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Forum Code Of Conduct Forum Rules

We hope that members will find support, advice, humour and friendly conversation here. To ensure that happens smoothly, we have created a brief code of conduct for members. It's not long and rambling, so please take time to read it, before posting.

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Charlie - Your Question:
Many thks for response another ? If she was remarried and died god forbib Do I need something in place so son automatically comes to me or does my son remain with stranger?or is it that another battle in court? Thanks charlie

Our Response:
If you have parental responsibility of your child, then you would have the power to request your child lives with you, should anything happen to your ex. It only becomes a potential court battle if your ex has left a clause in her will requesting that your child is looked after by another member of the family or a step-parent (if your child has siblings who are the biological children of the step-parent and your ex).
SeparatedDads - 13-Aug-18 @ 11:56 AM
Many thks for response another ? If she was remarried and died god forbib Do I need something in place so son automatically comes to me or does my son remain with stranger?or is it that another battle in court? Thanks charlie
Charlie - 12-Aug-18 @ 6:41 AM
Charlie - Your Question:
Hi all am very confused.need advice support. Couple questions. Recently separated. If ex were to marry ,move in new partner, does he gain automatic responsibility? Me as biological father with already strong bond and shared parental responsibility, birth certified not by marriage. Legally wat can I do to remain chief decision maker if anything were to happen to ex.As far as iam concerned fathering of our son is my role mine alone and not some jobseeker!.I believe joint custody would give me this ??? Many thks Charlie

Our Response:
You will still have parental responsibility of your child if another man moves in. This means you are the registered father of your child and can make certain decisions. However, many people live in step-families where another parent plays a role and there is little you can do to prevent this.
SeparatedDads - 10-Aug-18 @ 12:35 PM
Hi all am very confused.need advice support. Couple questions. Recently separated. If ex were to marry ,move in new partner, does he gain automatic responsibility?. Me as biological father with already strong bond and shared parental responsibility, birth certified not by marriage. Legally wat can I do to remain chief decision maker if anything were to happen to ex.As far as iam concerned fathering of our sonis my role mine alone and not some jobseeker!.I believe joint custody would give me this ???. Many thks Charlie
Charlie - 8-Aug-18 @ 7:36 PM
Tony - Your Question:
Hello I am trying to register for the forum but after I register it says We thing you are a spammer please contact admin if this is wrong ?Can you please register me Thanks Tony

Our Response:
You would have to email via the contact tab on the forum to request this with your preferred username. Unfortunately, we cannot register you via this site.
SeparatedDads - 19-Jul-18 @ 10:14 AM
Hello I am trying to register for the forum but after I register it says We thing you are a spammer please contact admin if this is wrong ? Can you please register me Thanks Tony
Tony - 18-Jul-18 @ 10:22 AM
Hello, I've tried registering to the forum however I get the message that I am banned due to spamming, I have never spammed the site.I think the site may have been hacked so new members are not allowed
Gman - 16-Jul-18 @ 10:08 AM
MD - Your Question:
Hi I need some advice please, I was in a relationship with a married lady who is still with her husband and they have two child together, she recently became pregnant with me while with her husband, I told her that she should leave her husband and I will marry her, she refused and she is telling me that she will raise my child with her husband, she will also tell him that that's his child, but she will allow me to see the child but she will never tell the child that I am the father. But I don't want to do that, If it's my child I want to be there with him when he is born also I want him to know that I am the father of him, I don't her husband to know or think it his child.I told her to come to an agreement, she refused and said if I interfere she will call the police on me.Please can someone one tell me what can I do and what rights do I have over this child as I don't want my child to call someone else dad.Thanks MD

