Thread Rating:
  • 0 Vote(s) - 0 Average
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
Ex and new partner
#1
I have been seeing a new partner for 4 months now, she wants to meet the kids, and I want them to meet her, i have full parental responsibility, but the ex is telling me I can’t do x y or z or I won’t see them, getting me really stressed out

Anybody else been in this position and how did it all work out?
Reply
#2
When the children are with you - who they meet and what they do is entirely upto you, as long as they are safe.

Do you have a child arrangements order?
If Yes - She still cant tell you who they meet and what they do without a C100 (Prohibited Steps Order)
If No - She still cant tell you who they meet and what they do without a C100 (Prohibited Steps Order) - and the critical fact here is you are BOTH on the same legal standing at this present time.

I had to sit through a coffee with my ex and my daughter, my new gf - her daughter and a friend .... that was f*cking awkward.

I wont do it again - when I have my daughter its OUR time, my ex can just sit there and be quiet whilst we have fun and do things - whatever my ex now wants, it is immaterial.
The opinions here are not that of Separated Dads, but merely a loving father who has been through the process and has come out the other side.
Reply
#3
Thanks,

She’s just trying to control everything, if I’m working and hire a sitter I’m a dead beat and binning kids off, she insists on video calling them when I have them, even though she didn’t bother when I didn’t have a partner, she’s ruining out time together.
Reply
#4
I would stop the video calling straight away. like you said didnt bother when you didnt have a partner so just doing it to disrupt your life and cause trouble.

It may be a good idea however to not introduce new partner just yet. I just had a thought its only 2 months until christmas, now is favorite time for ex partners to deny dads their contact and be awkward. If you are going to introduce your new partner i would do it straight after christmas . At least if she does stop contact or causes trouble you can deal with it then.

I not seen my kids on christmas day for last 5 years as my ex partner is spiteful and knows how hurtful it is .
Reply
#5
Sorry like Warwickshire1 says - bin the video calling. Tell her if she wants to video call them then put it in a C100 (the judge will probably bin her off at that point for being too controlling)

The time with you should be quality time and she should not be disrupting it - this is a silly degree of control that should not be happening.
The opinions here are not that of Separated Dads, but merely a loving father who has been through the process and has come out the other side.
Reply
#6
As all above have said the time your children have with you SHOULD not be dictated or interrupted by your ex partner, when i felt the time was right for both parties to be introduced it just happened... i couldn't careless what my ex thinks anymore, you just do whats right for you chief and your kids.
Reply
#7
Don’t ask. Don’t tell. Nothing to do with her never has been never will be.
Reply
#8
My ex partner moved out 3 weeks ago. Last weekend she took the kids for dinner at a bloke's house. He is the ex partner of her current best friend. His kids are friends with mine. He's also her weed dealer. He grows weed there. Not sure how I feel about it.
Reply
#9
Smoking weed is one thing. Growing and selling makes you a target for gangs and real criminals. Tell the coos
Reply
#10
(10-11-2018, 04:19 PM)Tamagoto Wrote: Tell the coos

Aye man - hoots tell the coo's Wink
The opinions here are not that of Separated Dads, but merely a loving father who has been through the process and has come out the other side.
Reply




Users browsing this thread: 1 Guest(s)