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#1
Hi, first post here and im hoping for a little advice..
 I asked the mother of my 2 kids to leave about two years ago due to cheating and stealing money from me for mortgage/bills and for her drugs and drinking while I was at work and she was home with the kids.
We never went to court we just agreed on a split schedule to have the kids 50/50. The kids address was with me and they went to school a block from my house up until last year when their mother changed schools to one in a different town near her without ever informing me she did so.
A month later I get papers for court and was told I need to pay her child support because the kids home address is the same as the mothers and therefore shes considered the custodial parent!
My kids hate the new school its in a bad area and my oldest daughter was bullied more than a few times on her bus and at that school so I have switched them back to the original school that's right down the street from me.
Im wondering if its in my rights to tell the school not to let my kids mother or listen to her if she goes down to the school and tries to remove them from there and sign them back up at the school near her before this school year starts in September.

thanks for any help/advice
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#2
(07-29-2016, 10:18 AM)boocher13 Wrote: Hi, first post here and im hoping for a little advice..
 I asked the mother of my 2 kids to leave about two years ago due to cheating and stealing money from me for mortgage/bills and for her drugs and drinking while I was at work and she was home with the kids.
We never went to court we just agreed on a split schedule to have the kids 50/50. The kids address was with me and they went to school a block from my house up until last year when their mother changed schools to one in a different town near her without ever informing me she did so.
A month later I get papers for court and was told I need to pay her child support because the kids home address is the same as the mothers and therefore shes considered the custodial parent!
My kids hate the new school its in a bad area and my oldest daughter was bullied more than a few times on her bus and at that school so I have switched them back to the original school that's right down the street from me.
Im wondering if its in my rights to tell the school not to let my kids mother or listen to her if she goes down to the school and tries to remove them from there and sign them back up at the school near her before this school year starts in September.

thanks for any help/advice
The problem you have is no court order exists.

I think you can make a direct to court application, under Conduct Other Exemption.

Assuming you have PR, then you had a legal right to be consulted about any change of Education, as your on the same legal standing till a court order is made.

The Child Arrangements Order will set out who the children live with, and time spent with the other parent. Whoever this is (who has over 50%) gets to claim the Child Benefit, what also has a knock on effect, to claim Tax Credits and have the Child's Occupancy considered for Housing Benefit (number of rooms you can claim for or bedroom tax), and they have the right to instruct CMS to collect Child Support if no agreement can be reached.
Posts made by me are my opinion and any factual information should be checked out. If you do not have a Solicitor, often your local CAB can get you some initial advice.
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#3
Hello everyone
This is my first post.
So I have a 4 year old daughter and a DNA test proving I’m the biological father.
I have always paid CSA without fail but my name is not on the birth certificate so I do not have parental responsibility.
I am not allowed to see my daughter and ultimately I will have to go to court if I want to see her.
I can’t afford to go to court but what confuses me is the how I go about it if I want to go it alone without a solicitor.
Residential order – parental responsibility – name on the certificate.
Everyone seems to be an expert. I looked on the Direct Gov website and thought I understood everything I needed to do but after speaking to a solicitor for a free 30 minutes he dismissed everything I researched and said it would cost at least £5,000.
If you’re going to do it yourself, where do you start???
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#4
(07-30-2016, 07:18 PM)fhidjoasifn Wrote: Hello everyone
This is my first post.
So I have a 4 year old daughter and a DNA test proving I’m the biological father.
I have always paid CSA without fail but my name is not on the birth certificate so I do not have parental responsibility.
I am not allowed to see my daughter and ultimately I will have to go to court if I want to see her.
I can’t afford to go to court but what confuses me is the how I go about it if I want to go it alone without a solicitor.
Residential order – parental responsibility – name on the certificate.
Everyone seems to be an expert. I looked on the Direct Gov website and thought I understood everything I needed to do but after speaking to a solicitor for a free 30 minutes he dismissed everything I researched and said it would cost at least £5,000.
If you’re going to do it yourself, where do you start???

The £5000 is if you charge about £120-200 per hour as a Solicitor.

I am not, but I am going to give you some advise, on how to do this without paying anything except a Court Applicaiton Fee, and for any Supporting Documents you might need in your case.

PR is gained by being Married on the day of bith, or being Named on Birth Certificate, or in a formal way, in this case by Applying to Court for it.

