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Coping With Life as a Separated Dad

By: Lorna Elliott LLB (hons), Barrister - Updated: 17 Sep 2019 |
 
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No father wants to be away from his children, but if you find yourself in this situation, there are certain things you can do to ensure that you have a great time with your children when you do see them. Breaking up with your partner is always painful, and more so if there are children involved.

Even if you only see your children every other weekend, you are still a very important part of their life. It is vitally important to ensure that you try to make peace, if just for the sake of your children, with your children’s mother. Although this may at times seem like an uphill struggle, the hard work it requires is far outweighed by the benefits to both you and your children.

Handovers

Inevitably as a separated dad, you will come into contact with your children's mother. Try to make the handover times as stress-free as possible. If you can, ensure that you don’t express any anger. This flares up the situation and your children may start to play up. If Your Ex Has A New Partner, he is likely to be tense as well, and in such circumstances it is easy to see how situations can get out of hand.

When it’s time to say goodbye, tell your children you love them and give them a hug. Ensure that you tell them when you are going to see them next and, at all times, try to be strong for the sake of your children. Remember, no matter how hurt, angry or bitter you may feel, you are the adult and they are the children!

Time Out

When you haven’t seen your children for a while, it may be tempting to plan a huge weekend full of exhausting activities for them. That’s not necessarily what they need from you as a father. Try, if you can, to balance fun and exciting activities with quiet time for you and your children. Reading a book with them, playing a board game, or just listening to them are all good ways to show them that you care without spending a fortune. (For more information, read our article Making The Most of Your Time With Your Child.)

Keeping in Touch

When you’re not with your children, it’s really important to keep in touch with them by phone, text and email – or whatever way you can. If your children know you are around, thinking of them, you are reinforcing in their mind that you are there for them. They should know that you are always around to talk to them if they need you.

Discipline

If you only see your children twice a month, try not to be too much of a disciplinarian. While this doesn’t mean allowing them to run riot and create total havoc for two days, it does mean that they should come away with happy memories of the time you have spent with them. You may feel that you need to enforce authority and stick to rules, but remember that your kids have been hurt in the process of separation, too. Talk to their mother and agree certain rules, which you can use flexibly, so that your children have some continuity and know the difference between what is ‘right’ and what is ‘wrong.’

Check out the Separated Dads Forum... It's a great resource where you can ask for advice on topics including Child Access, Maintenance, CAFCASS, Fathers Rights, Court, Behaviour or simply to have a chat with other dads.

