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Introducing a New Partner to Your Children

By: Chris Nickson - Updated: 29 Nov 2016 | comments*Discuss
 
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One of the most stressful things you can do as a separated father is to introduce your children to your new partner. You want everyone to like and accept everyone else – and you’re really not sure what you’ll do if that doesn’t happen. There are no guarantees, of course, but there are a number of things you can do to try to ensure everything goes smoothly. That’s especially important for your children, who won’t understand a lot of the dynamics, and who after all, are the most important things to you.

What Type Of Partner Should You Introduce?

The chances are you’ll date a number of people before finding a serious relationship. Don’t introduce your kids to every passing girlfriend. It will only confuse and frustrate them, and when you want them to meet someone with whom you’re developing a Serious Relationship, it’ll take them longer to trust her.

It’s best to wait until you have a committed relationship with someone before introducing your children into the equation. Give things time to reach stability, where you’re comfortable with each other. Talk to her about your children beforehand, by all means, but try to avoid discussing your former partner.

One thing you have to do, as the relationship develops, is make sure you still give plenty of time to your children, all the time you can. It’s easy to become distracted in a new, major relationship, but don’t do it at the expense of your kids.

The First Meeting

The first meeting between your children and new partner should be a casual, social occasion – say a trip to the park or the cinema. It certainly shouldn’t be anything that involves stress. Introduce your partner as a friend. Don’t kiss her and hold her and include everyone in the conversation. After a while, slip away for a few minutes so your partner can briefly interact with the children. However, keep time for yourself alone with the kids during the visit, too, just as you normally would.

Moving On

You don’t need to have your partner with you every time you have your children. But do have her join you regularly. In time, sit down with your children and explain about your relationship – obviously in terms they’ll understand, depending on their age. Remember, their reaction is important. Hopefully, by the time you do tell them, they’ll have developed their own relationship with your new partner and accept her readily.

If you and your new partner decide to move in together, make your children a part of the process. If you’re renting or buying a new place, let them make the decisions about Decorating Rooms that will be theirs – it gives them a stake in both the place and the relationship.

If the relationship allows, discuss the move with your ex. She’ll hear about it anyway from the children, but it would probably be best if you told her first, if only as a courtesy to prepare her.

Encountering Problems

You can’t force your children to get along with your new partner, so what happens if they don’t? Well, there’s no easy resolution. It’s quite possible you’ll have to make a choice between your partner and your children (and the same applies if your partner doesn’t like your children). Remember, however, that your children are with you for life. Your responsibility to them will never end. The best thing to do is try everything in your power to make sure things go well. Don’t rush anything – there’s plenty of time.

If You Leave For Someone Else

The situation is a little different if you’ve left to be with another woman. Your ex will have told the children, and you should have sat down with them to explain it, too. However, that doesn’t mean you need to introduce her immediately. Take time alone with your kids when you’re with them, and introduce her gradually, as you might with any relationship. Avoid introducing her immediately as their new stepmother; between fairytales and stories, step-parents have bad reputations. Give your children a chance to become used to her – and vice versa.

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Zlr92 - Your Question:
Basically my ex and I split over 3years ago. He had our son every weekend until he started school, then it went to every other weekend and the other Friday for tea. I found out via facebook he had a new girlfriend, he had introduced her and her family to my 5year old son, without telling me. I then put a stop to it, not forever but until the relationship was established. They now see eachother ect. Whenever my son comes home it's never just him and his dad, stories always include her. Now don't get me wrong I'm not jealous. I moved on a long time ago. But I've asked if they have moved in together and he has assured me they haven't. Yet she is telling people they are. It's not the fact they have or haven't it's the lying. Why lie? I just want a truthful answer. I have a right to know who my son is around do I not? I was truthful with him about my partner. He also uses living alone as an excuse to pay a very minimal amount for our son. My partner paid for his share of the school uniform as he couldn't afford it. Yet he can afford to take his new girlfriend to Disneyland for a weekend. His excuse it was only for two people Surely the first person you'd think of would be your child? Not the person who is allowing you to get your end wet?

