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What Organisations Help With Rights for Dads?

By: Chris Nickson - Updated: 10 Nov 2019 | comments*Discuss
 
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All too often, separated and divorced fathers feel they’re alone. Women have support groups of all kinds, but the men can seem left out in the cold. If they feel a sense of injustice in the way the courts have treated them, over access or other issues, they might feel quite isolated.

But there are a number of different groups that work on behalf of men. In most instances they’ve been formed by men themselves from a sense of outrage. Some – for better or worse – have received a fair amount of media coverage, but most operate largely under the radar of publicity.

They do share a lot of common goals, especially fighting for the rights of fathers, which some of them believe have been trampled by the rights of mothers, and that fathers often never receive a fair deal in court.

Fathers4Justice

Probably the best-known group is Fathers4Justice, which was formed in 2003 by Matt O’Connor after a bad divorce meant he had no regular access to his children. Their tactics, such as pelting the Prime Minister with condoms in Parliament, or the alleged kidnap plot against the PM’s son, have given them a great deal of publicity, most of it very unfavourable to the cause of fathers. But there’s no doubt that, as a pressure group, they’ve highlighted the plight of a number of fathers. In 2005, a spin-off group, Real Fathers for Justice, emerged.

Other Organisations

Families Need Fathers is, as the name implies, aimed primarily at fathers, but extends its services to mothers, grandparents and others, too. Its aim is to keep all the parties involved with their children. They particularly work with fathers undergoing separation and worried about access, helping them reach agreements to remain close to their children, and have excellent resources, including branches across the country, workshops, and a great deal more. It’s far more low-key than Fathers4Justice, and has been around a few decades now.

Also worth noting is the Fatherhood Institute, although this isn’t an advocate for separated fathers in the same ways as the others. Founded in 1999 (reportedly with the support of the government), it does support co-operative parenting, and has a number of publications for fathers, with the intent of keeping fathers as strong role models.

The Equal Parenting Council works for both parents being involved with their children after separation or divorce, and its long-term goal is to change the family justice system. It can help parents – not just men - with Cafcass and negotiate the Family Court System.

BabyFather is aimed specifically at fathers in the black community, working with the charity Barnado’s. Founded in 2002, it runs a number of programmes, and has begun a couple of training and consultancy services to help absent fathers become more involved with their children, and also focuses on the particular problems of black families.

For those living in the Nottingham area, Men United Fathers Network works for fathers in all situations, not simply those seeking greater access to their children, but as a parenting organisation. Other areas, such as Hull, also have groups for fathers.

Finally, there’s Parentline Plus. As the name says, it’s not solely for fathers, but it can help, with a 24-hour helpline that’s confidential. They also have phone support groups, and message boards on their website that can be useful to fathers.

Check out the Separated Dads Forum... It's a great resource where you can ask for advice on topics including Child Access, Maintenance, CAFCASS, Fathers Rights, Court, Behaviour or simply to have a chat with other dads.