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I’m sorry to say this but sometimes you have to fight for your kids to, I don’t mean physically I know relationships break up and you move onto others, but when another man thinks he has the right to involve himself with your biological child/ children then you have to do everything in your powers to fight,I don’t get these guys who try to be a father figure knowing their dad is still around are not right to me, they must have something missing, hmm.. So come on grow some balls as these are what made our lovely children and show them that your around for the future and aren’t going away...
Gjk - 17-Sep-19 @ 4:19 AM
I have been reading the comments on here and they are heartbreaking us men have feelings toand it doesn't get easier all my children have grown up and are starting families of their own now my wife left me for my so called best friend but I didn't find that out until later my daughter was then only 1 year old my middle son was 4 and my eldest son was 10 I remember the day they was leaving and I was saying goodbye to them and yes it is soul destroying even tho I have seen them on every other weekend up until they were older and had lives of themselves I feel like I missed out on so much of their lives being a part time fatherand I know I can never ever get that back it's so hard to explain to someone that hasnt been through it I am 57 now and I still sometimes cry at those missed years with my children and for everyone that is going through this I wish you strength
Dad - 17-Sep-19 @ 12:11 AM
I see my boys every other weekend and it is literally killing me, I feel so lost and empty when there not here, it comes to sunday the day they have to go back and I'm just in a black hole. I'm so close to my boys we always have been my 6 year old tells me he misses me all the time. And he doesn't want to go back he wants to stay here with me. My 4 year old literally wont let go when I get to his mums and its heart breaking even soul destroying I never wanted a broken home for my kids and even dragged my marriage out for a year or so just so I could see them every day. Does it get easier? Do you eventually learn to deal with this empty feeling you have? Because i haven't and it's been nearly a yearnow. I just dont know what to do. Does anyone else have any advice?
Kieron - 15-Sep-19 @ 7:51 PM
How can I help my friend who is separated from his daughter. He has access to his daughter but the ex-wife is refusing to let him spend time with the child without her supervision.she says it's because she's paranoid but about what she won't say. This is taking a toil on him and most times I don't know what to say or do. How do I help him through this?
Sad - 5-Sep-19 @ 9:23 PM
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wewen - 3-Aug-19 @ 12:56 PM
I'm hoping someone could help me, my and my husband split 6 weeks ago after 14 years of being together, he has been harassing me as hes said he cant live without me and the kids in his life and has tried to commit suicide twice (both times telling me he was doing it) i have contacted the police but they were no help, hes now using the kids and only having them for an hour or 2 as says he cant cope with them for longer unless I stay with him while he has them (they are young 4,2,1, has anyone else been in this situation?
Chez - 1-Aug-19 @ 6:50 PM
Hi, I see my son regularly but not 50/50 more 60/40 her . I have asked several times to see my son an extra night a fortnight, and offered a compromise, but I get no luck. Been threatened with the Csa doesn’t worry Me, they just want it all there own way !!! Despite wanting to see my son more and always making time for him I’d be a well thought of I I didn’t want to see him. Court is it ? #rantover
Mor - 27-Jul-19 @ 8:18 PM
my question is about how do I help my boyfriend? he gets in a bad place due to not being aloud to see his kids how do I comfort him? what do I say or do to help him? big explanation Hi, so I have been with my bf for a year now. he has 2 kids with his ex but she won't let him see them and it's really hard for him coping with it. so after we were together for a few months she 1st poped up and they seemed to have sorted it out. he got to see them twice a week. First few weeks were good but then she dragged up all the feelings she had for him saying they are still there. And then she gave him a choice of ether he sees the kids or me... the choice was hard for him but he choose his kids and I respect him fully for it. within weeks she got him back in the relationship and promised all sorts of changes that were not met and 1 monthhe had enough or it, we were secretly talking behind her back because we love each other a lot and he just wanted to see his kids, so he came back to me and moved back over but he hasn't been able to see them since. he missed his sons 1st birthday and I know that hit him hard and the longer he goes not being able to see them the worse he feels. it's worse when he is asked if he's seen them by his family or mine and he's caught in bad thoughts of how he misses them and with his eldest (5) the last time he was away for a few months she ran away from him pushing him away, the thought breaks his heart and he can't do anything. he's also not on ether birth certificates as the relationship was a toxic one and there was constant arguments and breakups. he wants to eventually go to court after he saves up for money for them and the court fees, he dosnt pay maintenance as he isn't being forced by child support or asked by the mother and honestly at the moment we can't afford as we are saving for our own place, so he wants to get money together for both of them so he can say he's put money aside for them and he wants to just see them. but right now he's hurting and I don't know what to do or say to comfort him or help him he thinks he's a terrible person for not being there. I have to admit I'm scared if she gets back in contact she will drive him away from me again but that aside I want him to be happy. i know I'm not aloud to meet his kids ever and that bothers him a bit too but we could work round that if he got to see them but right now I need help with helping him. what do I say to him to make him feel better or take away the dark thoughts and feelings of missing them?
