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How Do I Find My Children's New Address?

By: Lorna Elliott LLB (hons), Barrister - Updated: 1 Mar 2019 |
 
Tracing Agent Find Ex-partner Address

Q.

Thank you for the continuous provision of information and case studies for separated dads. The information has really been very helpful. I, however, have a problem and would like your advice.

My ex-partner moved house about a month and a half ago. She did not tell me she was moving or give her new address. I have tried to call her but she hasn't answered her phone. Although I do not particularly think this is to do with me, I am not sure what her intentions are.

I have tried to obtain the new address from the school where the children go and the Child Benefit Agency but no one could give it to me. I have not seen the kids for a month. I do not think they are at risk but I miss them. I have contacted a solicitor and have been told that I will need to apply to the court but that will take along time.

Unfortunately, I do not know any of her friends to give me the address. Do you possibly know how I can obtain an address in a much quicker way?

(J.K, 31 August 2009)

A.

Hello, I’m glad that you find the information on the site useful. Your solicitor is right: if you choose to go through the court it may be a long and drawn out process. However, the good news is that there is a way you can obtain your ex-partner’s new address. If you’ve ever wondered how companies that are owed money manage to track their ‘gone away’ debtors – this is it!

How to Find Your Ex-Partner

Go online and search for a ‘tracing agent’. You don’t necessarily need one that’s near to your home. A lot of the time the companies that offer this type of service are also private investigators, process servers (serving legal documents on people) enforcement agents (debt collection and other types of financial/property seizure), as well as tracing agents.

Bear in mind that there will be a fee for this service, which should be around £50 (plus VAT). If you can, use a ‘no trace, no fee’ service to guarantee that you only pay for the results you want. However, it is a very quick way to find your ex-partner’s address, and a substantial proportion of traces are completed the same day. You may also be given your ex-partner’s new telephone number, if she has one, and if it is available (i.e. not ex-directory).

How it Works

Most traces are carried out by conducting searches over a wide range of electronic databases. In more difficult cases, the tracing agent may have to use more extensive techniques of tracing and tracking to find the required information. A tracing agent will not make your ex-partner aware that you are trying to track her and your children down.

Before you employ the services of your agent, make sure that they verify the information they find: the last thing you want is to pay for the wrong address! This will be the most effective method for finding the address you require. You will be unlikely to be able to obtain much, if any, information through the child benefit offices or through your children’s school: they may have cited the Data Protection Act as a reason not to disclose this information to you. I wish you the very best of luck!

Check out the Separated Dads Forum... It's a great resource where you can ask for advice on topics including Child Access, Maintenance, CAFCASS, Fathers Rights, Court, Behaviour or simply to have a chat with other dads.

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SadDad - Your Question:
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Our Response:
Unfortunately, as we are a UK-based site we cannot offer information or help as we have knowledge of only UK-based family law (which has a court option to put a trace on children if a non-resident parent wishes to apply through the courts for access).I assume it is the same aborad as in the UK, that once your children are of age, you have every right to contact them without going to court and without permission from your ex.
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CaptObvi - Your Question:
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Our Response:
I am sorry to hear that your sister had a tough time. On the other hand there are many people who flee with their children because they simply do not wish the other parent to have access to the child. Every non-resident parent has the right to take the matter to court to apply for access to their child. The court C4 form, which is an application for an order for disclosure of a child's whereabouts will allow the courts to put a trace on the child to allow the non-resident parent to apply to court. However, the resident parent of the child can request that the address information is kept confidential to the court. The police can help protect proven abuse victims, as can the courts. Agreeable, it is a non-perfect situation. But in those situations where a parent keeps a child from the other parent for no good reason apart from pure animosity, then trying to locate the other parent in order to gain access to the child is deemed fair.
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Let it be - 22-Feb-18 @ 1:40 PM
@Tizzy - yes, but where do you draw the line for the poor innocent dads trying to track their kids if the mothers have done one with the kids. I spend two years trying to track my son so I could bring it to court. I'd not done anything wrong, it was just that my ex wanted to be with her new b/f and didn't want me in my kid's life. Wholly unfair!
BriT - 12-Jan-18 @ 2:32 PM
Hi, not knocking the service its 100% great for legitimate reasons but what's in place to stop abusive partners/fathers/mothers using these investigative services to find their exes and children potentiallyputting unsuspecting people/children in harms way?
Tizzy - 11-Jan-18 @ 11:34 PM
Zedhalo - Your Question:
Hi. May Crystal send me the details of the tracing agent he/she used please. Or may anyone send me the cheap but effective tracing agent they have used before please.Thank you.

