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What Happens If My Ex Keeps the Children Without My Consent?

By: Abigail Taylor - Updated: 26 Mar 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
Child Abduction Parental Responsibility

The thought of your ex partner taking your children is the worst nightmare of many parents, and so if it happens, understandably it is a very emotional and stressful time. Many people turn to the police for help to return their children, but how much the police can help is very dependent upon your personal situation. If both parents have Parental Responsibility and one parent is keeping the children against the other's wishes, the police CANNOT help, even if the children do not normally live with them. However, if the parent does not have Parental Responsibility, the police will be able to intervene.

So what is Parental Responsibility?

The Children Act 1989 defines 'Parental Responsibility' as 'all the rights, duties, powers, responsibilities and authority which by law a parent of a child has in relation to the child'.In plain English, this means that you have responsibility to:

  • house the child
  • protect and maintain the child
  • make decisions about their education
  • name the child
  • consent to any medical treatment for the child

Mothers automatically have Parental Responsibility as they are listed on the child's birth certificate. A father will automatically have Parental Responsibility if he was married to the mother at the time of the birth or was listed on the birth certificate. Alternatively, both parents can sign a Parental Responsibility Agreement and register it with the courts, or more commonly, a father can apply to the courts for Parental Responsibility.

To apply to the courts, you will need to fill in form C1 found at Gov.UK - Forms and Guidance. A court fee of £215 is also payable though you may be able to get assistance with this if you receive benefits or have a low income.

But what if both parents have Parental Responsibility?

The father of my son has decided not to return my child. He has access every week, but we had an argument about what time he should return my child and he said he wasn't going to return him as he has parental responsibility and he has found out he can legally keep our son. I called the police, but they said they can do nothing about it as he is named on the birth certificate and therefore has PR. I am beside myself with worry. It has been four days now and my ex is still refusing to return him. My son is only four and has never been away from me longer than a day. I can't eat or sleep and I am beside myself with worry. I just want my little boy back.

If both parents have Parental Responsibility then the police cannot intervene to take the child off one parent and give them to the other; the police cannot choose between parents, that is the remit of the courts.

In this situation, if you are concerned about being able to see the children, or, if you think that the children should live with you, you can apply for a Child Arrangement Order.

Note: You may have heard about Contact Orders or Residence Orders. A Child Arrangement Order replaces these older orders but those with Contact or Residence Orders need not re-apply. Also confusingly often those in practice will still refer to (for example) obtaining a Residence Order when applying for a Child Arrangement Order.]

What is a Child Arrangement Order?

This court order determines where your child lives, which relatives they have contact with, and what type of contact (e.g. in person, phone calls, or letters). Anyone with Parental Responsibility can apply for an Order.

To apply to the courts, you will need to fill in form C100 found at Gov.UK - Forms and Guidance. A court fee of £215 is also payable though you may be able to get assistance with this if you receive benefits or have a low income.

I am a father of two children six and three. When I went round to pick them up last week I found my ex collapsed on the sofa through drink and drugs and her ex partner also high on drugs. My daughter and son were not dressed and my daughter's nappy had not been changed for hours and she was playing with food in the dog's bowl. I have heard they are not being fed or looked after properly and the Social Services are looking into this.

Ordinarily, the court will give notice of the hearing to both parties so that they can attend and give their side of the story. However if you think that your child / children may be in danger, then you may be able to apply for an emergency without notice hearing which will be much quicker than a full "with notice hearing". However be aware that this will only be a temporary solution and that any without notice hearing will be followed shortly after by a full "with notice" hearing in which the court order may be changed. If you are considering this option, seek professional advice or contact your local Citizens Advice Bureau for some free assistance.

If you can show that your former partner is not able or appropriate to look after your child / children, you may be able to get an order stating that the children should live with you. However you will need to evidence this.

Below are easy ways to obtain this evidence:

  • Take photographs of the condition of your children when you see them (e.g. unwashed / dirty clothes / dirty nappy)
  • Video or photograph your interaction with your former partner when going to collect your children, including any condition of their house as you can see it from areas into which you are invited / the doorway. However remember that you must not trespass into the property.
  • Take a witness with you when you go to try to collect the children (e.g. a family friend or if possible an independent person such as a local church minister).

Note that the courts are very unlikely to not award at least contact to a parent, even if they are inappropriate to look after a child. However this contact may be indirect, such as by letter, or supervised at a contact centre.

