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My Positive Experience of Cafcass

By: John Rowlinson - Updated: 13 Oct 2016 | comments*Discuss
 
Cafcass Split Ex Shared Residency

Stuart tells us about his split from his wife and subsequent experiences with Cafcass:

I'm writing this on Christmas Eve, sat at my PC with just a daft German Shepherd for company. It's the first Christmas in eight years that I haven't heard the buzz of excited children in the house. Don't feel sorry for me, though – life is good and full of endless opportunity and laughter. I wanted to write this, as it's a story of hope and proof that, sometimes, the system can be fair on dads.

Jeremy Clarkson ended my marriage, not literally mind you. I was reading his column in the Sunday Times and he was saying that he felt the most tragic thing, in his opinion, would be to get to the end of life and be full of regret; regret that you didn't make the decisions you should have, however difficult they may have been.

I looked across the breakfast table at my wife, the career woman driven by status and wealth, and my two beautiful daughters who I adore more than life.

The thought of being treated with indifference and getting old with nothing in common to share and with no laughter was too much. Days later, I ended my marriage after 10 years. At that moment, I unleashed bitterness and anger the likes of which is the stuff of fiction.

Hands-on Dad

The one thing that marrying a woman with a career gave me was the opportunity to be a hands-on dad. My wife went back to work when our first daughter was just three months old and, with the support of an excellent employer, I reduced my hours to three days a week for five years and spent the other two days a week with my daughters. I was privileged to see their first steps, teach them to swim and take them to toddler groups – usually as a token dad among mums, which was an experience in itself! It was precious time that I cherished. When they went to school, I went back to full-time employment but worked from home so that I would see them at each end of the day.

My wife, even though we had discussed many times that her attitude towards work over family would destroy our marriage, claimed to be devastated and asked for time to come to terms with what was happening. I moved into the guest suite as, with practically every penny we had tied up in the house, I wasn't in a position to move out, nor would I, as my children needed me there.

Divorce Application

Three weeks on, I noticed my marriage certificate was missing and then received a letter from my solicitor telling me that my wife was applying for a non-molestation order through the courts which, if successful, would evict me from my own home and limit my access to my children. Oh yes, there was also a petition for divorce based on my supposed unreasonable behaviour. She had obviously had been very busy.

There was no point in contesting the divorce as the court order was thrown out and my wife's Barrister warned about bringing this type of unfounded non-sense to his court. This gave me the first indication that perhaps the courts aren't as pro-mothers as I had previously believed.

There followed a sustained attempt to damage both my reputation and any chance I had of a fair residency agreement for my daughters. I had, after all, spent more time with my daughters when they were pre-school than my wife, and believed that it would be best for them, and what they would want, for an even 50/50 split of time between the two of us.

To give you a feel for how bad it got, I spent 10 hours in a very small police cell following an outrageous allegation, which again, was found to be fabricated and, amazingly, it took the CPS to make a decision that I had no case to answer.

Cafcass Recommendations

There were two things that were pivotal in the result of the residency. A Good Barrister, specialising in only family law, and the involvement of Cafcass, the court's advisory body that make recommendations based primarily on interviews with all family members.

I have heard people speak unfavourably of Cafcass but my experience was excellent. They cut through all the emotion and the "he did this, she did that" accusations, and were completely focused on what was best for my children. As part of the process they interviewed my wife and I together to see if there was common ground for negotiation. She offered every other weekend and one evening a week for tea, which she claimed was "generous".

I stuck to what I believed and said that 50/50 was what the children would want, and that any less than that was not acceptable. Over three months we then went to a full report, which meant interviews separately for both my wife and I and the children, who are just eight and six. The views of the older child were seen as very important as she was old enough to have her views considered by the court. My daughter was adamant that an even split was what she wanted as it would be "fair".

The Cafcass Report duly arrived and recommended an even split of time between parents – one week on, one week off during both holiday and term time. As the court, only in extreme cases, don't follow a Cafcass recommendation, the barristers agreed that we would accept the reports recommendations and submit our agreement to the court, which is what we have done. I cried and cried that evening, but for the first time in eight months they were tears of joy and relief.

Building a New Family Home

We managed to sell our house, at a huge loss, but it has allowed me to move out and set up a new rented home, which the girls and I furnished from scratch in just three weeks. It was really important that I got them involved in setting up the house as it was to be their home too, and I wanted to avoid it feeling like they were visiting when they came to me.

