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  How to modify a court order
Posted by: Goetia - 01-11-2018, 09:22 AM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (1)

I feel as though I need to return to court to get our order changed to address a few issues that have come up. I understand I need genuine justification for this, but what I don’t know is how I fill in the form to indicate this.

When I went to court for the second time I believed I did the form correctly, but they had interpreted it as a new application because I had ticked ‘Child Arrangement Order’ and could have refused to hear our case. Thankfully they allowed it on that occasion but I am very worried about doing it wrong again and can’t afford a solicitor.

The C100 only has 3 boxes you can choose:
1 – Child Arrangement Order
2 – Prohibited Steps Order
3 – Specific Issue Order

If you cant use option 1 when you want to modify an existing order, and its not option 2 because the mother is technically not breaking the order, and it isn’t option 3 because its more than one issue then what are you meant to select??

Lost and confused.

Thanks in advance

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  50/50 court outcome
Posted by: DadDolent - 01-11-2018, 07:25 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (14)

Hi, 

Does anybody know of a 50/50 shared care outcome  from a court hearing? 
I am just wondering if this is something that has ever been ordered.


Regards

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  About me - coming clean
Posted by: Charlie7000 - 01-10-2018, 03:50 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (5)

I have to come clean.  Sometimes I am Charlie (male) sometimes Charlie (female) - ie I am female - began posting on behalf of my partner (I type quicker and we were doing a lot of stuff on the topic together) and continued posting.

Have been with my partner for a long time and helped bring up his son since he was very small.  We have been through the lot with access being stopped umpteen times, research into legal rights, whether he had parental responsibility (he wasn't married to his ex gf, just dated for a few weeks).  It is his son, but we've become a team on his behalf because we both love him to bits.

Partner works hard, I do a lot of the research and we found two heads better than one for paperwork and decisions.  I followed the updates of the Family Justice review when it was running a few years ago and contributed a piece.  We were disappointed when it failed to achieve automatic joint residence for both parents.  But it did amend the Childrens Act in 2014 so that children had a right to significant and regular contact with both parents.  Which has helped a bit.

Accusations of abuse began so we went straight to court.  Regular contact for the first time ever. But it didn't last long.  More hostilities and accusations, false reports to social services then not sticking to order and it turned out not to be enforceable, so now having to go to court again.

I am passionate about equality for parents and childrens welfare. I have read a lot of stuff and try and keep up with all the latest stuff but we're inexperienced with court matters and gained a lot of help on here - thanks.

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  Passport Issues
Posted by: K79 - 01-09-2018, 10:49 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (7)

I have booked a holiday in May for myself and the children and my family. I will need the passports off my ex partner for my children, in advance to book in online and for the holiday. She's proven very difficult with a number of things and I anticipate her making this very difficult also. What are my options here please?

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Question Advise regarding finances.
Posted by: Hprice1099 - 01-09-2018, 09:53 PM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (10)

Hi All,
 
I need some advice regarding a split and financial issues.
I have been with my ex for 7 years, not married. I earn 29k and she earns 37k. Two children aged 3 and 6.
 
I'll try and keep it simple, we bought a property 2 years ago for 182k, i alone put the deposit of £18.200 and she got a loan for 22k to do work on the house, on this loan of £300 per month we both paid 50/50.
 
Now we both want to sell the property but have different ideas of splitting the money, my view is we should both take back what we've put in out and split the remainder 50/50.
Her view is the loan should be paid back from the joint pot then the remainder split 50/50, obviously I think this is wrong as I will be out pocket in a big way.
I have taken legal advice which say she is wrong but i just wonder has anyone had any personal experience with a similar situation.
Currently I live in the joint property as she moved out 5 months ago, I'm paying it all by myself which is a struggle so need to sell.
 
Thanks for any input.
 
H

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  She refuses to sell house
Posted by: Markyw - 01-09-2018, 08:10 PM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (4)

Really hoping that someone has been in a similar situation or knows something about this as I am losing ALL hope in solicitors and the court system.

My ex wife lives in our martial home with our 7 year old son and her new boyfriend who works full time. (who my son hates, but that's for a different part of the forum!)

She has no rent or mortgage to pay as I owned the house outright before I met her. When we first decided to divorce it was all quite amicable and we agreed to sell the house and spilt the money 50/50. I agreed to stay with my parents until this was done. 

