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  Help with C1A !
Posted by: Tigre - 03-05-2018, 01:44 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (1)

Background : Current Child arrangement order in place for alternate weekends and holidays . Ex has breached minors but contact has taken place when should have 95% of time.

Problem is she has started manipulating son and say
Im dangerous and will hurt my son.
I will kidnap him so he will never see his mum again,
Im lying I dont care about son.
And that Im not his real father but her new partner is. !

Child is 7 and unfortunately is falling for it. Cries and doesnt want to come with me at school when I pick up. At my place he cries, asks for mum, says hes scared of me and wants to be with his real father ie her ex!...

SO Im applying for C1A for emotional abuse. I guess I need help with the part of what I want the court to do. As what I really want (residency) is impossible and Im not sure what can be /is usually done in these cases.

I want to prohibit ex and her partner from saying lies and scaring my son. But how can anyone know what goes on at home behind closed doors? How will this ever be proven if it happens?
I want a psychiatric evaluation of both . Is this feasible? We split 4 years ago and her obsession with me is scary.
Counselling for my son.
What else can I or the court do? Please help !!

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  NAAP Launch 7 March 2018
Posted by: Hazy - 03-05-2018, 12:44 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - No Replies

National Association for Alienated parents launching in the House of Commons 7/3/18


Their Report


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  How do I go about this?
Posted by: Cheese_head_1986 - 03-05-2018, 10:29 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (9)

Hi guys

I'm due to receive a section 7 addendum this week and I'm in no doubt that I will have to contest and challenge their "findings"

How do I do that though? Do I go directly to cafcass or do I put it in my position statement? Or do I do both?

I'm representing myself and been made to jump through every hoop and I'm getting nowhere fast nothing seems simple and the onus is dumped on me to do everything.

For example ex is hostile to contact - what am I going to do about it? Surly that's something they should be asking my ex not me!?

Sorry going off topic but I'm really finding it tough right now

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  Advice on long term residency following years or issues
Posted by: will.edward - 03-05-2018, 09:56 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (7)


I'm looking for some advice. I've got a seven year old daughter from a previous relationship. Aside from a handful of instances I have always had regular, weekly visitation since I separated from her mother more than four years ago. It's been a difficult couple of years for my daughter as her Mother had a difficult upbringing - and the cycle is very much repeating itself - in that her new partner has taken priority and my daughter very much felt sidelined. 

Things came to a head late last year when they began to push for me to have my daughter more. This was fine, but I wanted it to be gradual and planned so as not to upset my daughter. Unfortunately, her mother didn't see it that and dropped her to my door one Sunday evening and left her with me. She now has visitation to the tune of 3-4 nights per fortnight (2x weekends per month with 1 night in between). They have made it perfectly clear that they do not want my daughter back for any more than that - which is amazing news for me as she is flourishing in our care (I'm now married and my wife and daughter get on brilliantly)

I'm writing for advice as the mother and her partner are now struggling with this arrangement, and actually want to reduce it further - the partner will now no longer be in the house with my daughter as they do not get along (she is seven! - he is approaching 30). Her mother has made her choice and they seem fairly intent on having only day visits - with no overnight stays. Now that my daughter lives with me, goes to a new school near our home and is happily settled in - where do I stand in the grand scheme of things? I want to be confident that her mother cannot simply swoop in and remove her from my care (however unlikely) as I'm worried it is starting to have a significant impact on my daughter, who regularly exhibits behaviour with her mother that suggests severe abandonment issues. She has told me she doesn't like staying there and doesn't want to see them anymore.

Do custody rights now sit with me in the eyes of the law? (this was informally agreed)
If not, can I apply for this?



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  She raids the house.
Posted by: Rjc - 03-04-2018, 08:26 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (11)

Every day I leave the house my ex comes in and clears me out. I had our child today and went out came back to find she’s taken more stuff even stuff that belongs to me. We’re both on a join mortgage still but she’s moved back to her mums. What can I do to stop this as I’ll have no floor left if the locust keeps having her way.