Our Response:
It is deemed fraudulent to register another man on the birth certificate as the father, if the man is not the biological father. However, if this lady wishes to continue to do this, you should not challenge the lady directly but challenge the matter through court (once the child is born). If you challenge the lady directly and the police get involved it could hamper future access to your child. You may wish to seek legal advice regarding what your best options are under the current circumstances.
SeparatedDads - 15-Jun-18 @ 3:11 PM
Hi I need some advice please, I was in a relationship with a married lady who is still with her husband and they have two child together, she recently became pregnant with me while with her husband, I told her that she should leave her husband and I will marry her, she refused and she is telling me that she will raise my child with her husband, she will also tell him that that's his child, but she will allow me to see the child but she will never tell the child that I am the father. But I don't want to do that, If it's my child I want to be there with him when he is born also I want him to know that I am the father of him, i don't her husband to know or think it his child. I told her to come to an agreement, she refused and said if I interfere she will call the police on me. Please can someone one tell me what can I do and what rights do I have over this child as I don't want my child to call someone else dad. Thanks MD
MD - 15-Jun-18 @ 1:52 AM
Si - Your Question:
Hi fellas! I'm new to this CSA and separated dad stuff and have a few things to ask so please bare with me, it's all come at once and I'm overwhelmed.I just received a 'nice' letter from the CSA this morning. First of all, my wife and I separated last September, I have since offered to provide her with money for our 4 children, (one who is 18 this August) but she refused saying she don't need anything from me. Now I get this?! Second, it says I have to pay £1908.95 per year, yet I'm on a minimum wage job only working 20 hours per week.My monthly income before tax and NI is very low, around £626, if I'm right, then the CSA expect me to pay about £160ish per month on top of my living outgoings. Is this correct or do I need the amount adjusted? Do the CSA take into account fathers living expenses. Surely the CSA can't make a fair and accurate sum for dads to pay without assessing our living costs? Plus, very unexpected but it's happened, I am in a new relationship and my current partner and I are having a baby due this October. How does this affect the rate I pay? Also, my ex is a difficult woman, she is very spiteful and has been causing trouble over last few months with the agenda of splitting me and my partner up. She did at one point suddenly up and left the area with our kids with the intention of living there but without informing me, she has since returned because I got child services involved (long story) but the main thing is I would like to have my children sleep over at least one night per week but she won't allow it. I know the CSA reduce the rate dads pay if kids stay over, but what if it's the mother who doesn't allow this? It's very very unfair that any father pays full amount because they don't have their kids over because of their ex's decision to not allow this.does this seem fair? Also, can my ex stop me from introducing my children to my current partner? Please help.

Our Response:
All non-resident parents are responsible for supporting their children on a day-to-day basis. On the basic rate, if you’re paying for one child, you’ll pay 12% of your gross weekly income, two children, you’ll pay 16% of your gross weekly income. If you have three or more children, you’ll pay 19% of your gross weekly income, you can see more via the link here, which will tell you all you need to know regarding your other questions also. CMS doesn't take into account your living expenses, the calculation is set purely on your gross weekly income. If CMS set the rate to take into account the non-resident parent's living expenses, you can image that many non-resident parents would bump their living expenses up to avoid paying. If the mother doesn't allow you to have your children overnight, then if you have been in your children's lives to date you can suggest mediation as a way of trying to resolve these issues out of court, please see link here . If your ex doesn't comply, then you can challenge this through court, please see link here. If you are on a low income, you may get a reduction in court fees and if you cannot afford legal representation, you can self-litigate, please see link here. Our Separated Dads forum may also help if you need further advice.
SeparatedDads - 7-Jun-18 @ 9:42 AM
Hi fellas! I'm new to this CSA and separated dad stuff and have a few things to ask so please bare with me, it's all come at once and I'm overwhelmed...I just received a 'nice' letter from the CSA this morning. First of all, my wife and I separated last September, I have since offered to provide her with money for our 4 children, (one who is 18 this August) but she refused saying she don't need anything from me. Now I get this?! Second, it says I have to pay £1908.95 per year, yet I'm on a minimum wage job only working 20 hours per week...My monthly income before tax and NI is very low, around £626, if I'm right, then the CSA expect me to pay about £160ish per month on top of my living outgoings. Is this correct or do I need the amount adjusted? Do the CSA take into account fathers living expenses. Surely the CSA can't make a fair and accurate sum for dads to pay without assessing our living costs? Plus, very unexpected but it's happened, I am in a new relationship and my current partner and I are having a baby due this October. How does this affect the rate I pay? Also, my ex is a difficult woman, she is very spiteful and has been causing trouble over last few months with the agenda of splitting me and my partner up. She did at one point suddenly up and left the area with our kids with the intention of living there but without informing me, she has since returned because I got child services involved (long story) but the main thing is I would like to have my children sleep over at least one night per week but she won't allow it. I know the CSA reduce the rate dads pay if kids stay over, but what if it's the mother who doesn't allow this? It's very very unfair that any father pays full amount because they don't have their kids over because of their ex's decision to not allow this...does this seem fair? Also, can my ex stop me from introducing my children to my current partner? Please help..
Si - 6-Jun-18 @ 2:46 PM
AK - Your Question:
Hi. I need some advise. My wife ( still legal) she is treating me with divorce. It's already 6month when we are not talking , she sleeps in separate room in our house that we own together under shared ownership. I offers her to go and discuss our options via mediation, but today she went to see a solicitor.I need an advise on below before I agree or get solicitor involved.* If we sell house before we split money can my deposit returned to me? ( it's a gift from my parents)*Money from the sale of house is used to cover the debts that we had during our marriage before we split profit.*She is treating me ( I am biological father of one child, other child is from her second marriage he is 13yrold) what she will claim child support for non biological child untill he will reach 18year old. ( I will support him anyway but without a treat).*She wants 70% of income from the sale of the house! Is it possible? I do agree 50/50 after our joint debts are covered.* My biological son (7years old) surname is under mother's name. She is treating not to give my surname until she will get what's she want.(everything as per above)*She said I may be evicted from house what we both have mortgage for until my son will reach 18year old. And will need to pay for my mortgage.Please advise before I have legal help.Thank you

