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  do i have to?
Posted by: avadad - 07-07-2018, 10:42 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (3)

hi peeps do i have to right in contact book, or even after the final hearing  tell my ex what has happend during my contact with my daughter, like were ive been who we saw, what shes eaten ect ect ect,,,

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  what type of court order???
Posted by: avadad - 07-07-2018, 10:39 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (1)

hi after reading on here, about court orders, seems  theres 2 types ?  agreed,, consent?  what types best, if i do have a final hearing in my favour, and sad as it mayb have to enforce, going back to court because ex not playing ball, thanks

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  CAFCASS Letter
Posted by: thatguyishere - 07-07-2018, 07:23 PM - Forum: Outside Involvement, CAFCASS etc - No Replies

Hey guys I need a bit of advise.

Long story short I am applying for a SGO for my cousin who I am looking after when my late grandad passed away last year on December. My cousins parents are currently residing in their home country.I have applied for and SGO through a solicitor and I have received a letter from CAFCASS saying they want a telephone interview with me before my court date which is in about three days. I am a bit nervous about this and I wanted some advice on what I should say or what questions that may come up.

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  abusive partner who has put the domestic abuse card against me.
Posted by: Rawman68 - 07-07-2018, 06:28 PM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (5)

My wife has accused me of domestic abuse. I am not. She shouted at me in front of the other mum and dads at my daughters birthday party. When I told her at home that she shouldn't have done that she slammed the back door faced up to me gritted her teeth and said.

' I can't wait till you are out of this house."

I told her that she needs to see a doctor for the sake of our children not for me because you are scaring me regarding your behaviour.

she laughed and said " That's the typical example of domestic abuse that you have done as apparently she says people who are concerned about their wifes behaviour are domestic  abusers.

what do I do now.

things are getting way out of hand and I cant move anywhere.

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  Marriage limbo any ideas to keep sane.
Posted by: Rawman68 - 07-07-2018, 08:39 AM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (4)

Ok guys here is the situation.

We are both living in the house and she is waiting for her divorce to go through. Our 7 year old daughter is sleeping in the same bed as mum and l am in the daughter's room.

She went to the mediator and they said that all her clothes should be in our bedroom and all mine in my daughter's room.

Said to our daughter we were going to do it even though l was unhappy as our daughter doesn't know we are splitting up.

Came back from work at night to find all my clothes dumped in the spare room.

Now this is a wife who says l am domestic abusing her.

I am not.
Since our daughter has been born l was told l was on a budget of 80 a month.
Her father constantly interferews.

She shouts at me and belittles me in front of family and friends. Wanted me to go by her list.

Now because she has held up the domestic card. I find it hard to approach her. Her room is an absolute mess and l am worried that the children will get hurt.

Thing is do l tell the mediator of my concern. I thought they were impartial and

2. How do l survive this as it looks like this will go on for months or even years and my health can't take that.

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  50/50 Shared Care
Posted by: CSKA82 - 07-06-2018, 07:35 PM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (3)

Could anyone help me with coming up with a few plans for shared care what is 2/2/5/5 I need to come up with a firm plan for first hearing next week

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  Best phone for video contact
Posted by: justnumb - 07-06-2018, 05:32 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (14)

I'm thinking of buying my son a tablet/iPad or a smartphone so I can stay in contact with him. I have alternate weekends, but he never normally answers when I call.

What do you think the best way forward is? Pay for a contract (Giffgaff all you can eat everything for 20 quid a month) and stick it in an iPhone 5S? Facetime on Apple or Android and Google Hangouts should work (and be cheaper?). My son has just turned 7. He's not daft, but connecting to WiFi etc. is beyond him. Is this all a waste of time if my toxic ex will kaibosh it anyway? ?

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  PSO, second time.
Posted by: Alibash - 07-06-2018, 12:01 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - No Replies


The judge granted a PSO last year which expires next June. I intend to return to Court to extend it but not sure when to start the procedure again to make sure that it doesn't run out.
But I don't want to start too early either as I want my ex to be informed as late as possible.
Has anyone extended a PSO or have information about how to go with it second time?
Of course I'll contact my solicitors at a later stage.

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  What is going to happen next?
Posted by: Unhappy1987 - 07-06-2018, 09:49 AM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (5)


Sorry to post again.

So as said previously my son is point blank refusing to see his dad due to verbal abuse. 

He hurt himself at school the other day so I let his dad know and asked him if he wanted to pop up to my home and see him. It took 20 minutes but I convinced my son to come outside and he agreed he would speak to his dad at the end of the driveway. His dad had sent a text saying send him out and I said he would need to come to the end of the driveway as agreed.

He came down and just said get in the car, my son said no, he wanted to speak at the front of the house where he felt safe, he repeated get in the car now I want to speak to you there and my son said no and walked into my house.

I called his dad to wait I would try and get him out again but he stormed off. 10 minutes later his gf messaged me saying I needed to teach 'that little s**t some manners* and learn how to f*****g parent.

He is now saying he is going to court for parental alienation even though I am not stopping any access. Short of physically assaulting my son I cannot get him out of the house- he is nearly as tall as me.

What will happen next?

Will they at least speak to my son so that they can see I have done nothing but encourage a relationship between them or will they just go on what his dad is saying?

And what happens when I stand in court say I am happy for access but my son still refuses to go? Do i get in trouble or do I have to physically drag him out of his room to get in his dads car?


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  Total mess, and think I've been friendzoned by the new girl
Posted by: Elwood Blues - 07-06-2018, 07:35 AM - Forum: New Partners, Relationships - Replies (3)

The short version is that I started seeing someone new, things seemed to be going quite well, my ex found out, kicked off, including telling the new girls ex about us. New girl has said we had to stop seeing each other, but we've carried on chatting online since, pretty much constantly - talking 100's of messages a day back and forth. Some flirty/suggestive, otherwise just a lot of chit chat and heart to heart stuff. In the meantime, she's back sleeping with her ex (casually). So it basically seems like I've been friend zoned - I'm giving this girl all the company/attention/emotional support and keeping her from getting lonely, and she's getting her physical satisfaction from her ex.

I'm pretty wrapped up in her, never met anyone I get along with like this, we were chatting as friends for a long time before either of us thought of going further, and even now we talk more candidly than I ever have with anyone, man or woman. I am now wondering though if some of the friendship is a bit fake from her side, and she just likes the attention. My head says that I should just stop talking to her completely and try to get over her (not easy as our paths cross a lot), my heart says to keep going a while longer and see how things play out. One the one had I don't want to lose the friendship, on the other I want more than that as well, and she is totally distracting me from looking elsewhere.

The long version is a bit more sordid and Jeremy Kyle-esque, but I might try and type it out here when I get time!

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