Breach of Contact or Residence Order: What to Do

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Breach of Contact or Residence Order: What to Do

What contact and residence orders mean now

Contact orders and residence orders were court orders that set out arrangements for children. A contact order determined who could spend time with a child or communicate with them. A residence order determined where a child lived. These terms are now historical.

Since April 2014, both have been replaced by a single child arrangements order. This one order covers where a child lives, how they spend time with each parent, and how indirect contact such as phone calls or video calls should take place. If you have an older contact or residence order, it remains valid and enforceable, though circumstances may have changed since it was made. Some parents choose to apply for a child arrangements order to reflect their current situation under the updated framework.

When a court makes one of these orders, both parents are expected to follow it. In most cases, that is exactly what happens. But sometimes one parent refuses to comply, and the other is left uncertain about their options.

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What counts as a breach

A breach is anything that goes against what the order says. If the order states a child should be collected at 5pm on Fridays and that does not happen, that is technically a breach.

Courts take a practical view. Being five minutes late on one occasion is unlikely to be treated the same as repeatedly refusing to allow contact at all. What matters is whether the breach is serious, deliberate, or part of a pattern.

Common examples of breaches include:

  • Refusing to make a child available for agreed contact
  • Regularly returning a child late without good reason
  • Preventing phone calls or other communication set out in the order
  • Moving a child to a different address without permission when the order restricts this
  • Consistently making excuses to cancel contact sessions

If you are experiencing repeated breaches, keep a written record. Note dates, times, and what happened. This documentation can be useful if you later need to demonstrate to a court what has been going on.

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Steps you can take

Before going back to court, consider whether the issue can be resolved another way. Direct communication with the other parent may help if the relationship allows it. A family mediator can sometimes assist when direct conversation proves difficult. Mediation is not compulsory in breach situations, but it can avoid the stress and cost of court proceedings. Maintaining open communication with the other parent, where safe to do so, can benefit your child regardless of whether court action becomes necessary.

If informal approaches do not work, you can apply to the court for enforcement using Form C79. You must submit this to the family court that made the original order. You will usually need to show that you have attended a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting beforehand, unless you qualify for an exemption. Exemptions include cases involving domestic abuse or where mediation would not be suitable. There is a court fee for this application, though you may qualify for help with fees depending on your circumstances. Check GOV.UK for current fee amounts and exemption criteria.

When you apply for enforcement, the court will consider the evidence and decide what action to take. The other parent will have a chance to explain their side. Courts examine whether the breach occurred without reasonable excuse and focus primarily on the welfare of the child.

What the court can do

If the court finds that a breach has occurred without reasonable excuse, it has several options. These include:

  • Ordering unpaid work in the community, typically between 40 and 200 hours
  • Ordering financial compensation for contact sessions that were lost, covering costs such as travel or activities that went to waste
  • Requiring attendance at a parenting programme designed to help parents understand the impact of their behaviour on children
  • Varying the original order to make arrangements clearer or more enforceable
  • In serious cases, transferring residence to the other parent
  • Committal to prison, though this is rare and treated as a last resort

Courts are generally reluctant to impose harsh penalties if there is any reasonable explanation for what happened. An enforcement application does not always result in punitive measures, particularly where the breach was minor or unintentional. The focus remains on finding solutions that encourage both parents to cooperate in the child's best interests.

If breaches continue even after enforcement action, you can make a further application. Repeated breaches can lead to more serious consequences, and courts do take ongoing non compliance seriously over time.

Consider seeking legal advice before making an enforcement application, particularly if the situation is complicated. A family law solicitor can explain your options and help you present your case clearly. Legal aid for enforcement proceedings is generally only available in cases involving domestic abuse or child protection concerns. If you do not qualify for legal aid, you may be able to find assistance through a local law centre that offers free advice.

The Citizens Advice website has guidance on family court processes. The Family Mediation Council can help you find an accredited mediator if you want to attempt that route first.

Dealing with a breach of a court order is frustrating, particularly when it affects your time with your children. But there are clear legal routes available, and courts do act when orders are not being followed.

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Gav 17/04/2022 at 11:42 pm
My child arrangement order is suspended while i had a court case to deal that as now been thrown out of court
So now i need to know how and what forms do i fill in to ask for my suspension to be lifted so i can see ny son again
Kes 13/06/2021 at 5:57 pm
Hi I'm wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and could advise me in anyway possible. Last September I agreed for my children to stay with their dad's as my house was unsafe and not secure enough to safeguard them. It wasn't police protection although police were called but a voluntary agreement for 24 hours untill plans to rectify the home were secured. However this spiraled out of control within hours and was told they wasn't allowed to come home and were subjected to an initial child protection conference meeting the same week. I have 4 children the 2 oldest were cin plan and remained with there dad's (separately) youngest 2 were child protection and with their dad (together) for 3 months I got them back on the 17th December after 3 months. My daughter is old enough to make decisions she's almost 18 and decided to remain with her dad. My son wasn't there the day in question he was already with his dad for his contact. There is a residence order with my son in favour of myself back in 2012. His dad will not let him see me nor any contact and it's been 10 months to long. I would be very grateful in some advice in how I go about getting him back and the steps in action needed to take the proper way. His dad is an alcoholic and when we were in a relationship the domestic violence involved was horrendous hence the court order. He is manipulating, sly and and a cruel liar that never is at fault for anything. I'd Greatly appreciate a response regards kes
Father 09/03/2021 at 2:10 pm
This article is the theory, not the reality.