Our Response:
If you have a child, decisions will always be made regarding what is in the best interests of your child regardless of what you put into the house financially prior to marriage. If the money you put into the house was a loan and you can prove it was a loan, then your parents may be reimbursed their money. However, if your wife is the primary carer of your child, then a court can allow her to remain in the house until your child leaves full-time education. If you can agree via mediation, putting the welfare of your child first, then this will serve you better. You are not financially responsible for your wife's child. You have two options if you cannot agree between yourselves, mediation and court. If the matter goes to court, then this will cost and the court will base the financial split on the basis of each other's (and your child's) financial needs. In this case, you may wish to seek legal advice.
SeparatedDads - 5-Jun-18 @ 1:46 PM
Hi. I need some advise. My wife ( still legal) she is treating me with divorce. It's already 6month when we are not talking , she sleeps in separate room in our house that we own together under shared ownership. I offers her to go and discuss our options via mediation, but today she went to see a solicitor. I need an advise on below before I agree or get solicitor involved. * If we sell house before we split money can my deposit returned to me? ( it's a gift from my parents) *Money from the sale of house is used to cover the debts that we had during our marriage before we split profit. *She is treating me ( I am biological father of one child, other child is from her second marriage he is 13yrold) what she will claim child support for non biological child untill he will reach 18year old. ( I will support him anyway but without a treat). *She wants 70% of income from the sale of the house! Is it possible? I do agree 50/50 after our joint debts are covered. * My biological son (7years old) surname is under mother's name. She is treating not to give my surname until she will get what's she want.(everything as perabove) *She said I may be evicted from house what we both have mortgage for until my son will reach 18year old. And will need to pay for my mortgage. Please advise before I have legal help. Thank you
AK - 4-Jun-18 @ 7:36 PM
Bruce - Your Question:
Hi, my son is just finishing his A levels, he turned 19 in Feb 2018 and I have heard that he will be going to some sort of music college to further his education. I have always consistently paid maintenance and am continuing to do so but I am unclear on when I am ok to stop payments. Can someone help with this please? I have read guidelines on several websites but am not absolutely sure of the right thing to do and as the initial break up was extremely acrimonious (so much so that I have not been able to see my son for 6 years) I would not like to do anything that wasn't correct. Many thanks

