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Dealing With Your Ex Partner and Child Moving Away

By: Chris Nickson - Updated: 4 Nov 2018 | comments*Discuss
 
Separated Dads Ex-partner Child Moving

We all know that lives change. In a society that’s become more and more mobile, moving homes, moving cities and even countries, has become fairly commonplace. But if your kids live with your former partner and she has to move away, how do you deal with that?

The move could be work related, or perhaps because her new partner has a job somewhere else, at the other end of the country. What are the ramifications?

Within The UK

An awful lot is going to depend on the type of relationship you have with your ex. If it’s good, then when she moves you’ll be able to re-negotiate contact with your children. It might be that you don’t see them as often, but when you do it’s for a longer period.

If they’ve been spending a few nights a week with you, it can be especially bad, since you won’t have their presence regularly, which you’re used to. But your ex isn’t legally obliged to live near you.

If the relationship is bad, you might need to apply for a change in your Contact Order. This can be a gruelling procedure, not to mention expensive, since you’ll want to have a solicitor to represent you, although you may be able to come to an Agreement Through Mediation. You will still be expected to Pay Child Support as before.

Emotional Impact

Perhaps the biggest factor to deal with is the emotional impact. You should arrange plenty of phone contact with your children, daily if at all possible, so they still feel that you’re involved in their lives (and so you feel that way, too) and try to see them as often as possible. If you can arrange a trip to see them once a month, that’s good, but not economically viable for many people.

School holidays would be the best time to see them, when you might be able to have them for a week – or even several weeks in the summer, if you can negotiate this. Of course, wonderful as it sounds, the practicalities can be real obstacles; after all, you still have to work, and there’s only so much holiday time you can take each year. You need to try to find a balance that works for you.

Going Abroad

But what happens if your ex wants to Move Abroad with your kids? She might be a foreign national, for example, and want to move home, or she might have married someone from another country and be moving. What can you do in the situation where your kids are taken even farther away from you?

Essentially, you have two choices. You can either accept the fact and come to some agreement about when the children can spend time with you or you can fight the move in the courts. If you follow the first route and come to an agreement, have it in writing and legally validated. It should include the number of visits per year and their length. Also, make sure to include who is responsible for airfares, which can avoid tumultuous arguments later. If you’re paying child support, you should try to have a provision saying you don’t have to pay for the period the kids are living with you.

Should you choose to fight the move in court, you will be battling for custody of your kids. This is only going to work if you have parental responsibility for the children (that is, if you’re named as the father on the birth certificate or have a parental responsibility agreement). If not, it’s not worth the effort, because you won’t win.

Rather than the distress this will cause you, what you’ll need to show is how it will adversely affect the kids. If the proposed move is to a non English-speaking country, for example, and your children are in school and have grown up speaking English, you’ll want to cite that – especially if they are in their early teens. You’ll need to develop a valid argument, preferably several, and be well represented in court.

If your ex does move the kids overseas, you’ll feel the loss even more than if they’re just elsewhere in the UK. Use as many different methods of contact as you can to keep in touch with them, daily if possible. It’s not an ideal substitute, but it really is better than nothing at all.

Check out the Separated Dads Forum... It's a great resource where you can ask for advice on topics including Child Access, Maintenance, CAFCASS, Fathers Rights, Court, Behaviour or simply to have a chat with other dads.