Remember that whilst the police cannot take a child away from a parent with Parental Responsibility, they are able to intervene and remove a child if there is a real risk to life. If you are concerned about a real and immediate threat to your child's safety, speak to your local police force and social services.

If you are unsure about your rights, speak to your local Citizens Advice Bureau who will be able to provide you with free assistance. The courts may be able to help, but this can be a lengthy process and you will need to evidence any concerns. It is therefore important to know your options before seeking a court order.

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Azza - Your Question:
I have a genuine concern for the welfare of my daughter due to use of cannabis in her mothers house. She becomes very aggressive when she hasn't got the funds for her habit. My daughter has disclosed information about her mum being aggressive/violent towards her(social services are aware) Can I legally remove my daughter from her mums care.

Our Response:
Much depends upon whether you have parental responsibility of your child, please see link here. However, it is never a good idea to 'remove' a child from the other parent unless there are safeguarding issues, meaning unless necessary, as this type of action can backfire long term. Likewise, not all substance misusing parents are considered to be putting their child at risk. In fact, many children of substance misusing parents receive good parenting, stability and have all their needs fully met. What you have to consider before you take this action is whether your child's own needs are being met, or whether you think your child is genuinely at risk, and/or is receiving the level and quality of care that they need. Therefore, legal advice may help here. You may also wish to seek some further advice from NSPCC here who you can talk to directly about your concerns.
SeparatedDads - 27-Mar-17 @ 10:13 AM
I have a genuine concern for the welfare of my daughter due to use of cannabis in her mothers house. She becomes very aggressive when she hasn't got the funds for her habit. My daughter has disclosed information about her mum being aggressive/violent towards her(social services are aware) Can I legally remove my daughter from her mums care.
Azza - 26-Mar-17 @ 3:32 AM
I cannot see a judge saying for stability it has to be once a week on the same day when your ex works shifts... You both work but its not such a problem surely to organise one day a week that is convenient for you both. Mountains from molehills springs to mind
Jo - 17-Mar-17 @ 6:03 PM
Hi there, me and my wife have been married for slightly over 5 years, last year she got pregnant and gave birth to a wonderful boy, in December her sister came over from abroad to support with the child for a few months, however since the sister came over our relationship is falling apart, all of a sudden when i was at work she text's me to inform me that they are moving 300 miles away to some friends, we do have a mortgage and i am worried that she will not pay anymore, i alone can not possibly pay the mortgage.
Blind - 25-Feb-17 @ 3:31 PM
I've taken my daughter put of her mothers home this morning, she has been under social services child protection and has signed contracts stating until they deem fit she is not to allow men near our daughter due to the nature of her previous relationships, I have stood by her side throughout until today as I can not stand by and allow my daughter to be taken by social because my ex is going against them. Have I done the right thing ? I never wanted it to get to this as she can be a wonderful mother. But I can't sit back and watch her screw our daughter up through her own ignorance.
jay - 25-Feb-17 @ 10:43 AM
Ben - Your Question:
I am wondering if I have any legal right to know the adress where my now ex moved to with my daughter? We haven't gone through the courts yet but she won't even give me the adress so I can mail stuff to our child for her birthday or anything. We split just a few months ago. I have been begging her to let me see my daughter, she won't even let me call or send me pics/keep me updated.I am trying to get funds for court so I can see her again!

Our Response:
The court can put a trace on your child to allow you to apply to court for access to your child via a C4 form ( which is an application for an order for disclosure of a child's whereabouts). However, if your ex still wishes to keep her address confidential during and after the court process, she has every right.
SeparatedDads - 22-Feb-17 @ 12:46 PM
I am wondering if I have any legal right to know the adress where my now ex moved to with my daughter? We haven't gone through the courts yet but she won't even give me the adress so I can mail stuff to our child for her birthday or anything. We split just a few months ago. I have been begging her to let me see my daughter, she won't even let me call or send me pics/keep me updated...I am trying to get funds for court so I can see her again!
Ben - 21-Feb-17 @ 8:29 PM
smunior - Your Question:
I have two children to the same woman, when I say two I mean I have parental responsibility for one (who I have raised since birth and is now age 6) and a daughter to whom I am paternal. She has stopped me from seeing them due to her having a personal grievance with myself. Is there any way I could go about this with avoidance of the courts due to a lack of funds from being a live alone single parent on minimum wage. Any advice would be great

