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What Organisations Help With Rights for Dads?

By: Chris Nickson - Updated: 9 Jan 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
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All too often, separated and divorced fathers feel they’re alone. Women have support groups of all kinds, but the men can seem left out in the cold. If they feel a sense of injustice in the way the courts have treated them, over access or other issues, they might feel quite isolated.

But there are a number of different groups that work on behalf of men. In most instances they’ve been formed by men themselves from a sense of outrage. Some – for better or worse – have received a fair amount of media coverage, but most operate largely under the radar of publicity.

They do share a lot of common goals, especially fighting for the rights of fathers, which some of them believe have been trampled by the rights of mothers, and that fathers often never receive a fair deal in court.

Fathers4Justice

Probably the best-known group is Fathers4Justice, which was formed in 2003 by Matt O’Connor after a bad divorce meant he had no regular access to his children. Their tactics, such as pelting the Prime Minister with condoms in Parliament, or the alleged kidnap plot against the PM’s son, have given them a great deal of publicity, most of it very unfavourable to the cause of fathers. But there’s no doubt that, as a pressure group, they’ve highlighted the plight of a number of fathers. In 2005, a spin-off group, Real Fathers for Justice, emerged.

Other Organisations

Families Need Fathers is, as the name implies, aimed primarily at fathers, but extends its services to mothers, grandparents and others, too. Its aim is to keep all the parties involved with their children. They particularly work with fathers undergoing separation and worried about access, helping them reach agreements to remain close to their children, and have excellent resources, including branches across the country, workshops, and a great deal more. It’s far more low-key than Fathers4Justice, and has been around a few decades now.

Also worth noting is the Fatherhood Institute, although this isn’t an advocate for separated fathers in the same ways as the others. Founded in 1999 (reportedly with the support of the government), it does support co-operative parenting, and has a number of publications for fathers, with the intent of keeping fathers as strong role models.

The Equal Parenting Council works for both parents being involved with their children after separation or divorce, and its long-term goal is to change the family justice system. It can help parents – not just men - with Cafcass and negotiate the Family Court System.

BabyFather is aimed specifically at fathers in the black community, working with the charity Barnado’s. Founded in 2002, it runs a number of programmes, and has begun a couple of training and consultancy services to help absent fathers become more involved with their children, and also focuses on the particular problems of black families.

For those living in the Nottingham area, Men United Fathers Network works for fathers in all situations, not simply those seeking greater access to their children, but as a parenting organisation. Other areas, such as Hull, also have groups for fathers.

Finally, there’s Parentline Plus. As the name says, it’s not solely for fathers, but it can help, with a 24-hour helpline that’s confidential. They also have phone support groups, and message boards on their website that can be useful to fathers.

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Nick - Your Question:
Can anyone tell me how I can get to see my 5 yr old son.my wife left me 5 months ago she has told lots of lies about me and had managed to be put in a women's refuge. I have my 50 per cent right and was allowed access once after this my wife has stopped all contact cutting phone off etc.i can't afford solictor fees and just want to be a father to my son ,if anyone can help me I would be so grateful.thanks

Our Response:
Please see article: When Your Ex-Partner Denies You Access, here which will give you more information on how to pursue access to your son. If you cannot afford legal fees you can self-litigate, please see link here. If you’re on a low income, or if you’re on certain benefits and don’t have much in savings, you might be able to get money off your court or tribunal fee, here. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 10-Jan-17 @ 1:48 PM
Can anyone tell me how I can get to see my 5 yr old son .my wife left me 5 months ago she has told lots of lies about me and had managed to be put in a women's refuge. I have my 50 per cent right and was allowed access once after this my wife has stopped all contact cutting phone off etc.i can't afford solictor fees and just want to be a father to my son ,if anyone can help me I would be so grateful.thanks
Nick - 9-Jan-17 @ 7:27 PM
Hi. How do we amend a contact order when time over christmas holidays isnt set out. We have eow but bm says no as xmas eve should be with her even though its our weekend. We have tried to agree for time after xmas instead. Again a no as thats her time. My husband has eow and wednesday eve and she's trying to take that away in the holidays which isnt right. My husband wants the time with his son and is trying to be reasonable and fair and discuss when but bm is not following the court order.
Aimi - 19-Nov-16 @ 8:25 PM
I am from India,I am divorced lady ,I have two childrens, they are studing in a school, I am staying alone in a rented house with my childrens, I am suffering so much financial problems in my life so please support me and save my children's studies and life please help me for my food,fee,rent,loans,etc....., nobodies can help me ,this is my humble request for you please support me ,ythrough your team,or any sponsors please lift my life ,I can't express so many money issues for me so please arrange any help for me I can't manage my family expenses,I request please grace me and my childrens,I can't gave good food,dresses,studies so please I can't do any thing for my childrens so please help me my life ,I am waiting for your help full reply soon,God bless you,thank you,please help me,please help me please
Francina jothi - 2-Nov-16 @ 2:02 PM
Macca - Your Question:
Hi, my wife accused me of rape after 17 years together just to get me out of our family home because she met someone else. I was arrested and bailed on police bail even though she couldn't tell them when it happened, apparently it was weeks ago!! I have to contact her through a third party now it's been 5 weeks since I've seen my kid's and she is still refusing saying we need a written contact agreement through solicitors I can't afford a solicitor help

