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  court,
Posted by: avadad - 01-08-2018, 09:06 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (6)

ive come a long way on my own but now that well im hoping the end is near,, final hearing , soon, my questions are? im thinking about a solicitor for the last one,,, and im , worrid really if i should get one,, but having said that,, money is better off in my childs bank,, i dont no any advice please

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  Fear of revenge
Posted by: daddyshortlegs - 01-08-2018, 07:24 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (13)

What can my ex justifiably throw at me once a court order is in place. She's very vexed and constantly texts me to tell me how I should have done xyz differently on parenting or genes plans when I have the girls. Things like sending them to school ill when they seemed fine to me in the morning etc. She can obviously disagree with stuff and hold everything against me, but what could she do (I fear she has a plan) to 'get back' at me that would make a judge reverse or change our order?

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  Disagreements on order
Posted by: daddyshortlegs - 01-08-2018, 07:19 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (1)

Who police's court orders if an ambiguity arises once it is active? Such a thing as solicitor writing to judge for clarification to avoid unnecessary court (for something that may be a trivial legal detail but that has a big bearing on life)?

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  Communication tone
Posted by: LTCDAD - 01-08-2018, 03:54 PM - Forum: THE LOUNGE - Replies (13)

Saw this and thought i'd share the way to communicate with a bullying ex

BIFF

Brief
Informative 
Friendly 
Firm

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  Swapping week-ends?
Posted by: Charlie7000 - 01-08-2018, 01:01 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (31)

Just had an email from the ex - she wants to swap two week-ends over the next couple of months due to work commitments and a particular event.  We have a final hearing in a couple of months and a defined interim order at present.  One of the week-ends is after the final hearing.  Is it normal to swap week-ends when you have a defined order?  And also will it affect anything regarding what I'm asking for at the final hearing?  Or will it just seem reasonable?  I am slightly suspicious.  It woudn't be a problem for me to swap those two week-ends (other than the fact one of them is after the final hearing) except I don't like it when there's a long gap with him over there. It means he gets two week-ends on the trot with me and then two week-ends on the trot with his Mother - I would only see him for midweek overnights for a month.  Anyone know about this kind of thing?

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  New book nr completion "MY DAD. THE INVISIBLE MAN". A Journey through family court.
Posted by: asd1270 - 01-08-2018, 11:44 AM - Forum: THE LOUNGE - No Replies

Dear Dads. 

I been a member of Separated Dads since early last year. It’s a great site that really supports father through the difficult times of being separated from their children.  

I like to thank Separated Dads for permission to post details about my book which is in the process of being completed. Titled "MY DAD. THE INVISIBLE MAN". A Journey through family court. 

The book started with recording my experiences, then somehow changed along the way to wanting to capture all the dads experiences through the family court and how it has affected them and their children. Why have one view when you can have hundreds. 

have collected many quotes and short paragraphs of experiences and poems which dads have shared to be included in the book. I guess it’s a message in a book to those loved ones to know that my dad did real cares. 

I have taken a small quote from one of the fathers who had not seen his children in over 2 years.   

"I wish this nightmare will end, it's taken my house, my job and my children. I just wish to see my children again, that’s all. To Jacob and Amy, daddy loves you a lot and I will see you again and we can continue having those wonderful times together."  


And poem from a father that had been subjected to Domestic Violence.  

The rain falls each night 

So do the beatings, such a fright 

When will it en 

Or will the wood stick bend 

I afraid to look around  

In case I'm ridiculed and put sent down. 

I need to run, yet I Stay. 

I pray my children do no fall prey. 

My cry for help yet no one hears 

The system forgets my open tears 

I am a dad but No one cares 

A broken man for all to share. 

 
Another father thoughts on Professionals which brought a small giggle to my face

"The lives of my children were literally decided in 2 hours and that 2 hours may have never have happened as the report filed by Cafcass was so far from the truth that you will need Nasa to send a rocket in to space to retrieve it."  

He goes on to say, 

"Derek, I want you to know that your dad did not leave you. I was asked to live somewhere else which meant I could not see you. I am sorry I could not say good bye to you son. I love you and  I will one day see you again." 

 

If you wish to share your story or send in a poem or a simple thought, I will be happy to include it in to the book. 
You can email me at- achillespublications@outlook.com 

Dads names will remain confidential unless you wish to add your first names. We will not publish any family names. 

I hope to hear from some of you. 

We are hoping to bookmark funds from the sales of the book towards helping other with financial support to those that may need it. We understand that the process through court can be extremely costly. We will also be doing a fund raiser in the near future. 
In the mean time I wish all the dads the very best. 

Asd1270

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  d day looming
Posted by: avadad - 01-07-2018, 09:16 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (7)

hi all after a long time in a constant battle, with my emotions, feelings about all the court issues , the alligations and the most important, loss of time with my 2 year old, im  heading to a final court date, and its been a full on emotional ride can anyone give me any idea whats likly to happen, will the exs solicitor just want my blood, as much as possible guys , i need all the help i can get here, the more the better thanky in advance im doing this myself and tbh not looking forward to it at all ive so much to lose in every way possible

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  Advice on separation
Posted by: Tp123 - 01-07-2018, 08:22 PM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (9)

New here. Going through a bad time with other half. 2 month of old baby who I adore.
In truth we have just grown apart and are different people after 10 years. It has been coming for a while. We don't get along no matter how hard we try. No domestic issues etc. Just a two different people which is sad. Both decent decent jobs and supportive families around us.

So where would stand with deaing with this?
Do stay put in the house? Large house
What chace have I got of having 50/50 custody with my baby? Can my other half make it difficult? She has openly said 50/50 is not an option. Maybe that is because it is more me who has had enough.

Any advice would be appreciated.

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  "Reasonable" time to hand over passport?
Posted by: andynumpty - 01-07-2018, 07:10 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (2)

Ok, I have an order stating that my ex has to hand over our sons passport in "reasonable" time if I need it for a holiday.
Has anybody have to take this to task what time is considered "reasonable"?

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  Need to see my son
Posted by: leroyg - 01-07-2018, 08:08 AM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (4)

I have been separated from my partner for about 6 years now, I have been through solicitors and mediation without success, my ex is very unreasonable and very difficult to communicate with. I only get to see my son now if I see him in the street when we have a little hug and a kiss or on his birthdays and Xmas when I drop off his presents.

I've dropped messages and notes through her letter box to try and get access to my son and have spoken with his Grandfather, who convinced me that he would to able to sort things out but that has never happened  Sad

She's been in a new relationship now for the last year or so and just got married a couple of moths ago and had the cheek to my shock and horror to come to my work and ask if I would consent to her changing his name to her new partners name, and when I refused started shouting and screaming that she had previously changed his name to hers and would change it again.

I have been told recently that she's talking about moving abroad and now I'm worried that she has changed his name and that she's going to leave the country with my son without my consent.

I need some advice on how I can find out if she has changed his name and how I can get access to see my son on a regular basis without having to spend money on solicitors fees etc.

Any help or advice would be very much appreciated.

Thank you
Lee

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