Our Response:
Once eligibility by the resident parent to claim child benefit stops, then so do child maintenance payments. You can see more via the link here, which should tell you all you need to know.
SeparatedDads - 4-Jun-18 @ 2:03 PM
Hi, my son is just finishing his A levels, he turned 19 in Feb 2018 and I have heard that he will be going to some sort of music college to further his education.I have always consistently paid maintenance and am continuing to do so but I am unclear on when I am ok to stop payments.Can someone help with this please?I have read guidelines on several websites but am not absolutely sure of the right thing to do and as the initial break up was extremely acrimonious (so much so that I have not been able to see my son for 6 years) I would not like to do anything that wasn't correct.Many thanks
Bruce - 2-Jun-18 @ 1:48 PM
algeth - Your Question:
Hi, me & my ex-partner split up a few years ago, (we werent married & my name is on his birth certificate) & we got a 4 year old son together, I use to have him every tuesday & thursday nights as well as every other w-end, my ex told me she made an appointment for mediation but without knowing what mediation was at 1st (i thought it was a 3rd party telling us about when I can & cant see my son, until I read up about it) she cancelled mediation by then, I took my son to school on the friday after having him on the thur night ,& without warning she turned up at the school about 10-10.30 & told school its compasionate leave, but the truth was that she got the train to her boyfriends in scotland, (im in wales) I kept on asking her when they are back & her reply was she on holiday & then kept saying "dont know yet" & now I have discovered she has moved him into a school in scotland.(i heard they got different laws up there!!?) she told me there nothing I can do & I can have him school holidays & the odd w-end - when its teacher training day. also she has been known as a compulsive liar (her family said that to which I know is true) & say things for her own benefit, social services been involved about 2-3 times but every time she say that s services are happy & no further action taken, any help wold be very much appreciated, thanks in advance :)

Our Response:
If your ex has moved out of the area without your consent (if you have PR, then your ex has to request your consent), then you can apply directly for a court order, please see link here. If you wish to pursue the matter, then court is your only recourse. The court can force a parent to move back with the child, if they think the resident parent has moved deliberately. Or they can organise a court order, so that your ex would have to keep to the access arrangements decided on by a judge.
SeparatedDads - 1-Jun-18 @ 3:41 PM
hi, me & my ex-partner split up a few years ago, (we werent married & my name is on his birth certificate) & we got a 4 year old son together, i use to have him every tuesday & thursday nights as well as every other w-end, my ex told me she made an appointment for mediation but without knowing what mediation was at 1st (i thought it was a 3rd party telling us about when i can & cant see my son, until i read up about it) she cancelled mediation by then, i took my son to school on the friday after having him on the thur night ,& without warning she turned up at the school about 10-10.30 & told school its compasionate leave, but the truth was that she got the train to her boyfriends in scotland, (im in wales) i kept on asking her when they are back & her reply was she on holiday & then kept saying "dont know yet" & now i have discovered she has moved him into a school in scotland.(i heard they got different laws up there!!?) she told me there nothing i can do & i can have him school holidays & the odd w-end- when its teacher trainingday. also she has been known as a compulsive liar (her family said that to which i know is true) & say things for her own benefit, social services been involved about 2-3 times but every time she say that s services are happy & no further action taken,any help wold be very much appreciated, thanks in advance :)
algeth - 1-Jun-18 @ 9:17 AM
concerned nan - Your Question:
Hi im in desperate need of help my son has 2 children and has been having his children every weekend for last couple of years the mum had another relationship there has been issues with her not taking kids to school not providing enough food her son molesting on of the other children plus other issues over last 2 years children have been on high risk level 4 with no changes anyway we had a meeting with social services last tuesday for updates as my son rang to pick his kids friday as usual had no answer all weekend so contacted social services to express concerns only to be told they have moved her and her 6 children to refuge due to domestic violence issues with her ex partner my son is absolutly devastated whats his rights on protecting his children and seeing them we have another emergency meeting monday with social services we dont know were we stand can any one please help we are very desperate for a life line here

