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What Organisations Help With Rights for Dads?

By: Chris Nickson - Updated: 27 Jul 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
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All too often, separated and divorced fathers feel they’re alone. Women have support groups of all kinds, but the men can seem left out in the cold. If they feel a sense of injustice in the way the courts have treated them, over access or other issues, they might feel quite isolated.

But there are a number of different groups that work on behalf of men. In most instances they’ve been formed by men themselves from a sense of outrage. Some – for better or worse – have received a fair amount of media coverage, but most operate largely under the radar of publicity.

They do share a lot of common goals, especially fighting for the rights of fathers, which some of them believe have been trampled by the rights of mothers, and that fathers often never receive a fair deal in court.

Fathers4Justice

Probably the best-known group is Fathers4Justice, which was formed in 2003 by Matt O’Connor after a bad divorce meant he had no regular access to his children. Their tactics, such as pelting the Prime Minister with condoms in Parliament, or the alleged kidnap plot against the PM’s son, have given them a great deal of publicity, most of it very unfavourable to the cause of fathers. But there’s no doubt that, as a pressure group, they’ve highlighted the plight of a number of fathers. In 2005, a spin-off group, Real Fathers for Justice, emerged.

Other Organisations

Families Need Fathers is, as the name implies, aimed primarily at fathers, but extends its services to mothers, grandparents and others, too. Its aim is to keep all the parties involved with their children. They particularly work with fathers undergoing separation and worried about access, helping them reach agreements to remain close to their children, and have excellent resources, including branches across the country, workshops, and a great deal more. It’s far more low-key than Fathers4Justice, and has been around a few decades now.

Also worth noting is the Fatherhood Institute, although this isn’t an advocate for separated fathers in the same ways as the others. Founded in 1999 (reportedly with the support of the government), it does support co-operative parenting, and has a number of publications for fathers, with the intent of keeping fathers as strong role models.

The Equal Parenting Council works for both parents being involved with their children after separation or divorce, and its long-term goal is to change the family justice system. It can help parents – not just men - with Cafcass and negotiate the Family Court System.

BabyFather is aimed specifically at fathers in the black community, working with the charity Barnado’s. Founded in 2002, it runs a number of programmes, and has begun a couple of training and consultancy services to help absent fathers become more involved with their children, and also focuses on the particular problems of black families.

For those living in the Nottingham area, Men United Fathers Network works for fathers in all situations, not simply those seeking greater access to their children, but as a parenting organisation. Other areas, such as Hull, also have groups for fathers.

Finally, there’s Parentline Plus. As the name says, it’s not solely for fathers, but it can help, with a 24-hour helpline that’s confidential. They also have phone support groups, and message boards on their website that can be useful to fathers.

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My ex partner is in temporary accommodation and says that our 3 children can not stay with me until they have been rehoused as this is a stipulation the local council has made, Can a local council enforce this as it only means I get to spend 9 hours a week with my children. Any advice would be greatful.
Dg1981 - 27-Jul-17 @ 1:53 PM
Me an my ex split up years ago I see my ladregular every week end his mum is now with some one else an has got a kid with him my son does not get on with mum's new partner an feels like he's getting pushed out an often tells me that he wants to live with me how would I go about doing this I no she would not agree to this but I know my lad would be better of an happier with me
Pete - 8-Jun-17 @ 3:22 PM
Mike - Your Question:
My ex moved out of the county we live in d to escape social service involvement with my children she went to Wales and claimed domestic violence to secure accommodation for herself and the children this was a complete lie I have never been violent toward her I have tried going to court to get this sorted but have been told it has to go to a fact finding hearing and I will need a barrister to represent me at a cost of a 1000+ per day I and my children are the innocent parties in all this and I have now had no physical contact with them for 9 months and no verbal contact for 4 months even though I am registered on the birth certificate can anyone help please

Our Response:
You do not need a barrister to represent you, you can represent yourself. Please see link here.
SeparatedDads - 3-May-17 @ 2:53 PM
My ex moved out of the county we live in d to escape social service involvement with my children she went to Wales and claimed domestic violence to secure accommodation for herself and the children this was a complete lie I have never been violent toward her I have tried going to court to get this sorted but have been told it has to go to a fact finding hearing and I will need a barrister to represent me at a cost of a 1000+ per day I and my children are the innocent parties in all this and I have now had no physical contact with them for 9 months and no verbal contact for 4 months even though I am registered on the birth certificate can anyone help please
Mike - 30-Apr-17 @ 12:16 AM
Hi I split with my partner couple of years ago since the split things have been very tense with her new partner and I was having contact with my children but after a incident where my ex and her new partner came and took the kids of me and I was involved in a tragic insident in the process they have stopped all contact to the point the children are locked behind closed doors so I can't see them. They have been given a non molestion order in this time due to me trying to contact them through solicitors. I am struggling to find financial help to get the contact back withmy children can anyone help .
Jimmy - 12-Apr-17 @ 1:17 PM
ezee - Your Question:
Hi the mother of my daughter has changed her name and been taking her abroad without my consent I really need to know what I can do about this. I can't seem to find any free advice.

