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  Double checking, things to ask for.
Posted by: Naive - 03-14-2018, 02:30 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (1)

So Im getting to the end of the position statement and head is spinning.
Im down to the orders Im asking for.

So far I have "lives with" and reasons
I have the two week schedule sorted, now and after school starts
I have holidays sorted
I have a few bits about agreeing to inform/invite other parent to parent/teacher/doctors etc. on our time. [Solicitor may scrap this as I doubt its enforceable but shows a willing attitude]

Any other suggestions? I feel like Im missing some big things

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  Builders on my property
Posted by: beehive84 - 03-14-2018, 12:18 PM - Forum: THE LOUNGE - Replies (3)

My wifes has been pushing me beyond mental capacity.

I have bent over backwards to the point her in laws currently live in the property and an abode is currently being built for them.

Legally, can I tell these builders to take a hike off my property? It would ruin them but she seemed to forget this oversight when she's been happily discussing divorce for weeks and me moving out

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  Contact order breach
Posted by: Marky06 - 03-14-2018, 11:39 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (4)

My ex partner and split last year. We were together nine years and I helped raise her two children and have two biological girls to her. We have been in court for residency orders and contact orders. We agreed that my kids live with her and I see my kids on regular basis. Also added to it are her own kids although it has been sporadic only really ever staying with me every other weekend. My relationship with my own kids have been fine up to date whereas my relationship with her kids have become strained. The oldest has been erratic, one minute nice next minute sending me nasty messages for the breakup.the ex has never come clean about me not being her kids real dad as I never wanted them to feel different to my kids but have noticed a difference in the way I am with my children and them as I don't feel comfortable with have sole authority over them when they are staying with me. I have moved on with my life and am happy now since me and their mother split and as I've found she met a new partner a while back and he's been introduced to all the children. Just wanting advice on where to go next. I want their mums new partner to have a fair crack at have a relationship with all the kids with no interference from me. But although this may sound nasty I have come to the decision I have to let her two children go as they are not my responsibility Although I'll always love them and the sacrifices I made for them. I haven't told my ex yet but am later and am afraid she will stop my seeing my two kids at the thought of me stopping them staying with me. Also I will be in breach of the contact order. Any advice please

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  Contact Centres
Posted by: orings - 03-14-2018, 09:22 AM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (2)

Hi guys,

Just a quick one my ex is insisting i have contact with my daughter in a contact centre..  I have refused as i am not a safety issue at all.  (She was the violent one)..

Am i well within my rights to refuse this? no disrespect to anyone but i have been told contact centres are for safety issues (History of drugs, violence etc)

I have offered very reasonable contact arrangements and she still refuses, so my solicitor is now drafting my proposals in a letter to send to her.  Hopefully this books her ideas up a little.

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  Mortgage Payments and CM
Posted by: andynumpty - 03-14-2018, 08:39 AM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - No Replies

Just thought I'd share what I was told by CM department yesterday.

They told me that if you own/have interest in a house that your ex and children live in and you still pay the mortgage on it but don't live there, this will not be considered for a CM reduction.

Does anybody have experience on this?

Thanks Andy.

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  How long for order to be sealed?
Posted by: Charlie7000 - 03-13-2018, 07:14 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (7)

The waiting is a nightmare at the moment.  Firstly ex decided not to agree the consent order and try and change a lot of it.  Solicitor has sent it to Judge for her to decide.  Assuming Judge does approve it, how long is it likely to take before it's sealed and back with me.  If she doesn't looks like I'll be going back for a directions hearing.  Meanwhile ex is behaving as if the order doesn't exist so if they don't hurry up and seal it, she will be booking up loads of things during my specified holiday weeks that were in the consent order.

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  Not looking good Part 2
Posted by: Cheese_head_1986 - 03-13-2018, 09:31 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (24)

Ok so after having a review meeting with the contact centre and a follow up call with cafcass I felt left in limbo, I won't know where I stand until I get the Final review from the contact centre and the cafcass addendum report, which has been delayed for a 2nd time until next week (bearing in mind that only gives me a week to review it until I'm back in court)

Spoke to a solicitor yesterday and they think if the cafcass addendum is as bad as I (and the contact centre) think then it will go to a contested hearing?

They surprising suggested that it would be more financially prudent to instruct them once it's contested rather than for the next hearing in 2 weeks.

Got to get my position statement bullet proof, once I've written it if I post it (or PM if that's better) could you guys help me out because I'm struggling with the whole thing now.... I feel like I'm on my own in this whole thing...

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  access to my children
Posted by: worriedfather - 03-13-2018, 09:17 AM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (3)

I have a court order that i see my children a number of nights a week.
My ex then takes it upon her self to change this and refuses me access to them when ever she feels like it, this usually takes place when i disagree with her.

I have no idea what to do about this as I do not want to argue in front of my children which could cause them any stress.

Can the children refuse to come to me, they are 8 and 5?

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  Delay in Court hearing about access
Posted by: Happiest Now - 03-12-2018, 07:59 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (6)

I'm divorced and been trying to sort access, but finally realised I'm going to be messed around until a court sets it.  

I posted the C100 application at the end of January.
I've been given a hearing date in mid May.
Cafcass have interviewed us both by phone.

I have some time with the kids agreed for Easter and Summer, but not much.
I'm asking for more access for Easter and the Summer hols (as well as Christmas) and of course Easter will be gone this year and by the time we get to a second hearing my ex will have the summer hols all booked up with visits to her family and paid holiday.  

is there anything I can do to ask for the hearing to be brought forward ?
or can I ask for the second hearing to be held shortly after the first ?
How will the court view time booked with family during the summer (UK but not local).  The children enjoy going, but don't get to see my family much.  (I'm sure they'd enjoy that too.)   


first time post, I'll get a signature sorted ....

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Sad Spousal maintenance
Posted by: CharlieFreak - 03-12-2018, 07:38 PM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (6)

Separated (living apart) for 2+ years, house sold and proceeds split. Child maintenance agreed (gov calculator). 

Spousal maintenance not agreed.

When I met her she was in debt, living on benefits, no driving licence or car, working part-time NHS. She was heading towards bankruptcy - certainly not getting better financially.

I paid off her debts, signed my house 50% over to her for no financial consideration, and after 10 years of marriage she now has a driving licence and a car that was bought for her new (with my cash). She still works part-time for the NHS with no loss of pay when we moved with my work. (The NHS look after their own.)

So as a result of the relationship she has gained a lot and maintained her employment income. She is only admin staff and did not abandon any aspirations of career progression so did not sacrifice any future earning potential.

Why would I need to pay her any maintenance? Am I being too simplistic to think that she's had enough from me financially already? She says she needs money from me to balance her budget but her getting into debt again is no more my problem than it was when we met. I don't want her to be in that position but I also don't think I have an obligation to her.

If I do have an obligation to pay spousal maintenance I need to understand on what basis and try to work it out without getting solicitors involved, although it's looking more and more like that's my only option for drawing a line under this sorry excuse for a marriage.

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

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