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@lyn.i can relate to your story,I myself have sent threatening messages to child mother and been on (multiple orders) .i do not contact her anymore and never will again and( I hope )none off (my family )do because I really don’t want to get in trouble again and face court again gods truth )my dilemma now is my daughter is growen up teenager now and I think it’s (not worth )going to court for visitation now .because the last time I seen her she was 5 and now she is (15 ).so yeah I don’t think I will ever see her againto be honest with the way things are between her mother and myself .but( goodluck )to all the other dads out there my advice is don’t fight your ex get a solicitor ASAP if you want rights to your child.
Chris - 10-Nov-19 @ 6:15 PM
My son got a girl pregnant when he was 21 she 19. He now 22 and she 20. They were not together as boyfriend and girlfriend and she told him she couldn't have children. Next thing she pregnant. When baby arrived he gave it a go as boyfriend and girlfriend. Things were ok but he said he did not feel anything for her, me and his told told him to end it as he can't string her along. He ended it with her and few months down line he got involved with another girl nothing serious at first. That's when the baby mummy turned. Her and her mum started picking on my son. Anything he done for his daughter was not good enough.He was getting put down all time over things he brought for his daughter, with them saying its not suitable. Her mum is very controlling and has always criticised my son, she seems to think she got more rights of my sons daughter and would always interfere. It all escalated and my son lost it. He screamed abuse at baby mummy and he regretted this as he feels they pushed him to it. Next thing court order was served on him to stay away from her. He not allowed to contact her not even family members are. The only way he can now see his daughter is to go court which will cost a fortune.Contents of the order was totally exaggerated. Although he did scream abuse to her, he was not controlling. She said he didn't like her talkingto boys this is all lies, he didn't want to be with her so really didn't care about other boys. He once got a picture of her sent to him by another boy, she was naked in his bed, she was the manipulative one and yet she told courts my son was. And now he unable to see his daughter because she did not like it he moved on. I'm actually disgusted as a woman that this is happening all time. These girls seem to think there children are weapons and it should not be allowed. Its almost blackmail that if a father steps out of line he looses his children.Where should this be allowed to happen.
Lyn - 10-Nov-19 @ 7:40 AM
Hi my son has a baby with his now ex-girlfriend .The baby has lived with us since birth and her mum left her here when she left.She has temporary accommodation which she’s had since before giving birth ,but never moved into as was here.When she moved out she didn’t hardly visit ,despite the fact she’s getting child benefit.My sonhad topay her busfare to get her to come visit her baby.My son and myself have cared for the child since birth.Niw the mum keeps messing around changing days /dates to have her baby then when she does she keeps saying she’s not bringing her back .She wants to continue the relationship with my son ,but he doesn’t he just wants to look after and continue to care for his child.She has her child for 3nights recently and 2of the nights she went out patting at events and left her with her dad.Why take her those nights if she can’t be bothered to spend the time with her.He went to solicitors but not able to get legal aid .So just trying to get some advice please .He wants mum to see the baby and spend time with her Obviously ,but she keeps threatening to keep her and this has been her hime since birth.
Vera - 12-Aug-19 @ 10:29 AM
I was a victim of DV for 11 years. I stayed to protect the children. Female partner very narcissistic and has had me arrested, charged, taken to Court and has alienated me from my two girls aged 9 & 10 .. I have NEVER been a threat, yet she says time & again she lives in fear, she has lied in court at every opportunity and I can prove this, yet nobody listens to me. My girls are PETRIFIED of their mother and yet she has full custody and I have none, the judge saw fit to take away my visitationrights when I was so upset in court, slammed my papers on the desk & walked out as I couldnt listen to her lies , through the courts she has manipulated her way to taking away my rights as a father ... She has stopped almost all of my visits ( my girls were so happy and loved seeing me .. .. but gave been manipulated and bribed into saying things about myself and my new partner that simply arnt true ) and court ordered pick ups by taking my girls out of school and has even snatched one daughter aggressively from my elderly mother in front of School teachers, headmistress & governors... who have completely changed there attitude towards me (my ex had me known as a wife beater ) and are now very supportive.The girls have guardians and social workers who see my utter frustration as aggression ... my ex comes over as wanting to build bridges and helpful and I'm seen as fixated and angry, of which I am, but only to get my children safe ..I HAVE NEVER BEEN IN ANY TROUBLE and have plenty of evidence to show re domestic abuse and mental cruelty towards myself and the children yet I am still seen as the perpetrator. What can I do ? The final court date has been postponed because she didnt attend a psych assessment.... I did .... please please help .. people are being so judgemental and plain dismissive..... I've been seen just once with the girls with social workers while the ex is seen continually.
Astro - 19-Jul-19 @ 10:22 PM
My financial divorce settlement final hearing concluded on Thursday. My wife was awarded 90% of our shared equity. Our marriage was short, just three years. My wife wanted the divorce and has relentlessly driven me through court. We earn a similar amount of money. We have one child a together he is four. The judge cited my conduct as the primary reason why he awarded my wife 90% of our shared equity. His delineations were all based on conjecture. No evidence was presented regarding my conduct to substantiate the judges injunction I intend to appeal this decision. Im hoping for some advice.
Proton - 6-Jul-19 @ 12:02 PM