becca - 29-May-19 @ 3:53 PM
Can anyone tell me what to do my son and his partner split up after a 4 year toxic relationship my son works long hours and irregular hours as he is self employed, his ex kept him sleep deprived he slept on sofa for 2 years as not allowed to disturb kids when he came in from work often after 12 hour shifts however he has had to move back in with me as he could not afford to give her the 700 a month she wants, he has the children on a Sunday Monday nightand Tuesday till 4ish the children are 18 months and 3, the issue is it was a nasty split and the ex has done the pity act even though she was malicious beyond belief and everyone has taken her side even though I have texts saying horrible things about him and the children, she has now become mother earth even though this act I am sure will slip, anyway my son after the split wentand has had a few nights out not on the days he has them, but he is now getting flack for going out with his mates and playing golf, is it acceptable for him to go out on days he is not working, I am getting a lot of flack as he is going out ,is he being unreasonable, in doing this and should he not go outand should he have the kids more he has asked but she says she has made plans
fedup - 4-Apr-19 @ 8:36 PM
I’m a single Dad that has the every other weekend situation. My relationship with my two teenage girls is good. The greatest struggle I’ve been dealing with ever since the divorce is the Sunday night they go back. It’s agony on me. I’m a total emotional train wreck and have been for the past six years. I’ve tried to stay busy, stay positive, and all the common recommendations to overcome this pain. Here it is again, Sunday night, and I’m searching for something, anything that will help me stop this sadness. Am I alone on this? I’ve read some absolutely soul breaking stories that make my issue seem absurd and I try and keep those stories in mine while I try to get through my heartache. This usual emaotional battle will get better or stop by mid week and stay that way until I’m with them again. I can talk/text with them and not feel this way. Then we can go a few days between connecting with each other, no problem. The next parenting weekend comes. Then it starts all over again. If anyone can help or has the same challenge I’d sure appreciate hearing from you. Thanks for reading.
Smc - 11-Feb-19 @ 5:39 AM
Bassicly was with a girl for about 2 years had our fair share of arguments break ups what not cut a long story short she found out she was pregnant for her too leave me while she was pregnant for 6 mounths too then go back too her before the baby was born as I thought everyone deserves a second chance right . I was at the birth and was pleased that I was able too be there what not but either way 3 mounths after he was born and we had been sorting things out everythink was going fine out the blue like she didn’t want too be with me for her own reasons which was not true off accusing me off doing things when I had not so we break up and I have applied for mediation going through the process too see my son I just no if she don’t come too mediation it will more then likely go too court but it’s like he’s only three mounths old I’m unsure what too do would it be okay if I had him every over weekend just being three mounths old like I don’t no what too even ask for tbh becouse he’s still only a baby is messed up I am going through the right channels like I say but I don’t no if it’s right too have my own baby over night just really don’t no No what too do I only want too see him for a few hours i this every over weekend becouse I just don’t think it’s fair for my baby boy too be without his mother for 2 days stuck in what too do in that sense too be honest
Boroughlad - 16-Jan-19 @ 6:21 PM
Am a new dad my partner and i have separated and we have a baby boy only a couple months old and we had been arguing loads and she couldn't cope and she has stopped me going to pick him up she going to bring him to me She recently had an implant put in so am confused I love my boy so so so much hurts not seeing him
Chris - 2-Dec-18 @ 1:57 PM
Bob Stevens - Your Question:
You haven't mentioned the problems caused by a wife obtaining an unjustifiable non-molestation order ex-parte, the subsequent introduction of Cafcass, the 8 months it can take to get to court to decide visitation/custody, and the problems of parental alienation that most men experience as their wives try to cut them out of their children's lives. And of course, once a non-molestation order is granted, it also gives unlimited legal aid to the wife for the whole process. Meanwhile, the husband gets no legal aid, and if he wants to fight for his kids, he has to pay for it himself. Don't bother suggesting any of the "free" help a man can get, they are a total waste of time and more often than not cause more problems than not. Your article appears to be more of an advert. Perhaps in future you can address all aspects of a subject, rather than type it up wearing rose tinted spectacles.

