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How Do I Find My Children's New Address?

By: Lorna Elliott LLB (hons), Barrister - Updated: 20 Sep 2017 |
 
Tracing Agent Find Ex-partner Address

Q.

Thank you for the continuous provision of information and case studies for separated dads. The information has really been very helpful. I, however, have a problem and would like your advice.

My ex-partner moved house about a month and a half ago. She did not tell me she was moving or give her new address. I have tried to call her but she hasn't answered her phone. Although I do not particularly think this is to do with me, I am not sure what her intentions are.

I have tried to obtain the new address from the school where the children go and the Child Benefit Agency but no one could give it to me. I have not seen the kids for a month. I do not think they are at risk but I miss them. I have contacted a solicitor and have been told that I will need to apply to the court but that will take along time.

Unfortunately, I do not know any of her friends to give me the address. Do you possibly know how I can obtain an address in a much quicker way?

(J.K, 31 August 2009)

A.

Hello, I’m glad that you find the information on the site useful. Your solicitor is right: if you choose to go through the court it may be a long and drawn out process. However, the good news is that there is a way you can obtain your ex-partner’s new address. If you’ve ever wondered how companies that are owed money manage to track their ‘gone away’ debtors – this is it!

How to Find Your Ex-Partner

Go online and search for a ‘tracing agent’. You don’t necessarily need one that’s near to your home. A lot of the time the companies that offer this type of service are also private investigators, process servers (serving legal documents on people) enforcement agents (debt collection and other types of financial/property seizure), as well as tracing agents.

Bear in mind that there will be a fee for this service, which should be around £50 (plus VAT). If you can, use a ‘no trace, no fee’ service to guarantee that you only pay for the results you want. However, it is a very quick way to find your ex-partner’s address, and a substantial proportion of traces are completed the same day. You may also be given your ex-partner’s new telephone number, if she has one, and if it is available (i.e. not ex-directory).

How it Works

Most traces are carried out by conducting searches over a wide range of electronic databases. In more difficult cases, the tracing agent may have to use more extensive techniques of tracing and tracking to find the required information. A tracing agent will not make your ex-partner aware that you are trying to track her and your children down.

Before you employ the services of your agent, make sure that they verify the information they find: the last thing you want is to pay for the wrong address! This will be the most effective method for finding the address you require. You will be unlikely to be able to obtain much, if any, information through the child benefit offices or through your children’s school: they may have cited the Data Protection Act as a reason not to disclose this information to you. I wish you the very best of luck!

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Simon - Your Question:
I got divorced from my childrens mum in 1997. The mother with the support of social services brainwashed my kids to believe I was a petvert. I went to court for contact for about 10 years. Despite court orders the mother over ruled the court and I have had no contact except very sporodic about 10 years ago. Any idea how I can find my children and hope that maybe they dont hate me. Simon

Our Response:
You don't say how old your children are now. If they are over 18, you are free to contact them. You may be able to contact them via social media or hire a tracing agency. If your children are under school-leaving age then you would have to apply for a child arrangement order through the courts. Along with this, you can fill in a C4 form, which is an application for an order for disclosure of a child’s whereabouts. This will allow the courts to put a trace on your children, in order to allow you to bring the matter to court.
SeparatedDads - 21-Sep-17 @ 3:41 PM
I got divorced from my childrens mum in 1997. The mother with the support of social services brainwashed my kids to believe I was a petvert. I went to court for contact for about 10 years. Despite court orders the mother over ruled the court and I have had no contact except very sporodic about 10 years ago. Any idea how I can find my children and hope that maybe they dont hate me. Simon
Simon - 20-Sep-17 @ 11:44 PM
Jaida's dad- Your Question:
Good day Can someone please help me find my daughter??? Or advise me??? Her mother's name Leila she lives in Sheffield!!! I'll reward anyone who finds them for me please!!! I'm in bits over this!!! My daughter is my world!!!

Our Response:
You can apply through the courts for contact via a C100 form and fill in a C4 form, which is application for an order for disclosure of a child’s whereabouts. This means the court will put a trace on your child to allow you to apply for contact. Otherwise, you could contact a tracing company (see comment below) who may be able to help locate your child.
SeparatedDads - 15-Sep-17 @ 2:53 PM
Hazel - Your Question:
Absolutely brilliant article and advice, thank you. We had new address in 7 hours :-) Using an online people search agency as advised above. It cost £75 but it was worth it.

Our Response:
Thanks for sharing this information with us. We hope it helps other readers.
SeparatedDads - 15-Sep-17 @ 2:37 PM
Ruthie - Your Question:
Hi my husband has not seen his son since 6 months old his ex has moved twice and re married so we do not have a clue what her surname is now. Is there still a way she could be traced or my son ?

