12-04-2017, 03:05 PM
My wife and I have been married for over 12 years. 6 months ago, I left as I was deeply unhappy and our marriage was a mess.
We have 2 boys aged 10 and 8. We have no formal agreements in place yet but I am suppoed to see them every Wednesday and every other weekend.
She has become very bitter and angry. She bombards me with vicious texts all day and night, then accuses my responses of being angry! The boys appear fine. In fact, my relationship with them has improved a lot. I do appreciate that they miss me at times and probably get a bit upset and frustrated at times. I would be naive not to think that and have experienced my own parents break up.
Recently, she has started claiming that the boys are suffering trauma and stress although they show no signs of this. They appear happy. Their teachers have said there has been no change at school and both continue to do well. They attend an array of clubs etc. and none of the responsible adults have any concerns.
She has always wanted to get back at me for leaving and has now contacted the school asking that they provide additional support. She is also insisting she is going to book them appointments to see their doctor due to stress? I am firmly of the belief this is only so that at some time in the future, when things are taking a formal route, she can claim 'she has had to seek support for them'. It is nothing more than points scoring and game playing.
She constantly criticises me in front of them. She is always changing her mind and issuing threats about stopping me seeing them, stopping them going on holiday, stopping them from seeing my family etc.
I have a nice, comfortbale 2 bed flat and pay her enough to continue living in our old house which is vast. She has the kids far more than me. I've offered to have them more often if it's too much for her yet she has refused.
What can I do? She is driving me mad. I so wanted an amicable relationship but she is hell bent on revenge and making my life as difficult, awkward and distressing as possible. She is vile and spiteful and I feel terribly sorry for the boys. I never talk about her in a bad way, i even still go out with them and buy her birthday and xmas presents so that they can see im trying.
I am at the end of my tether. Can anyone please tell me what I can do or where I stand? she refuses to sign a seperation agreement. she refuses mediation. she just wants more money, and to get back at me in the most hurtful way possible which is through using the kids.
We have 2 boys aged 10 and 8. We have no formal agreements in place yet but I am suppoed to see them every Wednesday and every other weekend.
She has become very bitter and angry. She bombards me with vicious texts all day and night, then accuses my responses of being angry! The boys appear fine. In fact, my relationship with them has improved a lot. I do appreciate that they miss me at times and probably get a bit upset and frustrated at times. I would be naive not to think that and have experienced my own parents break up.
Recently, she has started claiming that the boys are suffering trauma and stress although they show no signs of this. They appear happy. Their teachers have said there has been no change at school and both continue to do well. They attend an array of clubs etc. and none of the responsible adults have any concerns.
She has always wanted to get back at me for leaving and has now contacted the school asking that they provide additional support. She is also insisting she is going to book them appointments to see their doctor due to stress? I am firmly of the belief this is only so that at some time in the future, when things are taking a formal route, she can claim 'she has had to seek support for them'. It is nothing more than points scoring and game playing.
She constantly criticises me in front of them. She is always changing her mind and issuing threats about stopping me seeing them, stopping them going on holiday, stopping them from seeing my family etc.
I have a nice, comfortbale 2 bed flat and pay her enough to continue living in our old house which is vast. She has the kids far more than me. I've offered to have them more often if it's too much for her yet she has refused.
What can I do? She is driving me mad. I so wanted an amicable relationship but she is hell bent on revenge and making my life as difficult, awkward and distressing as possible. She is vile and spiteful and I feel terribly sorry for the boys. I never talk about her in a bad way, i even still go out with them and buy her birthday and xmas presents so that they can see im trying.
I am at the end of my tether. Can anyone please tell me what I can do or where I stand? she refuses to sign a seperation agreement. she refuses mediation. she just wants more money, and to get back at me in the most hurtful way possible which is through using the kids.
