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Taking the pressure off myself
(03-21-2016, 09:38 AM)Norfolk n Good Wrote: Very few people are "perfect parents".

We all have our faults and when it's personal it's hard to remain objective when things don't go as you'd want them to. Not every day can be a perfect day even amongst parents that are together with their kids all the time.
Being a good Dad isn't about money, or days out. It's about being there for them and guiding them through the early stages of their lives to make them decent adults so they can raise children of their own. Don't get wrapped up in your own perceived "failures", the kids will learn from this and judge their own lives in a similar fashion as they get older. I'm sure you wouldn't want that to happen.

I went through counselling many years ago, not related to being a parent, and one of the things that stood out about it was it just gave you the chance to offload your thoughts and fears onto someone who wasn't going to be judgemental or condescending. Did it help?...well I'm still here and trying to help others, but even I have my bad days but I won't dwell on them, once the day is done, that's it, you can't go back and change it. Learn from it and move forward.

If you wanted to seek counselling your first port of call would probably be your GP, who would have seen people needing this before, so you wouldn't be the first or the last with finding some aspects of life difficult.

The fact that you are posting on here sort of proves that point Smile

Good points, thanks N :-)

It's not so much the money (although we all get frustrated having forked out for a trip that doesn't go down as well as hoped)'s more a pressure to create memories, aided by the experience of going places with me. I think I'm doing an ok job of guiding them and teaching those life lessons along the way...I guess I just hate to think that their memories of days with me might be of boredom or lack of excitement (we go to cool places don't get me wrong - I just fear I choose badly occasionally!)

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RE: Taking the pressure off myself - by daddyshortlegs - 03-21-2016, 11:57 AM

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