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Government to Scrap Presumption of Parental Involvement

14th October 2025

This is a big one. The government announced in October 2025 that it intends to repeal the presumption of parental involvement from the Children Act 1989. In plain English, this means that family courts will no longer start from the position that it is in a child's best interests to have both parents involved in their life. Instead, each case will be assessed purely on its own merits, with child safety as the primary concern.

The change follows a long campaign by Claire Throssell, whose sons Jack and Paul were tragically killed by their abusive father during a contact visit in 2014. Claire argued that the presumption of parental involvement was being used to force contact in situations where children were at risk. Her courage in sharing her story has been instrumental in bringing this change about, and we have enormous respect for what she has been through.

However, at Separated Dads we do have concerns about what this means for the thousands of good, loving fathers who are already struggling to maintain a relationship with their children after separation. The presumption of parental involvement was introduced in 2014 specifically to address the problem of one parent being shut out of a child's life. Without it, there is a real risk that fathers who pose no threat whatsoever to their children will find it even harder to secure contact orders through the courts.

The repeal is included in the Courts and Tribunals Bill, which was introduced in February 2026. It has not yet become law, but it is moving through Parliament. If you are currently going through the family court system, or think you may need to in the future, we would strongly urge you to seek legal advice now. Understanding your rights and parental responsibility status is more important than ever.

We will continue to follow this closely and update you as the bill progresses. Whatever happens in legislation, never forget that your relationship with your child matters.

£17 Million for Child Focused Courts Rollout

12th March 2026

Justice Secretary David Lammy has announced £17 million in funding for 2026/27 to roll out the child focused court model to eight more areas across England. This model, previously known as the Private Law Pathfinder, is designed to make family court proceedings faster, less adversarial and more focused on the needs of children rather than the arguments between parents.

The results from the pilot areas have been encouraging. Cases are being resolved up to seven and a half months faster than under the traditional system, which is a huge improvement for families who have been stuck in limbo waiting for a court to make a decision about their children. Cafcass is also getting additional social work capacity as part of the rollout, which should mean that reports are completed more quickly and with more thorough assessments.

At Separated Dads we welcome anything that speeds up the family court process. We have heard from too many dads over the years who have waited months, sometimes over a year, for their case to be resolved. That is months of a child's life where the relationship with their father is on hold, and that time can never be recovered.

Our concern, as always, is whether the system works as well for fathers as it does for mothers. The child focused model places a strong emphasis on early resolution and mediation, which is positive, but it also relies heavily on Cafcass assessments. If those assessments are not balanced and thorough, the faster process could simply mean that unfair outcomes are reached more quickly. We would encourage any dad going through this system to engage fully with the process, attend all appointments, and keep detailed records. If you are unsure how the process works, our guide to family court is a good starting point.

£17 million is a significant investment, but whether it is enough to transform a system that has been underfunded for years remains to be seen.

Cafcass Shifts Away from 'Contact at All Costs'

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18th March 2026

Cafcass, the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service, has signalled a significant shift in its approach to contact cases. The organisation appears to be moving away from the long held principle that contact with both parents should happen at all costs, towards a more cautious position where the safety of the child takes priority over maintaining a relationship with both parents.

From a child safety perspective, this is understandable. There are cases where contact with a parent is genuinely harmful, and the system must protect children in those situations. Nobody at Separated Dads would argue otherwise. However, we are concerned about the practical impact this shift will have on the many thousands of fathers who are loving, safe parents but who are being denied contact by a hostile ex partner.

The risk is that a more cautious Cafcass will be quicker to recommend reduced or supervised contact based on allegations alone, before those allegations have been properly investigated. We have heard from too many dads who have faced false accusations as a tactic to prevent contact, and a system that is now more inclined to err on the side of caution could make this problem worse.

If you are going through the system right now, our advice is clear. Document everything. Keep a record of every communication with your ex, every attempt to see your children, every cancellation and every refusal. Engage with mediation wherever possible and show the court that you are child focused. When you attend Cafcass meetings, be calm, be reasonable, and focus entirely on what is best for your children. The dads who do best in the family court are those who can demonstrate that every decision they make is driven by the needs of their child, not by conflict with their ex.

This is a challenging time for separated fathers, but staying informed and being prepared gives you the best chance of a good outcome for you and your children.

What the Family Court Changes Mean for You

25th March 2026

There has been a lot of change in the family court system recently and if you are a dad currently going through separation or trying to maintain contact with your children, it can feel overwhelming. Here is a practical summary of where things stand and what you can do.