Hi I moved to a refuge as the situation in the house was unbearable so many swearing and breaking things. I had called the police once because he hit me. Só social services had been called. I could have this opportunity to be in a refuge and start life again. But they don’t allow my girls to see the father. Now I am so worried. First I know he won’t hurt me or hurt the girls (he never did he is an amazing dad) My girls are crying for him and I am sure he is also. Does someone know what can I do to help him see them? I really want them to see each other. I definitely don’t want to go back to him. I do want to start fresh but I want them to see him. It is so awkward because they keep saying he might use the girls to control me. I know he wouldn’t. I am scared to death now. Can they remove this girls from me if I bring the girls to see him? Can I bring them to see him? One charity told me it is not illegal if I do but they don’t recommend. I don’t what they mean by this. They don’t recommend for safety but it is up to me to judge my family life? Or they can intervene and remove my girls from me also? Please fathers help me to help their dad. He is an amazing dad - breaks my heart to see the girls suffering and breaks my heart to know he is devastes. Who would not be in desespero with their children?
Lia - 28-Jun-19 @ 9:07 PM
My ex want let me see my child but she wants to take him abroad this thersday but do she need my promotion to take him i dont rely want to stop him going but only to day i found out she is taking him but i really wont to see my littal boy and i dont know what is the best thing to do if he goes he hi mam cant say noting to him to posan him or do i block her from taking him and my son is only 4 but he has 2 older brothers and i dont want them to loos out with there brother please please help i really dont know what to do
Bulldog - 28-Apr-19 @ 5:57 PM
@matty yeah it is long and expensive route to take makes it even harder if you have [orders on you] .[from sending silly child like messages ].but the mother off my child is a mother .and i am [strong and happy ]and her daughter is[ grown up now with her own life] .i changed my number to [start a fresh] .i will let her mother and her daughter get on with it .
chris - 21-Apr-19 @ 4:18 AM
Reply to the do I have to have to have permission to apply to go for a court order to get a c100 is no. as long asyour ex partner refuses to go for the mediation process then the next option is c100 long and expensive process .good look
Matty - 16-Apr-19 @ 9:51 PM
Hi, I am after some advice regarding consent orders. I have a consent order in place dating back to 2013 whereby I pay 'x' amount and have my 2 boys 2 nights a week, those days were flexible between us as I different worked shifts. Since 2014 my boys have stayed with me 3-4 days a week but I kept the payments going and was still paying for all sorts of other things on top as we do. I was happy to do this for the sake of the boys and an easy life as ultimately I was getting what I wanted having my boys so much. Last year I felt the money I was giving was not being spent as it should and the school contacted me numerous times regarding their uniform but I refused to buy extra uniform when I am paying my ex and other things on top so I drew the line and after a blow up via texts where she told me to 'shove my money up my arse'.... so I did. I opened a separate account titled CSA and put the same money in this account every month. I bought loads of clothes including uniform and kept all receipts. This went on for 4-5 months until she recently went to the CSA and so I have now started her payments again. (no big deal, happy to pay just don't want it going her new lips!!). But she also trying to enforce the 2 days only , even though over the years it has been anything but 2 days! I now want to go to court to have the consent order ended and go for joint custody as I have had shared custody almost from the off. I am filling in the C100 form, is this the right form? Do I need permission to go to court? Do I have to try mediation (MIAM) first? My circumstances have now changed, I live closer to their school, I work Mon-Friday, days only I am having an extension done, starting this month so they will their own bedrooms (which they don't at their mothers), I have regular contact with their school, I haven't missed parent evenings, school plays, sports days etc....I have been a massive regular part of their life from day 1 and so I am very confident of winning in court but any advice regarding how to go about it would be most appreciated.Thanks
Flog - 16-Apr-19 @ 12:37 PM
Please tell me 1 are company and personal pension contributions deducted from gross earnings for CM payments and 2 can I deduct weekend stopovers from my weekly CM payment and 3 can I deduct 50% of my daughters travel costs as my my former wife refuses to contribute Thank you
Tony - 3-Apr-19 @ 9:38 AM
I have my son 106 days on a rota basis plus extra in the school holidays over the year. This has been an ongoing agreement between us for many years, but has never been to court. I have always paid maintenance of £250 per month to my ex via direct payment. In addition I pay extra school activities and buy school uniform Recently my ex has asked for a recalculation via CMS, she has lied telling them I only have my son 89 days per year. This has resulted in an increase in my payments based on a lie. CMS chose to take her word for this and are refusing to believe me. I have no proof what can I do? I believe this to be fraud and obtaining money be deception. Can you advise please
Sammy - 27-Mar-19 @ 12:00 AM
Hi, I need some advice my son recently became a one parent family (opf). In the past the parent paying maintenance could pay this money directly to the children for the children. The children paid tax on this when they reached the tax exemption level. I don’t know what the current rate is....£11000/14000....it’s somewhere around this and you personally would know this if you are in paid employment. This I assume you are. Can you tell me from your legal advisors what the exact wording is. The Government are not aware of this nor do they want to be aware, so seeking information from Them is not an option. Currently the children of all opf who get a maintenance payment are losing a lot as the parent in receipt of maintenance must add this to their income and this money is in effect being taxed twice. Once at source and then when it is added to the receivers income it will be taxed again. I appreciate any help you can give me today. Thanks.
Fairtrade - 5-Mar-19 @ 3:04 PM