Our Response:
Have you thought of mediation? Please see link: Mediation: What is it and is it For Me? here which will cost, but not as much as a solicitor. If you wish to take the matter to court you can self litigate, please see link here. Also, you may be able to get free/less costly help via a McKenzie Friend, here. Dads from our Separated Dads forum may answer some of your questions as many have been through similar experiences. Corum can help too here and the Citizens Advice Bureau. I hope these suggestions are of use.
SeparatedDads - 13-Sep-16 @ 10:01 AM
Hi, my wife accused me of rape after 17 years together just to get me out of our family home because she met someone else. I was arrested and bailed on police bail even though she couldn't tell them when it happened, apparently it was weeks ago!! I have to contact her through a third party now it's been 5 weeks since I've seen my kid's and she is still refusing saying we need a written contact agreement through solicitors I can't afford a solicitor help
Macca - 12-Sep-16 @ 5:24 AM
My wife and I have been separated for over 4 years now my son is 3 and a half, I have had regular contact with him since his birth, things have got bad between me and my son's mother, we can't even get on when I pick him up, she has recently stop contact between me and my son, what are my options? I don't earn enough to hire a solicitor, I have no way off contacting her as she has blocked every avenue and says if I go to the house she will call police
Mr B - 30-Jul-16 @ 6:33 PM
Measmum- Your Question:
Ok, I'm not a dad. But I'm a concerned partner. My partner has a complicated relationship with his soon to be ex-wife. But instead of continuing to be angry with her I'm desperate to work out how to support him. It's the age old story of him being the perfect and much loved father until he left the family home. His soon to be ex wife using his daughters as a tool to seek revenge. I'm sure many of you have heard, "But you left your children". But the truth is he left a relationship, he never stopped or more importantly stopped wanting to be a father. There has been allegations of abuse, which have all been unfounded. His children's grief at their father no longer being in the family home, turned into anger by their mother and cruel and malicious passed to his children from previous relationships resulting in even more relationship breakdowns.I've probably vented my upset in the wrong place.But how can we start to make things right?

Our Response:
It is a very difficult situation to advise on as quite often when a relationship splits arguments can spiral out of control and sometimes there is no way back from this. I can see you have a more rational side to you, that can obviously see there are other ways than confrontation to deal with a situation. However, while you may have this opinion, his ex may not quite see things in quite the same way. Many primary carers see being the resident parent as a tool of control and you have two ways of dealing with this either trying to be the bigger person, please see link: Developing an Amicable Relationship With Your Ex, here and/or Using Reverse Psychology Effectively, here. If this is not effective, then the other way is taking the matter to court so he has access of the children and he can try and educate them away from such maliciousness. Taking the matter to court should be used when all other options have been exhausted. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 16-Jun-16 @ 2:29 PM
Ok, I'm not a dad. But I'm a concerned partner. My partner has a complicated relationship with his soon to be ex-wife. But instead of continuing to be angry with her I'm desperate to work out how to support him. It's the age old story of him being the perfect and much loved father until he left the family home. His soon to be ex wife using his daughters as a tool to seek revenge. I'm sure many of you have heard, "But you left your children". But the truth is he left a relationship, he never stopped or more importantly stopped wanting to be a father. There has been allegations of abuse, which have all been unfounded. His children's grief at their father no longer being in the family home, turned into anger by their mother and cruel and malicious passed to his children from previous relationships resulting in even more relationship breakdowns. I've probably vented my upset in the wrong place. But how can we start to make things right?
Measmum - 15-Jun-16 @ 10:54 PM
Bert - Your Question:
I have been seperated/divorced from my children's mother for two years now.in the last two years my ex has had a bad relationship that ended with police/court involvement and social services involved.social services no longer have concerns and my ex is with another partner of approx 3-4 months if that. I have no concerns with her relationship or private life but she is now telling me she is moving away from Kent to Cornwall with our children.i have a great relationship/bond with my children and see them every other weekend and during the week which will cease if this move goes ahead.how or if I can, how do I prevent this move?