We're three weeks in and the girls are happy with their new home, appearing to be able to move seamlessly between Two Homes. It's hard work working and running a home on your own but you will never hear me complain as I am ecstatically happy to have my girls here.

I guess I was able to present a strong case for shared residency based on the time I had been able to spend with my daughters, but the system came through for me and for that I will always be hugely grateful. Shared residency doesn't have to be 50/50. It can be 90/10 or whatever works for the children, but if you have been there for your children during the marriage, my experience says that the courts, and certainly Cafcass, are looking at it as a very favourable solution.

Staying Positive

I tend to be positive and having the children every other week allows me to do things that I wouldn't have had the opportunity to before. I get to the gym more and I catch up with previously neglected friends and, most importantly, I have met someone that makes me truly happy, who shares my hopes and dreams and laughs with me.

If you are just starting out on this journey, take good advice from the legal profession and stay strong. There will be many tears of sadness, anger and frustration, but there is life after marriage and there can be the chance to continue to play a huge role in your children's lives. I wish you well because it has been a terrible time but for me the journey is over.

In less than 24 hours my home will be filled with the happy shrieks of delight as they open their presents.

Good luck and happiness to you and your families for 2009.

Stuart Marks

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Wacho - Your Question:
Pls I need some kind of advice. I meet my ex in 2014 and we enjoy a good relationship fortunately she was pregnant,we are together happily until I was arrested for posssion of fake document, I was sentenced to 4 months in prison, she was there for me, supported me all the day. not HTML when she was given a council flat,she ask me that I can't join them because she has to get the house done and she don't want me to be involve, I respected her opinion and stay aside but I still go to see her, play with my son and some time I even pass the night at her place. not until one faithful day she time me she was expecting a visitor(male friend) and for the reason I can't see my son on the day am suppose to see him, I agree and ask her to let me knw when next I could see my son,on the day the guy was coming she didn't come back home until 12:30am with a 9monghs old son, I was outside and I ask her why is she bringing him home so let, she said she been out and jst getting back home now, and 2 days later am suppose to see him but she block me from her phone and I could reach her. inwas block for abt a month then she unblock me and I see my son about twice then she said she was advice by the police that I shouldn't be allow to see my son, that she reported me for harassment ( the harrasenent was that I have been texting her frequently asking for my son) I let her knw I need a letter form police or an interview so they can let me knw resin why I can't see my son, but that never happens. on my son birthday I wasn't invited and I never seen my son after that and it's abt 3 months now. I went to mediation and they wrote to her and called her but she never came for mediation and now I have made application to court. am so nervous if I will b allow to see my son because of my prison sentence. pls can someone kindly advice me pls on what to possible expect from the court pls

