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New Partner / Spousal Maintenance - SteveyA - 10-29-2019 Hi all My ex-wife had an affair 2 years ago and is still with this guy who regularly stays over at the former marital home even when my children are present. I have settled my divorce and agreed to pay £250 per month spousal maintenance over 3 years (£3k per year). She has stated via solicitors & on the consent order that she has no intention of co-habiting but I know he stays over at least 3-4 nights a week. My children also confirm he makes terrible porridge!! I don't care he stays there but I transferred the house to her for a small lump sum to safe guard the kids and on the assumption it would be for her and the children as a single mum, not to set them up. The agreement is spousal maintenance ends if she co-habits for 3 months but other than knowing he stays over a few nights a week, how could I possibly prove he is co-habiting?? He won't ever be on bills, council tax or electoral etc and would support her with cash / buying groceries etc. I haven't yet but would rather stop the spousal maintenance payments but this would be a breach of the signed consent order and I have no physical evidence to prove otherwise. I would rather have the £9k in my bank over 3 years than hers!!! Any advice would be welcome. Thanks RE: New Partner / Spousal Maintenance - Charlie7000 - 11-01-2019 Tricky. I guess if he isn’t living there full time and has a place of his own she can say it is not cohabiting. People try and get round things. My ex lives in a separate house to her husband across the road. They actually live together but claim they live in separate houses and have a house each in their separate names. I think it’s a benefits thing with her. I would give it a bit more time. Technically cohabiting would be full time living together. RE: New Partner / Spousal Maintenance - SteveyA - 11-01-2019 (11-01-2019, 12:15 AM)Charlie7000 Wrote: Tricky. I guess if he isn’t living there full time and has a place of his own she can say it is not cohabiting. People try and get round things. My ex lives in a separate house to her husband across the road. They actually live together but claim they live in separate houses and have a house each in their separate names. I think it’s a benefits thing with her. Thanks Charlie7000 I agree it's tricky. I will bide my time until I get more confirmation but she knows her benefits and my spousal maintenance will alter if she does, she think she will but plans to hide it. RE: New Partner / Spousal Maintenance - Tom_W88 - 11-04-2019 hire a private detective :-) |