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  Recommendations for Barrister
Posted by: Dadofthree3 - 11-14-2018, 06:25 PM - Forum: Your Court Results/Outcomes - Replies (5)

My first post... hello everyone.

Is anyone (if forum rules allow) able to recommend a barrister who successfully won a 50/50 shared care arrangement against a wife who was making false accusations and seriously limiting access?

Many thanks in advance...

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  Access to children
Posted by: MrSm1th - 11-14-2018, 04:45 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (1)

I split with my ex partner in 2012 we have two kids together. I have paid child support since then and I have regular access to my kids and see them every other weekend.

That was until this Friday, I went to collect my kids as usual and was told by her current partner that they didn't want to spend the weekend with me. I asked to speak with the kids as I had booked tickets for an event that weekend. They reluctantly allowed me to speak to the kids and while I was my ex partner called the police saying I was refusing to leave her property etc.

It was at this point things went south very quickly. Both kids informed me that they had headaches and didn't want to come with me. 

Her new partner got in my face saying 'you've had your answer now fuck off out of my property' 

At this stage I was still standing on the top of the stairs outside by the front door (She lives in a Maisonette) As I was walking away the gate to her garden was slammed on me by him. Now, I'm a big fella so it hit me and swung back and hit him. He then follows me down the stairs with two of his mates and they start pushing and shoving me, I get in my car and leave as I knew if I did anything back they'd likely deny doing anything to me and I would have been nicked.

The thing is my ex was moving that weekend. I have no idea where she has moved to, I have been told its either Salisbury or Amesbury but have no forwarding address. She has blocked my number so I cant call or text, she refuses to tell me where shes moved to. I had a mediation assessment yesterday, she has refused to attend so they are sending me the court form for access, which I cant file with a court because I dont have an address.

I have called citizens advice, they were as much help as a chocolate teapot.

The school the kids were attending dont have a forwarding address

Lambeth social services wont help me.

The police wont help either.

I am at my wits end I just want to know where my kids are and if they are safe. I'm on the birth certificates so surely I have some rights. 

Can anyone share any advice?

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  Wife confirmed she is going away.
Posted by: EssexTennant - 11-14-2018, 03:05 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (7)

My wife has today confirmed that her and her new partner are moving 70 miles away and removing my two children from the school, there clubs, friends and all of mine and her family. Her boyfriend is local to where they are moving so will be nearer his children.

She tried to move schools last year and I blocked it, as it would have meant the children going to a school which was over subscribed and also being removed from school the same week.

She told me yesterday she was not moving the children away and today she told me they have been accepted in a school 70 miles away and that they start in 1 months time prior to Christmas.

I currently have the kids 4 nights out of 14 plus pick up from school and provide child care an additional 2 days a week.

I am seeing a solicitor in due course. What are my chances and what should my next steps be. I want to go for custody so my children do not loose all contract with family and friends and have to effectively start again.

Any help would be appreciated as I am in pieces.

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Posted by: andycol - 11-14-2018, 11:13 AM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (2)

Hi Fellow Dads,

So i need some advice as i feel i am stuck.

My family (wife and Daughter and myself) are moving to the UK at the end of December,
Things have been really bad between myself and my wife as of late, and i can see she is likely to leave me as soon as we get there and go live with her sister who lives there already.
What are my rights in the uk?

Any advice on what i do as its hard to not go anymore as i have already accepted a job and bought tickets etc?

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  Tax on UK property - anyone understand this?
Posted by: Fatcat1980 - 11-14-2018, 09:18 AM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (8)

Is anybody particularly clued up on this?  Here's my question:

Our property is 50/50 owned but the mortgage is in my sole name.  I've stayed there for now.  

If my ex were to move back into the house and I moved out, she would have to pay me to pay the mortgage, plus I'd expect certain costs covered, i.e. buildings insurance and a nominal sum for maintenance.  

In this scenario, would I have to declare this as property income on my tax return?