I need to know why your not seeing the children, and the main reason I need to know is if
1, There is any Police or Social Services Involvement (If so I need to know what for and if anything is ongoing).l
2, Are the Children knowen to Social Services
3, Is there any Child Protection Or Welfare Issues.

There might be a case for PR and Child Arrangments bieng Ordered, will advise once the above known
Posts made by me are my opinion and any factual information should be checked out. If you do not have a Solicitor, often your local CAB can get you some initial advice.
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#5
(07-30-2016, 08:42 PM)MarkR Wrote:
(07-30-2016, 07:18 PM)fhidjoasifn Wrote: Hello everyone
This is my first post.
So I have a 4 year old daughter and a DNA test proving I’m the biological father.
I have always paid CSA without fail but my name is not on the birth certificate so I do not have parental responsibility.
I am not allowed to see my daughter and ultimately I will have to go to court if I want to see her.
I can’t afford to go to court but what confuses me is the how I go about it if I want to go it alone without a solicitor.
Residential order – parental responsibility – name on the certificate.
Everyone seems to be an expert. I looked on the Direct Gov website and thought I understood everything I needed to do but after speaking to a solicitor for a free 30 minutes he dismissed everything I researched and said it would cost at least £5,000.
If you’re going to do it yourself, where do you start???

The £5000 is if you charge about £120-200 per hour as a Solicitor.

I am not, but I am going to give you some advise, on how to do this without paying anything except a Court Applicaiton Fee, and for any Supporting Documents you might need in your case.

PR is gained by being Married on the day of bith, or being Named on Birth Certificate, or in a formal way, in this case by Applying to Court for it.

I need to know why your not seeing the children, and the main reason I need to know is if
1, There is any Police or Social Services Involvement (If so I need to know what for and if anything is ongoing).l
2, Are the Children knowen to Social Services
3, Is there any Child Protection Or Welfare Issues.

There might be a case for PR and Child Arrangments bieng Ordered, will advise once the above known

 
 
Hello Mark, thank you for your response.
I’ll try to explain the back story as briefly as possibly.
My ex-partner ended the relationship 3 months into the pregnancy; she cut all contact and the only way we could communicate was via email. I was threatened with violence if I made any attempt to see her in person.
I was never informed when she had given birth but found out that her ex-partner was back in her life.
Using Legal Aid in 2012 I attempted to pursue my rights for parental responsibility etc. Due to my doubts regarding the paternity based on her sudden change in behaviour and the re-introduction of her ex-partner I pushed for a DNA that I paid for, this confirmed I was the biological father. Legal aid ran out.
Since that date I complied with the CSA and have made payments including back dated payments, I continue to make these payments.
 
Due to threats from her ex-partner (emotionally unstable) and my ex-partner moving to Sheffield to an unknown address, I did not get to see my daughter until her 1st birthday.  
Between April 2013 and August 2015 I have seen my daughter a total of 14 times; having finally agreed to let me visit twice a month I always visited with a family member but my – ex-partner placed more and more restrictions of the visits until she finally stopped them all together – on the grounds that I was unreliable.
She demanded I sign a contract that was degrading, the days she required that I visit I could not commit to as work refused to give me those days off, she refused to take this into account.
I was told – if I really love my daughter I’d make it work, simply wasn’t possible at the time.
She now has a new partner and another child, put simply; she does not want me to play a role in my daughter’s life.
I have no criminal record
There is no police or social services involvement
There are no welfare issues
No issues with CSA
 
On a side note, as of September I will be working in a teaching role with vulnerable adults, this requires a DBS which only reinforces the point that I do not present a threat to my daughter’s safety.
Also, having obtained a copy of the birth certificate, the father section is blank.
 
Thanks again, sorry about the long back story.
I look forward to your response.
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#6
(08-05-2016, 02:49 PM)fhidjoasifn Wrote:
(07-30-2016, 08:42 PM)MarkR Wrote:
(07-30-2016, 07:18 PM)fhidjoasifn Wrote: Hello everyone
This is my first post.
So I have a 4 year old daughter and a DNA test proving I’m the biological father.
I have always paid CSA without fail but my name is not on the birth certificate so I do not have parental responsibility.
I am not allowed to see my daughter and ultimately I will have to go to court if I want to see her.
I can’t afford to go to court but what confuses me is the how I go about it if I want to go it alone without a solicitor.
Residential order – parental responsibility – name on the certificate.
Everyone seems to be an expert. I looked on the Direct Gov website and thought I understood everything I needed to do but after speaking to a solicitor for a free 30 minutes he dismissed everything I researched and said it would cost at least £5,000.
If you’re going to do it yourself, where do you start???