Our Response:
Your ex is not obliged to tell you about the decisions he makes as a father, just as you are not obliged to tell him of the decisions you make as a mother, or judge him on the decisions he makes as a single person i.e where he chooses to go etc. Likewise, as the father, only he is responsible for paying child maintenance to support his child. If his girlfriend wishes to contribute, like your current partner it is seen as a voluntary contribution, not compulsary. I'm afraid you don't really have rights to issue 'shoulds' or 'should nots' unless you don't mind him issuing them back to you also.
SeparatedDads - 29-Nov-16 @ 1:01 PM
Marcy25 - Your Question:
Hi! My ex left me Almost going on two months now,and not even a week later when he had left told me he was dating the girl he was seeing while we was still together (the girl he was cheating on me with). Well two weeks into dating her he introduced her and few more other times after to our 5 year old and 3 year old son. Now, I don't know about anyone else but when I found out I was angry. I felt it was way to soon and he didn't even know if this relationship was even going to be stable. Our oldest had seen them kiss one of the times she was visiting I told my ex how I felt about the situation and how it was to soon. That there was no way he could know from two weeks that the relationship was going to last and that the kids would get confused. Especially, with us just having separated two weeks ago (this was at the beginning of the seperation) and he replied that he would rather just tear the band aid off, and let it hurt now then do it later because he really liked her and he could see hisself with her and that our son just needed to get use to it. To me that was something selfish to say because I took it as if he didn't care how our oldest felt. He still was going to have her around him (by all means I'm ok with him moving on) but with almost two months coming up he hasn't been really around and the little that he does come around he wants to have her around instead of spending that quality time with them. I still feel that it's to soon especially the whole staying the night when they are there. Now again I am ok with him moving on because he has the right to move on and be happy, but I worry for our kids. I don't know if I'm stressing? If I have the right to feel this way? I just don't want my boys getting confused on the situation and when I talk to their dad he automatically assumes I'm the hurt one, but I've told him many times that when he is dating not only is he finding his partner he is also finding the stepmother of our boys and that he should take his time to really know someone before bringing them around someone please help me here I don't know if I am at wrong?

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. As much as this article gives advice on how long to wait, there are no rules to say whether you are right or wrong, as much depends upon your opinion and your ex-partner's. Many parents will wait a while until children are introduced to a new partner, some wont. If this upsets you and you cannot come to an agreement, you may wish to consider mediation, please see link: Mediation: What is it and is it For Me? here.
SeparatedDads - 29-Nov-16 @ 12:37 PM
Basically my ex and I split over 3years ago. He had our son every weekend until he started school, then it went to every other weekend and the other Friday for tea. I found out via facebook he had a new girlfriend, he had introduced her and her family to my 5year old son, without telling me. I then put a stop to it, not forever but until the relationship was established. They now see eachother ect. Whenever my son comes home it's never just him and his dad, stories always include her. Now don't get me wrong I'm not jealous. I moved on a long time ago. But I've asked if they have moved in together and he has assured me they haven't. Yet she is telling people they are. It's not the fact they have or haven't it's the lying. Why lie? I just want a truthful answer. I have a right to know who my son is around do I not? I was truthful with him about my partner. He also uses living alone as an excuse to pay a very minimal amount for our son. My partner paid for his share of the school uniform as he couldn't afford it. Yet he can afford to take his new girlfriend to Disneyland for a weekend. His excuse it was only for two people Surely the first person you'd think of would be your child? Not the person who is allowing you to get your end wet?
Zlr92 - 29-Nov-16 @ 5:20 AM
Hi! My ex left me Almost going on two months now,and not even a week later when he had left told me he was dating the girl he was seeing while we was still together (the girl he was cheating on me with). Well two weeks into dating her he introduced her and few more other times after to our 5 year old and 3 year old son. Now, I don't know about anyone else but when I found out I was angry. I felt it was way to soon and he didn't even know if this relationship was even going to be stable. Our oldest had seen them kiss one of the times she was visiting I told my ex how I felt about the situation and how it was to soon. That there was no way he could know from two weeks that the relationship was going to last and that the kids would get confused. Especially, with us just having separated two weeks ago (this was at the beginning of the seperation) and he replied that he would rather just tear the band aid off, and let it hurt now then do it later because he really liked her and he could see hisself with her and that our son just needed to get use to it. To me that was something selfish to say because I took it as if he didn't care how our oldest felt. He still was going to have her around him (by all means I'm ok with him moving on) but with almost two months coming up he hasn't been really around and the little that he does come around he wants to have her around instead of spending that quality time with them. I still feel that it's to soon especially the whole staying the night when they are there. Now again I am ok with him moving on because he has the right to move on and be happy, but I worry for our kids. I don't know if I'm stressing? If I have the right to feel this way? I just don't want my boys getting confused on the situation and when I talk to their dad he automatically assumes I'm the hurt one, but I've told him many times that when he is dating not only is he finding his partner he is also finding the stepmother of our boys and that he should take his time to really know someone before bringing them around someone please help me here I don't know if I am at wrong?
Marcy25 - 29-Nov-16 @ 3:15 AM
Andy - Your Question:
Hi everyone, I am hoping for some help pIease. I have been separated for 3mths after a 20 year marriage and have 2 daughters aged 17 and 14 who now live with their mother. I met my wife when I was 17 and she was 20 and we were together for 25 years. She is a lovely person and has been the only girlfriend I have ever had. I have been quite naive about all aspects of love and relationships all my life, so it took me a long time to realise that our marridge wasnt workinga dn that the love had died. Over the last 5 years, I have known I was no longer in love with my wife but continued trying to make the marriage work until communication broke down completely between us and we both started suffering with depression. When counselling didn't work and the kids started to see how depressed we both were, I moved out. During the last 12 mths, a lady I met through work has been the only person I have been able to talk to and I have been the only person she can talk to about a disability she has so we became very close friends although there was no physical affair. Sadly, because I discussed this friendship in counselling my wife and daughters believe I was having an emotional and physical affair and this was the reason for my moving out, which wasn't the case. Since moving out my friend and I started talking more and we have fallen in love, never realising that we both have had feelings for each other for some time without the other knowing or ourselves realising it. We are soul mates and have a relationship stronger than either of us have ever experienced before but have held back on the physical side of the relationship. We both want to be able to tell everyone that we are together and start a full relationship but only feel we can do that and be guilt free if my daughters and ex wife are made aware first. After 3 mths, a formal separation agreemen is almost complete and a divorce will take place in 2yrs time and I now have an amicable relationship with my daughters and my ex wife again and I don't want to lose that. For me I have been emotionally detached for 5 years from my wife but the separation is a relatively short time at 3mths so I am plagued by the following questions.How long should I wait before telling my daughters that I am starting a new relationship? Although my new partner says she will wait for me, how long can I expect my new partner to wait for me? What signs can I look out for to help me know when the time is right to tell my daughters?Any thoughts and experiences would be greatly appreciated. Rgds Andy