The UK family courts DO NOT ENFORCE NRP FATHER'S CONTACT ORDERS. See the statistics.

Contact Orders are an illusion. UK family courts exist to enable mothers to legally kidnap children if they so wish.

Don't waste your time.
Marge 01/03/2021 at 7:44 pm
My partner gained more access to his child in November 2020. The parent between them have to slip the summer holidays. If it is 5 weeks the child is to be with the father for 2 weeks if it is 6 weeks the child is to be with the father for 3 weeks. The order states this. Now the mother is saying that it applies to full weeks (Sunday to Sunday) so summer holidays are 5 weeks. This isn’t in the order. She has refused to see it is a 6 week holiday. When does he take it back to court? Now as he has written proof that she will only allow 2 weeks or when it has been breached?
Andy 12/12/2020 at 9:07 pm
I have a court order that states i have my daughter every week at my mums saturday over night to sunday and wednesday to thursday and drop her at nursery. Now shes started school and my ex has stopped me having her over night i get her for 2 hours on the wednesday now which means shes breaching the court order. My lawyer i never hear from and it sounds to me like the courts are not interested. She seems to be able to do what she wants and get away with it. Iv breached it a couple times but in my daughters best interest but im straight up court. What do i need to do i really cant bare it anymore my mental health has plunged significantly. I just dont know what to do anymore.
Dan 12/10/2020 at 5:00 pm
Hi I am from scotland.
My Ex don't send my daughter whenever she feel.
We have a Agreed solicitor letter about weekend visit but most of the time she donot send my daughter. I understand in England and wales you can represent yourself and fill C100 to get visit right.
How I can do something similar at scotland to get a court order. I cannot find anything in scottish court website how to fill such a form or even possibility to represnt myself.
My solicitor running the Seperation agreement for 1 year and costed me £3k. For Child contact court order she is asking deposit of £3k, which i didn't have.
Biff 21/09/2020 at 6:45 am
I have a court order that I speak to my 14 year old daughter on a Saturday then I pick her up the following saturday, then phone call,etc. Contact has been up and down it goes good for a short while then goes really bad again. Now my daughter is getting older I would lat least like to see her and take her out for a couple of hours every other week. My ex has always made it as hard as possible for me to have any kind of contact with my daughter since I applied for a contact order in 2012 and had to get another contact order in 2016. Now my daughter says she don't want to see me again and when I do get to speak to her on the phone my ex is always in the back ground making phone calls very hard for contact. Just would like a bit of advice if anybody can give me if because of my daughter's and her wishes that she don't want contact will that mean I will never see her again.
Musta 29/08/2020 at 3:37 pm
My ex girlfriend not letting me see my daughter cuz I called the social services because she's leaving my daughter in the carseat and leaving her for hours while. Y daughter crys till she becomes sick and could not breath so now I'm taking her to court to get to see my daughter for 2 days a week Friday till Sunday but my ex is saying she will tell the court I have to pay child support and I'm not working at the moment cuz of my disability do I still have to pay child support if I'm not working and I'm disabled I just want to know if the court will say pay child support thank you
AnnaB 30/07/2020 at 2:58 pm
Hiya All. I have 3 children with my ex husband and another child by another father who sadly passed away. Since then I became very ill and depressed. I was a single mother with my 4 beautiful children who I love so very much and was working full time. I self sufficently contacted Social Services as advised from my docter for help finacially, housing etc as advised by my GP. I have no friends or family support. Nobody had concerns about my parenting and I love my children so much. My Ex husband spoke to S.Services and explained that I am a bad mother and really stuck a knife in and caused parent divide and parent alienation beween the children and myself. I could go on for ever but to cut to the chase a Child Arrangments Order by the court was placed and in November 2019 he phoned to tell me I could not see the children anymore. I have secured a court date very soon to fight the case that he has breached court order, I want to see my kids. Anyone encounted this. help please
DJMarshall 24/07/2020 at 8:59 am
I have contact with my three children every other weekend which I wasn't happy agreeing with but deemed it to be the best for the kids so they got quality time with both me and their mum as after school doesn't allow a lot of time for them to do much! Even with this is place their mother is always late dropping them off and always late picking them up! This varies from 10-30 minutes. The pickup side had a knock on effect with my work which means I'm late. I also have them for 2 lots of 1 week in the school holidays, as per the court order they drop off in the evening and pick up is in the morning. We come to collection this morning and as I write this (9am)their mother is nowhere to be seen (not that I'm moaning about seeing my kids for longer, however my kids are excited to see their mum) I'm not sure what I should do with this!
Hobbs 17/07/2020 at 8:06 pm
I have a court order in place which states the mother must make sure that the children spend time with me every other Saturday between 9.00 and 16.00 and one call a week. The mother is saying my oldest child doesn’t want to see me and have not seen him since the court order was introduced. Is she right that if he doesn’t want to come then I have no rights? She has also said that she has booked to go away on my weekend I have them and has told me I have to deal with this? Shouldn’t she have to ask permission?
Lute 16/07/2020 at 10:19 pm
Due to domestic violence my ex got one call a week ( which I abide by ) and when contact centre opens he’s allowed a visit every 2 weeks until she’s comfortable enough with him for him to take her out on his own ... because I won’t allow him to my house he’s said he’s taking me back to court for an enforcement order ... but as far as I’m aware I’m abiding by what the court order stated ... it goes from love songs to insults and abuse and since that’s not worked he now wants a dna test ...( which I’m ok with although a little insulted ) our daughter is nearly 5 and apparently someone in a pub told him she’s not his ... a part of me .., a large part wishes he wasn’t the dad as it’s been years of abuse regardless of us being apart for nearly 3 years ...who can help and understand my situation
g 12/07/2020 at 4:01 pm
hi my ex wife had an affair and took the children. I had to jump through hoops and eventually went to gourd for a court order. We have been back two other times when I've had to file for an enforcement order. Both times her solicitor used this to vary the order to reduce contact by having things such as (on my available time) written in and highlighting on the order available time is days off, of on leave. Thus I can not take the children to school at 9 am if I am due to start work at 9 pm that day. And I cant skype call in the evening if I finished work at lunchtime etc.

