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I should've been here last night to vent, instead I completely lost it with her.
Not good, bad moment, lots of shit said, off guard, plot lost....... oh well.
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"I don't get angry... instead I analyse the arse off everything ... instead I get sad"
Yep, that is more like me too. But then again, I have been accused of being passive aggressive.
DandDad, hope you feel better now.
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I feel no better for it, I feel stupid in fact & I've handed her an upper hand card in my failing to deal with the situation.
It builds up for days/weeks, every time I feel I'm on top of it & not taking the bait I feel that I've won the day & kept my dignity. Then something happens, buttons pressed, all sense of sense goes out of the window & boom, I'm off like a verbal rocket.
Really not a good one but I guess she's certainly under no illusion now as to what I think of her.
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Funny, I used to be the opposite. It drove my Ex up the wall that she could not get a reaction from me.
I used to be like that naturally, but I admit it was kind of satisfying to have that effect on her, as deep down I was bottling up all my anger. So that was my revenge.
I feel none of those two approaches are very constructive.
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Merry Christmas Jim!
Not stupid & obvious at all, precise & to the point. I'm not one for new years resolutions but I'm making one this year to stay calm. I'll devise a method of realising when I'm going to go pop in advance of it & find a way of distracting myself from it & removing myself from the situation. I'm also not one for reading books but "The Chimp Paradox" is on my shopping list...
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The Chimp Paradox is an excellent book.