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  Cafcass not fund the DVPP course
Posted by: samim1919 - 11-28-2018, 11:08 PM - Forum: Your Court Results/Outcomes - No Replies

Hi guys I found guilty at family Court but cafcas recommend on their initial letter if I found guilty I needed to complete DVPP course. Now court told my solicitors to contact cafcas directly to refer me to the course and fund the course. I spoke with cafcas they said it need to be ordered by court and we are closed your case we need court order to ask us for referral. I am really lost I don't have enough funds it's over 2k to pay to complete the course can anyone help me why the judge not order cafcass and cafcas said we need court order for referral I am really lost what to do guys. thanks

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  What exactly is half the holidays please ?
Posted by: AnotherDad - 11-28-2018, 08:24 PM - Forum: Your Court Results/Outcomes - Replies (2)

I know it sounds a silly question, but I have a situation where ex and I are trying to agree our own order and want to make sure I don’t shoot myself in the foot. If we agree 10 nights a month in the form of every other weekend fri-mon and a midweek night each week. Plus half the holidays, how do agreements/courts etc work out what that actually is ? Are normal arrangements suspended and half holiday contact is used instead or is it normal count plus half the holidays per month ?


Take my case for example, if we achieve 10 nights and half the holidays. That is on average 2.5 nights per week. If the Christmas holidays which is 2 weeks and one of those falls in December, how many days should it be.

The schools break up on the 21st December. So 22nd -> 31st is 10 nights/ days. So half of that is 5 days. So should that be 5 plus the 10 so 15 days in total ?

The 5 nights/ days of the holidays plus the normal 21/31 x 10 = 6.77 nights for the first part of the month plus the 5 for the holidays giving 11.77 so say 12. ?

Then apply the same logic to summer holidays if you have the kids half the August summer holiday for 2weeks, = 14 days / nights, what happens in th First half of the holidays ?

Is there a standard / court method of doing this ? E.g. if someone has every other weekend plus a night in the week and then the holidays approach ?

Any guidance welcome please.


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  8 hours what you guys get, from family court,
Posted by: avadad - 11-28-2018, 07:27 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (1)

has any body got this amount of time, every 2 weeks, or is it just me, Undecided

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  two years in court and i get squat
Posted by: avadad - 11-28-2018, 07:24 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (4)

2 years in family court and im getting 8 hours every 2 weeks and the bond i have is not what i want with my little girl who is 2.8 years old, and as christmas coming,, its fucking hard,,, and the horible bxxxxx , ex is taking the piss, she got legal aid womans aid boxxxxs, really really really fed up,, not even a part time dad, Sad

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  NMO fact finding tomorrow
Posted by: thelongroad - 11-28-2018, 03:01 PM - Forum: Your Court Results/Outcomes - Replies (14)

Hi All,

Entering the lions den tomorrow for 1 day NMO Fact finding hearing. I have been separated from my son for 7 months before the lies contained in (my sons mother) statement can be questioned in a court. Ridiculous for myself and others having to wait this long with no contact at all. section 7 has been completed before this fact finding which inn turn has a negative effect on section 7 as their are questions left unanswered, from NMO. This length of time and process needs to change for parents and children...

Anyway, i will go in like Braveheart tomorrow-thanks to everyone who has supported me thus far. i would be lost without this forum and the amazing selfless dads that contribute their shared experience-thank you all.

I will update the forum with the outcome tomorrow.

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  Mortgage lender offering 30k less than property previously valued for
Posted by: Gra76 - 11-28-2018, 02:42 PM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (14)

So we had estate agents round, they both valued the house at £300k.

Our current mortgage lender values the house at £302k using their online system without having to send a valuer.

My STBX had her potential mortgage lender sent a valuer round who has said it's worth £270k.

She's now offering me lower equity based on this lower valuation from her mortgage lender (Nationwide).

Anything I can do about this or do I just suck it up and agree on the lower valuation? I'm getting fed up of waiting for my money now...

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Posted by: Tom_W88 - 11-28-2018, 11:28 AM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (13)

Does CMS just go off the amount of times during the week that are set with the kids mother?

Or can you include days where you have them for days longer.

And even add holidays?

