08-04-2018, 12:02 PM
Recently separated from wife, and we have 13 months old twins, boy and girl.
As it seems like normal as I'm seeing on this forum - my ex teamed with my mother in law, trying everything possible to keep me away from my children. Recently we both took mediation. I asked for a) week day visit after work b) weekend (sunday) access to children c) have children every alternate weekend. My ex thinks that is too much, and she could only allow me to visit once in a fortnight ! Her justification (which is bunch of lies) is that I do not have patience and I say things to children ( which I never did). I can see clearly she is on a mission using children as leverage as I continue to pay for all living expenses (rent, utility, grocery, food.clothes) of not just children but wife as well, just trying to do the right thing as I love my children next to nothing. She is even refusing for me to go to children's immunisation. Last night was horrifying as she asked me to leave the house just as both children sprint crawling towards me to pick them up (hazy eyes for me then). She physically separated the children from me and shut the door on me.
The reason for this post as, as I have tried all options of a) talking to her politely into having an access and contact arrangement b) mediation c) talking thru 'parenting plan' on cafcaas website, it seems all options are failed, And ex wants me to go to court. I'm in total disbelief she can't understand the role of the father in children's life. Does anyone here been in this situation and able to share their experience with the court arranged order, how long the process take, and also what are the potential pitfalls ?
Thanks
Sean
As it seems like normal as I'm seeing on this forum - my ex teamed with my mother in law, trying everything possible to keep me away from my children. Recently we both took mediation. I asked for a) week day visit after work b) weekend (sunday) access to children c) have children every alternate weekend. My ex thinks that is too much, and she could only allow me to visit once in a fortnight ! Her justification (which is bunch of lies) is that I do not have patience and I say things to children ( which I never did). I can see clearly she is on a mission using children as leverage as I continue to pay for all living expenses (rent, utility, grocery, food.clothes) of not just children but wife as well, just trying to do the right thing as I love my children next to nothing. She is even refusing for me to go to children's immunisation. Last night was horrifying as she asked me to leave the house just as both children sprint crawling towards me to pick them up (hazy eyes for me then). She physically separated the children from me and shut the door on me.
The reason for this post as, as I have tried all options of a) talking to her politely into having an access and contact arrangement b) mediation c) talking thru 'parenting plan' on cafcaas website, it seems all options are failed, And ex wants me to go to court. I'm in total disbelief she can't understand the role of the father in children's life. Does anyone here been in this situation and able to share their experience with the court arranged order, how long the process take, and also what are the potential pitfalls ?
Thanks
Sean