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Evenings without the kids - dragonsdaddy - 06-26-2018

What does everyone do when your at home on your own I’m finding the loneliness to be an absolute killer . Recently started going on walks but that gives me too much time in my own headspace occasionally play the PS4 and have been reading a fair bit just curios to see what you dads do looking for a few ideas?
Could we not just do a separated dads stag do type thing haha ?


RE: Evenings without the kids - Tamagoto - 07-04-2018

I really bloody enjoy it to be honest mate - I fought a long, hard and expensive custody battle and have them 5 days out of 14.

When I think about it I probably have as much quality time as I ever did because when I’m with them I never do anything but be with them, I shift all the other stuff to days they aren’t there so they never watch TV whiskt I do DIY.

so what’s the one thing separated parents have they couples don’t? Time. Time to do all the things those with kids constantly crave for.

I do all this stuff now I couldn’t:

Paint games workshop miniatures
Go on mountain bike rides. On my own and in groups.
Go to the cinema on my own
Watch any tv show I like
Watch porn with the sound up
Read a lot of books. I bought a kindle.
Have board game nights at my house
Go for drinks with friends every 2 weeks
Drop in in friends for dinner
Cook
Meditate
Sleep
Exercise
Minimise my home and throw out all the ‘just in case’ crap
Go on dates and get laid.
Work late without worrying


NONE of these things are easy with kids all the time. You could list 20 things you can do now you couldn’t before if you tried.

What are you passions?

Oh and don’t hide from the feelings in your head. Lean into them. Feel them. Really discover who you are.

Know yourself.


RE: Evenings without the kids - Mr Sandman - 07-10-2018

(06-26-2018, 05:11 PM)dragonsdaddy Wrote: What does everyone do when your at home on your own I’m finding the loneliness to be an absolute killer . Recently started going on walks but that gives me too much time in my own headspace occasionally play the PS4 and have been reading a fair bit just curios to see what you dads do looking for a few ideas?
Could we not just do a separated dads stag do type thing haha ?

I get two nights off a week (15yo daughter lives with me for now) and I use that time to see my girlfriend, go for a meal, have loud sex on the sofa and get drunk, not necessarily in that order. I actually get more time to myself when my daughter is 'home' because she is usually out at friends, shops or in her room etc. This time is mostly me on 'taxi standby service'. I use this alone time to exercise, watch Netflix (its awesome, get it), read, potter on in the house or garden, see my friends. When I was dating I turned it into a hobby/art-form that took up my time. 

Expanding your social network is crucial, fix regular meet-ups with buddies for a meal after work, pictures or a footy match? Maybe join a club or hit the gym or a sports club too?

Good luck