Our Response:
Not all cases go in the way you say, there are many variants. In many cases parents agree between themselves about access arrangements. I am sorry that you seem to have had a rough ride of it personally. We always advise non-resident parents not to try to deal with issues themselves (as non-molestation orders can obviously cause access problems). We encourage our readers to try to gain access through the courts. As painful as it can be - it is the legal route. For this, we at Separated Dads are here to try to help and offer a comprehensive series of pages that aim to give useful advice across the board. For people who are struggling with access or other related issues, our Separated Dads forum (run by volunteers) is aimed at helping non-resident parents to negotiate the trickier matters. This site is not about being an 'advert' - it is about helping dads through a tough time in a way that is easily identifiable and accessible to all.
SeparatedDads - 15-Jun-18 @ 3:25 PM
You haven't mentioned the problems caused by a wife obtaining an unjustifiable non-molestation order ex-parte, the subsequent introduction of Cafcass, the 8 months it can take to get to court to decide visitation/custody, and the problems of parental alienation that most men experience as their wives try to cut them out of their children's lives. And of course, once a non-molestation order is granted, it also gives unlimited legal aid to the wife for the whole process. Meanwhile, the husband gets no legal aid, and if he wants to fight for his kids, he has to pay for it himself. Don't bother suggesting any of the "free" help a man can get, they are a total waste of time and more often than not cause more problems than not. Your article appears to be more of an advert. Perhaps in future you can address all aspects of a subject, rather than type it up wearing rose tinted spectacles.
Bob Stevens - 15-Jun-18 @ 10:20 AM
Feeda - Your Question:
Would you say having my children every other weekend friday till sunday and every Tuesday overnight was reasonable access ? Court is looming and my ex partner feels I should be doing more although I'm a production manager and work 10 hour days (minimum )and 2 weekends of every month. I've been denied access now since January this year and have not seen my little boy and girl at all since then I'm desperate and heartbroken to say the least.Any advice will be gladly taken on board ??

