11-21-2017, 05:10 PM
(This post was last modified: 11-21-2017, 06:07 PM by Seagullstu.)
Hi
I have so many questions and so few answers that I thought I would give this a try to see what help is out there. Many thanks in advance if you can help.
My situation
Separated for 17 months with 2 children aged 8 and 10.
Waiting for the 2 years to be up so I can divorce rather than force it through.
I have the kids on a 50/50 basis but when I worked it out for the last 12 months I actually had them more.
Ex is still in family home- 3 bed house - we have about £180K equity, My parents gave me £50K to help buy
I'm renting but a 2 bed flat so kids have to share and with help from parents to pay.
Wife earn £11K a year. I earn around £45K
I'm not paying child support and feel I don't have to as 50/50 but I am paying half the mortgage, half life insurance, and half for everything else the kids needs i.e clothes, club, school trips etc.
My Questions
Should I be paying child maintenance as ex thinks I should but I don't as can prove I have 50/50
I don't get the child benefit but know this could go against me. Can I claim for 1 child and the ex for the other as 50/50?
I want to sell the house buy ex doesn't want to. I need the equity and name off mortgage to move on and potentially buy someone else. But ex only earn £11K so she would struggle ( but would have £90K etc to contribute to rent if required) . What would court rule ?.
Our mortgage is £700 a month but to rent a 3 bed would cost £1500 a month. Even though I earn more, is it right I have to pay £800 a month extra than Ex ( and that's if she takes over the mortgage payments in full) maybe for the next 8 years until kids leave school.
I would be happy to split equity in her favour so say £100K for her and £80K for me if she would sell but she says she cant/wont
My parents gave me £50K to help buy the house. Once we do agree to sell, ( even if this is when kids are 16), I want this to be paid back before equity is split. Ex say no way as it was a gift and not in writing. Do I have any rights to get this back?
If ( and not what I want), I agree for the ex to stay in the house, can I make her pay all the mortgage and maintenance of the house and in return, I will keep my name on the mortgage. She would benefit from having the cheaper monthly rent, and I would have to rent for 8 years but know there is some money to come at the end of it once house is sold.
If I do agree to the above, I would only agree if she never moved anyone else in. Why should her new partner benefit from having cheap rent from a small mortgage. Do I have any rights to do this ?
Sorry the all the info. But if anyone has any help on either 1 point, it would massively help.
I have so many questions and so few answers that I thought I would give this a try to see what help is out there. Many thanks in advance if you can help.
My situation
Separated for 17 months with 2 children aged 8 and 10.
Waiting for the 2 years to be up so I can divorce rather than force it through.
I have the kids on a 50/50 basis but when I worked it out for the last 12 months I actually had them more.
Ex is still in family home- 3 bed house - we have about £180K equity, My parents gave me £50K to help buy
I'm renting but a 2 bed flat so kids have to share and with help from parents to pay.
Wife earn £11K a year. I earn around £45K
I'm not paying child support and feel I don't have to as 50/50 but I am paying half the mortgage, half life insurance, and half for everything else the kids needs i.e clothes, club, school trips etc.
My Questions
Should I be paying child maintenance as ex thinks I should but I don't as can prove I have 50/50
I don't get the child benefit but know this could go against me. Can I claim for 1 child and the ex for the other as 50/50?
I want to sell the house buy ex doesn't want to. I need the equity and name off mortgage to move on and potentially buy someone else. But ex only earn £11K so she would struggle ( but would have £90K etc to contribute to rent if required) . What would court rule ?.
Our mortgage is £700 a month but to rent a 3 bed would cost £1500 a month. Even though I earn more, is it right I have to pay £800 a month extra than Ex ( and that's if she takes over the mortgage payments in full) maybe for the next 8 years until kids leave school.
I would be happy to split equity in her favour so say £100K for her and £80K for me if she would sell but she says she cant/wont
My parents gave me £50K to help buy the house. Once we do agree to sell, ( even if this is when kids are 16), I want this to be paid back before equity is split. Ex say no way as it was a gift and not in writing. Do I have any rights to get this back?
If ( and not what I want), I agree for the ex to stay in the house, can I make her pay all the mortgage and maintenance of the house and in return, I will keep my name on the mortgage. She would benefit from having the cheaper monthly rent, and I would have to rent for 8 years but know there is some money to come at the end of it once house is sold.
If I do agree to the above, I would only agree if she never moved anyone else in. Why should her new partner benefit from having cheap rent from a small mortgage. Do I have any rights to do this ?
Sorry the all the info. But if anyone has any help on either 1 point, it would massively help.