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Am I being daft & needy?
#1
Matched with a stunner on tinder who actually works in the same office I do.

Been messaging for like 5 weeks & met up for drinks twice in that time (including Friday where we got really close no sex or anything like that)

You might think twice in 5 weeks? Her gran died so didn’t want to push it meeting up.

So since Friday she’s cancelled another meet up that was supposed to be on Sunday (did look ill tbh).

Gone on holiday with her daughter & mother to a camp site & texting occasionally but not her usual self blaming the reception etc which I can gather.

I asked her yesterday to meet up at weekend but she’s busy, & then since then it’s been radio quiet from her despite looking at my messages.

Am I being daft & worrying about nothing? I feel the needy side of me is missing speaking to her (we text & speak on phone a lot)

Only reason I’m worrying is since splitting with the kids mum, two women I got close to we’re going quiet towards the end before calling it quits?

Should I leave her be & maybe drop a message later today?

I know she’s been on tinder since Friday, & had a needy ex begging her to get back.

Just wondering what to do?
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#2
My advice would be hold off and wait to see if she gets back to you. If someone wants to get in touch they will regardless of how busy they are. So either she is just in a bad place and needs some space to think considering her nan dying/drama with the ex/maybe she is confused about you etc... or she is simply not interested . Whichever the case the worst thing you can do is keep going after her being needy as that will push her away. Play it cool
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(06-05-2019, 07:45 AM)Tigre Wrote: My advice would be hold off and wait to see if she gets back to you. If someone wants to get in touch they will regardless of how busy they are. So either she is just in a bad place and needs some space to think considering her nan dying/drama with the ex/maybe she is confused about you etc... or she is simply not interested . Whichever the case the worst thing you can do is keep going after her being needy as that will push her away. Play it cool

I'm trying to.

Should i drop her a text later on just see how the days going? 

tbh when she has been texting me back its been like it usually is. 

Maybe i am overthinking things here
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#4
(06-05-2019, 07:45 AM)Tigre Wrote: My advice would be hold off and wait to see if she gets back to you. If someone wants to get in touch they will regardless of how busy they are. So either she is just in a bad place and needs some space to think considering her nan dying/drama with the ex/maybe she is confused about you etc... or she is simply not interested . Whichever the case the worst thing you can do is keep going after her being needy as that will push her away. Play it cool

What he said.

You really don't want to be pushing it by messaging her again if she's obviously reading your messages & not responding at the moment.

If she want's to pursue things with you, she'll get in touch.
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#5
The worst thing you can do when trying to win a woman’s heart is appear needy, it’s a massive turn off for them. From what you have said I am sure she knows your keen so reign it in now and go quiet and give her space.

In fact, if I was you I’d get back on Tinder and start again, it will help keep your mind occupied rather than reading too much into everything, and if you hear nothing back from her you won’t have wasted any time and hopefully your find someone else. If you do hear from her great stuff, see what happens.
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(06-05-2019, 01:47 PM)DanDad Wrote:
(06-05-2019, 07:45 AM)Tigre Wrote: My advice would be hold off and wait to see if she gets back to you. If someone wants to get in touch they will regardless of how busy they are. So either she is just in a bad place and needs some space to think considering her nan dying/drama with the ex/maybe she is confused about you etc... or she is simply not interested . Whichever the case the worst thing you can do is keep going after her being needy as that will push her away. Play it cool

What he said.

You really don't want to be pushing it by messaging her again if she's obviously reading your messages & not responding at the moment.

If she want's to pursue things with you, she'll get in touch.

maybe so, i have refrained from messaging all day so far but it is becoming harder.

Especially seeing as she's been on Snapchat with her daughter (yeah unfortunately for me she's on all my social media accounts)

Decided i will drop a short text in the evening, will of been well over 24 hours since we last spoke

(06-05-2019, 02:11 PM)Goetia Wrote: The worst thing you can do when trying to win a woman’s heart is appear needy, it’s a massive turn off for them. From what you have said I am sure she knows your keen so reign it in now and go quiet and give her space.

In fact, if I was you I’d get back on Tinder and start again, it will help keep your mind occupied rather than reading too much into everything, and if you hear nothing back from her you won’t have wasted any time and hopefully your find someone else. If you do hear from her great stuff, see what happens.

Very true, I don't want to appear needy.  

Tbh on our night out friday i stayed and chilled whilst she was mingling with people she knows, getting attention off other blokes.  

Tbh i reckon your right, i probably will have a look again on tinder this evening.  

Theres 20 odd likes on my profile that i would love to see who it is, but dont really want to pay.
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(06-05-2019, 02:14 PM)Tom_W88 Wrote: Tbh on our night out friday i stayed and chilled whilst she was mingling with people she knows, getting attention off other blokes.  

Tbh i reckon your right, i probably will have a look again on tinder this evening.  

I don’t know either of you so I could be well off the ball here, but maybe because you didn’t join her in socialising with those she knew is why she’s gone a bit cold, and the attention from other blokes has made her think twice.

Regardless or not I do think your on the verge of being needy, especially with the comment about messaging her this evening. I'm not saying it to upset you, so please accept my apologies if it does, but if I was unsure about a woman and she kept on at me even though I wasnt replying to messages, I would be thinking bye bye crazy lady.

Plus whenever I have been with someone I get far more attention from women then when i'm single, so women clearly prefer a challenge to Mr Needy lol. Keep your distance fella
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(06-05-2019, 02:51 PM)Goetia Wrote:
(06-05-2019, 02:14 PM)Tom_W88 Wrote: Tbh on our night out friday i stayed and chilled whilst she was mingling with people she knows, getting attention off other blokes.  

Tbh i reckon your right, i probably will have a look again on tinder this evening.  

I don’t know either of you so I could be well off the ball here, but maybe because you didn’t join her in socialising with those she knew is why she’s gone a bit cold, and the attention from other blokes has made her think twice.

Regardless or not I do think your on the verge of being needy, especially with the comment about messaging her this evening. I'm not saying it to upset you, so please accept my apologies if it does, but if I was unsure about a woman and she kept on at me even though I wasnt replying to messages, I would be thinking bye bye crazy lady.

Plus whenever I have been with someone I get far more attention from women then when i'm single, so women clearly prefer a challenge to Mr Needy lol. Keep your distance fella

Oh i was socialising with her friends whilst she off dancing around with others.  

meant to say i wasn't following her around.
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#9
Treat her mean, keep her keen as the old saying goes.

If she wants to get in touch, she will. Don't push it and as has already been said, play it cool.

My GF and I split for a short period of time twice so far in the 14 months so we've been together, and both times it's been aggravated by my needy side. Since we got back together again the most recent time I've totally backed down and chilled out and you know what? It's been so good since then. Don't keep messaging. When she's ready to reply she will.
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(06-05-2019, 03:26 PM)Gra76 Wrote: Treat her mean, keep her keen as the old saying goes.

If she wants to get in touch, she will. Don't push it and as has already been said, play it cool.

My GF and I split for a short period of time twice so far in the 14 months so we've been together, and both times it's been aggravated by my needy side. Since we got back together again the most recent time I've totally backed down and chilled out and you know what? It's been so good since then. Don't keep messaging. When she's ready to reply she will.

Hope it works out for you fella Smile

I jumped in and text her, she text back within 10 mins saying she was having a break off her phone as she is always on it.

So i paced myself replying back to her Smile
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