Our Response:
Just because you have had a prison sentence it does not mean you will not be able to see your son. Perhaps, if it was a prison sentence for domestic abuse, then it may have a bearing on your case to see your child, but as it is not, it should not hinder your application. I cannot predict what level of access you may get, but please remember the court wants fathers to have a relationship with their children. Prior to your case going to court Cafcass will get involved, please see link here. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 14-Oct-16 @ 1:01 PM
Pls I need some kind of advice.. I meet my ex in 2014 and we enjoy a good relationship fortunately she was pregnant,we are together happily until I was arrested for posssion of fake document, I was sentenced to 4 months in prison, she was there for me, supported me all the day... not HTML when she was given a council flat,she ask me that I can't join them because she has to get the house done and she don't want me to be involve, I respected her opinion and stay aside but I still go to see her, play with my son and some time I even pass the night at her place.. not until one faithful day she time me she was expecting a visitor(male friend) and for the reason I can't see my son on the day am suppose to see him, I agree and ask her to let me knw when next I could see my son,on the day the guy was coming she didn't come back home until 12:30am with a 9monghs old son, I was outside and i ask her why is she bringing him home so let, she said she been out and jst getting back home now, and 2 days later am suppose to see him but she block me from her phone and I could reach her.. inwas block for abt a month then she unblock me and I see my son about twice then she said she was advice by the police that I shouldn't be allow to see my son, that she reported me for harassment ( the harrasenent was that I have been texting her frequently asking for my son)I let her knw I need a letter form police or an interview so they can let me knw resin why I can't see my son, but that never happens... on my son birthday I wasn't invited and I never seen my son after that and it's abt 3 months now.. I went to mediation and they wrote to her and called her but she never came for mediation and now I have made application to court.... am so nervous if I will b allow to see my son because of my prison sentence... pls can someone kindly advice me pls on what to possible expect from the court pls
Wacho - 13-Oct-16 @ 9:38 PM
Hi all im going through the same thing my recent EX was seeing some one else behind my back for about 3-4 months she is carrying our 2nd (unsure if the baby is mine or this other mans) didnt give me a reason why she left or wanted to go. we was getting married on the 3rd September 2016 but thats a no go now but anyway i tryed to sort things out with her but she wasnt havnt none of it so i got my solicitor and went to court as she has a habbit of up and going with out a word ect and now i got contact with my son every Wednesday and Saturday for 2 hours till the court hearing, she left our home witch is in my name and she is in a refuge with my son till the next court hearing i have everything for him and she has hardly anything for him cloths i got him iv been told she put them in the bin yes BRAND NEW cloths why but whats the best advice you lovely people could give me as shes saying shes got lots of rubbish on me witch isnt true ect some one help???
robzmc - 30-Jul-16 @ 8:30 PM
AMES - Your Question:
Two things I would like to discuss and see if anyone has similar experiences with the court system? my partner has a 3 year old daughter who lives in the UK and we are based abroad, after many failed negotiations with the ex partner he felt court was the only solution to have something in an order that meant he did not have to beg or panic overtime he was due to spend time with his daughter. The court was beneficial in deciding this and gave him the additional visits that he requested however two things that he requested were not agreed by the court. Firstly he was asking to alternative the Christmas day holiday and his ex partner was adamant this would not happen as she has another child and she thinks their daughter should be with her sibling. The judge and Cafcass officer explained to her that this was incorrect and that their daughter is from two families so alternate christmas is the fairest way but would not put it on th court order and told them to go and decide it themselves through mediation (which is crazy as they could never agree on anything hence going to court in the first place) Secondly it was asked if their daughter could spend a week at our home abroad (we have taken her abroad already no problems) but they disagreed saying a flight longer than 5 hours is not fair on a child but we can take her anywhere in europe until she is 5? how does this make sense?Any help on the Christmas front will be much appreciated because he have broached the subject with his ex partner and her partner and they are refusing to compromise. thanks

