07-13-2017, 06:46 PM
Just an update.
I am really frustrated with the cafcass report I have received.
I spent a long time piecing together evidence that I had saved over many years, which included:
30+ times my ex threatened me with social services
dozens of times my ex threatened to cut all contact with my children
Half a dozen times she has broken our mediation agreement & text evidence stating she does not respect the agreement
Evidence that she has been encouraging my daughter to sever ties with me
None of which was included in the Cafcass report.
Instead of including this, which was all documented information, filed and dated, they said:
I bullied the mum during our relationship - no police report EVER, NOTHING documented, did not happen!!
I bully, shout at and swear at my children and I frighten them, made me out to be an absolute monster. Even though both myself & my daughter state this has only happened TWICE in FIVE years. I hear parents shouting at their children all the time!!!!! Yes I got angry two times, but only because my daughter lied and lied, and I got frustrated - yet the report makes out that I do this all the time!!!
It also said that I put my daughter down and call her names, I have my partner as a witness (she is a professional that works with vulnerable children) to say this did not happen. Cafcass refused to even speak with her to hear her point of view and hear her views!
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Thank the Lord my daughter saved me. I think after this shockingly inaccurate report I would have never seen my daughter again.. But when the Cafcass worker went to interview my daughter, she broke down in tears and begged to see me. She said how much she missed me.
I am actually really angry. Apparently my daughter has been telling her mum and the school she didnt want to see me, but I said all along, the school are NOT neutral. Why? Because my ex partner worked there for years!!! She is friends with all the staff as they are former collegues!! She is friends with these people and my daughter (who admitted in the cafcass interview that she was afraid of telling her mum she wanted to see me) obviously knew that the information would be passed to her mum! So for months she has been saying one story, and then 30 seconds after she meets the cafcass worker, she is pleading to see me, saying how much she misses me and Loves me. In the report it states she made a last minute change of mind!! What?? One day after 6 months she changes her mind? Or maybe rather than that she was simply afraid of telling the truth until she couldnt hide it anymore?
Anyway, it is recommended that contact goes back to how it was, 'With reservations' about me and clearly states the mother is in charge of things..
I am really frustrated with the cafcass report I have received.
I spent a long time piecing together evidence that I had saved over many years, which included:
30+ times my ex threatened me with social services
dozens of times my ex threatened to cut all contact with my children
Half a dozen times she has broken our mediation agreement & text evidence stating she does not respect the agreement
Evidence that she has been encouraging my daughter to sever ties with me
None of which was included in the Cafcass report.
Instead of including this, which was all documented information, filed and dated, they said:
I bullied the mum during our relationship - no police report EVER, NOTHING documented, did not happen!!
I bully, shout at and swear at my children and I frighten them, made me out to be an absolute monster. Even though both myself & my daughter state this has only happened TWICE in FIVE years. I hear parents shouting at their children all the time!!!!! Yes I got angry two times, but only because my daughter lied and lied, and I got frustrated - yet the report makes out that I do this all the time!!!
It also said that I put my daughter down and call her names, I have my partner as a witness (she is a professional that works with vulnerable children) to say this did not happen. Cafcass refused to even speak with her to hear her point of view and hear her views!
===========================
Thank the Lord my daughter saved me. I think after this shockingly inaccurate report I would have never seen my daughter again.. But when the Cafcass worker went to interview my daughter, she broke down in tears and begged to see me. She said how much she missed me.
I am actually really angry. Apparently my daughter has been telling her mum and the school she didnt want to see me, but I said all along, the school are NOT neutral. Why? Because my ex partner worked there for years!!! She is friends with all the staff as they are former collegues!! She is friends with these people and my daughter (who admitted in the cafcass interview that she was afraid of telling her mum she wanted to see me) obviously knew that the information would be passed to her mum! So for months she has been saying one story, and then 30 seconds after she meets the cafcass worker, she is pleading to see me, saying how much she misses me and Loves me. In the report it states she made a last minute change of mind!! What?? One day after 6 months she changes her mind? Or maybe rather than that she was simply afraid of telling the truth until she couldnt hide it anymore?
Anyway, it is recommended that contact goes back to how it was, 'With reservations' about me and clearly states the mother is in charge of things..