What this tool does

It helps you walk into mediation with a clear head, a written list of what matters most to you, and a sensible opening proposal for each issue you want to talk about.

Most dads find the hardest part of mediation is staying focused when emotions run high. Having your points written down in plain words means you are less likely to forget something important or get pulled into arguments about the past when you are trying to sort out the future.

Who it is for

This is for separated fathers in England, Wales, Scotland or Northern Ireland who are about to attend a MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting) or a full mediation session about arrangements for their children. That might cover where the children live, how often you see them, handovers, holidays, schooling, or how you share decisions as parents.

It is also useful if you have tried mediation before and felt it went nowhere, and you want to go back in better prepared. If your case involves domestic abuse or safeguarding concerns, mediation may not be suitable and you should speak to a solicitor first.

How it works

You answer a short set of questions about your situation, what you are hoping to agree, and where you think there is room to compromise. The tool then gives you a tidy summary you can print or save to your phone, ready to take into the session. Your answers are not stored once you leave the page, so you can be honest about what you want without worrying about who might see it later.