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  Caroline Flack
Posted by: beehive84 - 12-24-2019, 11:07 AM - Forum: THE LOUNGE - No Replies

Classic signs of a female any man should avoid.

1) constant volatile relationships
2) chases younger and naive men
3)thrives on victim hood

My ex in a nutshell. Not every woman with a failed relationship is to be avoided but you if you meet someone DO NOT fall for the woe is me stories. Probe any potential partner for her history and look for the signs.
If her history is littered with difficult relationships with family/friends/ex partners and it was never her fault it’s classic warning signs to get away.

It’ll be interesting to see what happens to flack. If her fella had smashed her head with a lamp whilst sleeping it would already be a forgone conclusion

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  Christmas wishes.
Posted by: Astroman - 12-23-2019, 08:15 PM - Forum: THE LOUNGE - Replies (1)

Hi dads,

Just wanted to wish everyone a merry Christmas and I hope you have some quality time with your child(ren) over the festive period. When I think back to a year ago I barely got any access generally or over Christmas with my son but this year I’m getting half of the holidays and seeing my son on a regular basis. It’s always a constant battle with my ex but I cherish the time with my son and keep reverting back to the court order (I’m one of the lucky ones with decent access). Just goes to show how things can change during the course of a year. Smile

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  What should be calculated in child maintenance?
Posted by: fred83 - 12-22-2019, 11:03 AM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (6)

What part of income should be included in the calculation of child maintenance?

I get paid monthly and get an annual bonus once a year, I occasionally also get overtime payments. I assume, therefore normal base pay, bonus and overtime payments should be included.

What about redundancy lump sum pay?

Not applicable to me right now but just out of interest:
Competition/Lottery/prize winnings? 
Pension lump sum pay?
Large amount of gift money?
Inheritance money?

Thanks in advance

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  Application cost to vary an existing order
Posted by: BirminghamUK - 12-20-2019, 11:51 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (11)


I am applying to vary an existing order, I've filled out the C100, got my MIAM

does anyone know how much I should pay?

the website says
- for new applications £215
- Application to revoke, amend, extend or take action following the breach of an exisiting Children Act 1989 enforcement order £95

respondent not in breach, so do I pay £215 or £95?

any advice appreciated. Thanks

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  Moving home with Son
Posted by: thelongroad - 12-19-2019, 04:27 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (2)


I was awarded live with my son full time and Mum has alternate weekends from Friday pick up from school to Monday drop off at school.

I am currently in a 1 bed flat(my son is 9 years old) and i need to get a new property with another bedroom.
I currently live in London and to get another room i need to move further away. I am looking at Cambridge which is 70 miles away.

If i wanted to do this could i? i could offer Mother a further day in a weekend which reduces the alternate weekends to every week as a solution maybe.

Is there any thoughts from people who have been in a similer position. I am happy to be fair and would look at all options.

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  My right to change and enforce the court order?
Posted by: Secret-squirrel100 - 12-17-2019, 02:44 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (4)

I recently attend a dispute rewsolution hearing for a child arrangements order as per my previous posts. I now have a documented order from the court to say what rights I have and what arrangements are to be followed. So far things have been going fairly well but despite what the court order says my ex is not following it as it says and seems to be doing things how she wants again. Although it is is only minor things that she is not doing, I feel that it is more the principle than the point of the matter and I am wondering if it's worth enforcing the order or if it's more hassle and costly than whats it's worth. 

For example, the court order says that collection and return shall be slit equally between parties so that both parents alternate collection/drop off and return after contact. That is exactly what I want as up to now it has been myself that has been doing all the pick ups and drops offs as my ex simply does not want to and said in court that if she drives more than a quarter of a mile she gets panic attacks. We only live 3 miles apart so I find that to be a very feable excuse and in my opinion she is just being lazy. As an alternative she said that she would do all weekend pickups/drop off and I do mid week. However, as I tend to see my children mainly mid-week rather than weekewnds due to my work it is still me that does the majority of the pickups and drops off so I wouldn't say that is split equally at all. I have also noticed that when I have had my children over the weekend it is her mother and not my ex that picks up and drops off my children, not that it makes much difference really as at least I am not doing it all.

Do you think I should enforce the order to make it how it should be and not how my ex wants it?

The other issue I have is that in the order it says 'if the applicant's work roster changes then the applicant will notify the respondent as soon as practicable'. Now, when the court order was drawn up my contact arrangements were put down up until the end of February 2020. However, from January 2020 my work roster will be changing slightly which means that some of the shifts in the court order I am unable to do so I have had to work out alternative dates which I emailed my ex at the beginning of this month which I gave her more than a month's notice.

My ex replied saying no, I have to follow the court order and swap my shifts around and that I refer to the court order which includes my contact arrangements up until March 2020, this is a legally binding document so I'm afraid that I must follow this in its entirety.

As I am not able to swap my shifts around as my ex stated, what are my rights bearing in mind that it does say in the court order that if my roster changed then I have to notify the respondent, which is what I have done although admittedly the court order does show contact arrangements before my roster changed?

Do I have the right to change what is now a legally binding document or do I have to speak to my manager and make sure that I have the contact dates for my children on the court order adhered to, even though it is my work who changed my roster and not me?

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  A Declareation of Parentage does not convey Parental Responsibility
Posted by: Mikexx - 12-16-2019, 10:58 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (1)

M v F and H (Legal Paternity) [2013] EWHC

Reaffirms that having your name on a birth certificate does not confer Parental Responsibility.

Parental responsibility: Re-registration by the Registrar General under s.14A does not confer parental responsibility on the father, because s.14A is not one of the enactments specified in Children Act 1989, s.4(1A) (and see Hershman and McFarlane, Children Law and Practice, A[218]-[220]).

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  Help and advice needed please...
Posted by: Ollysdad - 12-16-2019, 09:25 AM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (4)

Hi, I currently I know that I am quite lucky in my situation and I am by no means ungrateful for my situation and I do not want any of the other dads reading this to think that. I have a 50/50 arrangement and I stopped child maintenance after seeking advice from fellow dads and legal advice. This has not been an easy journey. We always agreed for anything that our son needs we would pay half each so leisure activities school uniform etc. Clothes are provided by both of us and are kept at our homes. The arrangement of halving costs was also what we were doing when I was firstly paying mortgage cost and then child maintenance. Since earlier in the year she has not contributed to any costs, for uniform, school shoes, leisure activity etc and owes me over £600. I'm still left with a heap of debt accumulated from our time together my earnings are higher than hers I get that but what should I expect her to pay on a percentage split should I just find out what percentage my income is higher than hers and do it that way? Also, she says she doesn't have the money for items when I ask her but I know she still pays for stuff like hair extensions, nails, eyebrows, sunbeds and socialises heavily on the weekends she isn't with our son. If she genuinely was struggling I would not have any issue.

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Posted by: Sb1353 - 12-14-2019, 10:39 PM - Forum: Outside Involvement, CAFCASS etc - Replies (6)

How do I get CAFCASS off my case?
CAFCASS has proved that they are there to protect the mother and have already taken side with my ex. I have few example to prove that they have taken sides. I spoke with my barrister and he told me that he would like to treat the report apart . Is it better (if we can) take CAFCASS of the case or show to the court that their recommendation is baseless and they have sided with mother?

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Posted by: invisibleintellectual - 12-14-2019, 08:23 AM - Forum: THE LOUNGE - No Replies

Anyone around this area? I am seeing my kid this weekend but free this evening

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