Our Response:
This is considered a standard access arrangement, generally administered by the courts. As a rule, the court will not force a parent to have their child more than the parent is willing. Please keep us informed of the outcome of your case.
SeparatedDads - 14-Jun-18 @ 12:52 PM
Would you say having my children every other weekend friday till sunday and every Tuesday overnight was reasonable access ? Court is looming and my ex partner feels I should be doing more although I'm a production manager and work 10 hour days (minimum )and 2 weekends of every month. I've been denied access now since January this year and have not seen my little boy and girl at all since then I'm desperate and heartbroken to say the least ...Any advice will be gladly taken on board ??
Feeda - 12-Jun-18 @ 9:31 PM
Hi all, thank you for sharing your stories. I am a desperate father and am dying for any advice you could have. Have a 22 year old son living with me, his on mother broke off contact with him 2 years ago. Now he’s dealing with it and keeps saying I’m The best dad in the world and he will never leave me. Last year I met someone believing in a new furure. I never ever dreamed she would get pregnant so fast and on may 17th 2018 my daughter Lily was born. We stoppes seeing each other in decmber 2017 and she refused me any updates about my baby. I forgot to mention that having a baby girl was my biggest wish ever. Between december and her birth I was diagnozed with MS, and brain tumors. Combined with severe depression and adhd. Not really ideal...and every day is a struggle looking for any reason the fight which I don’t see anymore. My life force was my baby girl...now the mother is so cold, actually since she found out she was pregnant she became hostile towards me and only after being cnvinced by her own friends and family she sent me a message a week after the birth, very obligatory teks and a picture. If I could I would take her here and spend every second I can with her. Unfortunately her mother lives 18o km away, i am on welfare, because of my medical condition, she is constantly referring to Lilly as her daughter...basically everything she says shatters my heart. I would kill and die for my childeren but a daughter to a father is sacred. My doctors advise me to stay away, let her grow a bit before stepping into her life, and then let my daugher see and chose for herself. I will of corse be made out to be the boogey man in her family. As a father (oversensitive) not knowing how long i will be around?? What do I do...my doctors advise me to stay away to have a chanc to survive,but my heart cries out my baby’s name 24/7 This is the short version...I am litterally begging for advice on what toso and say to the mother..i know one day lily will find me but knowing my angel is so close and ai can’t hold her is dastroyng me... please help his loving father figure this out?????? Supposed to see her tuesday but only at 9 am for a brief moment. I just want her with me very other weekend or something... I love her to death...please help me..
Maverick - 3-Jun-18 @ 4:47 AM
@KMar - explaining to them with kindness why you do the things you do is the best way. Hopefully somewhere down the line they will realise.
Greg - 15-May-18 @ 11:14 AM
My partner, Chris and his ex-wife, lets call her Sarah, split up over 3 years ago.They have a 6 year old girl and an 11 year old boy and my partner and I have them every 2nd weekend.It use to be more often but Sarah moved out of the city. Chris is really struggling with the situation as he feels that they are slipping away from him.Unfortunately Sarah does not discipline them and allows them to eat whatever they want, whenever they want, which means that when they come to us we look like the bad ones as we say no and it is turning out to be a constant battle.When they are with us we try to do fun things with them as Sarah doesn'tspend time with them but this can also be challenging, as with Sarah they have their own rooms, all the toys a child could want, including a games console and when they are with us, they share a room and have some toys but not loads and no games consoles. As a part time parent, it would be nicer for Chris to be able to spoil them (to an extent) but we feel that if we do this they will get absolutely no discipline whatsoever.Chris's son has poor manners and an unrealistic belief of entitlement ('why won't you get me a games console', 'why won't you take me abroad' etc).I wonder if anyone has advice on how to handle this?
KMar - 14-May-18 @ 1:52 PM
I have separated from my wife for theblastb3 months.but her and her family have refused me access to my 4 sons and when I ask I am told I need to ask my brother inlaw for permission to see my children on top of that my ex wife doesn't want to contact me directly about my children and I really hate her family and asking for permission to see my children is that the law in T the uk
Gacal - 10-May-18 @ 1:36 AM
Lucylu - Your Question:
Hi I was hoping for some advise. My partner divorced from his wife nearly 3 years ago and with that left his 6 year old son with his mother. They then left the country leavin my partner separated from his children for many months until he is able to travel back to see him. His mother had been reluctant to bring his son over to see his dad so it can be many months before they see each other. They talk on the phone every night and he does he’s upmost best to be a great father and I don’t doubt that he is. Recently he’s struggled though, his ex wife is difficult to communicate with - give her an inch and she will try and take a mile causing conflict and drama between myself and my partner. I try my hardest to be patient and fully understanding and compassionate towards my partner and the relationship he craves with his son however upon recent times it’s starting to tear our relationship to shreds sand every difficulty from his ex is usually taken out on me. My partner goes in cycles of trying to do the best for ultimately his son but also myself. I am a firm believer that his son will always come first and I follow second however I am starting to feel massively that he is struggling to get a balance and would be happier if we separated and he could continue to father his son, still with the stresses and pressures from his ex but perhaps with the worries of me his partner. I’m finding myself between a rock and a hard place and I don’t really know what to do so I was seeking some advice from people in a similar situation a him as to how you would possibly deal with the situation and battle juggling a son, toxic ex wife and partner. Hope you can give me a little advice. Thanks in advance.