The government is repealing the presumption of parental involvement from the Children Act 1989 through the Courts and Tribunals Bill. This means courts will no longer automatically assume that both parents should be involved in a child's life. At the same time, the child focused court model is being rolled out more widely, aiming to resolve cases faster with less conflict. Cafcass is also taking a more cautious approach to contact, prioritising child safety over the principle that contact should happen at all costs. Together, these changes mean that it is more important than ever for fathers to be proactive, prepared and informed.

If you are an unmarried father, the single most important thing you can do right now is make sure you have parental responsibility. If you are named on your child's birth certificate (which has been automatic for births registered after December 2003), you already have it. If not, you need to obtain it either through a formal agreement with the mother or through the court. Without parental responsibility, you have very limited legal standing when it comes to decisions about your child.

If you need to apply to court for a Child Arrangements Order, the form you need is a C100, and the current court fee is £232. You may be eligible for help with fees if you are on a low income or receiving benefits. Before you can apply to court, you will usually need to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting, and the government's family mediation voucher scheme can help cover the cost of mediation sessions if you want to try resolving things without going to court. You do not need a solicitor to go to court. Many dads represent themselves successfully, and you can also take a McKenzie Friend with you for support and guidance in the courtroom.

Whatever stage you are at, do not give up. The system is not perfect, and these changes bring new challenges, but thousands of dads have successfully navigated the family courts and secured meaningful time with their children. Stay focused on your child, keep records of everything, engage with the process, and seek advice when you need it. Our guides to court are a good place to start if you are preparing for your first hearing.

Child Maintenance Rates for 2025/26

7th April 2025

A quick update on child maintenance rates for the 2025/26 tax year. The basic rates used by the Child Maintenance Service remain the same as the previous year. If you are a non resident parent, the standard rates based on your gross weekly income are: 12% for one child, 16% for two children, and 19% for three or more children.

If your child stays overnight with you, this can reduce the amount you pay. One night a week on average reduces the rate by one seventh, two nights reduces it by two sevenths, and three or more nights means you are treated as sharing care equally. It is important that you inform the CMS of your overnight arrangements, because if you do not, they will estimate that your child stays with you just one night a week.

If your gross weekly income is below £200, a reduced rate applies, and if it is below £100 or you are on certain benefits, you may only pay a flat rate of £7 per week. For those earning above £800 per week gross, an additional rate of 9%, 12% or 15% applies on income between £800 and £3,000 per week.

For a clearer picture of what you are likely to pay, check out our child maintenance guide which breaks down exactly how the calculations work and what your money should be going towards.

