12-04-2017, 11:47 AM
Since our separation children (12 & 9) have been living with me and see their mother from Fri eventing to Sat evening. Mother keeps changing her mind about what kind of children arrangement she wants. She still lives in FMH and works from 0830 to 1700. For her, having children during the week is absolutely impractical, she knows that but does not accept it. Mediation isn't going anywhere because we keep going round in circles. One minute, she wants shared care, another she wants full "custody". As to how she'll manage everything, her stock answer is that "I'll manage."
Even when I agree to some of her demands, she changes her mind. Another problem is that she wants all of the assets in divorce settlement regardless of what we agree on children because she does not want to be financially insecure (having been a STHM for a long time). Literally everything she says is about what she wants because she is a mother. It is almost as if I never existed in children's lives.
I've now reached a point where continuing with mediation seems a bit pointless. Children don't want to split their week between parents either and only want to see the mother on weekends. The question I'm struggling with is whether to ignore the whole thing and just continue with the current informal arrangement or go to court for something along the lines of mother getting EOW and half of school holidays (not that she'll be able to manage that)?
I'd be interested in what experience other dads have where they've gone for this kind of arrangement.
Even when I agree to some of her demands, she changes her mind. Another problem is that she wants all of the assets in divorce settlement regardless of what we agree on children because she does not want to be financially insecure (having been a STHM for a long time). Literally everything she says is about what she wants because she is a mother. It is almost as if I never existed in children's lives.
I've now reached a point where continuing with mediation seems a bit pointless. Children don't want to split their week between parents either and only want to see the mother on weekends. The question I'm struggling with is whether to ignore the whole thing and just continue with the current informal arrangement or go to court for something along the lines of mother getting EOW and half of school holidays (not that she'll be able to manage that)?
I'd be interested in what experience other dads have where they've gone for this kind of arrangement.