Our Response:
Please see link: Mediation: What is it and is it For Me? here . The courts will expect you to have considered/attempted mediation before you can apply. Please also see link here regarding cost. If the matter has to go to court and if you cannot afford legal fees, you can self litigate, please see link here . If you’re on a low income, or if you’re on certain benefits and don’t have much in savings, you might be able to get money off your court or tribunal fee, see link here. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 21-Feb-17 @ 11:36 AM
I have two children to the same woman, when i say two i mean i have parental responsibility for one (who i have raised since birth and is now age 6) and a daughter to whom i am paternal. She has stopped me from seeing them due to her having a personal grievance with myself. Is there any way i could go about this with avoidance of the courts due to a lack of funds from being a live alone single parent on minimum wage. Any advice would be great
smunior - 20-Feb-17 @ 11:36 AM
peg - Your Question:
I have had my grandson living with me from the day he was born until about a year ago so he has been with me for 3 years he is 4 know.my son and his mother there are not together she moved to another town and the baby lives with his grandma over there.the mother don't even take care of him.i had the baby this weekend he told us that a man that the mother lived with hit him all the time.What can I do the dad will not get a job and help out.so I have to do what is best for the baby.

Our Response:
Please see the NSPCC link here where you can speak with someone informally in the first instance who can advise you.
SeparatedDads - 24-Jan-17 @ 10:04 AM
I have had my grandson living with me from the day he was born until about a year ago so he has been with me for 3 years he is 4 know.my son and his mother there are not together she moved to another town and the baby lives with his grandma over there.the mother don't even take care of him.i had the baby this weekend he told us that a man that the mother lived with hit him all the time.What can I do the dad will not get a job and help out.so I have to do what is best for the baby.
peg - 23-Jan-17 @ 12:24 AM
Perry - Your Question:
I m divorced and have a child recently been to the court for child arrangements. At the court judge clearly said that for stability and safety of child father should have him once a week and it has to be the same day every week. To which I agreed but my ex couldn't provide the day as he said he needs to look at his shift so now my ex came up with saying that he cannot have our child every week the same day instead giving me for example " Monday this week Thursday next week and Wednesday week after.my problem is I work too but I always try to manage everything. I want him to have my child every week the same day.no changes. Now what can I do to force him to have a child the same day every week? He is ignoring court order.saying that he said at the court that he will give a day ? He is giving every week different days.Please help me

Our Response:
If the court specified your ex is to have your child on the same day every week, then he is breaching the court order by not abiding by it. Therefore, please see link: Breach of Contact or Residence Order: What to Do, here which should help answer your question.
SeparatedDads - 5-Jan-17 @ 10:36 AM
I m divorced and have a child recently been to the court for child arrangements. At the court judge clearly said that for stability and safety of child father should have him once a week and it has to be the same day every week. To which I agreed but my ex couldn't provide the day as he said he needs to look at his shift so now my ex came up with saying that he cannot have our child every week the same day instead giving me for example " Monday this week Thursday next week and Wednesday week after...my problem is I work too but I always try to manage everything. I want him to have my child every week the same day...no changes. Now what can I do to force him to have a child the same day every week? He is ignoring court order...saying that he said at the court that he will give a day ? He is giving every week different days...Please help me
Perry - 4-Jan-17 @ 10:56 AM
In need of advice. Me and my ex split last year and he has made it impossible for us to parent together. He took me to court for access to see his daughter even though he was having her every weekend. He now has her every other weekend and her permanent residence is with me. He told the court he doesn't want her in the week!! Anyway after she comes home to me constantly with dirty nappies and her clothes screwed up, bumps and bruises on her, tonight she comes home with a massive lump on her forehead and when I react to it (she was fast asleep in his arms and I swore in shock) he screams at me that I'm a bad parent and he's taking her off me and he'll see me in court?!?! Can he take her from me?
LouB - 1-Jan-17 @ 7:08 PM
Hi my partner has been allowed to have his 11 yr old son for Xmas and new year, his son is saying he doesn't want to go home as he is left mon-fri on his own from 3.30pm till 9pm also he's told us his mum is horrible to him. He wants to live here with his dad, me and my 4 children what are my partners rights?? He is on the birth certificate too! Thanks
Lauradavid15 - 27-Dec-16 @ 5:35 PM
Hi, my ex girlfriend left me the beginning of November, taking our 3 children, 1 9year old, 1 5year old, and 1 16month old, she is refusing me all contact, my oldest child has a mobile, we were in touch using that for a while but the last 10 days it hasn't been switched on, I'm out of my mind with worry, my name is on all their birth certificates, what can I do?
Myexisabitch - 24-Dec-16 @ 10:02 AM
jo - Your Question:
Hi my partner was given the right from social services that his son is better off in his care coz the babys mother left them and didnt get in contact with her son for over 7 weeks since then she have been seeing him twice a week and he was gunna give her more because she asked she had a child before the baby and her mother got full custody of him everything was going great my daughter and I have been living with my partner and the baby for a yr and a half and out of no where she takes him as normal and then phones saying your not having him or seeing him ever again he got his school and his family all around him at home can she just take him and not give him back plzz help we r all heart broken and my daughter is only 5 and now thinks someone is going to take her from home aswell plzz can she do this ?? Oh yh she dont know what time his school is or got any thing for him to go to school im worried hes going to go backwards in her care coz she always go out every weekend 3 nights and always come ome being in a fight and police have had to intervine