I had an agreement drawn up with a solicitor and she was happy with this until.......she went on holiday, met this guy (the new boyfriend) and next thing I know she'd refusing to sell the house and has moved him in.

I would never see my son unhappy so I then proposed that we do a 60 (for her)/40 spilt of the money but she still refuses to sell.

I have worked out that she would have enough money to privately rent in the same area for about 25 years with the 60% she would get. My son is unhappy living where he is anyway so it is not making it any better for him to stay there.

She just wants to basically live in this house rent free.

Until it is sold I have literally nothing. If my parents had not let me stay I would be in a hostel. 

What can I do. Please can anyone help I'm getting to the end of my tether and losing all hope.

Mark

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  She refuses to sell house
Posted by: Markyw - 01-09-2018, 07:50 PM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (5)

Really hoping that someone has been in a similar situation or knows something about this as I am losing ALL hope in solicitors and the court system.

My ex wife lives in our martial home with our 7 year old son and her new boyfriend who works full time. (who my son hates, but that's for a different part of the forum!)

She has no rent or mortgage to pay as I owned the house outright before I met her. When we first decided to divorce it was all quite amicable and we agreed to sell the house and spilt the money 50/50. I agreed to stay with my parents until this was done.

I had an agreement drawn up with a solicitor and she was happy with this until.......she went on holiday, met this guy (the new boyfriend) and next thing I know she'd refusing to sell the house and has moved him in.

I would never see my son unhappy so I then proposed that we do a 60 (for her)/40 spilt of the money but she still refuses to sell.

I have worked out that she would have enough money to privately rent in the same area for about 25 years with the 60% she would get. My son is unhappy living where he is anyway so it is not making it any better for him to stay there.

She just wants to basically live in this house rent free.

Until it is sold I have literally nothing. If my parents had not let me stay I would be in a hostel.

What can I do. Please can anyone help I'm getting to the end of my tether and losing all hope.

Mark

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  Overnights Once Daughter Turns 8
Posted by: StevieDad - 01-09-2018, 04:46 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (3)

I currently have my daughter on a Sunday (10am-6pm) and for a week at a time during school holidays. I lived in a shared house and daughter sleeps with me when shes here. I have been told that I cannot have her in my bed (or even my room) once she turns 8 which is in a few weeks time. Is this correct?

Also, ex and I agreed that I could facetime daughter at 7pm each evening. After a while she just stopped answering and blaming problems with her phone, the weather etc. When I had daughter last week, ex wanted to facetime every night so I agreed to it. Surprise, surprise she was able to get through first time, every night without problem so at the end of the week I suggested that as theres clearly a problem when I facetime her that maybe she should just facetime me each evening instead. First night, no call just a text to say that daughter doesnt want to speak to me cos shes just been with me for a week...

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  Vexatious litigant
Posted by: Cheese_head_1986 - 01-09-2018, 01:35 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (3)

Hi all

I'm due in court next month. At the last hearing I was granted 3 months supervised contact due to my ex insisting I was a danger, I was incompetent, unable to meet our child's basic needs and that I distress her.

Well the reports from the contact centre are glowing and only highlight my concerns about my ex so I'm feeling pretty confident about the next hearing. However despite my attempts to try and come to any kind of plan for the future are just ignored by my ex.

I want to build a professional relationship with her as we are both in the business of raising our child but when I'm faced with silence I'm not sure what to do.

My daughter was taken to hospital last year and I wasn't informed by my ex so it doesn't bode well for her suddenly being reasonable about including me in our daughters upbringing.

I feel like I'm going to be left in a position where I have no alternate than to keep going back to court for even the most basic of requests, does anyone know where courts draw the line and start viewing me as a vexatious litigant?

I'm being met with a brick wall at every turn but the courts seem to just let her behavior slide

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  do i pay csa if im not on birth certificate???
Posted by: johnt9133 - 01-08-2018, 10:37 PM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (2)

Hi there just a quick question, do i have to pay child support if im not on the birth certificate. i had a DNA test done and came back 97.8% positive and had to pay extra for the full 100% to be verified. My ex is with my brother now and was also seeing him at the same time, they also have a child together and are engaged. she refuses to put me on the birth certificate and i have never really seen him.didnt know he was born until he was 9months old. he is now 11years old. any advice would be great.thanks

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