Our Response:
I'm very glad you have managed to find love again. I can only advise that you are the best person to know when the right time to mention your new love is and you must do what feels right for you. If you start a physical affair with your new partner, you are not obliged to tell your ex wife and your children right away, and you have no reason to feel guilty. Plus, you may first want to see if the relationship has 'legs' first before you make an announcement and exploring your new relationship both emotionally and physically to see if it works may be a sensible and rational approach. It means you both have a strong foundation to build from the ground up, so that when you do tell your children and ex wife then you are both established and trusting enough of each other to feel comfortable it will last any possible emotional reactions. Both you and your ex wife are currently still in the adjustment phase, so talking and being as supportive as ever to your children and ex will mean that any emotional transition is a smooth one. You don't say what the response of your ex wife and your children was regarding the new woman in your life, but small incremental mentions and testing the water is the best approach. As the article specifies, don’t rush anything - there’s plenty of time.
SeparatedDads - 20-Jun-16 @ 12:37 PM
Hi everyone, I am hoping for some help pIease. I have been separated for 3mths after a 20 year marriage and have 2 daughters aged 17 and 14 who now live with their mother. I met my wife when I was 17 and she was 20 and we were together for 25 years. She is a lovely person and has been the only girlfriend I have ever had. I have been quite naive about all aspects of love and relationships all my life, so it took me a long time to realise that our marridge wasnt workinga dn that the love had died. Over the last 5 years, I have known I was no longer in love with my wife but continued trying to make the marriage work until communication broke down completely between us and we both started suffering with depression. When counselling didn't work and the kids started to see how depressed we both were, I moved out. During the last 12 mths, a lady I met through work has been the only person I have been able to talk to and I have been the only person she can talk to about a disability she has so we became very close friends although there was no physical affair. Sadly, because I discussed this friendship in counselling my wife and daughters believe I was having an emotional and physical affair and this was the reason for my moving out, which wasn't the case. Since moving out my friend and I started talking more and we have fallen in love, never realising that we both have had feelings for each other for some time without the other knowing or ourselves realising it. We are soul mates and have a relationship stronger than either of us have ever experienced before but have held back on the physical side of the relationship. We both want to be able to tell everyone that we are together and start a full relationship but only feel we can do that and be guilt free if my daughters and ex wife are made aware first. After 3 mths, a formal separation agreemen is almost complete and a divorce will take place in 2yrs time and I now have an amicable relationship with my daughters and my ex wife again and I don't want to lose that. For me I have been emotionally detached for 5 years from my wife but the separation is a relatively short time at 3mths so I am plagued by the following questions.....How long should I wait before telling my daughters that I am starting a new relationship? Although my new partner says she will wait for me, how long can I expect my new partner to wait for me? What signs can I look out for to help me know when the time is right to tell my daughters?........Any thoughts and experiences would be greatly appreciated. Rgds Andy
Andy - 19-Jun-16 @ 2:58 PM
Jillo - Your Question:
I've been separated for 2and a half years. I have 2 children, 4 and 8.I have moved on and have a partner who has kids of his own. All is going well.However, my ex is telling my kids that he will never want to have a new partner (he's in his low 60's, I'm 37). He tells them that he wants to give all his love and cuddles to them. This is confusing them as they now don't understand why I have a new partner. They say things like, 'you don't like my cuddles'How can I get them to understand that having a loving partner is beautiful?

