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Sleep (Or Lack Of)
#11
(10-25-2017, 11:40 AM)ProziumDealer Wrote: Exercise works, especially if you do a hard training session and push yourself. Alcohol does nothing and is not your friend :-)

Oh...the booze will do something.....but not what you need.

It will keep the demons out, for a short while, only because you can be to obliterated to notice, they are still there. It will make you a stinking mess with bad breath, a headache the size of the isle of wight, and skint. The demons come back you see, as that's what happens when the alcohol wears off, and you regain focus. So you end up in a loop of...go away...!!! drink drink...hangover kicks in...dammit they are back...drink drink....truth is, they never go, they are there, you just have to own up and defeat them as the booze won't do that

We all know that as youngsters, but he's right. it ain't your friend
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#12
Back to not being able to sleep from worry.
Really concerned with my sons wellbeing.
The system does not help and definitely not child focussed as they alway talk about the welfare checklist.
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#13
Recommendation from my Counselor?

Retrain your brain that the bedroom is for sleeping.

That means don't use it as an office, or for watching TV. And whatever you do, leave your phone in the other room. Even if on silent or just charging - your subconscious will be aware of it. Need an alarm? Buy an alarm clock - clue's in the name.

For those lucky enough, the bedroom can still be used for other activities. Especially if they *ahem* help tire you out..
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#14
I find meditation is quite good before trying to sleep. It's not about trying to clear your mind but instead letting thoughts come and go and just being aware of them, while focussing on your breathing. 20 minutes of that and I'm able to sleep pretty well.
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#15
Im constantly having dreams about court and this whole separation stuff.going to bed early after a day of constant thinking about the crap does help.

Why do.ppl put u through this shit.
All im doing is trying to bring up.my kid in a bullshit free environment.
I cant work at mo due to this mess around the topsey contact arrangements .
So in limbo.
Surprised I have not ended up in a mental asylum.
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#16
will laugh at this, but was something told to me when i did a bit of security for a brass gaff.

Go home and have a wank. honest sleepytime later
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#17
I tried the over the counter sleep aids which helped but dont stay on them too long, I took one every 2nd or 3rd night just to get one good night. Alcohol is a really bad idea, I would pass out easy enough but wake about 1-2am and not sleep again. In the end the only thing that helped is taking control of my life and the situation, when I feel I am on top of things then I calm down a bit. A spotlessly clean house and clean bedsheets and all prepared for the next day is good too. Have a bath before bed, stay away from screens before bed, [something about melatonin]

A wank is good too.
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#18
After I escaped from my ex I couldn't sleep at all started to micro nap and then wake up because of nightmares, Dr was worried it was ptsd and recommend counselling (but the ex obtained my referral letter so didn't go because I was unaware of it)

So I went back to basics, regular routine, regular exercise, shower, Shit and shave before bed, no TV/screens or booze a few hours before bed. Initially that helped but my mind wasn't settling all the time due to worry and stress and the fear of having more night terrors.

Mate suggested I try meditation, was sceptical at first but with some instruction held at a local Buddhist center it really helped, not the religious side of it all but learning how to focus my mind on just my breathing etc really helped.

It's been over a year now and I'm back to sleeping normally with no issues Smile
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#19
Rumination is your enemy, sitting around thinking about stuff, allows thoughts to fester and gather in dark places, they come out when you try to sleep. Literally keep yourself busy until you drop, whether its work, gym, insane dating frenzy or some new hobby. I'm struggling at the moment and I'm going to start some new things soon, and 'cranking'...... that sad combination of crying and wanking that accompanies an undesired separation.....
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#20
(02-14-2018, 05:41 PM)Mr Sandman Wrote: Rumination is your enemy, sitting around thinking about stuff, allows thoughts to fester and gather in dark places, they come out when you try to sleep. Literally keep yourself busy until you drop, whether its work, gym, insane dating frenzy or some new hobby. I'm struggling at the moment and I'm going to start some new things soon, and 'cranking'...... that sad combination of crying and wanking that accompanies an undesired separation.....

I feel really bad, sorry but Ive got stitches laughing at "cranking"
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