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SeparatedDads Editor 31 Mar 2026
@JOE I can hear how much pain and anger you're carrying from your experience. Going through such a difficult court battle while protecting your child must have been incredibly traumatic, especially with the financial and emotional toll it took. Your feelings are completely valid, and it's understandable that you want to protect your daughter and share the truth with her when she's older. Many parents struggle with similar decisions about what to share and when. While false accusations in custody battles are deeply wrong and harmful, please consider speaking with a counselor who specializes in co-parenting after abuse. They can help you process these experiences and guide you on how to discuss these issues with your daughter in a way that protects her wellbeing while honoring your truth. Your daughter is fortunate to have a mother who fought so hard to protect her.
C laurie 28 Mar 2023
@joe,I have never been to court for visitation, in all honesty no games I dont believe im the (biological father ).that's why her mother never hit me with children support. And now her daughter is 18 I dont have that worry anymore .if her mother would off hit me with child support thats when I would off applied for a( dna test ).it's water under the bridge now .they got there life I got mine .nothing more to discuss.her daughter wants nothing to do with me and I feel exactly the same way and fully understand in reality we are complete strangers. I personally think her mother got the raw end off the stick she had to rasie her and support her .and I got off Scott free not a worry in the world son .
JOE 27 Mar 2023
I would like to tell all you fathers that claim to love their children so much that you want to have alienation experts in court to side with you-you will disgust your children when they are adults and learn about how you wanted to tear them away from their mothers especially when you use it as a way to try to deflect from you own abusive behaviours against the mothers. My ex narc father of my child tried to do this and after many hundreds of thousands in legal fees the judge saw through the alienation false accusation thankfully. I hope that those that falsely accuse mothers of parental alienation have justice delivered to them by a higher power then the courts. The courts should lock up all those men who have such false allegations made against mothers. Just remember that falsely accusing mothers of such things does mean that mothers have every right to not to want to even spit in your direction. It is amazing how men who abuse women would use such tactics and these websites teach them to use such tactics mean that there is a greater animosity towards them. As soon as my child is 18 I will show her what her dad wanted-lets see how that helps him with his relationship with his child. Men such as my ex disgust me with what they will do.
Dad@future 11 Mar 2023
Hi. This question is about the brick wall of unhelpfulness that I hit when trying to engage with the educational establishment. My son left school last year. We have been estranged since he was 10 years old, but I have kept up to date with his education via the school app and received all of the usual school emails that all parents are sent. Despite it being a bit of a fight with the school, I received his exam results last year too. There is no contact with his mother and so I have no idea what he did after leaving school. I do think he has continued to further his education but, I am left with no other option but to submit a SARS request to the county council asking where he was being educated - nothing else. There are no court orders and I supplied all of the required documents, including a copy of his birth certificate. This was on the 4th of November 2022 and was accepted by the council. The council dithered for weeks and apologised when I chased them up, finally telling me it was with their legal department. I got so fed up with their procrastinating, that I made a complaint to the Information Commissioners Office, who in turn wrote to the council and suggested they resolved the request. Yesterday evening I received the result. The council is refusing to provide me with the information "This is due to the fact you are requesting data in relation to a child over 12, and we require written consent from your child advising that consent has been given for you to request data on their behalf" I think this is nonsense, but not really sure where or what to do now. I have asked them to provide the policy or law that they're using to support this stance. I am hoping someone has already been here and can advise or comment.
Patrick 23 Jan 2023
Hi, My ex keeps me asking to see our daughter over night or day access, the thing is she had her kids taken away from her due to bad decisions. her other 4 kids are in care (i'm not the father) and my daughter is with me. The social say we are not open to them so the decision is mine to make, however the other kids don't see her unsupervised outside of contact centres so why should mine, however she keeps asking and I find it hard to answer the questions. I have offered her to see our child at mine or in my local area etc but she always declines, it seems she wants to cross the bridge before it's built. Anyone any advice or been in the same situation ?
SeparatedDads Editor 16 Dec 2015
I am sorry to hear this - and I'm afraid she can. However, likewise you may be able to claim a special expenses variation. These are also known as 'contact costs' and cover the expenses you must pay to keep in touch with the children you’re paying maintenance for. If your ex has moved away and it costs you in travel, bus fares or overnight stays (if it is not feasible to undertake the journey in one day), I hope this helps.
Down... :-( 15 Dec 2015
Hello, Need some advice, I have paid maintenance without fail since I split up. My ex decided to move away with her new partner, I was against this as it would mean instead of me seeing my kids 2/3 times a week I can now only see them 1/2 times per week. She said when she moved that she would keep the current payments in place, now she has changed her mind and is seeking to up the payments due to me not seeing them as much. So I have now been hit with not seeing my kids as much and now potentially having to pay more for that.. can she do that ? Or do I have to take it on the chin... advice please ..
SeparatedDads Editor 14 Dec 2015
Yes, possibly, please see gov.uk whichYou can ask the CSA/CMS to take into account certain expenses you pay such as travel expenses. These are called ‘special expenses’ and can reduce the gross income figure that is used when the CSA/CMS works out child maintenance. I hope this helps.
Gray 11 Dec 2015
Good evening all, my ex wife keeps threatening to stop me seeing my children. ( which breaks my heart).One is 9 and the other is 14. It costs me £60 every other weekend to collect and take home, but this is on top off my £250 csa payments. I don't mind paying to collect them as I love seeing them but financially it is becoming difficult. Am I entitled to any reduced csa payments or ask my ex wife to contribute to the travel costs? I had to move away for a job and somewhere to live.
Stephen 12 Sep 2015