Our Response:
Yes, if your husband wishes to apply for contact, he can fill in a C100 form and a C4 form which is application for an order for disclosure of a child’s whereabouts. This means the court will put a trace on his child to allow him to apply for contact.
SeparatedDads - 11-Sep-17 @ 4:26 PM
Hi my husband has not seen his son since 6 months old his ex has moved twice and re married so we do not have a clue what her surname is now . Is there still a way she could be traced or my son ?
Ruthie - 9-Sep-17 @ 8:10 PM
Absolutely brilliant article and advice, thank you.We had new address in 7 hours :-)Using an online people search agency as advised above.It cost £75 but it was worth it.
Hazel - 8-Sep-17 @ 6:56 PM
Good day Can someone please help me find my daughter??? Or advise me??? Her mother's name Leila she lives in Sheffield!!! I'll reward anyone who finds them for me please!!! I'm in bits over this!!! My daughter is my world!!!
Jaida's dad - 8-Sep-17 @ 5:19 PM
I live in KY. My daughter's mother has kept my child from me since December 2016. I bought her a tablet for her birthday in February still haven't gotten to give it to her, she recently changed her number, and im finding out as much as possible thru family of hers but its very little since they lie for her except one person. She took off to NC, took my child and I don't know where to start...
Nikki - 25-Aug-17 @ 12:20 PM
Hay,ive just stumble on this site,im desperate to find my 3 boys... I havnt seen them for nearly 4yrs,affcass say i dnt need an arrangement order but denied me in court...I dnt want my ex l want to b a dad,shemoved on and moved and told so many lies bout me...Im no angle but im no woman beater or rapist either,she knw all the things that happened to me as a child and knws my boys are my life... She took them away from me cos she found a new bf... I need hlp...
TaZ MaN - 14-Aug-17 @ 11:48 PM
Raymond- Your Question:
I have never met my daughter not even at birth its a very long story I have tried for 26 years. I even still have there home phone tattoo in my head her mom has always told me I don't know where she is and about 6 years ago they change there number vie drove myself crazy looking for here to where now I'm lost and scared to see and her I don't know how to

Our Response:
Have you tried social media?
SeparatedDads - 5-May-17 @ 12:40 PM
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Crystal- Your Question:
Hey, I read your artical a while back and I thought I would give it ago, as my fiancè has been denied access to his child and she moved address. We wanted to go through mediation and court (as we know she won't turn up to mediation) and we couldn't get her address. We looked for a tracing service to find her address, purely for court purposes. We found a agent that cost £34 no find no fee. They got back to us in 6 hours with her address. They were brilliant. Thank you so much for the advice!

Our Response:
We are glad this worked for you. It will give others encouragement that all is not lost.
SeparatedDads - 24-Mar-17 @ 12:15 PM
Hey, I read your artical a while back and I thought I would give it ago, as my fiancè has been denied access to his child and she moved address. We wanted to go through mediation and court (as we know she won't turn up to mediation) and we couldn't get her address. We looked for a tracing service to find her address, purely for court purposes. We found a agent that cost £34 no find no fee. They got back to us in 6 hours with her address. They were brilliant. Thank you so much for the advice!
Crystal - 23-Mar-17 @ 8:57 PM
How- Your Question:
I left my ex husband as he beat me to an inch of my life when pregnant, it when through the courts and I live in secret after spending 7 months in a women's refuge to escape him as he threatened to kill my son, I've herd he is still trying to track me 2 years on! Please tell me for the sake of my 2 1/2 year old your service would not help him find me. he would kill me

Our Response:
If your ex attempts to try to find you though the courts i.e if he wishes to apply for contact to your child. You can ask the courts to withhold your address and the courts will not divulge it. If he attempts to find you via private means, then you would have to alert the police if and when you think he has located your address and if you fear you are in danger.
SeparatedDads - 23-Mar-17 @ 2:08 PM
I left my ex husband as he beat me to an inch of my life when pregnant, it when through the courts and I live in secret after spending 7 months in a women's refuge to escape him as he threatened to kill my son, I've herd he is still trying to track me 2 years on! Please tell me for the sake of my 2 1/2 year old your service would not help him find me.. he would kill me
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kim - 21-Jan-17 @ 1:05 PM
Hi I am upset about this article about tracing agents , how dose this article protect people who have families and have fled domestic abuse? Tracing agents do not give protection to dv families.
Jim - 10-Jan-17 @ 6:46 PM
missingmybabies - Your Question:
I spent 17 years with a woman who abused me a lot in the relationship and cheated on me. She finally kicked me out 8 months ago. Since I moved on with my life, she has moved from her address, and changed jobs. I have four kids. They are in Alabama as I am back home in Oklahoma. I know where she works but do not know her addy or phone. my son is 13 and even he doesn't talk to me much on fb nor will he give me their address. I spoke to my kids last month (first time in 5 months and my youngest, she's five, said she has a new daddy. I was a very interactive dad to my three girls and son. I never missed a game for my son in football and played tea time with my girls. My ex girlfriend was cheating and decided she needed me gone to do what she wanted. Her mom and family have slowly deleted me off social media and KNOW the story. They even used to feel badly for me because of the way she treated me. Yet, they have all left my side. I really don't know what to do from state to state. I have no car, no nothing to even drive to Alabama. Wondering how long it would take to search her. There ought to be some way on theinternet to pay for a tracer service.