Need some help and advise. I dropped my wife off to a family wedding on Xmas day 2018. She told me wanted to stay for a few days with her family following the wedding with the kids. She has not returned. I called and sent her many messages asking when she was coming home but she had ignored all my communication. However, she called me a few times and just gave the phone to my 2 year old son to talk. But till this day she has not spoken to me. 1 week ago she sent me a message saying she has left with the kids and will not return. I do not know there whereabouts and she has now blocked my number. However she will unblock my number as and when she wants to call and let me speak to the kids but then block me again. I have reached out to a solicitor, who has tried to contact her via email. How her my wife is not communicating with solicitor either. My solicitor today sent a email saying she will start court preceedings by the end of the week if she does not hear back from her as she has ignored all communication to try and mediate. Is this the right approach is there anything else I can do, I do not want it to go to court and would rather try mediation or take a more amicable approach. I have instructed a solicitor for only 1 week and she has sent 3 emails and I have had to pay almost 1000 pounds already. The solicit has told me if it goes to court it will cost around 4000 for first hearing only. Any advise or help would be much appreciated. I am confusedand Desperate. Thank you
Kay87 - 16-Jan-19 @ 8:22 PM
Hi, my ex partner who I have a 3 year old boy with is in an abusive relationship, I know this for certain as she has sent me proof of this and I have had to come to her aid a number of times, she refuses to stop seeing the abusive partner. I am massively concerned for my boy, what options do I have in relation to stopping the abusive partner seeing my son.
JM - 7-Jan-19 @ 9:53 AM
In need of help and advice. I chose to leave the family home about 3 months ago due to constant accusations none of which I was guilty of i was seeing my kids regular each week up until 3 weeks ago when she stopped all contact I can't afford a solicitor and mediation is out of the question as I know the mother will not agree to it please can you help.
BDJ178 - 11-Dec-18 @ 9:24 AM
Am Iallowed to have 2 barristers for my family matter ? I have been in court since 2014 Had weekend handover mother unilateral stoped contact in 2015 , I took her back to court she failed to attend for handover at the contact centre took her back to court and then again. She failed to attend again. And then didn’t show up to court again twice after penal notice was attached she showed and the I saw kids 3 times then she stopped contact again . 2 years had already passed now we were in 2017. She failed to attend again then finally saw my kids in 2018 then the kids had been brainwashed as I only saw them 4 times since 2015 . Judge didn’t enforce any orders or carry out the penal notices even though they had been attached to the court orders which were broken and most she didn’t show up even . I’m disgusted at this system. As a father I feel descriminated against. Also the Caffcass guardian has been very obstructive as well as she suggested no contact - because children needed a cooling period.
H - 23-Nov-18 @ 9:16 PM
Hi my boyfriends baby mother was a controlling person and made him marry her by cutting herself and saying she will kill herself if he didn’t marry her so he did she even told him to sell his home and kick out his elderly parents. She use to force feed him and he’d have to compliment her food after first mouthful and tell him when he’s allowed to sleep and when he’s allowed to wake up and every other day she would kick him out and make him sleep in the car so she knew he wasn’t out cheating. They had a kid together and he did everything she wanted just to spend time with his kid and at on point not long after the kids 4th birthday they split up and she would call randomly early hours in the morning after he would work all night and say take your son to school as his sons school is near where he lived and she lives half an hour drive from it so he would even though exhausted he would jump at the chance just to spend that half an hour with his son but he weren’t allowed to just visit him as he pleases. Just random times she would call him tell him to take her shopping and make him pay which he never mind nor complained about it due to him feeling like he’s feeding his son and the woman that’s looking after his son. Sometimes she would say for him to come visit the son so he would drive up then when he gets there she says why are you here I will call the police if you don’t go and everytime breaking his heart as he’d just got excited to see his son. She then told him to take his son school every Tuesday and Thursday but would either turn her phone off at the night or tell him early hours in the morning that she don’t want him taking the son. Proper mess about he was also told he isn’t allowed to take the son near his brother and sisters and the rest of his family. Then out of no where she calls the police and says that he held a knife to his throat so he got arrested and bailed out she also did a non molestation order on him and then 2 and a half months later she was in his area and she saw him in his car and all he did was saw his son reversed got out the car and asked if he could hold him as his heart was aching over the months to see him and then she called police and said he tried to run over his son and her with his car which is all lies he’s the one who’s been under her control over the years he’s scared of what she can do and more then anything he loves his son and he respects his baby mother for the fact she looks after him and gave birth to him. Anyways with this second lie he’s now being held on remand based on her false allegations and he’s not allowed bail till the main hearing :/ I’m not sure what I can do to help him get his rights as a father to see his child and for this false allegation to be dropped.
JusticeMatters - 11-Sep-18 @ 5:57 PM
Hibbs - Your Question:
Can some please advise I’m losing the will with the CMS’ I’m constantly telling that the child slash Know a 18 year adult left college in June and is no longer going back to college in September I know that I have to pay until the 31st if August but they keep sending letters saying the case will be reviewed in May 2019’ by then the adult will be 19. They keep saying that as long as the other parent is showing on they system that she’s in receiving child benefit there is nothing they can do until she’s no longer getting child benefit. But how can you have child benefit for a adult no longer in education.

