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  childs voice
Posted by: scottgrey - 12-04-2018, 10:04 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (3)

just a quick one, at what age does a child have a voice to the court, I have a finding of facts hearing but I want to know if my daughter of 8 has a voice to the court, my daughter has been poisoned by her mother of course, but can she talk her self, what happens if she stands by her mother? this is so heartbreaking.

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  finding of facts hearing
Posted by: scottgrey - 12-04-2018, 09:32 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (2)

hi I am new to this page and looking for advice, I left my wife in feb 2018 she has let me have contact with the children up until she moved them 2 hours away with her new boyfriend and not allowed to see them, she then applied for court for me too see the children c100, but now made up that I have punched my children and used to abuse her, I have never been in trouble with the police or got a record, I have has CAFCASS ring me and said im not on any data base, but in court my ex said that I did punch my child, so I have a finding of facts hearing, and I have no idea whats going to happen, I physically cannot afford a solicitor so completely on my own so any advice would be great. 
many thanks 
scott

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  Weekend Dad?
Posted by: greggs80 - 12-04-2018, 09:11 PM - Forum: Your Court Results/Outcomes - Replies (3)

Hello dads!

I had my 5-year-old twin boys every weekend between Friday evening and Sunday evening. For the past 2 months, I have not seen them at all because the mother is restricting contact. The reason why she is restricting contact is that she told me not to pick them up on a Friday for "personal reasons" that were unexplainable and I still came to try and pick them. So she saw this as me being disrespectful to her.

She refused to attend mediation and now they have signed off that I can take the next step to court. Would the court still grant me weekends like how it was or would they say every other weekend?

Thanks

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  Ok so what will happen
Posted by: Agentgraves - 12-04-2018, 08:26 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (6)

Thanks for advice so far , but as there's no Court order in place at present and my boy wants to live with me , can I keep him without any implecations! He is physically scared going back to his mum's and isn't comfortable around her BF as he keeps bad mouthing me to him ,

As I have PR is there anything she can do

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  fact finding - directions hearing
Posted by: SeanS - 12-04-2018, 04:47 PM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - No Replies

Hello dads, could anyone who had to go thru share their experience of about "directions hearing" in relation to FACT FINDING of DV/DA ?

1)how long the hearing might last
2)what do each parties have to bring to the court
3)What sort of statement and/or evidence the directions hearing will be based on - example C1A, Safegurading letter or anything else ?
4)what might be the potential outcome of directions hearing? for example proceed with fact finding yes/no ?

Unfortunately court is taking absolutely ages in sending their papers but I have found the hearing is on later this month. Thanks much

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  Full time nursery for 1 year old rather than established contact with dad...!
Posted by: TheDetective - 12-04-2018, 02:14 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (8)

My other half is in family court tomorrow. He's self representing. It's a contested final hearing.

He recieved his ex's position statement which states she will agree no increase to current contact (which we expected). But that she wants to discuss a reduction in contact to facilitate the child going to private nursery 5 days a week as she wishes to go back to work. She is offering the bog standard every other weekend with one evening for dinner but must stay locally. The child is currently 22 months old.

He currently has 3 days wed/thur/Fri with an overnight in week 1 and Fri Sat sun in week 2 with an overnight. He wants to increase contact to add the additional overnights in.

He has no issue with her going to nursery. But since he already has this contact and he can care for the child instead of her going to nursery, how could this go down in a final hearing?

Should he be preparing evidence to show why this wouldn't be in child's best interest?

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  Court order breach
Posted by: beehive84 - 12-04-2018, 11:46 AM - Forum: THE LOUNGE - No Replies

Guy I really need help

The ex agreed to switch to interest only on the consent order, rang the bank refused to agree to it and got her relative to text me to say they didn’t offer interest only as an option.

The bank should be writing to me to say interest only is an option they offer.
Looks like it’s back to court already. What do I do? Write to the court stating the case number? Is there a fee and form to fill out and do I have to include my evidence of the breach with the letter?

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  Court order breach
Posted by: beehive84 - 12-04-2018, 11:11 AM - Forum: THE LOUNGE - No Replies

Guy I really need help

The ex agreed to switch to interest only on the consent order, rang the bank refused to agree to it and got her relative to text me to say they didn’t offer interest only as an option.

The bank should be writing to me to say interest only is an option they offer.
Looks like it’s back to court already. What do I do? Write to the court stating the case number? Is there a fee and form to fill out and do I have to include my evidence of the breach with the letter?

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  Delay and confusion
Posted by: maestro - 12-04-2018, 11:01 AM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - No Replies

Hi, 
I've posted earlier here http://www.separateddads.co.uk/forum/thread-7796.html
The voluntary disclosure of financial asset details is ongoing through our respective lawyers (decree nisi received, shared ownership of family home, 2 children 15&11 yrs). We continue to live in the same house, me expecting that my wife will help complete the process swiftly. It feels like she is deliberately delaying providing financial asset details - it is 2 weeks since her own lawyer's deadline for it, and still he has not provided the details. 
It is becoming increasingly difficult for me to stay in the same house, and I would like to move out asap. The problem is, if I stopped paying the mortgage, we will start to default on it and will lose the house. Also, child custody is not done yet. I continue to be in a bit of a dilemma about this.
Can anyone give a perspective that I am missing here?
Thanks so much
Maestro

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  Your story why you are separated from your partner
Posted by: Sb1353 - 12-03-2018, 08:42 PM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (14)

I am starting this thread as I’m interested to hear from separated dads why they have split up with their partners and ended up in family court.

Here is my story.

I got to get her with my estranged wife back in January 2014. She soon got pregnant and within 6 months we got married. We were really happy together. Had our first child that year. Moved to a new home which I had purchased previously and worked on it evenings and weekend for 6 months. We had many holidays in the UK and at least 2 holidays abroad per year. We bought a bigger house due to having issues with our next door neighbor. We rented out the first one. She wanted second child and I wasn’t sure as she suffered from postnatal depression after giving birth to our first son and had bad birth experience.

Eventually I gave up and we had our second child in January this year. Things got really bad with her depression. Doctors said postnatal depression has come back but it fact it was postpartum psychosis as she was hearing things and seeing things. We had problems with in-laws interference in our lives. On one occasion I had to ask them to leave and that was it. We didn’t speak for 3 months and I asked her to go and see them with the children and that was the day she left.

We had a fire in our garden which was set by youths and that triggered her ilness and she kept telling me someone in her head saying she isn’t safe here and she had to leave. She left the house on her own twice and didn’t know where she was. She rang me and I found her. Eventually in August she left the house with my children with help of her parents and she never spoken to me again. I started court proceeding and I am waiting for that.

Currently there isn’t anyone in my life and I am not ready to move on and would want to sort things out. Also she hasn’t got anyone in her life and we both have been faithful. So I will not make any decisions till I know it’s ove. Please share your stories

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