting me be at my sons birth my son has been born now for 3 months and i havent been given the chance to see him she never told me she was going into birth for the reason that she didnt want me to be there when she signed the birth certificate i got told a week after!!! she had given birth thats the last ive heard from her ive spent every minute of every day searching for her so i can see my son im not on the birth certificate this is my first child im so lost i have no idea what i am doing but i will never give up on my son i just dont know what step to take next that will benefit my son this has nothing to do with me or my ex i just need information on what is best to do for my son should i take this to court knowing full well i have no rights over my son? i mean i wake up every morning hoping she will ring me or contact me but thats me living in a dream world surely in this day and age a certificate shouldnt have a say on weather you can be a father or not....please if anyone can help me or direct me on where i should go or what i should do i would be so greatful

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  All time low
Posted by: dbroms - 01-03-2018, 11:35 AM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (14)

Wife dropped bombshell New Year’s Day that we should end our 20 year marriage. I’ll be honest, I’ve know for ages that things weren’t good but just got on with things. So, living together, one 14 year old son living with us.  No conflict and on good speaking terms. I earn double what my wife earns. Lots of questions, should I move out ? Should we sell ? Can we live separately under same roof ? Phoned solicitor today, £72 for half hour discussion ?  Head is spinning what to do. 
Emotionally I’m shot, yes I’ve considered ending things, just want to sleep. Don’t know where to turn , need a little help.  Daz.

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  Access stopped.
Posted by: Hawks81 - 01-03-2018, 10:47 AM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (2)

Hi All,
I'm new to this and looking for some advise as to where to start.
To cut along story short I've recently become unemployed so the CSA has said I don't need to make any payments because I've overpayed for the previous year, because of this my ex wife has now stopped any communication with my 2 children (7 & 10) we are not amicable so I know mediation would'nt be an option, I'm thinking of going to the CAB to ask for help but just wondering if anybody could advise me where or how/if to start legal action?

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  Failing custody agreement
Posted by: masons dad - 01-02-2018, 12:57 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (5)


I'm looking for advice / guidance on various issues and concerns I have with my son, his up bring and his mother.

I currently have a shared 50/50 custody agreement which was agreed in court.

However this is constantly breached by my son mother whether late or earlier than planned drop offs and collections to straight out denial of access to my child.

The most recent being with holding my son over the Christmas period with only the intention of having our child to spend time with her family alone. In order to have achieved this his mother has even contacted my son's school to falsely inform the school that I no longer have access or the right to parental responsibility of my son.

This as you can imagine has caused much distress and disruption and is one of only many such incidents over the years.

I have now come to the realisation that such matters cannot be resolved between myself and the mother and will be looking for legal options.

I am looking for help and advice on a variety of topics.

.Where I stand on legal aid
.likely hood of a full custody
.types of evidence except ( text messages, photos ect)
.ways to raise neglect in court

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  In court tomorrow!
Posted by: Peggy9 - 01-02-2018, 10:12 AM - Forum: Outside Involvement, CAFCASS etc - Replies (11)

Hi all,

Im in court tomorrow representing myself and am looking for a bit of last minute hints on what to expect. I'm taking her to court as she keeps me from their school and i want more time with them.

The cafcass report was very frustrating:
My ex has invented numerous wild claims about me whereas I sung her praises as a parent, saying that she was just unfair to me.
Things I said to cafcass dont seem to be written as i said (I said i wanted more time than the one day i get currently and they said im asking for every other weekend?), and they seem to of written false irrelevant stuff on the ex's behalf, feels very one sided already!


Can i expect to be arguing these claims she has made? Or am i just going to turn up and accept whatever it is they give me?

I felt very confident at first with the efforts i had made to co operate with her regarding our children, and how difficult she had made it, but now im worrying because anyone can just lie and drag my name through the dirt to look good, and with cafcass onboard with the lies how can i hope to get a better deal?!


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  Separation coming :(
Posted by: marksheff - 01-02-2018, 09:02 AM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (1)

Me and the wife finally faced reality that we just aren’t compatible. Its been like this for a couple of years and we are basically together for our dog and child. We are probably going to separate this month.
It’s going to be amicable and I don’t foresee issues regarding money, splitting items or even having my daughter at weekends. Splitting with my wife is disappointing and gutting that it’s 9 years gone to nothing – it’s the situation with my daughter that is going to destroy me.

My daughter is 5 years old and we are super close – my whole life is dedicated to her really making her childhood as good as possible (I’m the fun one). I cannot bear the thought of not seeing my daughter each night and putting her to bed. The thought of this is destroying me before it all happens.

  • I’m worried about how this will affect my daughter. Does anybody have any comments or advise?
  • I’m worried how I will handle the separation from my daughter. The thoughts of it alone is destroying me.
  • I’m also worried about my wife. She already suffers with anxiety (I think depression). When this all happens I worry about the way she will go because apart from having my daughter more than me, the rest of her circumstances will be worse off (living back home, money etc). My wife earns very little. I’m on a decent wage so I will be keeping the rented house and she will most likely be going to live with her parents. Plus unless she changes her ways she would find it very difficult in my opinion to find a new partner – she’s a very depressed and  sad person :-(.
I’m confident it will be all amicable and will support each other after.

Do you have any advise on the three points above? 

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  Interview with a reformed parental alienator
Posted by: Hazy - 01-01-2018, 11:21 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (4)


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