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this, but unfortunately we cannot help you, as we are a UK-based service. I can only suggest you do some research online for search agencies, or seek some professional legal advice regarding this matter.
SeparatedDads - 20-Dec-16 @ 11:55 AM
I spent 17 years with a woman who abused me a lot in the relationship and cheated on me.She finally kicked me out 8 months ago.Since i moved on with my life, she has moved from her address, and changed jobs.. i have four kids.. They are in Alabama as i am back home in Oklahoma.I know where she works but do not know her addy or phone.. my son is 13 and even he doesn't talk to me much on fb nor will he give me their address.I spoke to my kids last month (first time in 5 months and my youngest, she's five, said she has a new daddy.I was a very interactive dad to my three girls and son.I never missed a game for my son in football and played tea time with my girls.My ex girlfriend was cheating and decided she needed me gone to do what she wanted.Her mom and family have slowly deleted me off social media and KNOW the story.They even used to feel badly for me because of the way she treated me.Yet, they have all left my side.I really don't know what to do from state to state.I have no car, no nothing to even drive to Alabama.Wondering how long it would take to search her.There ought to be some way on theinternet to payfor a tracer service.
missingmybabies - 19-Dec-16 @ 10:01 PM
Hi my kids mom took off from Atlanta Georgia back in 2014 moved to New Jersey I got her address about 18months later then she took off again moved to another part of the city before I could get her served and now she took off to South Carolina. My question is how do I locate her what is a C4? A tracer how do I hire one? Please help my kids have been abused in New Jersey by her boyfriend yes I reported it and nothing happen!!! Please help I've spent hundreds on lawyers you name it she keeps fleeing from state to state!!! Thanks
Tony - 18-Dec-16 @ 6:11 AM
BSam - Your Question:
Hi, I have applied for child contact and c4 through my solicitors to the court but till the first hearing, the court still haven't locate my ex and my child. What else can I do. Thanks

Our Response:
Your only alternative is to take the advice listed in the article. There are many private search companies or private detectives online who can attempt to trace your ex for a cost. However, we are unable to recommend anyone personally as we can't be seen to be biased.
SeparatedDads - 6-Dec-16 @ 10:26 AM
Hi, I have applied for child contact and c4 through my solicitors to the court but till the first hearing, the court still haven't locate my ex and my child. What else can I do. Thanks
BSam - 5-Dec-16 @ 11:25 AM
If I file a c4 to locate my daughter and her mother decided to withhold her informationwhat could I do to get court papers to be forwarded to her to get my parenting time enforced, even though the courts ordered her to inform me about any information that she change
Ghost - 14-Nov-16 @ 4:09 AM
My situation is identical, it does not go to court, the court stayed the proceedings so that they can not find.
tetis - 28-Oct-16 @ 1:33 PM
Mr.Unhappy Can you say what agency helped you find your child? Thank you in advance
tetis - 28-Oct-16 @ 1:26 PM
In addition to what I wrote below: I meant reasonable not responsible (although that too, I guess). I was tempted to go knock on her door & hopefully finally get to see my kids, but I figured anyone who could behave in a cruel & heartless way she has wouldn't listen to reason anyway & it'll probably be used against me in court & whatever. Right now, I hope she continues to ignore things, refuses to listen to reason, refuses to go to court & the judge will give me full custody of my children due to her hard-headedness, then she'd know the torture I am going through not seeing my kids for months & months.
Mr Unhappy - 25-Oct-16 @ 9:10 PM
Hello! A few months ago my partner took it upon herself to up & leave without telling me taking my children with her. She refused to take my calls or answer my texts, I had no idea where she had to. I gave her time to get her head together or whatever in the hope she would see sense & be responsible about all this but she refused that as well. So I had to resort to using a tracing service, no find no fee & to my surprise they found her new address as I checked it out & found her car parked at the property. It cost me £50.
Mr Unhappy - 25-Oct-16 @ 8:56 PM
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