Our Response:
If you have parental responsibility your ex has to ak for your consent to move. If you refuse then see would need to seek permission through the court. However, if you think she may move without your consent then you can apply for a Prohibited Steps Order. A PSO is an order granted by the court in family cases which prevents either parent from carrying out certain events or making specific trips with their children without the express permission of the other parent. This is more common in cases where there is suspicion that one parent may leave the area with their children. While there is no guarantee the courts will award this order, it may be easier to apply for this, then to try to get your ex to return to the area through the courts if she decides to leave without your consent.
SeparatedDads - 14-Jun-16 @ 12:40 PM
Can you please advise me on an issue regarding contact with my children. They're 7 & 8 years old and my wife has a restraining order against me for 2 years. I have only indirect contact in place issued by family court. I need a solicitor to take a new child residency order forward. The application will be going in next week, please respond on the e mail provided. Glyn
None - 13-Jun-16 @ 4:40 PM
I have been seperated/divorced from my children's mother for two years now.in the last two years my ex has had a bad relationship that ended with police/court involvement and social services involved.social services no longer have concerns and my ex is with another partner of approx 3-4 months if that. I have no concerns with her relationship or private life but she is now telling me she is moving away from Kent to Cornwall with our children.i have a great relationship/bond with my children and see them every other weekend and during the week which will cease if this move goes ahead.how or if I can, how do I prevent this move?
Bert - 13-Jun-16 @ 4:04 PM
I went through court for over six years trying to get contact with my kids arranged meetings had psychology reports done and the judge said to back off for the mental state of my ex!!! Went to every court date from magistrate to crown in Middlesbrough and got no where I have paid over ten grand for my kids upkeep and still my ex has won no contact no nothing ever!! And despite have parental responsibility has changed there surnames without my consent
Cj - 30-May-16 @ 10:21 PM
#1 mummy - Your Question:
Hi I'm asking on behalf of my partner is there anything he can do to see his daughter there was a court order in place he was seeing her regularly and her mum stopped it. Is there anything he can do because of the court order was in place and if so is there a time limit on this thanks for reading

Our Response:
Yes, please see link: Breach of Contact or Residence Order: What to Do, here. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 24-May-16 @ 1:00 PM
Griff358 - Your Question:
Hi , I write this on behalf of my partner. Over the course of 18 months my partner has been battling through courts and solicitors to have access to see his 2 children , he has jumped through every hoop that has been directed at him, from parenting classes, supervised visitations to attending mediation alone might I add , all with the long term goal to have a relationship with his 2 children. All of this has gone in his favour each time he has been to court yet a court order has still needed to be devised because the mother is not prepared to allow him to have a relationship with the children. A final court order was put in place 3 months ago to allow him a day with the children every other weekend yet 3 months down the line he is still yet to see the children due to one excuse or another, in total he hasn't seen the children in 5 months. He has taken steps with the solicitor to go back to court to enforce the order but I really can not see this will change anything as I don't see her truly accepting that she does not have the children's interest at heart and that she is ultimately in the wrong and isn't giving my partner the chance to be a father and a part of their lives, it's more of a point scoring game against my partner that is her priority. How severe is the punishment for not complying with the court order ? I fear my partner is at breaking point and will ultimately feel he has no choice but to walk away and wait until the children come looking for me if they are given the chance.