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear you are having problems with your children over your new partner. The best way to get your children to understand is to demonstrate that by having a new partner you have not changed and love them just as much, this can be verbally, or emotionally and physically. Children can try to push the boundaries when there are new changes, mainly because they may feel a touch insecure, but they will begin to adapt over time. Including them in the things you do with your new partner will help them relax and begin to trust that you are just the same mum as you have always been.
SeparatedDads - 9-May-16 @ 2:15 PM
I've been separated for 2and a half years. I have 2 children, 4 and 8. I have moved on and have a partner who has kids of his own. All is going well. However, my ex is telling my kids that he will never want to have a new partner (he's in his low 60's, I'm 37).. He tells them that he wants to give all his love and cuddles to them. This is confusing them as they now don't understand why I have a new partner. They say things like, 'you don't like my cuddles' How can I get them to understand that having a loving partner is beautiful?
Jillo - 6-May-16 @ 1:38 PM
My partner and I have lived together for 6 months and i'm planning on popping the question in May.She has a 4yr old boy. He's amazing and i treat him like he's my own.We live in a nice 3 bedroom house, he has his own room with a wicked cabin bed (slightly jealous).I look after him when my partner goes to work.Not a problem, we get on very well, i'm the one he comes to wake up first thing every morning to run his bath etc. The other day my gf's exs parents were bringing him back home after having him for 3 days.We had arranged a 12pm drop off as i was taking him to Jordans for lunch and a country trail activity and meet up with his grandparents. The brought him to the door, asked if my partner was in.I said she was at work, as she always is on a fri lunch.Her ex knows this.They then said "Sorry NO" grabbed him and dragged him back to the car.I went out to find out what was going on.They told me that their son had told them if my partner wasn't there then they were to take him back to their house. So with him back in the car waving at me confused and not sure what was going on as he was being taken away from his home.We had to collect him 3 hours later.No afternoon activities. He has stated that his son will not be left with me on his own, he wants to do a full background check on me.He has a new partner who has met his son.Did she get a background check?I have invited him into our home on multiple occasions to see where his son lives the majority of the time.He has declined.He is now refusing to pick him up as it was just me and the little man here.I have never been anything but accomodating as my partners son comes first.He wants to take us to court, surely that is being totally unreasonable and will put more stress on the child!!!! Not sure what advice i am after.Just venting, is there a way for me to become a legal gurdian of the child so he feels like i can look after his child.(I already do and know more about him and spend more time with him than he does which is why i am so mad about him daring to question my integrity). Cheers
Dave - 28-Mar-16 @ 3:55 PM
Hi My partner left his ex for me.We have now been together for over 4 years. We have good stable jobs. Own our own house & are financially stable. Our relationship is really great & we rarely argue apart from when it comes to his ex partner & their children. I have two children of my own whom both live with us. The issue is that my partners ex does not allow him to bring his children to our house or even have any association with me or my children. She uses the "happy mummy" scenario, basically saying if she is not happy then her children are not happy. One of their children had counselling for behavioural problems and it was suggested he visit at his dad's house so he can see where his dad lives & who he lives with. It turned out that my girls & I had to leave the house for the day as his ex was not happy about me being here. I have lived with the fact that he takes his kids to mums every alternative Friday & as he works shifts so most of his off weekend is spent at his mums with his kids. We never get the opportunity to make any arrangements to do things. Bare in mind we have been together for over 4 years. I don't, drink, smoke or take drugs & I am certainly not abusive to my two children who are both girls. Is this right that he has to agree to her terms of visitation which is normally at her house during the week & off to his mums with the kids every fortnight. He had said on numerous occasions that he does not like the arrangement & feels completely powerless against her. He gives her child support for both children & even pays an extra £300 a month towards the children's up keep which I have no issue with at all as I would want his children to have the best in life even though he is not there everyday. He also picks up his children from school twice a week & looks after them till about 8 at her house when she gets home from work. Other nights after work he just pops over to see them for an hour or two & again I have no issue with this at all. He doesn't want to go to court but doesn't know what else to do. He seems to think she had the better of him & used his guilt in order to abide by what she says. It's causing shift between us as she refuses to speak with me even though I have made attempts to clear the air with her & make things simple & more helpful to her. What are his options as I am all for fathers rights to their children.