Our Response:
If you disagree wit the mother taking your daughter out of the country without your consent, and you have parental responsibility for your child, then you can apply for a Prohibited Steps Order via the courts. A PSO is an order granted by the court in family cases which prevents either parent from carrying out certain events or making specific trips with their children without the express permission of the other parent. This is more common in cases where there is suspicion that one parent may permanently leave the area with their children. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 12-Apr-17 @ 11:42 AM
Hi the mother of my daughter has changed her name and been taking her abroad without my consent I really need to know what I can do about this. I can't seem to find any free advice.
ezee - 11-Apr-17 @ 4:51 PM
hi guys, as you mean know fathers are finally allowed to share parental leave, however employers are still discriminating against fathers by not paying them as much as mothers for the same leave, please sign and share this petition to put a stop to this: https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/184885
ozzy - 16-Mar-17 @ 7:53 PM
Can anyone help me please I have triplets and there mother has took them from there Suffolk home to Liverpool to live I've been to court now twice but I've got no where I'm due to go back again in may but I'm banging my head against A brick wall the court has also lost. Paper work that I've sent in please is there anything I can do I need to see my children thanks
Tripletrio - 8-Mar-17 @ 7:04 PM
My ex-partner and I adopted our sonin 2014. We separated in September 2016 by mutual consent with absolutely no violence on my part. We just had heated aarguments like any couple at the end of thheir relationship.. She initially moved to a location in Stratford London with my son and I had regular access. However since 03/02/2017 I have not seen my son as my ex informed me that she was moving in with her boyfriend (who I have no knowledge of) in Whitstable. I have not seen my son since this date and she refuses to provide details of her address. I am now extremely worried about my son as I have no idea if he is safe. A am sure that I have parental responsibility. Is she entatiled to just move awaw (1) without my content and (2) without any forwarding address for deatsl of my son's nursey and school? Please help with any steps I can takeI am going out of my mind with worry.
trevster1966 - 4-Mar-17 @ 12:29 AM
Markie - Your Question:
I got interviewed, they didn't believe a word, as my wife wouldn't admit that these disks were not mine. The police were totally biased towards my wife, I got forced by the police to view these disgusting images.They raided my parents home, removing all pc equipment, and my pc from my old home, found nothing on these. I got charged with Making and Posessing these pictures, (making, as they were on a re-writable disk). My wife then filed for divorce, The duty solicitor told me that I had no choice but to plead guilty, otherwise I would have more chance of getting a custodial sentence.So I did. I ended up having to do 5 years Probation, a 2 year rehabilitation course, with paedophiles, and a Indefinite Sexual Offence Prevention Order, which stopped me seeing my children. Since then, I found out that my X Wife was having an affair behind my back, (before I was mugged), and she moved him in 1 month after I left.I was completely set up, and the police went along with it, to probably fill a box. I was diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome, and have been in Anti Depressants ever since, My Son was 16 yesterday, bought up by this other man, my parents have seen my children once in 2006, just after this all happened, and my son said to them, 'go away, Grandad says you're not my family anymore ', so the kids have been used as weapons against us. I have recently been discharged from the SOPO, and am off the Register. I haven't seen my Children for 11 years, and I'm desperate to do so, I tried contacting them, recently, but my x wife complained to the police, as they are under 18. I have paid every penny of child maintenance to her, only lowering it for a while when I was out of work. This is a completely true story, and I don't know what to do.