Our Response:
Your partner would need to speak with social services again. If he has had his child living with him for a period of time then he may be able to apply for a child arrangement order through the courts which would determine where the child should live on a permanent basis. If a court order was made whereby your partner became the resident-carer, then his ex cannot take your step-son away and if she tried, as suggested in the article, the police can get involved to return your stepchild home.
SeparatedDads - 5-Dec-16 @ 3:01 PM
Hi my partner was given the right from social services that his son is better off in his care coz the babys mother left them and didnt get in contact with her son for over 7 weeks since then she have been seeing him twice a week and he was gunna give her more because she asked she had a child before the baby and her mother got full custody of him everything was going great my daughter and I have been living with my partner and the baby for a yr and a half and out of no where she takes him as normal and then phones saying your not having him or seeing him ever again he got his school and his family all around him at home can she just take him and not give him back plzz help we r all heart broken and my daughter is only 5 and now thinks someone is going to take her from home aswell plzz can she do this ?? Oh yh she dont know what time his school is or got any thing for him to go to school im worried hes going to go backwards in her care coz she always go out every weekend 3 nights and always come ome being in a fight and police have had to intervine
jo - 3-Dec-16 @ 10:19 PM
poppy - Your Question:
Hi,My boyfriend and his ex have 3 kids (2 age 12, and 1 age 9), he has the parental responsibility and we have them 3 days a week.We want to go away for 10 days after Christmas in December and she is treathing him that if he will go she will take Meagan action to limit his contact with kids. As according to her going away after Christmas is quite " not want to see your kids growing up".He is A grate father, doesn't drink nor smoke, provides for kids and his ex and clubs etc.My question is : can she actually limit his contact if there is absolutely no threat toKids safety or well being whilst they are with us?Many thanks,

Our Response:
Yes, his ex can make the decision to halt access for any reason, but your boyfriend also has the right to take the matter to court if she does, please see link here . There are no legal rules to say whether access should or should not take place prior to court. It is hoped that parents can make an ongoing amicable arrangement between themselves.
SeparatedDads - 29-Nov-16 @ 2:48 PM
Hi, My boyfriend and his ex have 3 kids (2 age 12, and 1 age 9),he has the parental responsibility and we have them 3 days a week. We want to go away for 10 days after Christmas in December and she is treathing him that if he will go she will take Meagan action to limit his contact with kids. As according to her going away after Christmas is quite " not want to see your kids growing up". He is A grate father, doesn't drink nor smoke, provides for kids and his ex and clubs etc. My question is : can she actually limit his contact if there is absolutely no threat to Kids safety or well being whilst they are with us? Many thanks,
poppy - 29-Nov-16 @ 11:33 AM
What are my opinions as a father of a dual citizen child who mother is waiting for a green card to come back into the US but is refusing to allow my daughter to come visit since she's not allowed in even tho my daughter was born here. My wife took her without my consent to Scotland. She's saying I have no say in my daughters life at all. Don't know what to do but any ideas on what one should do.
Never - 5-Nov-16 @ 3:26 AM
robo - Your Question:
Himy ex girlfriend is refusing me to see my 2 year old son, I am on my sons birth certificate. We have separated for approximately 6 weeks, some weeks she will allow me to have him others she will not, and I have now not seen my son for 2 weeks. Although she keeps sending photos of him and ringing with me so I can hear my sons voice then putting the phone down. She is living in our house which I am paying the mortgage for but have now stopped all bills. My ex girlfriend is a heavy cannabis user and is on strong medication for her anxiety. I want to remove my son from her care, but am scared that this will back fire on me! she is also claiming that I am violent towards her when the truth is she is violent towards me. can you help?