The £5000 is if you charge about £120-200 per hour as a Solicitor.

I am not, but I am going to give you some advise, on how to do this without paying anything except a Court Applicaiton Fee, and for any Supporting Documents you might need in your case.

PR is gained by being Married on the day of bith, or being Named on Birth Certificate, or in a formal way, in this case by Applying to Court for it.

I need to know why your not seeing the children, and the main reason I need to know is if
1, There is any Police or Social Services Involvement (If so I need to know what for and if anything is ongoing).l
2, Are the Children knowen to Social Services
3, Is there any Child Protection Or Welfare Issues.

There might be a case for PR and Child Arrangments bieng Ordered, will advise once the above known

 
 
Hello Mark, thank you for your response.
I’ll try to explain the back story as briefly as possibly.
My ex-partner ended the relationship 3 months into the pregnancy; she cut all contact and the only way we could communicate was via email. I was threatened with violence if I made any attempt to see her in person.
I was never informed when she had given birth but found out that her ex-partner was back in her life.
Using Legal Aid in 2012 I attempted to pursue my rights for parental responsibility etc. Due to my doubts regarding the paternity based on her sudden change in behaviour and the re-introduction of her ex-partner I pushed for a DNA that I paid for, this confirmed I was the biological father. Legal aid ran out.
Since that date I complied with the CSA and have made payments including back dated payments, I continue to make these payments.
 
Due to threats from her ex-partner (emotionally unstable) and my ex-partner moving to Sheffield to an unknown address, I did not get to see my daughter until her 1st birthday.  
Between April 2013 and August 2015 I have seen my daughter a total of 14 times; having finally agreed to let me visit twice a month I always visited with a family member but my – ex-partner placed more and more restrictions of the visits until she finally stopped them all together – on the grounds that I was unreliable.
She demanded I sign a contract that was degrading, the days she required that I visit I could not commit to as work refused to give me those days off, she refused to take this into account.
I was told – if I really love my daughter I’d make it work, simply wasn’t possible at the time.
She now has a new partner and another child, put simply; she does not want me to play a role in my daughter’s life.
I have no criminal record
There is no police or social services involvement
There are no welfare issues
No issues with CSA
 
On a side note, as of September I will be working in a teaching role with vulnerable adults, this requires a DBS which only reinforces the point that I do not present a threat to my daughter’s safety.
Also, having obtained a copy of the birth certificate, the father section is blank.
 
Thanks again, sorry about the long back story.
I look forward to your response.

The first thing you need to do is apply for PR, and at the same time, a Child Arrangements Order. As her whereabouts is not known, you can do this without the need for Mediation. You will in a form, and the court will locate her, using things like Police,HMRC, DVLA, Benefits Agency, HMRC or any other government or local authority controled agency.

The court will not look at what your ex wants, they will look at the child's right to see you.

As part of the process, at the first hearing you have to do a Position Statement. This is where you outline what your looking for. The min a court will give you is 4-6 hours a week, if the child is under 2, and once over 2 staying contact along the lines of Friday till Sunday, every 2 weeks and up to half school holidays. This will reduced you child support, as your providing for the child in that time. Currently, its people in your position why I have the petition on the governments website, as your ex is financially benefiting from you not seeing your child, without any good reason.

Your ex has no right to say what you do or do not do during contact, and a court order being made will override any contract you might of done in the past.

Its important you understand how the Judge will come to a decision. When your ex wants you to have the child does not come into this, the order will be made around your availability, so it might be on normal 2 week rota, or any other timetable, to fit in with what suits (for example if you have a work rota).

The Judge needs to ensure both parents get "quality" time.

With regard to school holidays, you have the right to ask for arrangements to be made in advance, typically 2 to 3 months, as this allows you to get a better price on hotels, flights etc if going on holiday. Also consider asking for a 2 week block in the summer, so your not stuck to a set depart/start of holiday date.

Any claims your ex makes about you being unreliable, you have the right to ask the Judge to get it set down for "Finding of Fact", where she proves it, or its disregarded by the Judge.
Posts made by me are my opinion and any factual information should be checked out. If you do not have a Solicitor, often your local CAB can get you some initial advice.
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#7
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