Our Response:
In my opinion this is exactly the wrong time to walk away, as this is the time when the mother will begin to rack points up against her if she continues to ignore the court order. It is contempt of court to flout the terms of the order and the courts will enforce the order and award punishment if his ex continues to ignore the judge, please see link: Breach of Contact or Residence Order: What to Do here. So while it may seem that your partner has had the unfair deal up until now, unless the re have been any adverse circumstances, the courts should now begin to come down on his side and make sure the order is put firmly in place.
SeparatedDads - 24-May-16 @ 11:54 AM
Hi I'm asking on behalf of my partner is there anything he can do to see his daughter there was a court order in place he was seeing her regularly and her mum stopped it. Is there anything he can do because of the court order was in place and if so is there a time limit on this thanks for reading
#1 mummy - 23-May-16 @ 6:52 PM
Hi , I write this on behalf of my partner. Over the course of 18 months my partner has been battling through courts and solicitors to have access to see his 2 children , he has jumped through every hoop that has been directed at him, from parenting classes, supervised visitations to attending mediation alone might I add , all with the long term goal to have a relationship with his 2 children. All of this has gone in his favour each time he has been to court yet a court order has still needed to be devised because the mother is not prepared to allow him to have a relationship with the children. A final court order was put in place 3 months ago to allow him a day with the children every other weekend yet 3 months down the line he is still yet to see the children due to one excuse or another, in total he hasn't seen the children in 5 months. He has taken steps with the solicitor to go back to court to enforce the order but I really can not see this will change anything as I don't see her truly accepting that she does not have the children's interest at heart and that she is ultimately in the wrong and isn't giving my partner the chance to be a father and a part of their lives,it's more of a point scoring game against my partner that is her priority. How severe is the punishment for not complying with the court order ? I fear my partner is at breaking point and will ultimately feel he has no choice but to walk away and wait until the children come looking for me if they are given the chance .
Griff358 - 23-May-16 @ 4:20 PM
Missjc74 - Your Question:
Hi my brothers baby is due end of june he is not with the baby's mum. It's my brothers first child a BOY he's bought the pram and other things and she's saying he will never see him can anyone help us please. My brother is a good man never been in trouble he doesnt deserve this

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. I can only suggest he seeks legal advice which he can put in place immediately once the child is born (if the mother still will not consent to your brother seeing his child). It is worth paying to see a solicitor for some initial advice and if he cannot afford the hefty legal fees to take the matter to court he can self-litigate, please see link on how to represent yourself in court here. I also suggest he does as much research as he can on what his rights are in this situation, please see link here. There are plenty Separated Dads articles and we also have a forum and a Facebook page where our dads can give great advice, perhaps having been through similar experiences before.
SeparatedDads - 20-May-16 @ 11:18 AM
Hi my brothers baby is due end of june he is not with the baby's mum. It's my brothers first child a BOY he's bought the pram and other things and she's saying he will never see him can anyone help us please. My brother is a good man never been in trouble he doesnt deserve this
Missjc74 - 19-May-16 @ 1:38 PM
nevishigh- Your Question:
My ex and I separated last year Oct 24th 2015. Since our split my ex has always dictated when I have my 3 yr old daughter which I am not agreeable to. My daughter has been in my life since birth, I am on the birth certificate and she has my surname. The mother unfortunately is over protective and very possessive with her. She stopped contact Dec 14th 2015 but I took her to Court March 17th 2016. I represented myself and she had a Solicitor. Naturally I was granted access but not what I wanted. I accepted every other w/e from Friday at 1500 collect my daughter from pre school and take her home Sunday at 1800. I also get to see her every other Friday from 1500 after school and take her home at 1800. Admittedly it's only 3 hours but I do kind of see her every week. Also I was granted 50/50 during School holidays. I personally wish I could get on with mother but that will never happen. If I didn't take her to Court I never would of seen my 3 yr old daughter ever again. My ex's parents control her and don't like me. I believe they all don't want me in my daughters life period if they had there way but I would never allow that to happen. My ex also has a disability mild cere palsy where she does struggle with our daughter. When we were together I did all physical stuff because my ex did find difficult to manage her, now she is getting bigger and stronger my ex struggles even more. My ex's condition is worsening all the time but she does get help from her parents. I personally will take her back to Court in 6 months and want 50/50 shared custody because the offer I was given is still not enough. Judges say because she is sole carer she has more rights than me due to the fact she took my daughter away from and stopped contact for 3 months. I will not accept this contact because I feel my daughter needs me more that what was given. I love her dearly and will continue to fight for her. Tell me what you all think and please give me advice where I stand in this pathetic legal system. Thanx