Our Response:
I'm afraid we cannot advice here as we are only a general guidance site and this is a very complicated and sensitive matter. Therefore, you would have to seek professional legal advice.
SeparatedDads - 27-Feb-17 @ 12:30 PM
I got interviewed, they didn't believe a word, as my wife wouldn't admit that these disks were not mine.. The police were totally biased towards my wife, I got forced by the police to view these disgusting images.. They raided my parents home, removing all pc equipment, and my pc from my old home, found nothing on these.. I got charged with Making and Posessing these pictures, (making, as they were on a re-writable disk).. My wife then filed for divorce, The duty solicitor told me that I had no choice but to plead guilty, otherwise i would have more chance of getting a custodial sentence... So I did.. I ended up having to do 5 years Probation, a 2 year rehabilitation course, with paedophiles, and a Indefinite Sexual Offence Prevention Order, which stopped me seeing my children.. Since then, I found out that my X Wife was having an affair behind my back, (before I was mugged), and she moved him in 1 month after I left... I was completely set up, and the police went along with it, to probably fill a box... I was diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome, and have been in Anti Depressants ever since, My Son was 16 yesterday, bought up by this other man, my parents have seen my children once in 2006, just after this all happened, and my son said to them, 'go away, Grandad says you're not my family anymore ', so the kids have been used as weapons against us.. I have recently been discharged from the SOPO, and am off the Register... I haven't seen my Children for 11 years, and I'm desperate to do so, I tried contacting them, recently, but my x wife complained to the police, as they are under 18... I have paid every penny of child maintenance to her, only lowering it fora while when I was out of work. This is a completely true story, and I don't know what to do......
Markie - 26-Feb-17 @ 5:58 PM
Nick - Your Question:
Can anyone tell me how I can get to see my 5 yr old son.my wife left me 5 months ago she has told lots of lies about me and had managed to be put in a women's refuge. I have my 50 per cent right and was allowed access once after this my wife has stopped all contact cutting phone off etc.i can't afford solictor fees and just want to be a father to my son ,if anyone can help me I would be so grateful.thanks

Our Response:
Please see article: When Your Ex-Partner Denies You Access, here which will give you more information on how to pursue access to your son. If you cannot afford legal fees you can self-litigate, please see link here. If you’re on a low income, or if you’re on certain benefits and don’t have much in savings, you might be able to get money off your court or tribunal fee, here. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 10-Jan-17 @ 1:48 PM
Can anyone tell me how I can get to see my 5 yr old son .my wife left me 5 months ago she has told lots of lies about me and had managed to be put in a women's refuge. I have my 50 per cent right and was allowed access once after this my wife has stopped all contact cutting phone off etc.i can't afford solictor fees and just want to be a father to my son ,if anyone can help me I would be so grateful.thanks
Nick - 9-Jan-17 @ 7:27 PM
Hi. How do we amend a contact order when time over christmas holidays isnt set out. We have eow but bm says no as xmas eve should be with her even though its our weekend. We have tried to agree for time after xmas instead. Again a no as thats her time. My husband has eow and wednesday eve and she's trying to take that away in the holidays which isnt right. My husband wants the time with his son and is trying to be reasonable and fair and discuss when but bm is not following the court order.
Aimi - 19-Nov-16 @ 8:25 PM
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Francina jothi - 2-Nov-16 @ 2:02 PM
Macca - Your Question:
Hi, my wife accused me of rape after 17 years together just to get me out of our family home because she met someone else. I was arrested and bailed on police bail even though she couldn't tell them when it happened, apparently it was weeks ago!! I have to contact her through a third party now it's been 5 weeks since I've seen my kid's and she is still refusing saying we need a written contact agreement through solicitors I can't afford a solicitor help

Our Response:
Have you thought of mediation? Please see link: Mediation: What is it and is it For Me? here which will cost, but not as much as a solicitor. If you wish to take the matter to court you can self litigate, please see link here. Also, you may be able to get free/less costly help via a McKenzie Friend, here. Dads from our Separated Dads forum may answer some of your questions as many have been through similar experiences. Corum can help too here and the Citizens Advice Bureau. I hope these suggestions are of use.
SeparatedDads - 13-Sep-16 @ 10:01 AM
Hi, my wife accused me of rape after 17 years together just to get me out of our family home because she met someone else. I was arrested and bailed on police bail even though she couldn't tell them when it happened, apparently it was weeks ago!! I have to contact her through a third party now it's been 5 weeks since I've seen my kid's and she is still refusing saying we need a written contact agreement through solicitors I can't afford a solicitor help
Macca - 12-Sep-16 @ 5:24 AM
My wife and I have been separated for over 4 years now my son is 3 and a half, I have had regular contact with him since his birth, things have got bad between me and my son's mother, we can't even get on when I pick him up, she has recently stop contact between me and my son, what are my options? I don't earn enough to hire a solicitor, I have no way off contacting her as she has blocked every avenue and says if I go to the house she will call police
Mr B - 30-Jul-16 @ 6:33 PM
Measmum- Your Question:
Ok, I'm not a dad. But I'm a concerned partner. My partner has a complicated relationship with his soon to be ex-wife. But instead of continuing to be angry with her I'm desperate to work out how to support him. It's the age old story of him being the perfect and much loved father until he left the family home. His soon to be ex wife using his daughters as a tool to seek revenge. I'm sure many of you have heard, "But you left your children". But the truth is he left a relationship, he never stopped or more importantly stopped wanting to be a father. There has been allegations of abuse, which have all been unfounded. His children's grief at their father no longer being in the family home, turned into anger by their mother and cruel and malicious passed to his children from previous relationships resulting in even more relationship breakdowns.I've probably vented my upset in the wrong place.But how can we start to make things right?