Linz - 19-Dec-15 @ 11:36 AM
Hi all, advice needed please!!! Me and my ex split before new year last year and I've been living with my parents ever since. We have 2 children girl who is 5 next month and son 3, I have been involved with the kids and got into a new relationship in Aug. My girlfriend is a single mum of 2 and on Saturday just gone I felt the time was right to introduce her to my kids, I had already met hers. Me and the kids met my girlfriend and kids at a soft play and she was introduced as a friend. Kids mixed brilliantly and we didn't kiss or cuddle or anything of that nature in front of them and was with them for no more than 2.5hrs. I told my ex and she was fine at the time now she's saying my daughter has been quiet and upset and she told my ex she wanted me to live back at home again and that's the issue. Now my ex is saying meeting my new g/friend may have set this off and she doesn't want me "messing" with my daughters feelings and suggested putting seeing my gfriend again back a few months!!! Does this sound right or is she still trying to control what goes on in my life?
Ace1999 - 14-Dec-15 @ 4:36 PM
Grown up people need to understand that this kids did not beg to come through both of them. In any relationship, the kids should receive the number one priority. Jealousy is a wicked spirit and if care is not taken, you might use it to hurt and damage your own lovely child or children. If you can not work things out between each other, since you have left each other alive, give thanks to God and go and search for a place of healing. Since you have kids together, please try to be casual friend for the kids sake.
lsrael - 10-Dec-15 @ 12:50 AM
my ex partner walked out of our 10 year relationship 4 months ago, within 6 days he was in a new relationship, but didnt tell me till 3 weeks later, after telling me i wished him well and told him that he was not to tell our youngest son anything about her (he has mild learning difficulties) until at least 10 months down the line, yet 2 days later he allowed my son to speak with her on the phone, i was furious about this as my son even now 4 months on has still not accepted the new family set up and still asks when is daddy moving back home ect, and then my ex on his weekend took it upon himself to introduce my son to his new partner behind my back, i am not jealous about his relationship but furious about the way he has not put his son needs first, being on the autistic spectrum my son suffers with high levels ov stress and anxiety, and when this occurs his hair tends to fall out in clumps, he also has aloepecia, his new partner has no children and therefore has no experience of a child like my son, and how to handle him, i have now stopped contact (every other weekend) as im going to consult with a family law solictior and get some guidelines in place, that ensure that he dont go behind my back again like this, and only introduces her as and when i say it is the right time and i think that he can handle it, yet my partner has called me vindictive and heartless and has told me to tell our son that he will just see him when he is 16, am i being unreasonable? they have only been together for less than 4 months
orangecrush - 2-Aug-15 @ 10:13 PM
Hi, I seperated from my ex 3.5 years ago and at the time our daughter was 1yo.I started seeing someone almost 2 years ago, meanwhile my ex didn't meet anyone.I had no interest in introducing my little girl to my new gf for at least the first year as I wanted to make sure I was in a serious relationship and it actually ended up being more than a year before they eventually did meet about 10 months ago. I told my ex about my gf about 1.5 years ago and ever since she has been extremely difficult with me and caused endless arguments and stipulated endless rules about not letting our little girl spend time with my new gf. This has actually affected this as my daughter and gf have only spent 6 days together in total over the last 9 months. There are no issues they get on fine. However, my ex met someone at Xmas and has just announced that she has accidentally got pregnant, but they are keeping it and moving in together. This guy has been around my daughter regulalry ever since my ex told me about him about 2 months ago. Basically she is doing exactly what she wants even though she dictated how I should be with my gf, but thats okay as far as she is concerned as my daughter live with her. To be honest I knew this is exactly what would happen and I am trying really hard to put my anger over her hypocrisy to one side and