What this tool does

This checker helps you work out whether what you are seeing in your child's behaviour, or in the way your ex is acting, could be signs of parental alienation. It gives you a plain English read on the situation and points you towards sensible next steps.

It is not a diagnosis and it does not replace legal or therapeutic advice. Think of it as a starting point that helps you put words to what has been going on, so you can decide what to do next.

Who it is for

It is aimed at separated dads who feel something has shifted in their relationship with their child and are not sure whether to trust their gut. That might be a child who used to enjoy contact suddenly refusing to come, a child repeating phrases that sound far too adult, or unexplained hostility that appears from nowhere.

It is also useful if you are in the middle of a family court matter, or heading that way, and you want to think clearly about the patterns you are noticing before you speak to a solicitor, mediator, or Cafcass officer. If your concerns are about physical safety or immediate harm, contact the police or social services first.

How it works

You answer a short set of questions about your child's behaviour, your contact arrangements, and how your ex communicates about you. The tool looks at the pattern of your answers and gives you a written summary of the indicators it has picked up, along with suggestions for what to do next. Nothing you enter is saved and you do not need to give your name or email to use it.