Our Response:
If your ex is refusing access, please see link: When Your Ex-Partner Denies You Access, here, which may help you further. If there are accusations flying around, you may wish to keep away and limit your contact to picking up your son only. If you cannot afford the legal fees of taking your ex to court, you can self-litigate, please see link here. Removing your child from the other parent's care is never the best idea (unless absolutely necessary). You may wish to seek some legal advice in order to explore your options. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 4-Nov-16 @ 2:00 PM
Hi my ex girlfriend is refusing me to see my 2 year old son, I am on my sons birth certificate.We have separated for approximately 6 weeks, some weeks she will allow me to have him others she will not, and I have now not seen my son for 2 weeks.Although she keeps sending photos of him and ringing with me so I can hear my sons voice then putting the phone down. She is living in our house which I am paying the mortgage for but have now stopped all bills.My ex girlfriend is a heavy cannabis user and is on strong medication for her anxiety.I want to remove my son from her care, but am scared that this will back fire on me!she is also claiming that I am violent towards her when the truth is she is violent towards me.can you help?
robo - 3-Nov-16 @ 7:38 PM
Hi all please respond quickly I don't know what to do. Me and my ex have been through alot recently with her family on her back and her medical problems it's been alot of stress for the both of us, especially now that social services are involved. I feel like I have done nothing but have her back but there is so much uncertainty I really don't know what to do anymore. Every day she goes from yes to no and from staying to going... I have already lost our Child once due to missalegations to social services which she has admitted to but I cant bare the uncertaincy of not knowing if I will be able to see our baby again. With her unstablility of not knowing what she wants or not and loving me and hating me, I cannot ask her civilly if we can separate and be amicable for our child's sake. She threatens to move away and says she will never let me see my child unless it's under supervision... I'm not a bad person I love them both but I really don't know what to do. Can she even do this? I just want to see our baby and be there for her.....What can I do, I am on the birth certificate as the farther. Somebody please help me
Bigdaddy - 25-Oct-16 @ 10:21 AM
Coscobian- Your Question:
Hi all, please please help. Long story short, me and my partner have had a lot of stress this year, lost jobs, financial problems, miscarriage. Tension have been high. Hot and cold emotionations, one day she'd be making plans for our future, next day she'd be leaving, this going on for months. I've been primary care for our 4 year old son, his been like a shadow, as she wanted to get back to work. As I'd been the bread winner for other children (not to her) id felt I'd I like to do it. On Thursday we had a argument about an indiscretion she'd had in the past. Given the "hot, cold, hot, cold, staying, going, staying going" on my way out of the house to carm down on going out I said "know what do what you want, stay, go just do something" On return house was empty and the child had been taken out of school, bank emptied in Bury (about an hour ish drive). Am not sure where my son is, but have my suspension. One thing is his still at school. Then, Friday the non suprising police visit, made up story about abuse, 10 hours in a cell, no charges. Has what she's done legal? What can I do to get our son back in the family home? Feel totally let down by the system