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this and sympathise with your situation. However, unless the circumstances change over this time, then you are unlikley to be given any more access, as it may be judged as too soon after the original court order.
SeparatedDads - 22-Mar-16 @ 2:34 PM
My ex and I separated last year Oct 24th 2015. Since our split my ex has always dictated when I have my 3 yr old daughter which I am not agreeable to. My daughter has been in my life since birth, I am on the birth certificate and she has my surname. The mother unfortunately is over protective and very possessive with her. She stopped contact Dec 14th 2015 but I took her to Court March 17th 2016. I representedmyself and she had a Solicitor. Naturally I was granted access but not what I wanted. I accepted every other w/e from Friday at 1500 collect my daughter from pre school and take her home Sunday at 1800. I also get to see her every other Friday from 1500 after school and take her home at 1800. Admittedly it's only 3 hours but I do kind of see her every week. Also I was granted 50/50 during School holidays. I personally wish I could get on with mother but that will never happen. If I didn't take her to Court I never would of seen my 3 yr old daughter ever again. My ex's parents control her and don't like me. I believe they all don't want me in my daughters life period if they had there way but I would never allow that to happen. My ex also has a disability mild cere palsy where she does struggle with our daughter. When we were together I did all physical stuff because my ex did find difficult to manage her, now she is getting bigger and stronger my ex struggles even more. My ex's condition is worsening all the time but she does get help from her parents. I personally will take her back to Court in 6 months and want 50/50 shared custody because the offer i was given is still not enough. Judges say because she is sole carer she has more rights than me due to the fact she took my daughter away from and stopped contact for 3 months. I will not accept this contact because I feel my daughter needs me more that what was given. I love her dearly and will continue to fight for her. Tell me what you all think and please give me advice where I stand in this pathetic legal system. Thanx
nevishigh - 20-Mar-16 @ 4:12 PM
Doris - Your Question:
My son spilt from his wife , she moved out with the 2 girls , about 4 years ago, at first my son could see the children , then she stopped him from seeing them for no reason, finally I was allowed to have them on a Thursday over night and take them home on the Friday, then she stopped this also, after a number of months of keep trying to see the children she let my son see then again, this kept on happening be able to see them, them for no reason stopped yet again. My son the had about a year of seeing them again and having them while the mother went on holiday for 2 , then she stopped him seeing them again when she got in to a relationship with a married man, the man left his wife to live with her , this is when she told the children when they were with her they use her surname when they are with their dad they use his surname, even though his name is on the birth certificate, and the children are only 4 and 3 , she told them to call her new partner daddy, she told the children that their dad does not want them, My son set up mediation and they arranged a meeting for her too bring the children there, twice she did not turn up, then my son had a date to go to court, near the date time she contacted the courts saying that she was 6 months pregnant and could and also there was no one to have the children either , the courts rang my son and said would he like to change the date or go ahead as they could do it with out her their, my son attended court sat there. For 3 hours to be told they are not going to deal with it that day, he now has to go back the 7 April 2016, by this time she will be nine months pregnant and we no that she will say she can not attended because her baby is due any time, my son has emails from her telling him to do the right thing and not see the children and that can make a life with out him, she has all so come up with now that my son has anger issues, which is a lie, but because we thought being mum they would believe her, my son went to the doctors who sent him to anger management , who saw my son and said no way does my son need anger management , which he has sent a letter to the doctor stating this, the doctor is willing to give my son a copy of this.As a family we are deverstated at not seeing the two adorable children, we miss not being able to celebrate Birthdays and Christmas with them, we though her not turning up to two mediation sessions would not sit well with the judge, and missing the court date.all this does by prolonging is keeping them apart from my son and our side of the family , we are a very big family and they miss out on so much , how is this fair, we would love for some too help us , let us know we're we stand with in the law , thank you for taking time to read this and with any help we may receive , because we are heart broken at being banned from seeing them, just because the mother says no and makes up lies

