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How Do I Find My Children's New Address?

By: Lorna Elliott LLB (hons), Barrister - Updated: 10 Jan 2017 |
 
Tracing Agent Find Ex-partner Address

Q.

Thank you for the continuous provision of information and case studies for separated dads. The information has really been very helpful. I, however, have a problem and would like your advice.

My ex-partner moved house about a month and a half ago. She did not tell me she was moving or give her new address. I have tried to call her but she hasn't answered her phone. Although I do not particularly think this is to do with me, I am not sure what her intentions are.

I have tried to obtain the new address from the school where the children go and the Child Benefit Agency but no one could give it to me. I have not seen the kids for a month. I do not think they are at risk but I miss them. I have contacted a solicitor and have been told that I will need to apply to the court but that will take along time.

Unfortunately, I do not know any of her friends to give me the address. Do you possibly know how I can obtain an address in a much quicker way?

(J.K, 31 August 2009)

A.

Hello, I’m glad that you find the information on the site useful. Your solicitor is right: if you choose to go through the court it may be a long and drawn out process. However, the good news is that there is a way you can obtain your ex-partner’s new address. If you’ve ever wondered how companies that are owed money manage to track their ‘gone away’ debtors – this is it!

How to Find Your Ex-Partner

Go online and search for a ‘tracing agent’. You don’t necessarily need one that’s near to your home. A lot of the time the companies that offer this type of service are also private investigators, process servers (serving legal documents on people) enforcement agents (debt collection and other types of financial/property seizure), as well as tracing agents.

Bear in mind that there will be a fee for this service, which should be around £50 (plus VAT). If you can, use a ‘no trace, no fee’ service to guarantee that you only pay for the results you want. However, it is a very quick way to find your ex-partner’s address, and a substantial proportion of traces are completed the same day. You may also be given your ex-partner’s new telephone number, if she has one, and if it is available (i.e. not ex-directory).

How it Works

Most traces are carried out by conducting searches over a wide range of electronic databases. In more difficult cases, the tracing agent may have to use more extensive techniques of tracing and tracking to find the required information. A tracing agent will not make your ex-partner aware that you are trying to track her and your children down.

Before you employ the services of your agent, make sure that they verify the information they find: the last thing you want is to pay for the wrong address! This will be the most effective method for finding the address you require. You will be unlikely to be able to obtain much, if any, information through the child benefit offices or through your children’s school: they may have cited the Data Protection Act as a reason not to disclose this information to you. I wish you the very best of luck!

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Hi I am upset about this article about tracing agents , how dose this article protect people who have families and have fled domestic abuse? Tracing agents do not give protection to dv families.
Jim - 10-Jan-17 @ 6:46 PM
missingmybabies - Your Question:
I spent 17 years with a woman who abused me a lot in the relationship and cheated on me. She finally kicked me out 8 months ago. Since I moved on with my life, she has moved from her address, and changed jobs. I have four kids. They are in Alabama as I am back home in Oklahoma. I know where she works but do not know her addy or phone. my son is 13 and even he doesn't talk to me much on fb nor will he give me their address. I spoke to my kids last month (first time in 5 months and my youngest, she's five, said she has a new daddy. I was a very interactive dad to my three girls and son. I never missed a game for my son in football and played tea time with my girls. My ex girlfriend was cheating and decided she needed me gone to do what she wanted. Her mom and family have slowly deleted me off social media and KNOW the story. They even used to feel badly for me because of the way she treated me. Yet, they have all left my side. I really don't know what to do from state to state. I have no car, no nothing to even drive to Alabama. Wondering how long it would take to search her. There ought to be some way on theinternet to pay for a tracer service.

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this, but unfortunately we cannot help you, as we are a UK-based service. I can only suggest you do some research online for search agencies, or seek some professional legal advice regarding this matter.
SeparatedDads - 20-Dec-16 @ 11:55 AM
I spent 17 years with a woman who abused me a lot in the relationship and cheated on me.She finally kicked me out 8 months ago.Since i moved on with my life, she has moved from her address, and changed jobs.. i have four kids.. They are in Alabama as i am back home in Oklahoma.I know where she works but do not know her addy or phone.. my son is 13 and even he doesn't talk to me much on fb nor will he give me their address.I spoke to my kids last month (first time in 5 months and my youngest, she's five, said she has a new daddy.I was a very interactive dad to my three girls and son.I never missed a game for my son in football and played tea time with my girls.My ex girlfriend was cheating and decided she needed me gone to do what she wanted.Her mom and family have slowly deleted me off social media and KNOW the story.They even used to feel badly for me because of the way she treated me.Yet, they have all left my side.I really don't know what to do from state to state.I have no car, no nothing to even drive to Alabama.Wondering how long it would take to search her.There ought to be some way on theinternet to payfor a tracer service.
missingmybabies - 19-Dec-16 @ 10:01 PM
Hi my kids mom took off from Atlanta Georgia back in 2014 moved to New Jersey I got her address about 18months later then she took off again moved to another part of the city before I could get her served and now she took off to South Carolina. My question is how do I locate her what is a C4? A tracer how do I hire one? Please help my kids have been abused in New Jersey by her boyfriend yes I reported it and nothing happen!!! Please help I've spent hundreds on lawyers you name it she keeps fleeing from state to state!!! Thanks
Tony - 18-Dec-16 @ 6:11 AM
BSam - Your Question:
Hi, I have applied for child contact and c4 through my solicitors to the court but till the first hearing, the court still haven't locate my ex and my child. What else can I do. Thanks

