07-29-2020, 02:08 PM
(This post was last modified: 07-29-2020, 03:07 PM by Charlie7000.)
So after a lot of emailing and so on I got son here for a week at the beginning of the summer holidays after his absence during lockdown. Ex is basically saying in emails the order doesn't work for her any more she can't comply and says go back to solicitors. So she is continuing with the stance of - son can do what he likes, it's up to him. Then tells him what to text me! She has taken her holidays over my defined weeks. I was more concerned with just getting him here at the moment rather than going back to court - she clearly wants to push me into going to court again so she can apply to vary again and get the recital about son's wishes put into the order.
So I agreed to her having 3 weeks over my two weeks and have now written to arrange for him to come for the last two weeks. Same excuse - she has no idea what his plans are but she knows he has plans with friends and he is planning to come to mine for some time before going back to school and she will get him to contact me.
He has no choice whatsover and we all know that. In the past when I've asked him if he's fine with xyz weeks here and then said to ex - he's fine with that - he's come back with a sore ear and saying he doesn't want that. So he has no choice. He is also slipping into a bit of an alienated mode when over there - and he's hormonal on top.
Basically if I do nothing there is no longer a court order - she gives me token bits of time (not enough) with son sending the message saying when he is coming. Because of his age (he'll be 13 in 6 months) I am not sure I would have much of a chance in court - especially when he will say whatever she tells him to say.
So not sure what to do. If I go back to court it would have to be for residency saying she is opting out of all parenting and I would ensure he had healthy relationships with both parents. But I honestly don't think I can face the whole procedure for months and honestly don't know if I have much of a chance with Cafcass involved - and son will say whatever she tells him to say. I had two court hearings last year, a parent die and my other parent at death's door at the moment.
So I agreed to her having 3 weeks over my two weeks and have now written to arrange for him to come for the last two weeks. Same excuse - she has no idea what his plans are but she knows he has plans with friends and he is planning to come to mine for some time before going back to school and she will get him to contact me.
He has no choice whatsover and we all know that. In the past when I've asked him if he's fine with xyz weeks here and then said to ex - he's fine with that - he's come back with a sore ear and saying he doesn't want that. So he has no choice. He is also slipping into a bit of an alienated mode when over there - and he's hormonal on top.
Basically if I do nothing there is no longer a court order - she gives me token bits of time (not enough) with son sending the message saying when he is coming. Because of his age (he'll be 13 in 6 months) I am not sure I would have much of a chance in court - especially when he will say whatever she tells him to say.
So not sure what to do. If I go back to court it would have to be for residency saying she is opting out of all parenting and I would ensure he had healthy relationships with both parents. But I honestly don't think I can face the whole procedure for months and honestly don't know if I have much of a chance with Cafcass involved - and son will say whatever she tells him to say. I had two court hearings last year, a parent die and my other parent at death's door at the moment.