Our Response:
Only you can decide what to do in such a situation. Obviously, you are sympathetic to your partner's situation and the fact he has difficulties to be a good dad to his son and deal with an ex who is putting obstacles in his way. To be separated from your child, can be emotionally crucifying for some parents, especially if the child is being brought up in a different country. All you can do is to communicate with your partner and try to support him, but at the same time not accept his behaviour if he tries to take out his frustrations on you. Ultimately, if the relationship turns into an unhappy one because of the situation, then removing yourself from the dynamic may be your best option. You don't have to end the relationship, but you also deserve to be treated with respect and consideration. Communication is always the key and if you can keep doing that, it is half the battle.
SeparatedDads - 27-Apr-18 @ 3:18 PM
Hi I was hoping for some advise. My partner divorced from his wife nearly 3 years ago and with that left his 6 year old son with his mother. They then left the country leavin my partner separated from his children for many months until he is able to travel back to see him. His mother had been reluctant to bring his son over to see his dad so it can be many months before they see each other. They talk on the phone every night and he does he’s upmost best to be a great father and I don’t doubt that he is. Recently he’s struggled though, his ex wife is difficult to communicate with - give her an inch and she will try and take a mile causing conflict and drama between myself and my partner. I try my hardest to be patient and fully understanding and compassionate towards my partner and the relationship he craves with his son however upon recent times it’s starting to tear our relationship to shreds sand every difficulty from his ex is usually taken out on me. My partner goes in cycles of trying to do the best for ultimately his son but also myself. I am a firm believer that his son will always come first and I follow second however I am starting to feel massively that he is struggling to get a balance and would be happier if we separated and he could continue to father his son, still with the stresses and pressures from his ex but perhaps with the worries of me his partner. I’m finding myself between a rock and a hard place and I don’t really know what to do so I was seeking some advice from people in a similar situation a him as to how you would possibly deal with the situation and battle juggling a son, toxic ex wife and partner. Hope you can give me a little advice. Thanks in advance.
Lucylu - 25-Apr-18 @ 11:34 PM
@Dallen - sorry to hear this mate. It will get better as they get older. I felt exactly the same as you when my kids were near enough that age when me and my ex split. Now they are 15 and 12 and we have a good relationship but I have also come to value my personal space. The key is to get a full life outside your kids so your mind is kept busy. The worst thing you can do is dwell on stuff. I hope it improves for you.
SiB - 23-Apr-18 @ 3:31 PM
I’m a separated father of two. A six year old boy and four year old little girl. It’s been 2 1/2 years and I can tell you it isn’t getting easier at all. I literally want to die. I took them back tonight and here it is 2:25 am and I can’t stop crying.......... I just can’t take the pain anymore .......
Dallen - 23-Apr-18 @ 7:26 AM
@Alii - I really feel for you and know completely where you are coming from. As much as I look forward to having my son for a Sunday every other week I also dread it because as soon as he comes I know I'll have to part with him again and he'll start crying. It is so cruel I don't know how mothers can stand by and watch their kids getting so upset. Hearts of stone.
GaryV - 17-Apr-18 @ 3:10 PM
My son :( I rarely get to spend time with my son I had him for the weekend and he just left back to arizona my heart is ripping apart right now. Every time that moment he has to go back home, drives me insane. I can never get used to parting ways with my only child. It's not fair he tells me all the time he rather be with me,that he'd rather stay with me. When we say our goodbyes is like tearing my heart out of my chest. I can see it on his face now his tears dripping down his eyes Every time he has to leave. I pray that no man should ever suffer and feel this pain that I have now. Thank you for your time.
Alii - 17-Apr-18 @ 11:34 AM
Thanks for your reply Simon, much appreciated, I hope some day I can get to see my kids alot more. I don't think their mother genuinely cares how often I see them or that it deeply effects me. I am stuck now wondering what to do. My kids are off school for a week at the start of April and I have asked their mum if I can bring them from England to Northern Ireland were I am from for a week. She doesn't have a problem bringing them however she says she hasn't got the money to pay for the flight across. I have said I will pay for the two kids here and for me to take them back, she also doesn't have the money for her flight either she says if that is genuinely true it looks like I have to pay for her flight there and back aswell. Costs alot of money but if it is the only way I can see my children consecutively for a week then it's what I will have to do. She is adamant she cannot contribute to the flights whatsoever. I could have went over as I usually do but she seems like she's pushing for me to have them for the week. I have since found out she is swanning off to the lake district with her new partner around the same time so would make sense why she's pushing the idea that I take the children. I love my children more than life itself I just feel their mother makes a complete mug out of me and their is nothing I can do about it.
markus - 11-Mar-18 @ 7:04 PM
@Markus - that's really sad and I hope in time you get the rewards back. My friend had to wait until his son was 18. His ex moved to Greece and he had to do the trips and many times she would deliberately turn up late or make an excuse that his son could see him as he was ill. But he perservered and what do you know, a year ago his son came to live with him. It might feel like a life of lost years, but it can be repaired very quickly. He's having a great time with his son now catching up on all that lost time, and now it is the mother who is suffering. I know that it doesn't turn out like this all the time, but I hope it can give you hope. Your dad is always your dad no matter what. Keep hoping. Simon.
SiU - 12-Feb-18 @ 3:55 PM
I am not looking for legal advice just a place to vent really. When me and my ex split up she moved back overseas to be with her family. She took our two kids my daughter who's 6 and my son who's two. She's been away now for two years with the kids and while I visit every three months it's so difficult. I constantly get upset and would spend so many days crying in the month. I always have a heavy heart missing them and even though I go to see them when I am returning home I feel so depressed again. My ex has a new partner and he has publicly commented about me as a father and while I have never met this man it hurt deeply. I love my kids and would do anything for them. My kids mum has a mental illness borderline personality disorder which is the reason I left as I couldn't take the ups and downs anymore and how she treated me. We also have a son together that passed away when he was only 6 weeks old due to being very premature. My youngest son who's two I feel I've never properly bonded with him or got to see all his milestones etc. I guess I just don't feel complete in life and miss my kids so much.
Markus - 12-Feb-18 @ 12:22 PM
My wife recently left me I have two children 7 and 13 I miss them so much I speak with them twice a week and see them for 4 hours every other week. It's just not enough I miss them so much it hurts. I find myself being emotional and on the verge of crying when I see and speek with them I'm trying to be positive when I talk wth them but it breaks my heart being a part time father. My ex says they don't know what to talk about when I call and they get upset when I see them I'm a good farther I think and I love my children but she is doing all she can to ruin the brief time I have with them she even says they don't want to speak with me on the phone and get upset before I see them I have fun with them and they seem happy to see me. I have lost everything my home my wife but I don't want to lose my children they are all I have left I don't know how to live my life without them and I'm scared she is trying to turn them against me.
U.K Father - 5-Feb-18 @ 11:02 PM
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