Our Response:
Hopefully, once the child's mother has recovered from her ordeal your son's access will get back on track. The best option your son has is to try to support his ex and his kids in this situation and be on hand for any meetings with social services. This will help to see where he can best help out. It's not as though access is being refused to him, it's purely that his children's mother has found herself in a difficult situation. Your son will have a recourse to apply to court for a child arrangement order if his ex refuses access, please see link here . It seems in this case a bit of patience and support may work better in this particular case, unless of course he wishes to apply for residency through the courts. If so, then he may wish to seek some legal advice.
SeparatedDads - 19-Apr-18 @ 2:13 PM
hi im in desperate need of help my son has 2 children and has been having his children every weekend for last couple of yearsthe mum had another relationship there has been issues with her not taking kids to school not providing enough food her son molesting on of the other children plus other issues over last 2 years children have been on high risk level 4 with no changes anyway we had a meeting with social services last tuesday for updates as my son rang to pick his kids friday as usual had no answer all weekend so contacted social services to express concerns only to be told they have moved her and her 6 children to refuge due to domestic violence issues with her ex partner my son is absolutly devastated whats his rights on protecting his children and seeing them we have another emergency meeting monday with social services we dont know were we stand can any one please help we are very desperate for a life line here
concerned nan - 17-Apr-18 @ 3:14 PM
Jupiter111 - Your Question:
Hi,My son no longer wants to be with his wife but is in despair as to where he will stand with the children and finances. He is worried that he will not be allowed to see his children and that his wife will make any visits under her terms.They have a mortgage, would he have to pay all of the monthly payment, and the council tax, bills etc, she does not work as the children are young, would she have to claim benefit to live. We just don't know where he will stand on any of this and don't know where else to look for advice.Thank you

Our Response:
The CAB link here gives a full and comprehensive answer to your question. In addition, yes your son would have to pay child maintenance and towards the mortgage as he is contracted to pay. Yes, his wife should receive benefits such as universal credit if she is the primary carer of the children. Mediation is a good thing to consider prior to leaving as it can help sort out finances and child access, please see link here.
SeparatedDads - 17-Apr-18 @ 12:40 PM
Hi, My son no longer wants to be with his wife but is in despair as to where he will stand with the children and finances.He is worried that he will not be allowed to see his children and that his wife will make any visits under her terms. They have a mortgage, would he have to pay all of the monthly payment, and the council tax, bills etc, she does not work as the children are young, would she have to claim benefit to live.We just don't know where he will stand on any of this and don't know where else to look for advice. Thank you
Jupiter111 - 16-Apr-18 @ 9:49 PM
NSC - Your Question:
Hello,Just recently divorced after 5 years separation. My ex now wishes to take me to court. Can anyone recommend a lawyer in the Guildford area that specialises in Single Dads representation?

Our Response:
Before an application to court will be permitted, you and your ex may have to consider mediation first. Please see link here. We cannot recommend solicitors directly. You may wish to get more advise via the Separated Dads Forum.
SeparatedDads - 5-Apr-18 @ 1:48 PM
Hello, Just recently divorced after 5 years separation. My ex now wishes to take me to court. Can anyone recommend a lawyer in the Guildford area that specialises in Single Dads representation?
NSC - 1-Apr-18 @ 11:22 AM
Ren - Your Question:
Hi. just would like to know if its unreasonable of me to ask my ex to have the children for 1 weekend of the year. I have the boys every weekend from Friday after school til they go back to school on a Monday however one weekend I will not be able to have them and have given my ex 4 months notice of when I can't have them and it seems to be a big issue. I'd like your comments please.

Our Response:
Much depends whether you have a court order in place or not, please see link here . If you don't have a court order in place, then you would have to agree mutually, or perhaps suggest mediation to your ex as a way to resolve such issues, please see link here.
SeparatedDads - 22-Mar-18 @ 10:04 AM
hi. just would like to know if its unreasonable of me to ask my ex to have the children for 1 weekend of the year. I have the boys every weekend from Friday after school til they go back to school on aMonday however one weekend I will not be able to have them and have given my ex 4 months notice of when I can't have them and it seems to be a big issue . i'd like your comments please.
Ren - 21-Mar-18 @ 4:28 PM
Jamalsjos - Your Question:
Hi, I have been separated for a year and I am going through a really tough divorce, I have two boys age 8 & 5 who I miss terribly, I have a court arrangement to see my boys Tuesday over night and every other weekend but I would like to see the more, my wife never lets me look after them when she needs a sitter and uses her elderly unwell parents both in there 80s. I have had to block my wife from all electrical divices as she bombards me with abusive messages. I am worn out and missing my boys like crazy. Any advice or tips would be appreciated