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  feeling very lost and hurt
Posted by: Blackheath - 03-04-2018, 07:28 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (6)

After being denied access to my little girl for 5 long months, previously having her for three nights  every week, and getting nowhere with mediation ( she didn't  turn up .)   I took my ex to court , she didn't  even turn up to the second hearing. it was decided on the third that access begins immediately ( the very next day ) starting slowly and building up to what is now in place , every other weekend for two nights stay. I live an hour and a half away so for my little girls sake as not to travel back and forth on a motorway , I turned down the every other Tues evening until Weds morning  visit. I was so pleased my ex  didn't get her way with  what she wanted  which was supervised visits in a contact centre for 2 hours  once a week  into the future .The accusations were unbelievable ,  being dyslexic  I would be unable to stand properly with out dropping my daughter and it also would affect  my perception of risks. ( this didn't seem to worry her when I had my little girl to stay over for the 1st 13 months since her birth when I looked after her when in my home, or when I looked after her 4 year old son by a previous father when we were  together )   We are now 4 months into the order and apart from a few hiccups its going okay, not great as I feel that 12 days away in-between from my little girl is very difficult. We can go back to court when she is in nursery school for extra time in the holidays so I am  wishing my life away  at the moment.
Does anyone have experience in a hand over book ??? this was suggested by our solicitor as communication was so bad. it is purely for relevant info between us regarding our daughter,( any medication given, falls , accidents, that sort of thing ) however it has be come an instruction manual , with orders of what she must eat, sleep ,how I must talk to her, not go outside etc, I must check her stools, are they healthy??? and also full of  false accusations as you can imagine. I would be vey grateful  if anyone has a spin on this as it is becoming very stressful reading many thanks. I am always on eggshells waiting for the next allegation.]

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  STBX is terrorising me
Posted by: proud_dad - 03-04-2018, 06:48 PM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (3)

Hi all,

I'm a dad of two beautiful children that I love and adore, heavily involved in upbringing and to date supported financially along with their mum.

Going through divorce because relationship just broke down. There are no safety issues, but I'm aware that I have to take all the shit she's throwing at me- this forum has shown me how easy it is to manipulate family law.

But therein lies my problem. She's realised that I haven't responded yet to her harassment and bullying and upped it today. It's fucking hard! More so because I have to take the abuse in front of the kids who she's trying to turn against me (unsuccessfully). In the past, she's thrown rubbish on my side of the bed, screamed obscenities at me, brought her brother to passively aggressive threaten me, tried to hack into my phone and social media account etc. Now she has resorted to insulting my family who have been amazing to me throughout her terror campaign, latching front door shut - it's my child that eventually lets me in.

I know I have to keep it together for the kids. I know that I am in a hood position when it comes to negotiating what I would like for kids after divorce and financial settlement, but I don't know if I can mentally survive that long to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I dread weekends because she's in my face. I can't go out in the evenings because my kid calls me at 6 sharp asking me when I'm coming home (she's scared him into thinking I'm leaving and never coming back). I'm living in a prison with a full time hannibal lecter as a soon to be ex wife.

I practice the grey rock technique to try and deal with her narcissism, but I think my silence and compliance only fuels her rage further.

Thank you for letting me vent.

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  What to expect for child access arrangements
Posted by: pm180107 - 03-04-2018, 01:24 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (7)


I am wondering what my rights are with regards to access to my two children. Currently I see my 2 year old and 6 month year old on a fortnightly basis for three hours on a Sunday. I have requested to see them more to their mother as I feel three hours a fortnight is too little an amount of time to see them. I spend the three hours at the home of my ex with the children. Ideally I would like to see them at least once an evening every week, and more time on the alternate weekends. I pay more maintenance than I currently need to so that is not an issue. I would like help with what I can expect is a reasonable enough time to be able to spend with the children. And also whether I can actually have rights to take the children out on my own.

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Posted by: AnomDad - 03-03-2018, 10:28 PM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (2)

Hi all,

My ex closed our CMS case last year but has decided to open it up again.. I currently pay half of everything on her end(half of any clothes she buys, shoes, trips out and then have everything they need at my end too so hey have a full wardrobe, shoes, toys) the only thing we exchange on hand overs are the teddys that they each take to bed and the monitors. 

Tonight she informed me that she has contacted them so she wants me to pay the CMS each week but then continue to pay half of everything.. I've told her it will be one or the other and if she wants me to pay CMS then she can send everything I need with the kids on handover day but not sure what this actually includes.. does she have you send shoes/clothes? Any links will be greatly appreciated

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  Heidi Allen’s proposed bill
Posted by: Hazy - 03-03-2018, 10:49 AM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (3)


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