Our Response:
Your only alternative is to take the advice listed in the article. There are many private search companies or private detectives online who can attempt to trace your ex for a cost. However, we are unable to recommend anyone personally as we can't be seen to be biased.
SeparatedDads - 6-Dec-16 @ 10:26 AM
Hi, I have applied for child contact and c4 through my solicitors to the court but till the first hearing, the court still haven't locate my ex and my child. What else can I do. Thanks
BSam - 5-Dec-16 @ 11:25 AM
If I file a c4 to locate my daughter and her mother decided to withhold her informationwhat could I do to get court papers to be forwarded to her to get my parenting time enforced, even though the courts ordered her to inform me about any information that she change
Ghost - 14-Nov-16 @ 4:09 AM
My situation is identical, it does not go to court, the court stayed the proceedings so that they can not find.
tetis - 28-Oct-16 @ 1:33 PM
Mr.Unhappy Can you say what agency helped you find your child? Thank you in advance
tetis - 28-Oct-16 @ 1:26 PM
In addition to what I wrote below: I meant reasonable not responsible (although that too, I guess). I was tempted to go knock on her door & hopefully finally get to see my kids, but I figured anyone who could behave in a cruel & heartless way she has wouldn't listen to reason anyway & it'll probably be used against me in court & whatever. Right now, I hope she continues to ignore things, refuses to listen to reason, refuses to go to court & the judge will give me full custody of my children due to her hard-headedness, then she'd know the torture I am going through not seeing my kids for months & months.
Mr Unhappy - 25-Oct-16 @ 9:10 PM
Hello! A few months ago my partner took it upon herself to up & leave without telling me taking my children with her. She refused to take my calls or answer my texts, I had no idea where she had to. I gave her time to get her head together or whatever in the hope she would see sense & be responsible about all this but she refused that as well. So I had to resort to using a tracing service, no find no fee & to my surprise they found her new address as I checked it out & found her car parked at the property. It cost me £50.
Mr Unhappy - 25-Oct-16 @ 8:56 PM
Nevaeh mommy misses you. I'm sorry that you never got to meet daddy yet, but I promise you that you will. Mommy and daddy both love you!
navava - 25-Oct-16 @ 1:12 PM
Makayla mommy misses you and loves you very much! I know that you just turned 6 years old. Happy birthday big girl! I hope too see you very,very soon.
makaykay - 25-Oct-16 @ 1:08 PM
Hi my ex partner left me and she moved without telling me her address I'm not on the birth cert can I still fill out c4 with c100?
Jay - 20-Oct-16 @ 12:33 AM
Daddy1 - Your Question:
I am trying to find my kids in Weston super mare, I don't have any court orders stopping me just a wife n new boyfriend. I just want our kids to know I love them and will never give up

Our Response:
If you need to apply through court for contact and you have no address, then with your contact order you can fill in a C4 form, which is an application to the court for an order for the disclosure of a child's whereabouts. This will allow the court to put a trace on your children and to submit the contact application to the courts. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 19-Oct-16 @ 2:04 PM
I am trying to find my kids in Weston super mare, I don't have any court orders stopping me just a wife n new boyfriend. I just want our kids to know I love them and will never give up
Daddy1 - 18-Oct-16 @ 10:38 PM
Ty - Your Question:
I'm trying locate my son's mom I lost track of her for last three years all I know is her first name she lied about her last name all I know is her last place of employment and her her high school she graduated from.

Our Response:
If you are looking to trace your child with a view to access, then you can apply through the court via a C4 form which is an application for an order for disclosure of a child's whereabouts. If the mother does not wish to be traced, then she can still choose to withhold her address. However, the court will have it and therefore this will allow you to apply to see your son.
SeparatedDads - 23-Sep-16 @ 2:01 PM
I'm trying locate my son's mom I lost track of her for last three years all I know is her first name she lied about her last name all I know is her last place of employment and her her high school she graduated from..
Ty - 22-Sep-16 @ 4:55 PM
Cliff - Your Question:
I am desperately trying to find my estranged son 'Ken J Morris' (whom I sadly have never had the privilege to meet). We were separated owing to a big family feud before he was born and I keep trying to find him but without any success. I am sure that he must often wonder what his dad looked like. He was born in 1965 so would be around the fifty mark now. His mum was Sandra (Sandy) Morris whom I loved so very dearly. The family are originally from the Aldershot area (where Sandra and I got married after my demob).If anyone can throw any light on this for me I would be eternally grateful.Thank you.