Our Response:
The only option for the issue over Christmas would to be for your partner to suggest Mediation. If his ex refuses or will not come to an agreement then your partner would have to take it back to court. This way, he has at least done what the court has suggested and therefore if his ex still cannot agree, it would be left to the court to decide.
SeparatedDads - 28-Jan-16 @ 11:49 AM
Two things I would like to discuss and see if anyone has similar experiences with the court system? my partner has a 3 year old daughter who lives in the UK and we are based abroad, after many failed negotiations with the ex partner he felt court was the only solution to have something in an order that meant he did not have to beg or panic overtime he was due to spend time with his daughter.The court was beneficial in deciding this and gave him the additional visits that he requested however two things that he requested were not agreed by the court. Firstly he was asking to alternative the Christmas day holiday and his ex partner was adamant this would not happen as she has another child and she thinks their daughter should be with her sibling.The judge and Cafcass officer explained to her that this was incorrect and that their daughter is from two families so alternate christmas is the fairest way but would not put it on th court order and told them to go and decide it themselves through mediation (which is crazy as they could never agree on anything hence going to court in the first place) Secondly it was asked if their daughter could spend a week at our home abroad (we have taken her abroad already no problems) but they disagreed saying a flight longer than 5 hours is not fair on a child but we can take her anywhere in europe until she is 5?how does this make sense? Any help on the Christmas front will be much appreciated because he have broached the subject with his ex partner and her partner and they are refusing to compromise. thanks
AMES - 27-Jan-16 @ 4:46 PM
Hi. After reading about Stuart's positive result. I also cried for his happiness and hope that I get even a portion of the contact with my sons if any. I have had a history of mental health issues mainly because of my x wife playing games with me, using me and tearing me apart from the inside with her ultimatums. I was on a leash for the best part of 5 years until she committed adultery and threw me out onto the doorstep of our rented family home. Yet, we had 2 sons together and I thought we were happy with our life. Next thing I know. I am out and the new man was in within 2 weeks which I had to bare to see my sons. I did but after a good 8 month, contact was stopped then I received a divorce petition alleging against me. She lost her attack as I kept evidence of the contact with the boys. The judge asked me what I wanted to do. I asked for an even split. No assets. All good. No problems. Hadn't seen the boys for a while so once I got that decree absolute I started to tackle the child arrangements order. This has torn me apart worse than the divorce. I had started a war which I am now scared I will lose. It's cost me far too much money that I haven't got and it will all be for nothing. Currently Cafcass are now going to do more investigations and interviews to find a conclusion. I have just been through a fof hearing which was ruled by women. I was slaughtered even though my x lied about most of the allegations and brought her sister in to lie for her. I'm not happy about this. I already knew the verdict in that room as I walked in. The question is. Based on my situation. What is Cafcass likely to investigate if I have a new family with my 3rd son who is 2 and very happy with his dad. Any information would be a great help. Thank you and kind regards. Kyle Bell.
Kyle - 14-Nov-15 @ 11:00 AM
Gran1 - Your Question:
I am looking for some advice, My daughter is going through a really a really bad time at the moment. She has been separated from her husband for 14 months, when they first split up he was allowed to have a front door key and visited every night to see the children, this was because my daughter felt this was the right thing to do. In September 2014 whilst she was out of the house he arrived and my Grandson his stepson answered the door and gave him access, when he tried to remove items from the home my grandson said he should wait for his Mother, the stepfather was enraged by this and proceeded to attack my grandson. This went to court and he pled self defence and was found not guilty by reasonable doubt, my grandson was awarded a 6 mth protection order. After this happened the two younger boys told my daughter that he had also threatened them in the past and that they were afraid of him, they were 10 yrs old at the time and one of them was really afraid. They stated that they didn't wish to see there father because they are afraid of him. The judge has ruled that there Mother has brain washed these boys, because this is the accusation from the Father, we as family feel that this judge is biased and even before the hearing the solicitor apologized for having this judge, my daughter has been controlled and bullied throughout the relationship and has had no support from anywhere. It appears that she is bearing the brunt for these unreasonable Mothers that we all know are out there. My concern is that these young boys are going to be forced to spend time with a man they are afraid of. What recourse do we have?