Our Response:
It is a very difficult situation to advise on as quite often when a relationship splits arguments can spiral out of control and sometimes there is no way back from this. I can see you have a more rational side to you, that can obviously see there are other ways than confrontation to deal with a situation. However, while you may have this opinion, his ex may not quite see things in quite the same way. Many primary carers see being the resident parent as a tool of control and you have two ways of dealing with this either trying to be the bigger person, please see link: Developing an Amicable Relationship With Your Ex, here and/or Using Reverse Psychology Effectively, here. If this is not effective, then the other way is taking the matter to court so he has access of the children and he can try and educate them away from such maliciousness. Taking the matter to court should be used when all other options have been exhausted. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 16-Jun-16 @ 2:29 PM
Ok, I'm not a dad. But I'm a concerned partner. My partner has a complicated relationship with his soon to be ex-wife. But instead of continuing to be angry with her I'm desperate to work out how to support him. It's the age old story of him being the perfect and much loved father until he left the family home. His soon to be ex wife using his daughters as a tool to seek revenge. I'm sure many of you have heard, "But you left your children". But the truth is he left a relationship, he never stopped or more importantly stopped wanting to be a father. There has been allegations of abuse, which have all been unfounded. His children's grief at their father no longer being in the family home, turned into anger by their mother and cruel and malicious passed to his children from previous relationships resulting in even more relationship breakdowns. I've probably vented my upset in the wrong place. But how can we start to make things right?
Measmum - 15-Jun-16 @ 10:54 PM
Bert - Your Question:
I have been seperated/divorced from my children's mother for two years now.in the last two years my ex has had a bad relationship that ended with police/court involvement and social services involved.social services no longer have concerns and my ex is with another partner of approx 3-4 months if that. I have no concerns with her relationship or private life but she is now telling me she is moving away from Kent to Cornwall with our children.i have a great relationship/bond with my children and see them every other weekend and during the week which will cease if this move goes ahead.how or if I can, how do I prevent this move?

Our Response:
If you have parental responsibility your ex has to ak for your consent to move. If you refuse then see would need to seek permission through the court. However, if you think she may move without your consent then you can apply for a Prohibited Steps Order. A PSO is an order granted by the court in family cases which prevents either parent from carrying out certain events or making specific trips with their children without the express permission of the other parent. This is more common in cases where there is suspicion that one parent may leave the area with their children. While there is no guarantee the courts will award this order, it may be easier to apply for this, then to try to get your ex to return to the area through the courts if she decides to leave without your consent.
SeparatedDads - 14-Jun-16 @ 12:40 PM
Can you please advise me on an issue regarding contact with my children. They're 7 & 8 years old and my wife has a restraining order against me for 2 years. I have only indirect contact in place issued by family court. I need a solicitor to take a new child residency order forward. The application will be going in next week, please respond on the e mail provided. Glyn
None - 13-Jun-16 @ 4:40 PM
I have been seperated/divorced from my children's mother for two years now.in the last two years my ex has had a bad relationship that ended with police/court involvement and social services involved.social services no longer have concerns and my ex is with another partner of approx 3-4 months if that. I have no concerns with her relationship or private life but she is now telling me she is moving away from Kent to Cornwall with our children.i have a great relationship/bond with my children and see them every other weekend and during the week which will cease if this move goes ahead.how or if I can, how do I prevent this move?
Bert - 13-Jun-16 @ 4:04 PM
I went through court for over six years trying to get contact with my kids arranged meetings had psychology reports done and the judge said to back off for the mental state of my ex!!! Went to every court date from magistrate to crown in Middlesbrough and got no where I have paid over ten grand for my kids upkeep and still my ex has won no contact no nothing ever!! And despite have parental responsibility has changed there surnames without my consent
Cj - 30-May-16 @ 10:21 PM
#1 mummy - Your Question:
Hi I'm asking on behalf of my partner is there anything he can do to see his daughter there was a court order in place he was seeing her regularly and her mum stopped it. Is there anything he can do because of the court order was in place and if so is there a time limit on this thanks for reading