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. As difficult as it is, I can only suggest your son remains patient and keeps his eye on the longer term. At some point his ex will not be able to avoid the courts, and the courts will not look favourably on these tactics of both avoiding mediation and the courts. If the court process is unable to go ahead in April, then your son must set another date. It is important that your son catalogues all these details of avoidance and keeps the emails. The more evidence he can obtain of her actions to avoid access, the better for him in the long run. I wish you luck.
SeparatedDads - 4-Mar-16 @ 1:01 PM
My son spilt from his wife , she moved out with the 2 girls , about 4 years ago, at first my son could see the children , then she stopped him from seeing them for no reason, finally I was allowed to have them on a Thursday over night and take them home on the Friday, then she stopped this also, after a number of months of keep trying to see the children she let my son see then again, this kept on happening be able to see them, them for no reason stopped yet again. My son the had about a year of seeing them again and having them while the mother went on holiday for 2 , then she stopped him seeing them again when she got in to a relationship with a married man, the man left his wife to live with her , this is when she told the children when they were with her they use her surname when they are with their dad they use his surname, even though his name is on the birth certificate, and the children are only 4 and 3 , she told them to call her new partner daddy, she told the children that their dad does not want them, My son set up mediation and they arranged a meeting for her too bring the children there, twice she did not turn up, then my son had a date to go to court, near the date time she contacted the courts saying that she was 6 months pregnant and could and also there was no one to have the children either , the courts rang my son and said would he like to change the date or go ahead as they could do it with out her their, my son attended court sat there. For 3 hours to be told they are not going to deal with it that day, he now has to go back the 7 April 2016, by this time she will be nine months pregnant and we no that she will say she can not attended because her baby is due any time, my son has emails from her telling him to do the right thing and not see the children and that can make a life with out him, she has all so come up with now that my son has anger issues, which is a lie, but because we thought being mum they would believe her, my son went to the doctors who sent him to anger management , who saw my son and said no way does my son need anger management , which he has sent a letter to the doctor stating this, the doctor is willing to give my son a copy of this.As a family we are deverstated at not seeing the two adorable children, we miss not being able to celebrate Birthdays and Christmas with them, we though her not turning up to two mediation sessions would not sit well with the judge, and missing the court date.all this does by prolonging is keeping them apart from my son and our side of the family , we are a very big family and they miss out on so much , how is this fair, we would love for some too help us , let us know we're we stand with in the law , thank you for taking time to read this and with any help we may receive , because we are heart broken at being banned from seeing them, just because the mother says no and makes up lies
Doris - 3-Mar-16 @ 5:56 PM
Hi there, i separated from my children mother 4 years ago, it was a disturbing bitter end, we decided as she only moved a couple of mile away that we would see the children every other night and it was working fine, until the children mother met another man, then out of the blue i had court papers handed to me, her preposition was that i went from seeing the children every other day to every other Saturday and 3 hours on a Tuesday. as you would be i was fuming and paid for a solicitor to represent me and i walked away with no residence order set, 1 week i have my children from Thursday evening through to Monday morning , and then 2nd week Thursday through to Friday morning. i was not happy however that as been set for over 2 years. recently i have had no contact with my children for over 2 weeks, no phone calls, emails Facebook i have been banned my children. she says she has safeguarding issues, i contacted social services and they said they had a call from her but they told her it was a private matter and the children was not at danger. i had a call from my son and he was very vague and asking funny questions, then the following day, 5 days after the initial no contact they rang and we made plans for the weekend and the conversation ended with us all saying we loved each other. then the next day as i was about to leave i had a text to say i could not collect my children or see them. i spoke to my solicitor who advised me to fill in a C79 form which i did and submitted it Monday just gone, also she advised me that meditation should have been sought first, i have placed a mediation request for this to happen, but i know she will pull the domestic violence card, as i was arrested for assault 2 1/2 years ago where in fact her and her new husband attacked me and her husband went into the kitchen and fetched an 8 inch knife and threaten to kill me this was proven in court to be the case and i was acquitted. i know she wants me to turn up at the house and start arguing in front of the children, like i say from past experience i will not and wont do it. i do not know what the problem is, my children are 13 and 9as i cant speak to them or see them, i am due again to see them tomorrow but cant see that happening, all i know the longer i cant speak or see my children the more they are been brainwashed, my son is very sensitive and easily lead as i been told from school, my daughter loves me so much i know it will be so upsetting for her not to speak to me or see me. my daughter had a phone with whats app i sent her a message to say "hope your ok and i love and miss you so much love from dad" she has blocked me on whats app.. i am going out of my mind i cant sleep or eat and it is affecting my work, i have a good job that allows me to leave and come in late to accommodate the children. where do i go from here ? a very worried dad
unusualme74 - 2-Mar-16 @ 11:43 AM
wolfie - Your Question:
What are my writes if my name is not on the birth certificate. And how do I go about getting it on there

