What the Letter Builder is for

When things are tense between you and your ex, or when you need to write to a school or solicitor, getting the tone right is half the battle. This tool helps you put together a calm, clearly written letter that sets out what you want to say without sounding angry, pleading or defensive.

It is there for the moments when you know what you want to ask for, but cannot quite find the words, or when you want a written record of a request rather than another text message argument.

When to use it

Most separated dads who use this are dealing with one of a handful of situations. You might be asking to see your children after a period of no contact, responding to an ex who has suddenly stopped the children coming over, or asking for consent to take them on holiday. You might be writing to a school that has been treating you as if you have no say, even though you hold parental responsibility.

It is also useful if a solicitor has asked you to put something in writing, or if you want to show you tried to sort things out reasonably before considering mediation or court. It is not a substitute for legal advice, but it can save you a lot of time and stress drafting from a blank page.

How it works

You answer a few short questions about who the letter is going to, what has happened, and what you are asking for. The tool then puts together a measured letter in plain English, which you can copy, edit and send by email or post. You stay in control of the wording, and nothing you type is saved or shared. If the first version does not feel quite right, you can adjust your answers and generate it again until it sounds like you.