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  Back dated Child Maintenance
Posted by: desperately need advice - 11-28-2018, 11:17 AM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (5)

Can anyone help me, I separated from my partner over 5 years ago. We have 2 children, and she is really difficult with access, she sets high demands, that every time I have done, (contact only by her mum, supervised visits only etc.) There is no history of any violence etc, she just tries to make it difficult.

About 2 years ago we started trying to sort out the house that we bought together, and access to the children, this went on until the house situation was sorted, and then immediately she stopped contact again. (That is a separate issue!)

Anyway, I have now received a letter from the CMS saying that I am in arrears by nearly £10k.

I took a substantial less payment on the house £50K and believed that this made us all straight. (That was on my 1/2 of the property)

When I was seeing the children, I was also paying her cash, which I do have some record of via text messages etc, but since the house was sorted I have not been paying any maintenance because of me taking a lesser payment, and the first I knew about being in arrears was this letter, does anyone have any advice on what I should do? or how to sort this out? I can't be the only one this has happened to!

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  Pension query & cash advance
Posted by: Ghostdancer - 11-28-2018, 03:06 AM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (4)

Hi, I'm hoping someone may be able to help/support. My ex has 2 pensions, I have 1. 

Mine is a work based pension worth £48467.00. She has a work based pension of £42314.00 and an Aviva pension worth £84731.00. The issue lies with the latter policy. The plan start date is 1/11/02.  We moved in together in 1999, got married October 2007 and separated October 2017. Her solicitor has informed me any pension outside of marriage can not be considered. She has told her solicitor the Aviva policy was accrued entirely pre-marriage which taking into account the value of it seems somewhat odd to me. The Aviva policy was set up from a previous employer which I recall she transferred to her current employer. My ex has already been caught out lying by her solicitor as she attempted to withhold the work based pension by claiming she didn't have one. 

The value of this pension, and the claim it accrued entirely outside of marriage, concerns me. Do I have a right to ask for evidence that it accrued entirely outside of marriage by way of a breakdown/annual statements to support her claim? 

My ex has also asked for a £6k cash payout within 28 days of the consent order being granted, with £15k being paid on sale or buyout in late 2020. This £6k is to help with her current financial situation/debts. I currently have more unsecured debt than her, live in the FMH with our child and pay all bills/mortgage. She lives in rented accommodation where the rent will be around the same as the mortgage payments. My bug bare is she has an expensive hobby which costs anything of up to £400 per month which I see as a lifestyle choice and not a necessity and has a very active social life. I don't feel I should increase my unsecured borrowing so she can reduce/clear hers. This will cause further financial strain on me, weaken my ability to get a mortgage to buy her out and jeopardise my ability to keep the house. It will also impact our daughter as there will be less disposable income. 

Any help would be really appreciated

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  enough to go back to court?
Posted by: Naive - 11-27-2018, 07:35 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (3)

Hi Guys,
So the short story is, ex has gone abroad for a week, arranged it with me and all good. However I turned up at the school today to find my 4 year old daughter sat in the classroom by herself crying with the teacher. So the ex fucked off abroad and neither the ex nor the school told me that it was a parents event this afternoon and then the kids all left early with the parents.
My daughter was distraught on the way home, I didnt tell her the truth of course I took the blame and said Id made a mistake and Ill make it up to her.

Here's the kicker, she confirmed what I had suspected, my daughter asked if I could stand at the window of the school next time so I could watch her. When I quizzed her she said "Mummy said that you are not allowed in the school" 
It broke my heart to hear her whimper, while all the other children were watched and left with their parents my daughter was left wondering why I wasnt there.

Back story
After the court order the ex insisted that all school time be ex's contact time. I was advised school events arent a breach and would have to go back to court if I wanted the judges to decide it.

Theres plenty of other stuff of a similar nature, bit of manipulation, isolation and alienation but nothing I would say affects daughters physical safety or welfare.

So give it to me straight, Im a bit emotional for my daughter. Is this enough to kick off the court process again to change the school contact times and go for shared residence? am I overreacting. These things happen?
I wont get a response from the ex so its court or ignore it. Ive got an appointment with the school but as non resident parent Im not expecting much from them.


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