Our Response:
Please see link: What Rights do I have if I'm not on the Birth Certificate here which should help answer your question. You would also have the opportunity to apply for Parental Responsibility if you wish to have more of a say in the decision making process of your child, please see link here. However, please be aware that being awarded PR does not mean you have automatic access/contact to your child.
SeparatedDads - 11-Feb-16 @ 10:49 AM
What are my writes if my name is not on the birth certificate. And how do I go about getting it on there
wolfie - 10-Feb-16 @ 5:07 PM
Stinkymonkey14 - Your Question:
Me and my partner or ex-partner as it stands had a amazing little boy together in 2014 ,I love my boy more than anything in the world. But unfortunately are relationship started to full apart 12 months from when are son was born. We are now splitting up and as every parent has to do we started to discussed/argue what is best for the children which there is also a 6year old boy from my her previous relationship. This conversation was cut short be my ex with a sarcastic laugh and the words ' you have no rights , I didnt put you on the birth certificate '. So I checked this and to my horror I found this to be true. Even tho I was at the birth of my child and been with him every day since. I'm very confused and upset why she would do such a thing ,we had got on very well until shortly before we broke up ? If anyone could advice/help me on how to tackle this problem I would be extremely grateful for any help large or small ? Please bare in mind I'm not a wealthy person and a long drawn out court case is not a realistic option.

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. Please see link: What Rights do I have if I'm not on the Birth Certificate, here. If you cannot afford legal fees, you can self-litigate, please see link: Legal Aid Withdrawal: How to Represent Yourself, here. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 21-Jan-16 @ 12:01 PM
Me and my partner or ex-partner as it stands had a amazing little boy together in 2014 ,I love my boy more than anything in the world . But unfortunatelyare relationship started to full apart 12 months from when are son was born . We are now splitting up and as every parent has to do we started to discussed/argue what is best for the children which there is also a 6year old boy from my her previous relationship .. This conversation was cut short be my ex with a sarcastic laugh and the words ' you have no rights , I didnt put you on the birth certificate ' ..So Ichecked this and to my horror I found this to be true. Even tho I was at the birth of my child and been with him every day since ... I'm very confused and upset why she would do such a thing ,we hadgot on very well until shortly before we broke up ? If anyone could advice/helpme on how to tackle this problem I would be extremely grateful for any help large or small ?.. Please bare in mind I'm nota wealthy person and a long drawn out court case is not a realistic option .
Stinkymonkey14 - 20-Jan-16 @ 10:33 PM
foggy - Your Question:
I have just recently had contact with my children after 17 years.i was married to the mother and all three was born in the said marriage.after the divorce she met another man and absconded with the children.moving around a lot this man I see it was a controlling person and never wanted myself around.i tried over the 17 years to find them and as money was tight I tried to do most of the work myself.i have found out from my daughters that in 2006 they went to live in Greeseas I was married to the said mother and before the law changed in 2003 that farther have to apply for parental right I already was entitled to parental rights should it not have been the case that I should of been contacted by the courts for the rights for the children to be taken out of the country and if the said farther just took them out under fraudulent circumstances which I feel was the case can he be punishes under uk law. I ask this because the four years my children was out of the country it messed up there education and exam resullts

Our Response:
I'm not sure how the law works historically about this sort of issue. You don't say whether your ex applied through the courts to take your children from the country, or whether she just took them without permission. If the former applied, then you would have to seek professional legal advice regarding this. If it is the latter, then you would have to research whether parental abduction laws had the same legislation as it does currently and seek advice. I am glad you have now made contact with your children.
SeparatedDads - 13-Jan-16 @ 12:08 PM
i have just recently had contact with my children after 17 years .... i was married to the mother and all three was born in the said marriage.. after the divorce she met another man and absconded with the children... moving around a lot this man i see it was a controlling person and never wanted myself around.... i tried over the 17 years to find them and as money was tight i tried to do most of the work myself ... i have found out from my daughters that in 2006 they went to live in Greese as i was married to the said mother and before the law changed in 2003 that farther have to apply for parental right ialready was entitled to parental rights should it not have been the case that i should of been contacted by the courts for the rights for the children to be taken out of the country and if the said farther just took them out under fraudulent circumstances which i feel was the case can he be punishes under uk law ... i ask this because the four years my children was out of the country it messed up there education and exam resullts
foggy - 12-Jan-16 @ 6:46 PM
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