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  Moving out the family home
Posted by: owen88 - 8 hours ago - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (1)

My little girl was born 2 and a half years ago and for the past 1 and a half maybe two years my wife has changed. She is always finding something to have a go at me about it don't matter if i do or do not do something it's wrong. I've tried to make it work but it's got to the point i don't want to go home to her as i'm walking on egg shells all the time. I've been lucky to have friends and my dad around to talk to. My dad has said to wait till Christmas is over then make a decision and that's what i am going to try to do. I really don't want to leave my little girl but it's got to the point i don't want to be around my wife. 
So i have been looking at various things online I.E joint mortgage (I would like my wife to keep the home but i can't afford both a new place for me and keep paying that and i'm not sure if she would buy me out) or if she would move in with her parents again but they are a horrible bunch and i dont want my daughter living with them if i can help it. It's been a nightmare and i don't know what to do and how to play the moving out process (I could stay at my mum and dads but there is no way i want that to be long term).

Anyone that could give me any advice please fill free. 


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  Scottish Court - Child Welfare Report
Posted by: gormander - 9 hours ago - Forum: Outside Involvement, CAFCASS etc - No Replies

I was wondering has anyone had experience with the Scottish Courts Child Welfare Reports?

I have just had mine done however I thought that this would be about me & my relationship with my daughter however this was not the case.

I was getting questioned about relationships with other people, etc & only one question about me & my daughter.

Was wondering if this kind of thing was normal however my solicitor has gone off on holiday & not back for a week & I have been left feeling like this was a Spanish inquisition against me & the reporters words was very much sounding like my ex

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  starting the legal process
Posted by: mikeeb5 - 9 hours ago - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (1)


I'm looking for as much advice as possible. here is the back story;
I moved out of my ex partners house we shared with our 4 children in March 2017. Up until around June/July we had tried periodically to try again- it would be fine for a few weeks but then break down into arguments and chaos. we shared a bed for the last time about 5/6 weeks ago. A few days after this, i ended it completely- no more attempts to reconcile. I didn't feel for her what i once did. It may seem quick but in the last 3 weeks i have found someone else. Rather foolishly ( i regretted the action immediately but it turns out the damage had been done)- i took said new girl to school with me to pick up the kids 2 weeks ago on the Friday. Someone spotted us and told my ex. so ensued the chaos. She left the kids with me for the weekend and disappeared without contact other than angry words (i apologised for my terrible judgement, it was completely out of character for me, even now i hate myself for doing it!). 
We managed to sort out a few issues, she came back for the kids and life resumed with me picking them up everyday after school. Yesterday however i took some food shopping round for her and as soon as i stepped through the door she left saying she was going to the cash point. Again no contact ( her phone was switched off) until around 8 when she said she was struggling so needed time away to think. 
This afternoon she came back to the house and started to hurl abuse at me, punched me in the neck (completely out of character) and then told me i could not see my kids until i went through the legal route... 

I have no idea where to start looking and who best to contact. Any advice you all could give would be most helpful. A friend said go through a solicitor however my understanding is that it'll cost money i dont really have available to me. So really the cheapest solution possible is required- however im willing to put myself into masses of debt if that what its takes- obviously not an ideal solution though.. 

Thanks in advance

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  I won court for shared care, ex moved away, child lives with me.... now what?
Posted by: mrjones - Today, 11:40 AM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (3)

Hi all,

To cut a long story short.
Never married and split from ex 5 years ago, we always had shared care.
Jan 18 she told me she was moving 130 miles away
I put it in court
July 18 court decides, in my fabour, that best for little one is to stay where she is and they gave 2 court orders - shared care to continue as is and little one can't be removed from school she is at.

Ex decides to leave anyway - left little one with me since September - only sees little one on half terms and school holidays as she says its too far to drive every other weekend to come and get her.

now.. my question if anyone can help please.

In September 2019 little one has to move to a new school, still in the same area, and this is where my question lays.
If the court order states she can't be removed for such and such school, it is specified in there the name of the school, when she moves to a different school, can the mother come and grab her and take away?

that whole scenario that if a prohibition order isn't in place then a child can be taken somewhere kind of thing?

Should I get something in place?
should I apply for something? like a residency order or something?


