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  I found out that she has been taking money prior to seperation
Posted by: Devoted Dad - 06-28-2018, 05:56 PM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (1)

I found out that wife had been taking large amounts of cash out of her own account before she left 6 weeks ago. She lied about the reason why and then changed her story to another lie.

I am guessing that she might have been doing so to hide the money from a future divorce settlement.

Is there anything I can do to protect from her hiding money in advance of a divorce?

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  End of the pain
Posted by: londonbloke - 06-28-2018, 03:47 PM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (4)

Hi everyone,
I'm looking for some general advice on my situation and am I being over nice?
Sept 16 my wife told me she was having an affair and left me with the two kids in the marital home, fast forward 6 months she moved back in and we decided to try again (bad move) that ended in Nov 2017 and she stayed in the house until March 2018 whereby she decided to leave.
From around June 2017 I was paying her £500 per month (as I employed her for a short period) and basically kept on paying her this even though she now lives in a house share but  both the kids (7&4) live with me (she collects them some days after school and brings them back to the marital home) also the weekends I don't have the kids, she moves back in the marital home for that weekend and I have to move out.
As you can see it's a screwed up situation, but basically the long and short is, I'm now attempting to buy the house from her and give her money, at the same time get a divorce, should I continue giving her £500 per month until she sorts herself out?
I think I'm being over generous considering I'm the one who is doing the majority of care for the children.
Any input for anyone would be greatly appreciated.
Cheers

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  her solicitor failed to exchange final statement
Posted by: nandop - 06-27-2018, 09:01 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (6)

any help please???

I delivered my statement a day early for the court, her solicitor and an email to the cafcass officer.
I waited until deadline has passed and contact her solicitor, twice, but did not managed to speak to anyone.
I have also tried to contact the cafcass officer by phone but had no answer. I have left a voice mail asking if she had received a copy today.

The deadline was set by the court for 27/06/18 4:00pm

What I should do? I am self representing in court.

Thank you

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  Do I need a lawyer or can I represent myself?
Posted by: MikeyJames88 - 06-27-2018, 05:55 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (5)

So my oldest daughter the mum has stopped me seeing her as she is playing happy family's with some other guy. I haven't seen her in a year and a half which is disgusting. I've tried everything. I am on the birth certificate and we did mediation a few years ago but she cancelled it straight away. Not worth the paper it's written on. She moved without telling me and doesn't tell me anything. I have to try mediation first before court which I am which I know she won't attend. So it will go to court. Do I need a lawyer for this or can I do it myself. I just want access to her and not full custody. It's way more affordable if do it myself. Have no criminal record and have my youngest daughter's a lot no issues. Any advice is welcomed.

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  Ex - Abusive Texts
Posted by: EssexTennant - 06-27-2018, 02:38 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (2)

I really don't know where else to go with this currently.  I have my Decri Nisi and am currently waiting for my ex to agree financials although she claims to have agreed to proposal via her solicitor.


The issue I have is the constant Text abuse I am now receiving that is starting to make me feel ill. She has fallen out with her old best friend because the friend doesn't like the fact she had an affair but my ex is now refusing to let me take my children to see her ex friends children (who are in same class at school and are best friends).  The text messages I am receiving now are hate filled and she has threatened to stop me seeing the children if I let my children see her children, take my pension , my future inheritance, more of the house and constant abuse about how bad a dad I am when in reality I know I am a bloody good dad, and the kids constantly cry about having to go back to her.

I know its probably a really minor problem but the text messages are constant and abusive and leave me sitting at home alone of a night feeling like I have no way out of this situation as she is constantly going to make my life hell. When she left we agreed she would have children 4 days a week and me 3 - now she says I can only have them 3 days every 2 weeks and even saying she will stop that if I continue talking to certain people.

She is the one who has moved on yet seems like she wants to keep pushing and pushing me until I break.

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  Child maintenance reduced if I pay the mortgage?
Posted by: tosk - 06-27-2018, 02:34 PM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (1)

Hi,

I'm in a situation where my soon-to-be ex-wife has a low paid job. I have three children, ages 7, 10 and 13. I'm at the stage where I'm about to submit form E.

I'm renting a property nearby and paying the mortgage for the former matrimonial home, where my 3 children spend 4 nights. My ex-partner is paying all the bills on that property. They spend 3 nights with me at present.

I'm trying to find a clear consensus to see whether child maintenance can be reduced (or not) since I am paying the full mortgage. I'm finding hints or the occasional thread on forums where that reduction appears to take place- but it doesn't seem clear cut.

I've asked my solicitor the same question and he replied with the following; indicating a plain "no" I think - there's no possible reduction on child 

"In respect of your maintenance obligations you are obliged by law to pay child maintenance in accordance with the statutory formula for the gross income scheme. Please refer to the CMS maintenance calculator at https://www.gov.uk/calculate-your-child-maintenance."

In respect of your mortgage, if this is a joint mortgage you are jointly and severally liable in respect of this. Essentially you have a contract with your lender and if one of you does not pay it then the lender will still require full payment from the other one.

Basically you are liable for both payments – although your ex-partner shares your liability for the mortgage payments if it’s a joint mortgage.


There are no other financial obligations without a court order. However If your ex-partner feels that you are not paying sufficient maintenance before a financial settlement being reached she could apply to the court for additional financial support from you in order to cover necessities."

Would be grateful for any thoughts on this.

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  The new head of Family Law and Parental Alienation
Posted by: Hazy - 06-27-2018, 12:28 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (3)

It was the Familes Need Fathers conference last week and the new head of Family law made a speech which is a pdf document inside the article linked


https://www.judiciary.uk/announcements/s...ence-2018/

Some good stuff but he still gives a lot of weight to anything Women’s Aid have to say.

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  Why marriage certificate to her solicitor?
Posted by: Devoted Dad - 06-27-2018, 11:50 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (4)

Wife says she has given our marriage certificate to her solicitor. Why would she do that?

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  CMS payments for temporary work
Posted by: Beachwalker - 06-27-2018, 11:27 AM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (1)

My ex and I have a family based agreement that I pay support for our 2 kids according to CMS rules. I have been out of work for most of the last year but worked for 8 weeks. I do not receive any other income such as benefits as I have some savings. According to the child maintenance calculator I have to pay the flat rate of £7 per week. Do I pay this just for the weeks I was working or am I supposed to pay it for the whole tax year?

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  Can I get shared custody
Posted by: Riverside78 - 06-27-2018, 11:10 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (12)

Hi, this is my first post. My wife told me 4 weeks ago that she no longer wants to be together, she's a stay at home mum to our two girls aged 2 and 5. she has told me that she will allow me to have the girls every other weekend Friday night pick up to Sunday evening drop off. I want to have shared custody 50/50 if possible. I work full time but my mum is retired and has looked after the girls lots over the years. Will a court look favourable on me or will they support my wife's wishes? Any one on here with similar experience i would love to hear from you. Thanks

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