Our Response:
If your daughter refuses access, then she will be in breach of the court order, therefore her ex could take the order back to court in order to have the order enforced. However, the children should be old enough to have their opinion taken into consideration if they are over 11 years of age. If the children refuse to go with their father, then their opinions will be counted if the matter is taken back to court. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 16-Sep-15 @ 2:58 PM
I wrote previously and typed the incorrect email address. Sorry
gran1 - 15-Sep-15 @ 7:49 PM
I am looking for some advice, My daughter is going through a really a really bad time at the moment. She has been separated from her husband for 14 months, when they first split up he was allowed to have a front door key and visited every night to see the children, this was because my daughter felt this was the right thing to do. In September 2014 whilst she was out of the house he arrived and my Grandson his stepson answered the door and gave him access, when he tried to remove items from the home my grandson said he should wait for his Mother, the stepfather was enraged by this and proceeded to attack my grandson. This went to court and he pled self defence and was found not guilty by reasonable doubt, my grandson was awarded a 6 mth protection order. After this happened the two younger boys told my daughter that he had also threatened them in the past and that they were afraid of him, they were 10 yrs old at the time and one of them was really afraid. They stated that they didn't wish to see there father because they are afraid of him. The judge has ruled that there Mother has brain washed these boys, because this is the accusation from the Father, we as family feel that this judge is biased and even before the hearing the solicitor apologized for having this judge, my daughter has been controlled and bullied throughout the relationship and has had no support from anywhere. It appears that she is bearing the brunt for these unreasonable Mothers that we all know are out there. My concern is that these young boys are going to be forced to spend time with a man they are afraid of. What recourse do we have?
Gran1 - 15-Sep-15 @ 7:27 PM
@Dean - it is very difficult while you are in a different country, as there is nothing you can really do this end in order to get your ex to agree. All you can do is write to her really and request that you be allowed regular Skype with your son until you return. I'm not sure there is anything else hands-on that you can do in order to make things better.
Sam - 20-Mar-15 @ 12:29 PM
@Charlie - you may find our Separated Dads Facebook page useful also as there are a lot of dads on their with same or similar issues that can and do give help, especially if they have been through this before.
SeparatedDads - 20-Mar-15 @ 12:08 PM
Good day I was married foe 18 years, sadly we finally split 18 months ago. Our beautiful son is now 7 and lives with his mum. I have 30 years experience of health care including children and loved being a hands on father. I lost my job at the same time my wife left me, I was left homeless and was rescued by my brother in the UK. I am now rebuilding my professional life to return to Australia. I have visited for a month and try to Skype. My wife has sometimes stopped these contacts as well as not telling me of health and psychological issues caused by our split. The poor fella is hurting and I wish to help. This is causing my son harm and is damaging our relationship. I am informed sometime after the fact that my som was so distressed he was sent home from school saying my daddy does not love him. Can I persuade her that mediation to help all our situation may be the way to go. How can I persuade her that anything health wise , with school, referral to psychologists we as parents need to openly discuss and agree. I am not being obstructive but only want to be included so I can meet my parental responsibilities.I am far away in the UK desperately wanting to return when able, I feel terrible. Thankx
Dean - 18-Mar-15 @ 3:54 PM
Wow....there are so many parallels in your life to my own. I wasn't able to work part time but I picked up a the evening responsibilities where my soon to be ex wife picked up the morning. I am really struggling with her at the moment allowing me the time with the girls I'd like but more importantly they'd like. They cannot understand why she believes restricting their access to me is beneficial to them. I have included them in everything since I left in setting up my new home, they even help me move. I am now about to apply to the courts because all other avenues have failed to persuade her that her view isn't the only view and your story has really given me hope. I've always strived for an independent view and believe that CAFCASS will give me that. No matter what happens she won't be able to dictate in the same controlling way she managed our marriage. Thank you
Charlie - 18-Mar-15 @ 1:34 PM
Hi my son is between a rock and a hard place and getting know where with fair access to his two year old daughter. He seems to going around in circles and altough he has a solicitor all seems to be on the mothers side and no one is listening to my son. all my son would like is more access to his daughter and rights to know where she is and what she is up to ! What is going on on this country that an African woman can come here and get every service on her side and ruin my sons life and know one listens to him .....what does he have to do ??? Who are Casaff ? How can we get them to help us ? Please help my son. Thank you
Mama - 2-Dec-14 @ 7:35 PM
Its been a while since this post, but I am so pleased to hear of this outcome. Based on the info provided it sounds like a wonderful result for the children. I am stunned by Lula's response. I am female and I cannot understand why women feel they should automatically get preference. Every case is different and each parent should have the right to make their case from the same baseline. The children come first and I personally advocate for 50/50 shared care where it is right for the child.I am a step parent to our daughter on a 50/50 arrangement for the past 5 years and she flourishes. It is unusual-but it does exist (usually where there is a fantastic dad in the mix) and I'm keen to hear from more families for whom it works.
timeforchange - 1-Oct-14 @ 11:51 AM