Our Response:
Have you tried social media such as Facebook? There are online tracing platforms too. If you have the finances you may wish to hire a private detective.
SeparatedDads - 12-Sep-16 @ 2:25 PM
I am desperately trying to find my estranged son 'Ken J Morris' (whom I sadly have never had the privilege to meet). We were separated owing to a big family feud before he was born and I keep trying to find him but without any success.I am sure that he must often wonder what his dad looked like. He was born in 1965 so would be around the fifty mark now.His mum was Sandra (Sandy) Morris whom I loved so very dearly.The family are originally from the Aldershot area (where Sandra and I got married after my demob). If anyone can throw any light on this for me I would be eternally grateful. Thank you.
Cliff - 10-Sep-16 @ 5:12 PM
I whant to found my boys plz help me the last time I new the werestaying in bakersfield in kimberley I got no nommer of my ex whife only her I'd nom 8406100147082 and one of my boys I'd jp 0505105188088 I realy whant to share some time with my boys plz help me to found them. Plzzz
johan - 9-Sep-16 @ 6:56 PM
I've been paying an agreed amount with my estranged wife for child maintenance. I recently moved and informed her that I would be working shifts to earn more money as I was struggling. She asked for more money even though I was doing so just to get by. Within a month a had a letter from the csa saying my "previous agreement" had finished and I now needed to make a new agreement. I called my ex as I'd only lived at my new address for 2 months, she debited giving my address to the csa, but why would they trace my new address if I've been paying my estranged wife?? Any advice please?
Cookie76 - 9-Sep-16 @ 6:45 PM
Caidybug - Your Question:
My ex left me cheated took off with our daughter and had blocked me on Facebook. She told me I will never see her or my daughter again. I was not violent or mean to her and she had constantly told me how much she was glad our daughters had me for a daddy. It kills me because I just want to see my baby. It's crazy the day before she cheated we were planning our wedding. We made a playlist on YouTube and now I can't delete it. I can say that I do love her and I always will but I don't ever want to be with her again. She left 4 times over a text then blocked immediately. No chance to even find out what was wrong or why. No closure no reason instant loss of family. Sorry I just needed to get it out. If anyone knows how to find my child please let me know. I'm on the birth certificate. I don't want to take my daughter from her mother I just want to be able to see my Caidybug

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. You would have to apply through the courts for a C4 form which is an application for an order for disclosure of a child's whereabouts. If you apply for this alongside your C100 contact order then the courts can put a trace on your child which will allow you to apply for access. If you cannot afford legal fees of having a solicitor represent you in court, you can self litigate, please see link here . I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 18-Aug-16 @ 12:57 PM
I don't know where my ex moved and took our daughter. I have no clue where she went. I only know her new boyfriends name and her name
Caidybug - 18-Aug-16 @ 6:31 AM
My ex left me cheated took off with our daughter and had blocked me on Facebook. She told me I will never see her or my daughter again. I was not violent or mean to her and she had constantly told me how much she was glad our daughters had me for a daddy. It kills me because I just want to see my baby. It's crazy the day before she cheated we were planning our wedding. We made a playlist on YouTube and now I can't delete it. I can say that I do love her and I always will but I don't ever want to be with her again. She left 4 times over a text then blocked immediately. No chance to even find out what was wrong or why. No closure no reason instant loss of family. Sorry I just needed to get it out. If anyone knows how to find my child please let me know. I'm on the birth certificate. I don't want to take my daughter from her mother I just want to be able to see my Caidybug
Caidybug - 18-Aug-16 @ 6:29 AM
Swanny - Your Question:
Looking for Eva rose swan possible mccalistar use to live Perth think inaberdeen or Glasgow

Our Response:
If you are looking for your child and want access to her you can also apply through the court on a C4 form, which is an application for an order for disclosure of a child's whereabouts. If you apply along with a C100 form, then the courts can put a trace on your child. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 2-Aug-16 @ 9:37 AM
Looking for Eva rose swan possible mccalistar use to live Perth think inaberdeen or Glasgow
Swanny - 1-Aug-16 @ 12:49 AM
Stephanie- Your Question:
I'm looking for my son his dad moved houses nd change my son it's been school it'd been a year I haven't seen my son

Our Response:
You would have to apply for a contact order if you wish to re-gain contact with your son (C100). If you do not have the address, you can also apply for a C4 which is an application for an order for disclosure of a child's whereabouts. This will allow the court to put a trace on your son, so that you can apply to court for access.
SeparatedDads - 27-Jul-16 @ 2:57 PM
I'm looking for my son his dad moved houses nd change myson it's beenschool it'd been a year I haven't seen my son
Stephanie - 23-Jul-16 @ 9:14 AM
LostDad - Your Question:
I'm having a difficult time trying to find the where abouto of my Ex Fiancé and Our Baby that she was pregnant with that now is 19 months old but to this day I've never got to be with or know anything about my child do to her taking off while pregnant now I'm in desperate need of finding Our Baby to Give Me Some Peace and So I can go about Being In Our Baby's Life Please help me in anyway Possible

Our Response:
Even if you don't know where your child is you can still apply for access and put a trace on your child through the courts. You will need to apply for contact (form C100) and also fill in the C4 form which is an application for an order for disclosure of a child's whereabouts. While your ex may wish to still keep the address confidential, it will mean you can apply to see your child. I wish you the best of luck.
SeparatedDads - 17-May-16 @ 2:07 PM
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