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  Interesting Listening / Viewing
Posted by: Living Bate - 11-14-2018, 08:48 AM - Forum: THE LOUNGE - Replies (4)

There are plenty of really good Joe Rogan interviews, but I thought these two were really good and possibly helpful / insightful for the blokes on here:

Derren Brown


Tyson Fury


This is a really good documentary:

The Work


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Posted by: tdci - 11-14-2018, 08:18 AM - Forum: THE LOUNGE - Replies (8)

i will keep it short (school run)my daughter lives with me by court order ex expects to pick her up from school but i've just seen her car no tax no mot best way to text her communication has not been great between us,she thinks she's calling shots all the time

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  Divorce, maintenance and house settlement
Posted by: MondyJim - 11-13-2018, 03:54 PM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (4)

Hi, new to this forum, only just found out about it. I realise I will no doubt need to seek professional legal advice but I would be grateful for some basic advice on a couple of matters. My wife and I are currently going through a divorce after separating earlier this year. The first matter is regarding child maintenance payments. Our two children stay with each of us on a 50-50% basis – 4 nights with me one week and 3 nights the next in a two week cycle. We currently split childcare costs 50/50. I have used an online payment calculator and it gives a minimum payment per week that I should make to my ex however I have read on Citizen’s Advice page and been told by various people that if care of the children is equally split then no maintenance payments are mandated. I’m happy to contribute but am finding it hard to find out how much if any is required. I have to buy as much food for them as my ex does, they both have a full wardrobe of clothes at my house which is added to as required and we split additional costs such as school trips etc.
Second issue relates to the splitting of the house. Very long story short – her father bought the house outright for us 13 years ago and it was gifted to us. As her dad did this I’ve been reluctant to ask for any money from the house however as many of you will know, moving out and renting a house is expensive and I’d like to buy something of my own in time.  With no funds behind me besides £10k from a split of a savings account it is very difficult to start again on my own. She has offered me the remaining £10k from the savings account and that is it as she only works 3 days per week and says she can’t afford a loan/mortgage. I’m planning on giving her two options to try to settle this 1) Get the house valued, subtract what her father paid for the house originally and then she pays me 50% of this theoretical profit (in the region of £35-40k) on top of the £10k savings split OR ii) She pays me the remaining £10k totalling £20k from the savings but I stay on the house deeds with her living there with the children until either our youngest reaches 18 years old or she moves a new partner in/sells up to move in with a new partner, at which time I’m paid either 50% of the theoretical profit at that time or 33% of the market value respectively. In my mind both of these are reasonable solutions but any advice on this would be great.
Thanks and apologies for the long post!

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  Advice needed with on going issues
Posted by: ALFIE137 - 11-13-2018, 03:39 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (5)

Hi folks just after some advice, I have been seeing my daughter in a contact centre since the court granted me access and it has been going great seeing my lil one again. However after each contact session I receive an email or text message from the ex asking how it went. She has already been told this by the contact centre but tries to spark up conversation which leads away from our daughter. I also receive lots of demoralizing or pointless emails too when she's obviously sitting there stewing. Now she says she wants to meet me to discuss what contact I have with our daughter and how things will work after next court date so she can advise her solicitor. I'm reluctant to reply but what advice can you give

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  false allegation of domestic violence and child abuse
Posted by: bitterending1818 - 11-13-2018, 01:27 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (4)

I am married from last 15 years married on 2003 moved to uk in 2004 with wife.
I have 2 young kids aged 9 boy in years 5 and aged 5 girl in year 1 both in full-time education. Me and my wife had a dispute while on holidays where my in-laws’ lives. They asked to get some amount of money from me and file a false case of domestic violence while I was on holidays. I know they used some bribes and well-known politicians to pressure local police to take action against me. They filled fake and false allegation on me I manage to get that removed and paid the amount demand from my wife.
I have spoken to a number of solicitors and British embassy in India they all said we can’t bring your kids back to uk due to no Hague convention treaty with India. So I have been forced to compromise and pay unlawful demand of money to my wife.
When I am back to uk after missing my work for 90 days due to false allegations and fake police case I have been contacted by children’s social services asking me to meet them and I met one social worker in Barnet house. She explained to me I have been accused of domestic violence and child abuse via email to them by my wife.the council wants me to attend a domestic violence perpetrator programme or course ( my concern is if I attend that course that means I accept that I have done domestic violence?.)
We are currently living together and she wants to take allegations back and children social services wants me to attend something called a conference by end of this month where police council and 2 schools will be there and they will make a judgment how to deal with this case.
My main concern is I haven’t done anything wrong domestic violence or child abuse how can I be proven innocent in this matter and how to fight fake allegation as my wife who made this allegation wants to support to resolve this process.

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