I split up with my partner of 8 years last oct 2013 we have a 4 year old son,we never cohabited as we both lived separately but it worked at least I thought so,she has a 17 year old son from a previous relationship and I have 2 daughters from my late wife who passed away when they were babies,since the split all communication broke down she would never reply to my calls txts etc,since I ended the relationship she has turned completely cold and has denied me all access to our son then one morning I was hand delivered a non-molestation order along with a prohibited steps order to my total shock,with all kinds of allegations from domestic and physical violence,heaver drinking etc,to cut a long story short I got a solicitor and cafcass are now involved and iam now having to undergo a section 7 report with a court hearing on the 20 feb 2014 followed by another hearing for the prohibited steps order,i have not seen my son for 3 months she has not allowed me any access on his 5th birthday xmas period and iam totally broken up by how all this came about and how the system can not allow me to see my son until court case I miss him with all my heart as do my daughters,ive also find out recently she is dating someone else and has been since this trauma for me started,and also spent my sons birthday and the xmas period with him and my son and iam not allowed any contact,i cannot even communicate to her as I would breach the order and be arrested.this is a living hell.any advice would be sincerely appretiated.regards
steve - 8-Feb-14 @ 12:30 PM
I need some help, when I was younger I got with a nice woman in northern ireland, when she finished with me, she was pregnant with our child, am now trying to track her, have got quite far in my search, I know she left house we were sharing together in 2005 and moved to another house in the area, have sent a letter to new address and now just hoping she gets in contact as I really want to get back in contact with my child I have never got the chance to meet and hopefully introduce her to her new sister as have had another child who I now share custody with
STEVEUK7979 - 29-Jan-13 @ 7:49 PM
Stuart Marks, How long did your case take? (From your initial court application - to the final hearing)
Iamnothingwithoutthe - 15-Jan-13 @ 8:45 PM
Hey, You know I was hoping to read that you put your kids needs first in having 2 parents, but no, You seem to spitefully cut the mother out who put a roof over your head for years and trusted you with her babies, all because of an article you read that (like all those never satisfied men) made you want to play around at the cost of destroying your daughters home life. And ten you get your daughters to decorate a new home, that's yours, for you.and sell their old home and inheritance at a loss. Again, for you.Why didn't you let 3 women keep the family home and be a man of decency, and get a job and get a flat??? I don't pity you for being alone at Christmas, the worlds becoming a sad place for children with more and more fathers screwing up their kids family homes for their own needs.There was an article in the daily mail recently about 60 year old en eating alone with their microwave meal for one looking back with regret of te families they.d selfishly abandoned. Maybe you should of read that before Jeremy clarkson,
Lula - 5-Dec-12 @ 10:56 PM
I have 2 kids and split from there mother over 4 years ago. 2 years ago I met a girl fell in love and everything was great until my ex decided I cant see my kids any more for no reason. she just flipped out 1 day. she has said to my fiance that she is gonna make me choose between seing my kids and being with her. I will never choose as she has no rite to decide my life. i have not seen my kids for a month now and I no ill have to go to court. but how much does this cost and is there any help for fathers who wanna see there kids. ?
ryan - 18-Sep-12 @ 10:02 PM
My gf and I have just split and she's always drunk and abusive to me I fear for my little girl I long just to take them away. But how can I do it legally
saddad - 12-Dec-11 @ 2:13 AM
I have a 18 month old daughter and myself and her mom have lived in our family home together since day one. I have parental rights as my daughter has my surname and I am on the birth certificate. yesterday her mother took our daughter to london I believe as I was toatly unaware until I returnd home that day. the only contact has been on the telephone and she is speaking through my sister and not direct to me. she refuses to tell me where she has taken my little girl or where she is staying with her. can you tell me what I can do. this is the third time she has done this and the twice before I have begged her to come home, this time though I know thats not the right thing to do as obviously I have done it so that she.d bring my daughter home. can she leagaly just up and go like this if not how do I go about getting my little girl brought back home where she has all her comforts. please could you help as im toatly devistated and concerned for my babys welfare thankyou ant
ant - 6-Dec-11 @ 5:59 AM
My son has gon through something similar to you, my grandson was taken away from his father by his ex-girlfriend and taken to Ireland, we live in spain, she wanted sole custody, but my son fought her and won joint custody, but he resides with his mother, however he comes to spain on a regular basis in holiday times etc, and always for 5 weeks in the summer, things have been hard for my son, but he has stayed strong and has also met a lovely young woman and is finaly a happier man. Your story is an insperation. People don't always realize the heartacke it can cause other members of the family!
walley - 8-Nov-11 @ 4:13 PM
You are a true inspiration. I'm not married but I'm going through the same thing I have a 4 year old son who has always been with me 50% of the time. We split up nearly 3 years ago I applied for a shared residency order 1 month ago and she flipped out and started sending horrible and aggressive letters from Efra road advice shop , they have brushed my son aside like he is a hand bag and she has stopped all contact. I am now taking her to court and you have inspired so much after reading your post. Thank you so much
Gee - 13-Jul-11 @ 2:01 PM
I am so glad to hear of your positive outcome. I myself am in a similar situation with my children as my ex wife moved away, first 150 miles away and now intends to move abroad. This has been very hard as you can imagine and now it is to go to court for the first time it is nice to hear that it can go both ways.
Lexx007 - 31-Mar-11 @ 10:19 PM
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