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  Wife with sex offender
Posted by: tom.meller88 - 04-12-2016, 03:52 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (2)

My wife is dating a child sex offender and i'm not happy about the situation i have 3 young children and i don't know what to do.

Would a court favor me for Custody?



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  what to do
Posted by: frustarted73 - 04-12-2016, 02:25 PM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (6)

Hi all,
i have separated from my wife 2/3 months ago. She has moved out and have agreed a financial settlement which is more that she is entitled to but i am happy just to be on my own. i have now met someone new and my wife is starting to accuse me of rape. The nite in question we were both drunk i had sex with her didnt use any force or at any time did she say no. She says she has recordings of all my convosations with her but none of them will be incriminating. She is telling people what i have done. what should i do? we r not yet diovorced

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  Legal Contact required - London
Posted by: Kalidad - 04-12-2016, 12:02 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (2)

Good afternoon all,

I'm new here so please excuse me if this is posted in the wrong section.
I'm British citizen, London based. My son (11 and will be 12 in June) is a British citizen born and for some part raised in the UK. His mother (seperated for over 4 years, but on paper still married) is a Mexican national.

I would appreciate it if someone could point me in the direction of a legal rep that would understand both UK and Mexican law.

Please get in contact if you know of anyone that I could speak with or obtain Legal advice.

Thank you

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  Advice please
Posted by: Confused - 04-12-2016, 10:31 AM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (7)

Hi All,

I'm new here so please be gentle!

My partner and I have split up and I have no idea where I stand on an issue. My child was born 7 months ago but his Mother has left me to move back with family living roughly 200 miles away. I must stress at this point that I haven't done anything wrong, I'm not violent or abusive and I've always provided for my ex-partner and my child.

The difficulty that I'm facing now is access to my child. It's a very long round trip which can take up to 4.5 hours each way and to add to this my ex-partner is now saying that she's not happy with me taking our child overnight because she claims the little one wont settle with anyone other than her. The added expense of the travel is also an issue for me.

Can anyone advise where I might stand on this one?

Many Thanks

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  Court orders, C4 and C100 forms.
Posted by: SingleDad78 - 04-12-2016, 09:20 AM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (13)

Hi all,

Has anyone had the displeasure of needing the courts to locate thier missing child?

We split a few years ago and all was ok until she met a new fella. She went awol taking my daughter with her. I have no address, school, doctors or anything. My ex is refusing my calls or texts and I'm pulling my hair out.I also have a son who lives with me.

I think I need court orders to resolve this because my ex refused mediation. Has anyone done something like this themselves or would I be better off using a costly solicitor?

Any help will be appreciated. Thanks.

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  lying wife and daughter
Posted by: nigel b - 04-11-2016, 02:18 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (3)

Dear all...im in the midst of the divioce from hell at the moment after 30 years of marriage. Could somebody please advise how to deal with a wife and daughter who a) lie and do so to the police and her solicitor on a regular basis forcing me to respond b) expect me to continue to fund their lives despite their behaviour.

I am living in the house i own (sadly joint mortgage small amount still outstanding but i have paid every penny of the house from the get go over 15 years). I own a business travel internationally etc and have made decent money. Half of the proceeds from the sale of my property alone will derive at least £300k for my wife...more than enough to buy her another house.

Despite the above and having cooperated fully with the arrangements i made to have the house valued independently etc she has now refused to allow it to be marketed (i dont need her permission of course to market the place but doing it against her apparent wishes would be a mistake).

Additionally and far more worrying my 17 year old daughter has constantly interfered in our marriage and been the nasty, arrogant and aggressive mouthpiece that my wife cant be but wants to be. This has resulted in several heated incidents : most recently i had to call the police to my own house after being taunted and threatened by my own daughter with a knife..i kid you not. This is turning into a Jeremy Kyle style farce which i am not going to tolerate.

How can i respond to take control of the situation and in particular take issue with the lies that these two are telling ? Their strategy (admitted to me by both and on recommendation of their bitch of a solicitor) is to get me out of my own house and have me pay for their upkeep. This is not going to happen but i do have to be careful and not resort to their gutter tactics ?

desperately seeking a solution

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  Advice needed
Posted by: KevinM2k - 04-11-2016, 02:06 PM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (5)


I am in the very early stages of a divorce. I have an amazing little girl that is nearly 2 that is the most important thing in my life right now.

I still live with my wife and little girl but the house has been sold and we are just waiting for a date to move out. At this point I am going to move in with my parents for a short time where as I think she is thinking about renting in the area we live now.

She is a full time doctor which has contributed to the down fall of the marriage as I rarely see her (leaves at 8am and doesn't normally get back until after 7pm - sometimes works full weekends too), I have been feeling like a single dad for a while now although I don't mind as long as im with my daughter!

I pick my little girl up every day from nursery as I can finish reliably at 5pm every single day to go get her (she is in nursery 3 days a week and is with her mum for the other 2), and I would say I'm the primary carer based on the fact I bring her home, give her some tea, bath her and put her to bed most nights.