Our Response:
The complication comes if your child hasn't informed the college that he/she is leaving (if for instance, your child is on a two-year course then they are still in the system as being so). Until your child is no longer on the register and child benefit is stopped as a result, there is little you can do as the parent is eligible to receive child maintenance until child benefit officially stops.
SeparatedDads - 10-Sep-18 @ 12:13 PM
Can some please advise I’m losing the will with the CMS’ I’m constantly telling that the child slash Know a 18 year adult left college in June and is no longer going back to college in September I know that I have to pay until the 31st if August but they keep sending letters saying the case will be reviewed in May 2019’ by then the adult will be 19. They keep saying that as long as the other parent is showing on they system that she’s in receiving child benefit there is nothing they can do until she’s no longer getting child benefit. But how can you have child benefit for a adult no longer in education.
Hibbs - 9-Sep-18 @ 8:32 PM
Bogie7- Your Question:
Hi everyone, today I got a letter through my door by my ex partner informing me that she has put my children in another school 3 days before term starts. What this means for me is that the original school was on the same road as my mum and data who have been taking them and collecting them whilst I have to work. I have 50/50 shared care. I was not informed and the school where she has put them is close to where she has moved but now my parents could not make the extra journey 4 miles away. It doesn't sound a lot but my mum and dad are in there 70s and I feel guilty as it is. I applied for an emergency court hearing on this today to try and stop this. Anyone got any advise or been through something similar. It's all designed to stop me having or being able to get contact for more maintenance money