Our Response:
I'm sorry to hear this. It is difficult to advise as taking your child back without consent is never a good idea. I suggest you seek legal advice and apply to court for residency of your son as the primary carer. However, it's not a short process. When applying to court, you can apply for contact to your son via a C100 form and if you still do not know where your ex lives, then you will have to also fill out a C4 form which is application to the court for an order for the disclosure of a child's whereabouts. This will allow the court papers to be served on your ex to allow you to bring the matter to court. The article; When Your Ex-Partner Denies You Access, here, will help also. Should you not be able to afford the hefty legal fees of court representation, you can self-litigate, please see article here. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 18-Oct-16 @ 10:20 AM
Hi all, please please help. Long story short, me and my partner have had a lot of stress this year, lost jobs, financial problems, miscarriage. Tension have been high. Hot and cold emotionations, one day she'd be making plans for ourfuture, next day she'd be leaving, this going on for months. I've been primary care for our 4 year old son, his been like a shadow, as she wanted to get back to work. As I'd been the bread winner for other children (not to her) id felt I'd I like to do it. On Thursday we had a argument about an indiscretion she'd had in the past. Given the "hot, cold, hot,cold,staying, going, staying going"on my way out of the house to carm down on going out I said "know what do what you want, stay,go just do something" On return house was empty and the child had beentaken out of school, bank emptied in Bury (about an hour ish drive). Am not sure where my son is, but have my suspension. One thing is his still at school. Then, Friday the non suprising police visit, made up story about abuse, 10 hours in a cell, no charges. Has what she's done legal? What can I do to get our son back in the family home? Feel totally let down by the system
Coscobian - 17-Oct-16 @ 6:53 AM
In reply to LiamD, this sounds just like me. I split up from my ex 9 and a half years ago and have 2 children aged 9 and 12. Every time we had an argument or i got a new partner, she would cause a problem then use the kids against me (i.e. get them to say something they have told me they never meant or get them to play up for my partner). Ive been with my fiance for 3 and a half years now and my ex has caused hell over the last 2 years...stopping me time and again from seeing my kids and then changing her mind a few weeks later. Ive had many reasons to be concerned (like my son arriving at mine with her anti depressant tablets he said she gave him then she made him say he lied so that she could worm out of it or a current partner who occasionally smashes things up out of anger but she worms out by saying he would never hit them or even worse how his son touched my daughter but they wormed out of that saying it was his adhd or how they kept my sons facebook up with all his pictures in when a peodophile tried to groom him so that they could find him and beat him up knowing the risk his that my sons images are now very visable...i could list forever) yet my partner shows concerns for my children and my ex causes havoc...im back in the same place ive been a dozen times before where im stopped again but my ex will come calling when she needs money or wants money (states its for the kids but then buys fifa and a takeaway...and the kids state it never goes on them)...cannot stop giving it her as its my duty even if i know its not going on them...im now 120 miles away from them during the week because of my work so ive got little chance in court but im still battling on...just keep going and never give up as i do believe karma will bite them one day.
Craig - 29-Sep-16 @ 8:18 PM
LiamD - Your Question:
Me and my wife separated 14 months ago, we have a 2 year old daughter lily, I had regular access every weekend up until I met my new partner in December 15. Things started getting harder and harder for me to see lily, in August 16 me and the ex had a big argument about my current partner and I haven't been allowed to see lily since. It's nearly 2 months now and all I want to do is see my little girl. I tried mediation 3 weeks ago, but the ex ignored the letters and calls. I'm ready now to apply to court, but I have a question. My daughter stays 99% of the time with her grandparents (ex in laws) am I within my rights as I have parental responsibilty to turn up and take lily from them when she's in there care?! Or will this make it harder to get access in court. Any advice would be appreciated!

Our Response:
It is never a good idea to take your child without the consent of the primary carer (in this case your daughter's mother). What may seem like a good idea at the time as a way to assert your parental responsibility, can backfire enormously. The court regards that any parent must act in what it thinks is in the best interests of their children and taking a child without requesting permission is not. Firstly, it would give your ex the ammunition to say you can't be trusted and/or if the police were involved, then this would not look good on you either. Your best option is to take the matter directly to court and make a good case for yourself. Your ex has no right to stop you seeing your child because you have a new partner unless she can prove your new partner is a bad influence or in some way may be harmful to your child. The courts do want fathers to have a relationship with their child and you are going through the correct stages. You just need to keep rational about how you approach your case. Reading our Separated Dads pages should help, as will the forum if you need advice.
SeparatedDads - 27-Sep-16 @ 11:53 AM
Me and my wife separated 14 months ago, we have a 2 year old daughter lily, I had regular access every weekend up until I met my new partner in December 15. Things started getting harder and harder for me to see lily, in August 16 me and the ex had a big argument about my current partner and I haven't been allowed to see lily since. It's nearly 2 months now and all I want to do is see my little girl. I tried mediation 3 weeks ago, but the ex ignored the letters and calls. I'm ready now to apply to court, but I have a question. My daughter stays 99% of the time with her grandparents (ex in laws) am I within my rights as I have parental responsibilty to turn up and take lily from them when she's in there care?! Or will this make it harder to get access in court. Any advice would be appreciated!
LiamD - 26-Sep-16 @ 3:26 PM
My ex continues to stop me from seeing my kids I have fought for a year now and starting to feel like I should give up as she intends to keep trying to get me in trouble with the police with lies in have not seen my kids since January 2015 due to this and when I'm in court over them she brings up the domestic violence she tried to have me done for that I will note to everyone I was acquitted of all allegations and found not guilty how ever she still uses this and the court always take it in to account any help would be appreciated
Stuart - 22-Sep-16 @ 3:27 PM
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