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The C Word
#21
I did say those who don't want to spend it alone as opposed to those who enjoy doing so.

Yeah, plenty of people out there, like yourself, see it all as a commercialised waste of time but plenty of others, like myself, see it as a genuine time to enjoy, embrace the family & generally be happy.

You're happy meditating, we're happy stuffing ourselves with Turkey, Christmas pud & red wine (the red wine's my personal choice I'll add).

No offence but ease up with the how wonderful it is on your own when you see things very differently to many others based on your own personal life choices.
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#22
DanDad, I think Tam is trying to highlight that Xmas day is like any other day, but with additional stuff that doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things. This makes it easier for dads on their own to rationalise the day without family.

Anyway, for dads in London, lots of cafes open on Xmas day in Central. I will be smoking a hubbly bubbly on Edgeware Road.
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#23
Personally I’m trying to make sure nobody from round here tops themselves Christmas Day, nothing more.

Undealt with feelings and emotions, around the most stressful and difficult time of year lead to genuine tragedies, that why I’d like us to try and think about the hard things now - not leave them until half a bottle of whiskey and 4pm, alone, with nothing but the TV.
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#24
I think i've always just seen it as something nice to focus on through those cold, dark and long winter days / weeks / months . . grafting. . . 

Its a build up to a bit of quality time off with the family. Its a time to stop and reflect, get some nice food and drink in and enjoy ourselves. . . And what we've worked for . . 

I'm deffo not gonna croak myself, but i'm also deffo not gonna do an hour of pilates, an hour of yoga and then hook up with my 20 year old stunner for 12 hours of tantric sex. .
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#25
Fuck, I bloody am then!
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#26
have to say I was hoping that due to the circumstances the enemy would keep crimbo a bit low profile this year....

first suggestions are that isn't going to be the case......when I go back to the house i'm seeing a lot of festive catalogues and shit lying about......candles on the mantle piece and what not....

got a feeling she is going to really rub my nose in it

another fine example of her cold and emotionless attitude......not just towards me, but towards the whole situation.....

like most, we had traditions around this time of year
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#27
I will be alone for Christmas Eve and Day - not sure how I feel about that yet.
The opinions here are not that of Separated Dads, but merely a loving father who has been through the process and has come out the other side.
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#28
Hi I will also be. Alone Xmas eve and Xmas day don't really know how I'm going to handle it, especially if another guy takes my place doesn't bear thinking about, used to love everything about Xmas.... Not this year
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#29
I dont care if another man takes my place - hes a braver man than I ever will be.... but he will never be "Daddy" to my daughter
The opinions here are not that of Separated Dads, but merely a loving father who has been through the process and has come out the other side.
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#30
(09-21-2018, 05:01 PM)Living Bate Wrote: Gra that sounds pretty brutal

I think its a complete piss take given the circumstances the inlaws still plan on inviting themselves

Yes it is, but my inlaws have selfishly invited themselves over and treated me like their personal slave for quite a few years now so I really don't see it not happening this year regardless of the circumstances. When I've briefly spoken to my STBX and mentioned that I didn't really fancy coming over if the inlaws were there waiting to ambush me she suggested I'd better not come. That tells me exactly what's happening this Xmas and it won't involve me being there clearly. Selfish STBX is obviously having them over again...

Oddly enough my GF has assumed I'll be at hers on Xmas Day so I may not be sitting on my own cuddling a can of Stella after all.

God knows how I'm going to arrange to see the kids on Xmas Day but I suspect I'm going to be asking my STBX to bring them to me at my GF's house. Won't be awkward at all...
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