My first baby was born at 1.42am on Sunday 6th sept 2015. I was there at the birth, I was there throughout the whole pregnacy, I have been for my girlfriend and her little girl for 7years. I helped her through the legal process with her previous partner with regards to residency of her first child. Ella my I guess Ex-now, has literally barred me from having any contact with our newborn babygirl soon after getting back from hospital earlier this wk. Has blocked me on FB has sent me a very long nasty text and all for doing absolutely nothing wrong. We are not married and I am afraid she'll name the child without my surname and take her completely away from me. This woman had done practically the same to her previous partner and her mum also did the same to her dad. Her family are very troubled people. Although Ella is generally a good mother she is a troubled woman who has had several bouts of depression, including 6mths last year 2014. I am not necessarily concerned about the safety of my baby or her sister I am very afraid I am never going to see her again and also lose the bonding stage of our babys life. All our friends and my family would clearly state I have been amazing towards ella for 7yrs and it is however ella/her insane family that have the main unfounded issue with me and men in general. Infact her mother had to escorted off the maternity ward for shouting abuse at Ella. I can't afford solicitors etc and I am not sure I want to go down that route as it rarely works and the baby is too young to be away from mum, I just want to see her. I have tried ringing texting emailing her but no joy. Have stated i am happy with any contact she is comfortable with but no joy. Has she the right to prevent contact and the right to not name me on birth certificant??? I have no idea of what to do. I want to play an equal part in her life and give my all to her. It is about what you give a child not what you get out of it. I feel contact orders don't workas they caneasily be breeched. I feel in lightof her mental state and pass history of stopping contact a Joint residency would be best so I the right to equal parenting and would be able to have greater access as she grows up so can ensure she is safe... Could also help the mother more who obviously is struggling emotionally
Karl Editor 22 May 2015
@G - who do you want to prove this to? You can just show the person letters of correspondence from the CSA, or ask for a statement. I wouldn't let this bother you, it shouldn't get you all worked up.
G 18 May 2015
How can I prove that I'm paying CSA to my son,his mother has a bank app n shows him all the time there's no money from me, she obviously has another account it goes in he hates me she's ruined our relationship I'm at my wits end
Sam Editor 23 Mar 2015
@Dan_1989 - it is always a tricky one as you can't really force him to see his son. It sounds like he is over enamoured by his new girlfriend and has let his responsibilities slip. It might be a matter of pointing out his responsibilities and that he can't just pick up his child and drop him when he feels like it. Other than that there really isn't much you can do, usually it's the other way around and fathers are having to fight to see their children.
Dan_1989 20 Mar 2015
Hi I'm looking advice about my ex partner, as a mum I just wanted to know what other dads think of this, he recently decided he wants to see less of our 4 year old son, he usually sees him every weekend Saturday afternoon till Sunday evening, but since he's got with his new partner (who's pregnant with another mans baby and has a child by a different man) he wants to pick my son up at 6:30 on Saturday's and drop him off on Sunday lunch time every other week, I work 3 out of 4 Saturday's and at this moment in time I can't change my hours at work, he's told as I'm the 'main carer' it's not his problem or his responsibility to look after his son, my son is devastated his dad doesn't want to see him as much and got himself all worked up about it, any advice on what I can do to try and resolve this matter with his dad without it affecting my work and my son would be most grateful
SeparatedDads Editor 5 Mar 2015
@cokey123 - You may be interested in the article Ex Partners and Parental Alienation Syndrome, While is is not really recognised through the courts because it is very difficult to establish, it is being recognised as an issue. You don't say how old your daughter is, but if she is interviewed as part of the process the Social Services should be able to define whether or not they think she is telling the truth. I hope this helps.
cokey123 5 Mar 2015
Me and my wife have separated and i had my 6yr old daughter on weekends unless i was on call every was fine until i ask my wife for a divorce then in January 2015 i had my daughter for the weekend and dropped her off at her mother house as arranged then the next thing i know the police call me as my daughter had said i was drinking beer and we had a argument over mytablet and i threw at her which is all untrue,as i believe that my ex wife has put words into my daughter mouth or told her to say this to the police as she didnt want us to break up so now im wait to hear what going to happen from the police and social services, social services have said that the section 47 has been completed just waiting for the assessment to be completed and i ask them to talk to my ex wife about contact with my daughter which i just heard back from them and apparently my ex wife told the social services that my daughter had to her that she doesn't want to see me again which i believe my daughter has been poisoned against me by my ex wife any help
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Rache Editor 28 Jan 2015
@Matt - this is a tricky situation as by not running this through with your ex, then it could pose all sorts of problems later on. The fact you have PR means you could take your daughter to live with you, but your ex could then could apply through the courts and it might jeopardise your position, as the outcome will be judged on the best interests of your daughter. The courts like structure and continuity in a child's life and you taking her 160 miles away would not give that. The fact you would be taking her out of school, away from her friends and not least her brother and mother might sound idealistic, but the reality might have a very different outcome. I'd be brave, discuss it with her mother and see what her opinion is. However, I personally think this is unfair to put such pressure on your daughter to both choose between you and her mother and also uproot her whole life.
Matt 27 Jan 2015
I have a 50/50 childcare arrangement which has been established for four years. I have a 10 year old girl and a 16 year old boy. I would like to move into my new partners house but she lives 160 miles away. My son is happy to stay with mum because of his college work. But my daughter wants to come with me but is scared mum won't let her come. I have parental responsibility. My ex partner left the children with me when she had an affair. Do I have to ask permission or can I tell her we are moving. I don't want to stress my daughter with a big argument.
Matt 27 Jan 2015
My ex partner and I have 2 children 16 y old boy and 9 y old girl and 50/50 childcare arrangement for the last four years. I have now met a new partner and I want to move in with her. Unfortunately my new partner lives over 160 miles away. My son wants to stay with mum because of his college work which is fine. My daughter wants to come with me but is frightened that mum won't let her come. Do I need to get mums permission for her to go or can I just take her. I have parental responsibility and I am on the birth certificate. When we originally separated my ex had an affair and left the kids with me. What can I do?
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