When we do move apart, she clearly thinks the baby is simply going to live with her and that is that, although there will be no way she can get back to do the routine i do with her every night. We do have an understanding that everything will be 50/50 but as everyone here probably knows, that's always the plan! Never the result.

I want to know where I should go now, should I just go on the 50/50 rule and see how things go, should i go see a solicitor and get something drawn up to the same words? Do I go for part/full custody? Her sister recently went through something similar with a guy that i'm friends with and she threatened him that she would just say he hit her and she would get full legal aid and deny him access completely, so he has just accepted whatever she wants (little concerned her sister might make my wife do the same thing to get her own way), but that doesn't work for me, that little girl is the most important thing in my life and I don't want to be without her for 1 second - however I do want to move out as soon as possible as i'm struggling to look at my wife in the same light after discovering how much she is lieing to me.

My family all keep giving my advice, but its hard to hear anything from them so inpartial advice would be better.

Thanks in advance for any help.


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  Problems with arrangements
Posted by: King2000 - 04-11-2016, 01:52 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (3)

Hi everyone. 

I'm new here but not new to being a separated dad. Having been separated for 6 years and now successfully moved on and enjoying a new relationship I've turned my life around after what has been a very difficult few years.

My two boys who are now 16 and 13 have always been my first priority and remain so. It's been hard not being around to see them every day and my ex and I have an agreement in place that work for us both, however over the last year or so, any civility seems to have gone between us. I've tried hard to keep things away from my children but it's now got so bad that I've had to resort to dealing with everything through my older son.

Now when we originally split, we came to an agreement (not in any legal document) which meant I would have some clothes at my home and she would have other clothes at her home. When the boys came over to live with me, they wouldn't have to bring much. However, as they've got older things have changed and I now suggested they being some clothes with them from their mum especially when they stay with me over holidays for one or two weeks. I mean what teenager doesn't want a choice with respect to the clothes they put on? 

However, that's not acceptable to their mum. She says that they are not allowed to bring clothes to mine. I've always returned all clothing they've had here in the past washed and mostly ironed as well. I pay what is required of me every month on time which I thought was for their food and clothing? It's not like I haven't bought them clothes and they've not been able to take it to their mums. Last year I spent over £300 on clothes to go on holiday on them and asked if she wouldn't mind bringing some clothes. All I got was a pair of shorts and a t-shirt each!

She's now saying she will speak to her lawyer about this. As the main carer she has now rights (her words). 

So where do I stand on this? Surely the clothes belong to the boys and they have the right to bring them to me. My older son is 16 and has the right to do what he wants add he is the age of consent in Scotland. 

Some advice here would be helpful. Thanks.

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  Changes to contact order
Posted by: movingforward - 04-11-2016, 01:28 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (2)

Hi, I'm posting this on behalf of my partner.
He split from his ex two years ago, initially contact with his son was regular and things were reasonably amicable with his ex, but after my partner and I started dating she started being very difficult.  She stopped contact for no reason, was abusive towards both of us, which resulted in me having to involve the police, trying to manipulate my partner's family etc.
Eventually my partner went through solicitors and was successful in obtaining a contact order.  We currently have his son (7 years old) every other weekend (Friday evening to Sunday evening), one week in each of the school holidays but only 24hrs over Christmas.  He also has one phone call per week.  The contact order has been in place for approx. 9 months. Over this time it has mostly been adhered to and on occasion we have had his son extra when his ex has plans, which we're more than happy to do. We have also had him when he's been ill, during school in-service days, and we had him extra at Christmas.  However, the issue is that the 'extra' time is always on her terms and is very sporadic depending on her mood, it doesn't take their son's needs/wants into consideration at all. She is still very abusive towards my partners, shouting/swearing at him in front of their son etc. She is now refusing to communicate with my partner face to face, over text or email, she will only pass notes to their son to give to him.  She has said that if he comes to her house or contacts her in any way she will call the police, despite the fact he has never caused any trouble or been rude/abusive towards her.  We have no problem with her coming to our home to pick up or drop off their son.
My partner now wants to make changes to the contact order so that he gets a bit more time with his son and make some if it more specific to minimise the opportunities for her to cause problems. My question is has anyone successfully managed to change their contact order, and do they have any advice? Also, with solicitors being so expensive, has anyone managed to do this themselves and if so how can we find out how to do this? We live in Scotland. Thanks in advance for any help.

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  Are there net forums for separated Dads to group together to share accommodation?
Posted by: trying2bagooddad - 04-11-2016, 11:49 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (4)

hi all

I need to move house and can't afford to rent a place just for myself. Flat-shares don't work usually if you have shared custody of kids. I'm hoping to find others in the same situation as me (Dads or Mums) to group together to rent somewhere. Does anyone know of any forums where you can meet others in that kind of situation?


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