Our Response:
Unfortunately, if you have a court order for access you have to keep to the terms of the court order.
SeparatedDads - 19-Mar-18 @ 1:54 PM
Hi, I have been separated for a year and I am going through a really tough divorce, I have two boys age 8 & 5 who I miss terribly, I have a court arrangement to see my boys Tuesday over night and every other weekend but I would like to see the more, my wife never lets me look after them when she needs a sitter and uses her elderly unwell parents both in there 80s. I have had to block my wife from all electrical divices as she bombards me with abusive messages. I am worn out and missing my boys like crazy. Any advice or tips would be appreciated
Jamalsjos - 17-Mar-18 @ 9:04 PM
DC82 - Your Question:
Hi, I am wondering what my rights are with regards to access to my two children. Currently I see my 2 year old and 6 month year old on a fortnightly basis for three hours on a Sunday. I have requested to see them more to their mother as I feel three hours a fortnight is too little an amount of time to see them. I spend the three hours at the home of my ex with the children. Ideally I would like to see them at least once an evening every week, and more time on the alternate weekends. I pay more maintenance than I currently need to.I would like help with what I can expect is a reasonable enough time to be able to spend with the children. And also whether I can actually have rights to take the children out on my own.

Our Response:
If your ex refuses to negotiate, then you would have to suggest mediation. If your ex still refuses, then you would have to apply to court. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the children in question. The court will always put the children’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order. The courts do wish non-resident parents to have relationships their children and will do all it can to make this happen. You may wish to mention to your ex that you are OK for a time with this arrangement, but you wish to see it moving in a direction where you can have a proper relationship with your children and if she will not consider mediation you will apply to court. You do not have to do this with any malice. If you do not currently have parental responsibility (ie registered on the birth certificate) you can also apply for this via the courts.
SeparatedDads - 5-Mar-18 @ 11:07 AM
Hi, I am wondering what my rights are with regards to access to my two children. Currently I see my 2 year old and 6 month year old on a fortnightly basis for three hours on a Sunday. I have requested to see them more to their mother as I feel three hours a fortnight is too little an amount of time to see them. I spend the three hours at the home of my ex with the children. Ideally I would like to see them at least once an evening every week, and more time on the alternate weekends. I pay more maintenance than I currently need to. I would like help with what I can expect is a reasonable enough time to be able to spend with the children. And also whether I can actually have rights to take the children out on my own.
DC82 - 4-Mar-18 @ 1:32 PM
Me and my ex separate almost 5 years ago and we have a daughter (7) and a son(6). Its been a hard 5years with alot of issues mainly jealousy from her side. We both have new partners. Ive been with my now girlfriend 4years. She on the otherhand has been with many new guys, all moving in and out constantly and has been with her new bloke around 2months, hes moved in with her, engaged and i now find out they are trying for a baby. I have no problem with her having another child if thats what she wants but the timing is totally wrong. She lives in a very small 2bed flat. Shes always complaining that they have been bad etc and now the thought of a baby on the scene i feel my two will not be priority and they will be effected. I work full time but see them at least 2 evenings a week for several hours after work and 1 night/day every weekend plus paying her a fair amount of money. She doesn't work at all. So she takes them to school and picks them up and thats all she has to do. But their flat is always a mess, there dirty (according to my children, 'mummy' forgets to bath us, teeth don't get cleaned) i heard my daughter telling her nanny (my mother) when asked by her nanny, mummy always forgets to bath us, wash us, clean teeth. We only do this at daddy's when we stay. Its heartbreaking. When i mention any concerns to her i get shouted at and made to feel its all my fault and tend to walk away to avoid argument. Keeping your children clean is surely no1 priority for any parent. I basically don't trust her. So i am looking for anyone who is going through or has been through a similar situation and what the best course of action is. Im willing to change my job in order to take and pick them up from school if I need to. I also get alot of help from my parents so there is alot of support from my side of the family. Thanks.
Weekesy89 - 31-Dec-17 @ 8:03 AM
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