focus on whats best for my daughter. So the facts are my ex has know this guy 4 months, accidentally got pregnant, spent loads of time with him and my daughter (my 4 yo tells me more about him than my ex does) and has just announced they are buying a house in a town 30 minutes away from where I live now. I haven't even met this guy yet. I am totally not comfortable about a guy my ex has known 4 months living with my daughter. Equally I am not happy that my daughter is being moved out of town away from her friends, school and me and also into a new house with a new guy she barely knows and then in 8 months a new baby is being thrown into the mix as well!!How is all this going to affect her and is there anything I should and can be doing to slow down this all happening so fast? I have suggested to my ex that they wait at least another 6 months if not more and develop their own relationship and take it slower where my daughter is concerned, but she is totally against that and wants to get our daughter settled into the new house etc as fast as possible. I'm lost, I'm angry and I'm really concerned. Of course I have demanded to meet this guy ASAP, but even once meeting isn't going to make me think everything is going to be fine, hes been around 4 months!! How can my ex even know this is right for our daughter?
Jim - 7-May-15 @ 6:25 PM
My partner has a little girl (3) from previous relationship. I have a 4 yo and we both have little boy now 13 weeks. Weve been together just over 2 years live together. Very happy. But his ex stopped him seeing his little girl, ive never met his daughter, she lives 3 train rides away, he gies every other saturday but has never been able to take his girl out alone and refused to go into exs home. She stopoed contact when we moved in toghether, when we found out we were pregant and now when he asked for overnight contact. She said he can stay at her house if he wants this. Just to add theres no reason for him not to see his daughter alone just control on her part. So he wants to go to courtobviously for the sake of help as we cant pay for legal help ive been doing as much research as i can cram (in between looking after kiddies) feel confident enough to help him with advice re forms, process etc. Im excited about meeting his daughter although i kniw its a way off yet (me and kids will stay at a friends house the first few times she visits, only stopping for tea, then for day and when shes settled being here as usual) i know his ex hates me (dont know why i refuses to engage in her abuse even when its aimed at my children one if whoms disabled and shes used the S and R word a few times now, but i bite my tounge) one thing i dont know how to deal with is that hatrid being passed to partners daughter? I havent a clue i obviously dont want to hear my mummy said but i know it might happen. And i definatly will not put up with THOSE words around my son. Another thing my partner seems so depressed because not seeing his little girl is killing him. Heis on edge, very irretatted by everyone (he almost agrued with his best friend over something trivial and almostgot into a fight a work) luckly everyone is very understanding but he was was almost driven home by his boss becayse he broje diwn crying in work. Im crying now thinking of him in pain and i cant do anything. Im trying to be supportive but it seems like he wants space. Im giving him that but is there anything else i can do to help him emotionaly till he gets contact. I have heard it can take longer than 6 months.... itll kill him before then.
monkeynutz - 6-Feb-15 @ 5:04 PM
My ex will not allow my girlfriend of 4 years to look after my 4 children to allow me to go to football matches etc...my children all love my partner as she is a wonderful girl...the stress this is causing is horrible...can my ex do this to us..
H - 21-Dec-14 @ 9:54 AM
@ap81 - it unfortunately depends on how difficult your ex wants to make it for you. You might want to take a look at our other website When Your Ex-Partner Denies You Access link here. It gives pointers about what you what you can do if she decides she doesn't want you to see the children. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 4-Nov-14 @ 11:33 AM
Hi. I have recently started a new relationship after splitting from my previous partner. My ex is claiming that if I move in with my new partner that she has the legal right to stop her from ever meeting the kids and to stop me having them over night. Is this correct? Thanks in advance
ap81 - 3-Nov-14 @ 3:59 PM
Hi Chris, I'm a Student freelancer from a new pop-up radio station called Radio Zest. I'm really interested in the article as I'm working on a feature about introducing new partners to your child/children. I was wondering if you would like to have an interview tomorrow or this weekend on the topic. It could be over the phone if you don't don't have time to meet. If you are speaking from experience, it would be great to hear your views as a parent. I look forward to your response. Kind regards, Emily Tricker
EmilyT - 9-Oct-14 @ 2:32 PM
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