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Evening (Newbie Here)
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Hi Everyone,

Newbie here so thought id post.

Moved out of my marital home as there was no trust between us (i believe she was the one cheating on my on a girls holiday months before. but shes blaiming its her mates)

SO i moved out of the home after a few months of agreeing on a split (i didnt want to) and moved out during August bank holiday weekend in 2017)it, i broke my foot couple days after moving out so been mainly in the house, but made sure i have kept up seeing the kids and paying whats needed.

Ive begged for her back but she doesnt want me to.  We have two kids together and for the last 6 years weve been married for over  of them i have been caring for 2 child she had from another relationship.  

Ive had a rough xmas where i have considered suicide as i cant cope.

However today, via a Facebook post from Preston police over a missing person.  i have found the woman im still married to (but separated from) has been sleeping with a bloke in my marital home.

He was picked up outside my old home today, admitted he has spent most of xmas at my house over a week (my kids were there when ive not had them, and hiss own wife and family have listed him as a missing person from Dec 29th.)

Now im not angry with him, hes ruined his own relationship, but now it seemingly a no no me and my ex getting back together I would love to find out more what i can do now.

She's admitted she has introduced him to my kids after a few weeks (although wouldnt surprise me if its been longer) she feels she has done nothing wrong in all of this.

The father to my step children is also now furious, as he has found out also.  

What can i do? I feel very low and cant think of moving on, but I realise there's no point in being silly as the kids will lose their dad.

So fellas, she has been up to the following :-
  • She has a history of hitting myself and others (I have a dvd clip of her punching a police officer)
  • She is a regular drinker and hasn't told the government she is working part time in a pub, she is drinking usually from mid morning onwards
  • i also recorded on my phone her racking up cocaine for her 15 year old sister to sniff
  • She is blatantly being a benefit cheat, since i have moved out there has been letters about money owed.
  • The child maintenance i have been paying i dont feel my children are getting the benefit from.

So the question's i ask are lads

  1.  With child maintenance, can i stop paying it to her, and put it into savings accounts for the kids?
  2. What are my best options for divorce/full custody of the kids? If there is any? Can i use the drugs/drink and assaults to aide my case into getting the best news for me and my kids?
  3. With my step kids, due to marrying their mum i am down as a parent/guardian, she doesnt let me have them, is there anyone i can force her to allow me to spend time with them? 
Any other help be greatly appreciated, i feel I have been played for a mug, not even thought of a relationship with another female and im being made out to to be the one in the wrong.

Hope you can help

Tom
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Evening (Newbie Here) - by Tom_W88 - 01-04-2018, 11:18 PM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by MarkR - 01-05-2018, 12:23 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Tom_W88 - 01-05-2018, 12:57 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by MarkR - 01-05-2018, 01:04 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Tom_W88 - 01-05-2018, 01:29 PM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Tom_W88 - 04-25-2018, 08:04 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Mr Sandman - 04-25-2018, 09:43 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Naive - 04-25-2018, 12:18 PM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by nibbler - 04-25-2018, 12:27 PM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Tom_W88 - 04-26-2018, 07:58 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Jim - 04-26-2018, 09:59 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Naive - 04-26-2018, 09:02 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Tom_W88 - 04-26-2018, 09:09 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Naive - 04-26-2018, 09:37 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Tom_W88 - 04-26-2018, 10:06 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by nibbler - 04-26-2018, 10:23 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Mr Sandman - 04-26-2018, 11:11 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Tamagoto - 04-26-2018, 09:55 PM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Tom_W88 - 04-27-2018, 07:59 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Naive - 04-27-2018, 08:13 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Tom_W88 - 04-27-2018, 08:32 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Mr Sandman - 04-27-2018, 10:57 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Jim - 04-29-2018, 09:07 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Mr Sandman - 04-30-2018, 09:49 AM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Jim - 04-30-2018, 09:11 PM
RE: Evening (Newbie Here) - by Tom_W88 - 05-01-2018, 08:00 AM

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