She would not allow contact for the first 12 weeks of covid lockdown even though the government allowed it but I was even told it would be difficult to take to court and the delays were near a month long.

I now see the children on negotiated weekends (not the court order as she feels its better for the children's home schooling).

My issue now is I have a holiday to france booked (driving and staying in a mill just for our family bubble). In the beginning of August.
She is saying she is not happy for them to go even though I have answered all questions and said how we would follow all guidance. Its all paid for, can't get money back and kids want to go. Is there something I can do or rush through a judge in time (as long delays in court process) for this one issue in time for us to go?
C.laurie 26/05/2020 at 6:06 pm
@henbury.with my long hard think I realised with the (child’s age )if she wanted to meet me or even to talk to me so would call but she doesn’t .that my brother( speaks volumes to me ) .and realised its best to give up and focus on my life .in reality the child wouldn’t care if I was (dead because there is zero emotional attachment )why even bother worrying or wanting to meet someone who doesn’t even want to meet you and with the age of the (child )I can’t (justify )getting a solicitor or bother with courts it’s just not worth it to me .(you will come to a point where you are done and once there and made that decision you feel better and you stop thinking about the whole situation and just get on with your life .
C.laurie 26/05/2020 at 5:39 pm
@henbury.i myself have a daughter that I am not allowed to see from orders her mother .the child is 16 now so I am done for good now .i feel it’s best I myself have sat bye myself and had a (super long hard think) .and realised the child is 16 right she has (zero emotional attachment to me )because she doesn’t even know me .why put myself though all theses (court cases) right to get one phone call a week And be treated like a prisoner and most likely she wouldn’t even pick up the phone .i am not a smart men but I know when to cash in my chips .and after my long hard think her mother and step father can have her I am done .
C.laurie 26/05/2020 at 5:09 pm
@henbury.how old are your kids ?.if it was me and I went to court 5 times and if your child is 16 and over and have there own phones and still dont call you or want anything to do with you I would just drop it leave it and get on with your life .sounds like the mother won’t ever budge and the kids don’t want to no you .you need to sit down bye yourself and have a long think on weather it’s worth going back to court or just let them get on with it .
Henbury 26/05/2020 at 1:31 pm
My kids mum took out a restraining order against me so contact is so hard to deal with, I have an access order in it I'm entitled to 1 phone call per week for 5 mins, I have to provide a mobile phone for this, in 4 years 11 mobiles have been provided all have been broken and calls missed, regularly they claim the phone isn't working and I don't get a call, the kids no whave there own mobiles that their mum got for them but she won't let me have the kids phone numbers or the kids to have mine, I can't afford to keep supplying phones is this enough to put in a C79 we have been to court 5 times in 5 years, I really don't want to do it again but she refuses to budge at all
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