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  Child Maintenance headache
Posted by: Roysten123 - Today, 08:02 AM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (14)

Sorry for the essay… Me and My ex partner split 16 months ago (her choice). We have 2 boys, 5 and 6. I have lived at my parents since we split to give her time to find a job, pass probation and be able to apply for a mortgage. I have been paying half the mortgage for this time plus giving her £620 a month in CM. This CM figure was agreed by using the gov calculator and based on me having the boys 1-2 nights a week. Since we agreed this figure I have changed jobs and am able to work from home so I now have the boys 3 nights a week (tues/wed nights and 1 night every weekend) I stay at the house with the boys when I have them and she stays at her friends/parents. I am buying my ex out and this is due to complete in the next 2 weeks. We have agreed that after the house situation is sorted I will have the boys 3 nights one week and then 4 nights the next (this will start after xmas). We haven't had a conversation about CM yet (as I didn't want her to get annoyed and start making things difficult re the house). Based on me now having them 3 nights a week the CM should drop to £468 pm. So I plan to tell her this once she is moved out. Now, after xmas we will have 'shared care' so my understanding is that no CM is due to paid in this case?  This is giving me a huge headache. My ex has asked me for extra money occasionally, telling me she can't afford to buy the things she needs for her new house/for the boys etc. At the same time she has recently got a new lease car costing her £280 a month and she seems to have a delivery of new clothes twice a week (she left out receipt's for £200 worth of clothes bought just this week!). She is out partying with her mates every weekend. None of this is any of my business, until she comes to me asking for more money. She works partime plus receives the usual benefits plus £330 DLA for my eldest boy so I know she is not struggling at all. I need advice on how I should handle the CM I pay. I don' want my boys to go without and would gladly pay for anything and everything that they need. So, should I suggest that we agree a figure that covers everything the boys need and I pay that?  Or should I just offer to pay for anything they need and give her the money when asked?  Or, pay money into a joint account so that she can use that to buy them things. Or agree a small amount of CM and say we will go halves on anything they need? I'd pay her £1000 a month if I knew it was going on the boys but I'm not happy funding her lavish lifestyle whilst she telling me she is struggling. I want to get this right for my boys and without coming across like a control freak. The bitter side of me wants to tell her she's getting nothing (and we go halves on everything) but that would only impact negatively on my boys. What should I do?

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  Confused about hearing
Posted by: Blackpanther - Yesterday, 10:48 PM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (12)

I've been served prohibited steps order and non molestation order ex parte so i wasnt present at the first hearing and no mediation.

A response hearing was set in a few days

Does anyone know what happens at this hearing as a bit confused. Its not a final hearing is it?

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  First Direction Hearing
Posted by: Sb1353 - Yesterday, 08:02 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (3)

I am after bit of advice please. I have my first court hearing next week. CAFFCASS from their safeguarding letter recommended section 7 report. However, I’d like to try to speak with. Them to try to reach an agreement with my ex. She doesn’t want to talk to me and want all communications through her solocitor. All her legal expenses are paid by legal aid and I am paying for mine. Obviously my solicitor to,d me that it won’t be possible as she won’t communicate but sure it isn’t in children best interest if she doesn’t want to communicate and try to reach an agreement. Also solicitor would want this to last longer so they can make some money. Is it possible to reach a deal on first hearing?

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  Interim court order broken already - what to do now?
Posted by: Marky207 - Yesterday, 12:35 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (11)

I was awarded an interim contact order this week and was due to collect my child this weekend. Received a bunch of messages alleging that child did not want to come (child does want to come but is petrified with mum's behaviour so doesn't want to p*** her off and will do as told - my ex is be manipulating child and has been caught out on several lies).

When I went to collect my child, my ex and her family gave me death threats and police were involved. I had several witnesses and dash cam footage of her behaving like this. Police were going to charge ex but decided it would be in my child's best interest if social services are involved (they already are in the background, unbeknownst to my ex as I reported concerns months ago).

The question is what do I do now? The excuse that my child does not want to come is ridiculous, surely she can't just keep saying that as it will be easy to manipulate due to my ex's mentality. Ex sits there smuggly saying "I can't force her to come so court order doesn't mean anything".  I will be speaking to my solicitor on Monday but I am seriously concerned for my child's mental health and don't know how seriously this will be taken. A CAFCASS report has been ordered and I think it is my ex's intention to keep my child away until child is spoken to so she can manipulate her into saying things. The judge was very clear that my child must attend as she has given no other reason other than the child needs to attend social activities than see dad (judge tore this argument apart), ex's solicitor agreed this and signed court order on my ex's behalf.

Thank you so much for reading, I'm just a really concerned dad who loves my kid to pieces and want them to not have to go through this hell.

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  Spousal - husbands standard of living?
Posted by: lister - Yesterday, 01:58 AM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (1)

When I read about spousal maintenance, it seems that they take into consideration the standard of living required by the wife. 

Do they look at the standard of living the husband has? For example, if I have sky tv, and I had it in the matrimonial home, can they say you shouldn't have that and pay her the amount? (Simple example)

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  Financial Order - do you have to go infront of a judge
Posted by: lister - Yesterday, 01:57 AM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - No Replies

Hi all,
To get a consent order (financial order), that lays out the split of the kids, and also finances, do you have to appear before a judge, even if both sides agree on everything?

I thought it was just a case of sending in all the documentation (bank statements etc), and as long as the court through it was a fair split, then it was done.

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