Our Response:
You can also apply through court with a C100 contact order. You just have to fill in a C4 form at the same time, which is an 'application for an order for disclosure of a child’s whereabouts'. This will allow the court to put a trace on your children.
SeparatedDads - 17-Nov-17 @ 11:30 AM
Hi. May Crystal send me the details of the tracing agent he/she used please. Or may anyone send me the cheap but effective tracing agent they have used before please.Thank you.
Zedhalo - 16-Nov-17 @ 6:31 PM
Simon - Your Question:
I got divorced from my childrens mum in 1997. The mother with the support of social services brainwashed my kids to believe I was a petvert. I went to court for contact for about 10 years. Despite court orders the mother over ruled the court and I have had no contact except very sporodic about 10 years ago. Any idea how I can find my children and hope that maybe they dont hate me. Simon

Our Response:
You don't say how old your children are now. If they are over 18, you are free to contact them. You may be able to contact them via social media or hire a tracing agency. If your children are under school-leaving age then you would have to apply for a child arrangement order through the courts. Along with this, you can fill in a C4 form, which is an application for an order for disclosure of a child’s whereabouts. This will allow the courts to put a trace on your children, in order to allow you to bring the matter to court.
SeparatedDads - 21-Sep-17 @ 3:41 PM
I got divorced from my childrens mum in 1997. The mother with the support of social services brainwashed my kids to believe I was a petvert. I went to court for contact for about 10 years. Despite court orders the mother over ruled the court and I have had no contact except very sporodic about 10 years ago. Any idea how I can find my children and hope that maybe they dont hate me. Simon
Simon - 20-Sep-17 @ 11:44 PM
Jaida's dad- Your Question:
Good day Can someone please help me find my daughter??? Or advise me??? Her mother's name Leila she lives in Sheffield!!! I'll reward anyone who finds them for me please!!! I'm in bits over this!!! My daughter is my world!!!

Our Response:
You can apply through the courts for contact via a C100 form and fill in a C4 form, which is application for an order for disclosure of a child’s whereabouts. This means the court will put a trace on your child to allow you to apply for contact. Otherwise, you could contact a tracing company (see comment below) who may be able to help locate your child.
SeparatedDads - 15-Sep-17 @ 2:53 PM
Hazel - Your Question:
Absolutely brilliant article and advice, thank you. We had new address in 7 hours :-) Using an online people search agency as advised above. It cost £75 but it was worth it.

Our Response:
Thanks for sharing this information with us. We hope it helps other readers.
SeparatedDads - 15-Sep-17 @ 2:37 PM
Ruthie - Your Question:
Hi my husband has not seen his son since 6 months old his ex has moved twice and re married so we do not have a clue what her surname is now. Is there still a way she could be traced or my son ?

Our Response:
Yes, if your husband wishes to apply for contact, he can fill in a C100 form and a C4 form which is application for an order for disclosure of a child’s whereabouts. This means the court will put a trace on his child to allow him to apply for contact.
SeparatedDads - 11-Sep-17 @ 4:26 PM
Hi my husband has not seen his son since 6 months old his ex has moved twice and re married so we do not have a clue what her surname is now . Is there still a way she could be traced or my son ?
Ruthie - 9-Sep-17 @ 8:10 PM
Absolutely brilliant article and advice, thank you.We had new address in 7 hours :-)Using an online people search agency as advised above.It cost £75 but it was worth it.
Hazel - 8-Sep-17 @ 6:56 PM
Good day Can someone please help me find my daughter??? Or advise me??? Her mother's name Leila she lives in Sheffield!!! I'll reward anyone who finds them for me please!!! I'm in bits over this!!! My daughter is my world!!!
Jaida's dad - 8-Sep-17 @ 5:19 PM
I live in KY. My daughter's mother has kept my child from me since December 2016. I bought her a tablet for her birthday in February still haven't gotten to give it to her, she recently changed her number, and im finding out as much as possible thru family of hers but its very little since they lie for her except one person. She took off to NC, took my child and I don't know where to start...
Nikki - 25-Aug-17 @ 12:20 PM
Hay,ive just stumble on this site,im desperate to find my 3 boys... I havnt seen them for nearly 4yrs,affcass say i dnt need an arrangement order but denied me in court...I dnt want my ex l want to b a dad,shemoved on and moved and told so many lies bout me...Im no angle but im no woman beater or rapist either,she knw all the things that happened to me as a child and knws my boys are my life... She took them away from me cos she found a new bf... I need hlp...
TaZ MaN - 14-Aug-17 @ 11:48 PM
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