Our Response:
In this instance the Separated Dads Forum may be able to help. We have dads who can advise personally, if they have been through a similar situation previously.
SeparatedDads - 4-Sep-18 @ 10:22 AM
Hi everyone,today I got a letter through my door by my ex partner informing me that she has put my children in another school 3 days before term starts. What this means for me is that the originalschool was on the same road as my mum and data who have been taking them and collecting them whilst I have to work. I have 50/50 shared care. I was not informed and the school where she has put them is close to where she has moved but now my parents could not make the extra journey 4 miles away . It doesn't sound a lot but my mum and dad are in there 70s and I feel guilty as it is . I applied for an emergency court hearing on this today to try and stop this . Anyone got any advise or been through something similar. It's all designed to stop me having or being able to get contact for more maintenance money
Bogie7 - 30-Aug-18 @ 7:26 PM
PMB139 - Your Question:
I have a 13 years old daughter and 9 and 12 years old sons. I have regular contacts with my two sons for weekends and holidays. But my daughter has cut me off for now reason and made no contact with me for three years. Last year my daughter and I made contact for three months by texting each other and finally agreed to come to see me for a lunch and bowling with boys just before Xmas last year. It was wonderful and we had a great time. Before I took her home, I asked her if she enjoyed it. She gave me a thumb up. Then I took boys with me for Xmas. I texted her next day to say it was great to see her and hope to see her again very soon. no contact or response from her since. I made some effort to get her contact with me. Her number was changed. Very bizarre. I asked one of my son to text her that I said hello and love you. Next thing I received an email from her but it was not from her. it was my ex wrote this email and saying my daughter want no contact and want her surname changed to double barrel surname with my ex and mine. I didn't respond to that email. In past few years, numbers of emails was sent to me few times and actually written by my ex using her email address, I knew it was not my daughter's writing. It was sick. I have no way of contacting my daughter and feel helpless. Is there anyway to resolve this and to prevent my daughter brainwashed by my ex? Any advice would be great and I have limited access because of my deafness so use email or text messaging. I am completely put off by CAFCASS or any court case as they are farce and crap! Some good friends with social service experience mentioned that my ex have a personality disorder or Munchhausen's syndrome and a manipulative and compulsive liar. Many thanks

