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The fees are core costs that she paid when she was billed for it but now it has changed to me she refuses to be. It was a clear tactic from her to get me to agree to pay the direct debit. The problem is I need my daughter to attend nursery on certain days because I work. From now on she will only attend the days I want her to.

I don’t pay any child support because if the number of days my daughter is with me.
(01-17-2018, 09:34 AM)Pdaddy Wrote: Thanks to all of you for the brilliant advice. Really helpful. I have a few comments:

Mediation: I tried to arrange a meeting with her to discuss these things but she point blank refuses to talk about anything. She does what she wants and I have to deal with it. How can a court expect the parents to sort things out if one keeps doing this and refuses to talk or compromise?

CMS: I don’t pay any CM because we have near enough 50/50 shared care. She has also had her benefits suspended because HMRC don’t believe she’s entitled to child benefit. They are considering if I am the prime carer given that I take care of EVERYTHING else.

Court order: Christmas is in the court order and it was agreed that this year was with me and next is with her. I feel like she has reneged on this so, as far as I’m concerned next Christmas will be with me as well but there will be no split time so she can’t do what she did last year.

Nursery: The small contribution she paid was for core hours. I paid everything else for any additional hours.

If you get the Child Beneift, then you might be able to get other things, including Child Care Costs.
Also, she might have to pay Child Support still.

Check out   and put in a claim for anything you can now, as it can only be backdated 30 days. Claims will go on hold, until a decision on child benefit is made.
Posts made by me are my opinion and any factual information should be checked out. If you do not have a Solicitor, often your local CAB can get you some initial advice.

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