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Good Barrister in Berkshire?
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The 50/50 arrangement we had before was made at court, mediation didn't work, she wanted alternate nights, one with me, one with her, that was never going to work with a small child, I wanted blocks of consecutive nights. Eventually we arrived at what seems to be termed a "consent" order, we decided outside the courtroom (I represented myself that time).

I couldn't seem to make the CAFCASS officer understand that my son never experienced any conflict, my son never sees us together and he doesn't see our communication (by text at the ex's request). The CAFCASS officer kept saying things like, "he will sense it". The only thing the ex and I are disagreeing over is this shared care arrangement, oh, she also wants it to be a "lives with" her now, CAFCASS also agree with that. My son was never involved in these conversations (which have always been polite but firm, by SMS)...until CAFCASS went to see him at school and talked to him about courts and judges, I was a little flabbergasted.

Tomorrow is the second half of my final hearing, we were supposed to have two days a couple of weeks ago, we ended up doing one day because the CAFCASS officer didn't show up. The judge decided the second day will be tomorrow, hopefully CAFCASS will show up this time. We are in front of a district judge as this is the result of an appeal and I requested a judge as my experience with magistrates has always been atrocious.

You're right, CAFCASS are calling our relationship "high conflict" which is surprising as my ex and I never see each other face to face and our text messages do not show a "high conflict" style of messaging. There has never been any history of intimidation or violence in our relationship, in fact I was once told off for not being jealous enough. As far as I can tell, the ex may have convinced the CAFCASS officer that I used to track her, "with an app on her phone". The app she was referring to was the Find my Friends app on the iPhone, something that our whole friendship group used whilst on holiday together.

Anyway, once all this is over, whatever happens and once I've pulled myself together I'm still determined to be a magistrate...if this doesn't preclude me from doing so. I want to bring the balance that this system is so badly lacking.
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Good Barrister in Berkshire? - by DoofDoof - 03-29-2018, 04:36 PM
RE: Good Barrister in Berkshire? - by MarkR - 03-29-2018, 06:11 PM
RE: Good Barrister in Berkshire? - by DoofDoof - 04-05-2018, 02:58 PM
RE: Good Barrister in Berkshire? - by mrbungle - 04-05-2018, 03:41 PM
RE: Good Barrister in Berkshire? - by DoofDoof - 04-06-2018, 01:45 PM
RE: Good Barrister in Berkshire? - by DoofDoof - 05-23-2018, 04:21 PM
RE: Good Barrister in Berkshire? - by Jim - 05-24-2018, 10:02 AM
RE: Good Barrister in Berkshire? - by DoofDoof - 03-22-2019, 01:55 PM
RE: Good Barrister in Berkshire? - by DoofDoof - 07-02-2019, 04:15 PM
RE: Good Barrister in Berkshire? - by Charlie7000 - 07-02-2019, 07:11 PM
RE: Good Barrister in Berkshire? - by DoofDoof - 07-02-2019, 08:58 PM
RE: Good Barrister in Berkshire? - by Charlie7000 - 07-02-2019, 11:32 PM



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