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IMHO, cheating is a form of abuse.
You should never blame yourself for the actions of a cheater.
Irrespective of each other's behaviour there are dignified ways of leaving a marriage and cheating isn't one of them.
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Bring a bird back and bang her in the marital bed ?
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Fat cat I feel for you fella Big man Hugs
Staying there with all hatred that is being shown is very very difficult,I did it for 3 months until I was arrestedafter I called the police,make sure that you have your phone on record at all times
I was/am married but the house was owned by stbx and her father,she stopped me from showering and pushed me so far that she is lucky not to be in hospital
I didnt react to all of the hatred and goading even tho I have cancer she told me to hose myself down like and animal and threatened to smash a sugar container of my b--d f--g head
I called the police 5 times and nobody listened because I said I didnt want to get her in trouble
I wish I had been harder with her she is an evil vile person that I thought I loved with all of my heart I was kidding myself not about the love but about what she really is.
The police arrested me and locked me up the only reason I dont have police record (although they have me as perpetrator and my DNA etc) is because I had audio on my phone and after 18 hours in a cell they let me go with NFA
I went home to lick my wounds to find the locks changed I had no money no credit cards and no where to go I spent month sofa surfing
I have PTSD from a war I didnt sign up for
I hate her and the police and have cop car tourets They were worse than useless
Any body reading this record everything If that sweet lovely girl you married is getting angry dont just try to fix her protect yourself as well
I dont know the woman that lives in my home of 12 years she never worked and I gave her over £250,000 to take care of the family
I bought everything in the house and now she has my 7 YO daughter and restricts the time I have with her and constantly bombards me with texts blaming me for all of the problems in our/her life
Hate her I understand that, its not in my nature to say Hate but I do hate her and what she has done /the way she has done it
Ive learned lessons and must have been part of the problem
I know I am a great dad and was a good husband and provider
What went wrong I still cant figure it out, she had see sawing emotions one day hating me next day saying she was sorry and didnt know what was making her so angry. Then it/she got out of hand and luckily audio on my phone saved me from an even worse scenario
RECORD EVERYTHING!!!!
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Sorry that’s not supposed to sound as off the cuff as it does. I just mean that you obviously feel like your nose is being rubbed in it. I know we’ve all looked at the total separation to a greater or lesser extent, and the situation you’re in right now means you’re less separated than you’d like, but maybe there are more steps you can take to make that happen.
Maybe genuinely just getting laid will help! Nothing serious!
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Mine didn't have the choice to leave. The bloke she's in love with doesn't want her. She didn't have the money or the ability to move out immediately. And she wouldn't leave the kids. So she ended us and was already in love with another bloke who she was going to great lengths to go and see. But she's had to carry on being supported by me, living in the house that I bought for us, driving the car that I bought for the family, asking me to do countless things she can't... it's embarrassing. At one point, she actually thought that it should be me that leaves because she'd done nothing wrong and didn't deserve to go. If I dwell on this stuff, the feelings of hatred come flooding back so I normally put it out of my mind.