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  Passport Issues
Posted by: K79 - 01-09-2018, 10:49 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (7)

I have booked a holiday in May for myself and the children and my family. I will need the passports off my ex partner for my children, in advance to book in online and for the holiday. She's proven very difficult with a number of things and I anticipate her making this very difficult also. What are my options here please?

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Question Advise regarding finances.
Posted by: Hprice1099 - 01-09-2018, 09:53 PM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (10)

Hi All,
 
I need some advice regarding a split and financial issues.
I have been with my ex for 7 years, not married. I earn 29k and she earns 37k. Two children aged 3 and 6.
 
I'll try and keep it simple, we bought a property 2 years ago for 182k, i alone put the deposit of £18.200 and she got a loan for 22k to do work on the house, on this loan of £300 per month we both paid 50/50.
 
Now we both want to sell the property but have different ideas of splitting the money, my view is we should both take back what we've put in out and split the remainder 50/50.
Her view is the loan should be paid back from the joint pot then the remainder split 50/50, obviously I think this is wrong as I will be out pocket in a big way.
I have taken legal advice which say she is wrong but i just wonder has anyone had any personal experience with a similar situation.
Currently I live in the joint property as she moved out 5 months ago, I'm paying it all by myself which is a struggle so need to sell.
 
Thanks for any input.
 
H

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  She refuses to sell house
Posted by: Markyw - 01-09-2018, 08:10 PM - Forum: Your Stories, Advice to Recently Separated Dads - Replies (4)

Really hoping that someone has been in a similar situation or knows something about this as I am losing ALL hope in solicitors and the court system.

My ex wife lives in our martial home with our 7 year old son and her new boyfriend who works full time. (who my son hates, but that's for a different part of the forum!)

She has no rent or mortgage to pay as I owned the house outright before I met her. When we first decided to divorce it was all quite amicable and we agreed to sell the house and spilt the money 50/50. I agreed to stay with my parents until this was done. 

I had an agreement drawn up with a solicitor and she was happy with this until.......she went on holiday, met this guy (the new boyfriend) and next thing I know she'd refusing to sell the house and has moved him in.

I would never see my son unhappy so I then proposed that we do a 60 (for her)/40 spilt of the money but she still refuses to sell.

I have worked out that she would have enough money to privately rent in the same area for about 25 years with the 60% she would get. My son is unhappy living where he is anyway so it is not making it any better for him to stay there.

She just wants to basically live in this house rent free.

Until it is sold I have literally nothing. If my parents had not let me stay I would be in a hostel. 

What can I do. Please can anyone help I'm getting to the end of my tether and losing all hope.

Mark

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  She refuses to sell house
Posted by: Markyw - 01-09-2018, 07:50 PM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (6)

Really hoping that someone has been in a similar situation or knows something about this as I am losing ALL hope in solicitors and the court system.

My ex wife lives in our martial home with our 7 year old son and her new boyfriend who works full time. (who my son hates, but that's for a different part of the forum!)

She has no rent or mortgage to pay as I owned the house outright before I met her. When we first decided to divorce it was all quite amicable and we agreed to sell the house and spilt the money 50/50. I agreed to stay with my parents until this was done.

I had an agreement drawn up with a solicitor and she was happy with this until.......she went on holiday, met this guy (the new boyfriend) and next thing I know she'd refusing to sell the house and has moved him in.

I would never see my son unhappy so I then proposed that we do a 60 (for her)/40 spilt of the money but she still refuses to sell.

I have worked out that she would have enough money to privately rent in the same area for about 25 years with the 60% she would get. My son is unhappy living where he is anyway so it is not making it any better for him to stay there.

She just wants to basically live in this house rent free.

Until it is sold I have literally nothing. If my parents had not let me stay I would be in a hostel.

What can I do. Please can anyone help I'm getting to the end of my tether and losing all hope.

Mark

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  Overnights Once Daughter Turns 8
Posted by: StevieDad - 01-09-2018, 04:46 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (3)

I currently have my daughter on a Sunday (10am-6pm) and for a week at a time during school holidays. I lived in a shared house and daughter sleeps with me when shes here. I have been told that I cannot have her in my bed (or even my room) once she turns 8 which is in a few weeks time. Is this correct?

Also, ex and I agreed that I could facetime daughter at 7pm each evening. After a while she just stopped answering and blaming problems with her phone, the weather etc. When I had daughter last week, ex wanted to facetime every night so I agreed to it. Surprise, surprise she was able to get through first time, every night without problem so at the end of the week I suggested that as theres clearly a problem when I facetime her that maybe she should just facetime me each evening instead. First night, no call just a text to say that daughter doesnt want to speak to me cos shes just been with me for a week...

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  Vexatious litigant
Posted by: Cheese_head_1986 - 01-09-2018, 01:35 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (3)

Hi all

I'm due in court next month. At the last hearing I was granted 3 months supervised contact due to my ex insisting I was a danger, I was incompetent, unable to meet our child's basic needs and that I distress her.

Well the reports from the contact centre are glowing and only highlight my concerns about my ex so I'm feeling pretty confident about the next hearing. However despite my attempts to try and come to any kind of plan for the future are just ignored by my ex.

I want to build a professional relationship with her as we are both in the business of raising our child but when I'm faced with silence I'm not sure what to do.

My daughter was taken to hospital last year and I wasn't informed by my ex so it doesn't bode well for her suddenly being reasonable about including me in our daughters upbringing.

I feel like I'm going to be left in a position where I have no alternate than to keep going back to court for even the most basic of requests, does anyone know where courts draw the line and start viewing me as a vexatious litigant?

I'm being met with a brick wall at every turn but the courts seem to just let her behavior slide

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  do i pay csa if im not on birth certificate???
Posted by: johnt9133 - 01-08-2018, 10:37 PM - Forum: Child Maintenance, Finances etc - Replies (2)

Hi there just a quick question, do i have to pay child support if im not on the birth certificate. i had a DNA test done and came back 97.8% positive and had to pay extra for the full 100% to be verified. My ex is with my brother now and was also seeing him at the same time, they also have a child together and are engaged. she refuses to put me on the birth certificate and i have never really seen him.didnt know he was born until he was 9months old. he is now 11years old. any advice would be great.thanks

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  court,
Posted by: avadad - 01-08-2018, 09:06 PM - Forum: Contact & Residence Issues, Problems with Child Arrangements - Replies (6)

ive come a long way on my own but now that well im hoping the end is near,, final hearing , soon, my questions are? im thinking about a solicitor for the last one,,, and im , worrid really if i should get one,, but having said that,, money is better off in my childs bank,, i dont no any advice please

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  Fear of revenge
Posted by: daddyshortlegs - 01-08-2018, 07:24 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (13)

What can my ex justifiably throw at me once a court order is in place. She's very vexed and constantly texts me to tell me how I should have done xyz differently on parenting or genes plans when I have the girls. Things like sending them to school ill when they seemed fine to me in the morning etc. She can obviously disagree with stuff and hold everything against me, but what could she do (I fear she has a plan) to 'get back' at me that would make a judge reverse or change our order?

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  Disagreements on order
Posted by: daddyshortlegs - 01-08-2018, 07:19 PM - Forum: Fathers’ Rights, Legal Info, Court Orders - Replies (1)

Who police's court orders if an ambiguity arises once it is active? Such a thing as solicitor writing to judge for clarification to avoid unnecessary court (for something that may be a trivial legal detail but that has a big bearing on life)?

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