Our Response:
It is always easy from an outsider's perspective to label people with a personality disorder without any concrete medical verification of this. You have no other recourse but to either request mediation and if she refuses then court is your last option. Unfortunately, in circumstances such as this only a judge can decide on the back of a Cafcass investigation.
SeparatedDads - 5-Jun-18 @ 9:46 AM
Smiley - Your Question:
My fellas ex wont let him see his kids. Does mediation cost as I know he said his not intitled to legal aid. Thanks in advance

Our Response:
You can see more via the link here , which will tell you all you need to know.
SeparatedDads - 4-Jun-18 @ 11:35 AM
I have a 13 years old daughter and 9 and 12 years old sons. I have regular contacts with my two sons for weekends and holidays. But my daughter has cut me off for now reason and made no contact with me for three years. Last year my daughter and I made contact for three months by texting each other and finally agreed to come to see me for a lunch and bowling with boys just before Xmas last year. It was wonderful and we had a great time. Before i took her home, i asked her if she enjoyed it. She gave me a thumb up. Then i took boys with me for Xmas. I texted her next day to say it was great to see her and hope to see her again very soon. no contact or response from her since. I made some effort to get her contact with me. Her number was changed. Very bizarre. I asked one of my son to text her that i said hello and love you. Next thing I received an email from her but it was not from her. it was my ex wrote this email and saying my daughter want no contact and want her surname changed to double barrel surname with my ex and mine. I didn't respond to that email. In past few years, numbers of emails was sent to me few times and actually written by my ex using her email address, I knew it was not my daughter's writing. It was sick. I have no way of contacting my daughter and feel helpless. Is there anyway to resolve this and to prevent my daughter brainwashed by my ex? Any advice would be great and i have limited access because of my deafness so use email or text messaging. I am completely put off by CAFCASS or any court case as they are farce and crap! Some good friends with social service experience mentioned that my ex have a personality disorder or Munchhausen's syndrome and a manipulative and compulsive liar. Many thanks
PMB139 - 4-Jun-18 @ 11:14 AM
hello my wife she report on me to police and i have been released under investigation and have been more than 45 day i didn't see my son i don't know what to do and there is no event one evidence that i did something wrong do I have wait for police decision ? and she come to the uk by spous visanowshe apply for asylum thats way she make this drama toget stateand benefiti doint know what to door start from where ?raet now i'm really in bad mood i miss my son so much i have been told the police that my wife she have mental problem and psychology problemand i have not get any answer or anydecision
karzan9 - 4-Jun-18 @ 3:04 AM
My fellas ex wont let him see his kids. Does mediation cost as i know he said his not intitled to legal aid. Thanks in advance
Smiley - 3-Jun-18 @ 2:13 AM
And after reading about my rights and reliving my past .I have decided to not fight my x legally to see my daughter the pinning has gone the realization and understanding The truth of my situation and the ill feelings I have for my x and others involved Are to strong and will never change .plus i reached out to my daughter got nothing back i take that a sign and will blocking her her step father or step mother can have her .i tried to change from the inside out and be like these young men I work with and how they are single dad going out doing things With there children putting posts up of there children friends with there ex and new boyfriends co parent .in reality i am nothing like that if i am honest i hate my x and would knock her boyfriend clean out if come to my place so guess i am dog and i will what dogs do and keep living my life the way it is because i love pub and football ,golfing again my mates are happy i am back to my old self and out of my depression of the past .your blogs have been educational but back when i went though it they were not around or maybe because i didnt have internet or was to busy in the pub chasing tail and playing pool and watching the fights.but if i ever do get the chance to have another kid i will be educated now so thank you much .
c.laurie - 30-May-18 @ 12:55 AM
As I read these story's of help organizations that help dads .if I am completely honest with you I didn't no they where around .when my x and daughter left years ago I was happy gods truth .i was going out sleeping with different women having fun it was like i was 18 again .and if i am honest i did not give my daughter a second thought back then and for years forgot about been father .i seen a photo of my daughter at 11 last time i seen her she was 5 and for the first time i felt like i needed to change i was getting older the pubs whores where not making me happy any more and started to feel sad and looked down on myself for not getting a legal help for rights years ago and i went into a depression my mates thought i was broken i didnt want to go to the pub or to the football Just went to workand just stayed home like it was bad .my mates turned up said wtf is wrong with you i said i was sad about not getting my daughter years ago and they said wtf its been years and you have not mentioned her or spoke her name in years I said i know but i feel it now for some reason .that was a few years ago now and i am back to my old self now but yeah it was intense feeling of lose and pinning for my daughter it was strange feeling weird it was like i was reliving my past and the emoitions And signs i turn off to years agothat i didnt pay attention toi felt them with full force years later if that makes cents. And i felt rage hurt sadness madness with myself for staying noting fighting.now when i look at these people i look down on them and have just wiped the lot .thanks
c.laurie - 29-May-18 @ 11:19 PM
I wave reacently suffered from addiction and mental illness as a result lost my wife and daughter well had social work turn them against me in court and I’m first to admit I’m no angel in all this but do think I’ve been treated unfairly wither a court order placed that I can’t contact my wife or kid nor them contact me now been evicted from our family home as of the 6th of June everything in the house will go to my wife and kid I feel as I’ve been railroaded by social services and victimised for my religion by one of there workers I’m sure if things where dealt with in a better manner considering my addiction to alcohol and mental health issues this could have been fixed as I was attending services for help
Millwall - 29-May-18 @ 1:54 AM
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