Our Response:
Yes, please see link: Breach of Contact or Residence Order: What to Do, here. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 24-May-16 @ 1:00 PM
Griff358 - Your Question:
Hi , I write this on behalf of my partner. Over the course of 18 months my partner has been battling through courts and solicitors to have access to see his 2 children , he has jumped through every hoop that has been directed at him, from parenting classes, supervised visitations to attending mediation alone might I add , all with the long term goal to have a relationship with his 2 children. All of this has gone in his favour each time he has been to court yet a court order has still needed to be devised because the mother is not prepared to allow him to have a relationship with the children. A final court order was put in place 3 months ago to allow him a day with the children every other weekend yet 3 months down the line he is still yet to see the children due to one excuse or another, in total he hasn't seen the children in 5 months. He has taken steps with the solicitor to go back to court to enforce the order but I really can not see this will change anything as I don't see her truly accepting that she does not have the children's interest at heart and that she is ultimately in the wrong and isn't giving my partner the chance to be a father and a part of their lives, it's more of a point scoring game against my partner that is her priority. How severe is the punishment for not complying with the court order ? I fear my partner is at breaking point and will ultimately feel he has no choice but to walk away and wait until the children come looking for me if they are given the chance.

Our Response:
In my opinion this is exactly the wrong time to walk away, as this is the time when the mother will begin to rack points up against her if she continues to ignore the court order. It is contempt of court to flout the terms of the order and the courts will enforce the order and award punishment if his ex continues to ignore the judge, please see link: Breach of Contact or Residence Order: What to Do here. So while it may seem that your partner has had the unfair deal up until now, unless the re have been any adverse circumstances, the courts should now begin to come down on his side and make sure the order is put firmly in place.
SeparatedDads - 24-May-16 @ 11:54 AM
Hi I'm asking on behalf of my partner is there anything he can do to see his daughter there was a court order in place he was seeing her regularly and her mum stopped it. Is there anything he can do because of the court order was in place and if so is there a time limit on this thanks for reading
#1 mummy - 23-May-16 @ 6:52 PM
Hi , I write this on behalf of my partner. Over the course of 18 months my partner has been battling through courts and solicitors to have access to see his 2 children , he has jumped through every hoop that has been directed at him, from parenting classes, supervised visitations to attending mediation alone might I add , all with the long term goal to have a relationship with his 2 children. All of this has gone in his favour each time he has been to court yet a court order has still needed to be devised because the mother is not prepared to allow him to have a relationship with the children. A final court order was put in place 3 months ago to allow him a day with the children every other weekend yet 3 months down the line he is still yet to see the children due to one excuse or another, in total he hasn't seen the children in 5 months. He has taken steps with the solicitor to go back to court to enforce the order but I really can not see this will change anything as I don't see her truly accepting that she does not have the children's interest at heart and that she is ultimately in the wrong and isn't giving my partner the chance to be a father and a part of their lives,it's more of a point scoring game against my partner that is her priority. How severe is the punishment for not complying with the court order ? I fear my partner is at breaking point and will ultimately feel he has no choice but to walk away and wait until the children come looking for me if they are given the chance .
Griff358 - 23-May-16 @ 4:20 PM
Missjc74 - Your Question:
Hi my brothers baby is due end of june he is not with the baby's mum. It's my brothers first child a BOY he's bought the pram and other things and she's saying he will never see him can anyone help us please. My brother is a good man never been in trouble he doesnt deserve this

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. I can only suggest he seeks legal advice which he can put in place immediately once the child is born (if the mother still will not consent to your brother seeing his child). It is worth paying to see a solicitor for some initial advice and if he cannot afford the hefty legal fees to take the matter to court he can self-litigate, please see link on how to represent yourself in court here. I also suggest he does as much research as he can on what his rights are in this situation, please see link here. There are plenty Separated Dads articles and we also have a forum and a Facebook page where our dads can give great advice, perhaps having been through similar experiences before.
SeparatedDads - 20-May-16 @ 11:18 AM
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