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Hi, my partner has been separated from his ex for 2 years. They have two girls together and she also has a daughter from a previous relationship who has been raised by my partner as the biological father isn’t present. The ex went away to Scotland for school half term this week and has decided not to return home. This is a total shock and very upsetting for my partner. I know he has parental rights for his biological daughters as he is on their birth certificates but not for his ex’s daughter. We are unsure of his rights - I understand he can apply for a court order but after reading the Gov website there is a requirement to attend mediation beforehand, what happens if the ex doesn’t agree to mediation? Can you apply for a court order without mediation? Does my partner have any rights over his non-biological daughter? Or can he obtain rights? I’m not sure what the girls will do about school as I don’t think she has informed their current schools. Should my partner contact the school?
MissE - 4-Nov-18 @ 10:50 PM
@m1531.i tell you why she is allowed to get away with it .because she has a fanny they are like koala bears protected species boy .if they didn’t have fanny you would throw rocks at them .i no I would .
Big Donny - 18-Oct-18 @ 12:14 AM
Hi My Ex partner has moved, without telling me, and now I have no idea where my daughter is, she has always made contact as difficult as. Possible, and the last time I saw my daughter was over twelve months ago. I have no idea where to send court papers to get her back in to court Does anyone. Know if I apply for. Court on her old. Address if the court will track her down... Or will they simply return my application and say its the incorrect address. I can't believe she's just allowed to do this Many thanks Mark
M1531 - 17-Oct-18 @ 10:37 PM
Hi I have been with my girlfriend for 15 years and have a 4 year old and a 6 year old (year 2). I am English, she is Scottish. She moved to England for me when we got together and has always missed her family and wanted to move back ther, which I don’t want to do. She has no family around her here so if she stayed here she would be on her own bringing up our kids. My family are really close by but are elderly and unable to help out on a regular basis. My siblings rarely see my kids despite living locally. Can my girlfriend take my kids to live in Scotland with her even though I have parental responsibility? I have had gambling problems and didn’t take help despite my partner asking me too and am worried that will affect my power to stop her movin. Any advice would be gratefully received. Thanks
L - 13-Oct-18 @ 10:56 PM
@roy.[do it bloody do it make the move] .you can't live in the past and follow your x around .we all would like a relationship with our children sometimes it don't turn out that way .think off yourself no one else will brother .
chris laurie - 4-Oct-18 @ 10:36 PM
I've been separated for 10 years with my daughter who is 14 and my son who is 11. My ex partner moved 40 miles away 10 years ago. Over all of this time there have been ups and downs and I have always my two every other weekend and holidays. However I've never had a good relationship with my ex since separation. I struggled during the recession and only moved to be within a few miles of the kids mother a few years ago but commute 40 miles up north every day. I had hoped to see an improvement in communication but this has never happened. All my communciation is directly with my children now however I am at the point of asking myself why I moved. I simply feel as though I'm used or available just in case and have an increainsly diminishing importance in the lives of my own children. It's seems as though it's now not important if my children even see me at times when it's quite easy to not see Dad then that's what happens :-(. I suck it up but it's really getting to me now how things have diminished. I am wondering about moving back up north if things deteriorate much further. Any advice?
Roy - 4-Oct-18 @ 8:33 PM
I've been separated for 10 years with my daughter who is 14 and my son who is 11. My ex partner moved 40 miles away 10 years ago. Over all of this time there have been ups and downs and I have always my two every other weekend and holidays. However I've never had a good relationship with my ex since separation. I struggled during the recession and only moved to be within a few miles of the kids mother a few years ago but commute 40 miles up north every day. I had hoped to see an improvement in communication but this has never happened. All my communciation is directly with my children now however I am at the point of asking myself why I moved. I simply feel as though I'm used or available just in case and have an increainsly diminishing importance in the lives of my own children. It's seems as though it's now not important if my children even see me at times when it's quite easy to not see Dad then that's what happens :-(. I suck it up but it's really getting to me now how things have diminished. I am wondering about moving back up north if things deteriorate much further. Any advice?
Roy - 4-Oct-18 @ 7:41 PM
Please advise, Me and my ex wife divorce almost 2 years ago, she agreed to have my daughter full time. I agreed to let her see her daughter every now and than because she had plans to marry some on in Ireland. Later on she asked me to if she could take her to Ireland with her until she starts school, i! I've been talking to my daughter every other day, she promised to bring her back and has been making excuses, end off she isn't answering any calls even blocked me. What do I do know? What are my rights in this. Please advice.
Ray - 21-Sep-18 @ 11:36 PM
Mike - Your Question:
Hi, my ex has just taken my 9 year old girl to live 70 miles away in wales without letting me know. I found out as her school rang me to ask why she was absent and they couldn't get hold of her and when I did she informed she has moved to Wales. Is this classed as kidnap. I'm unsure what to do. I provide everything for my little girl and look after her 60/70% of the time. I've sent off for her birth certificate to see if I'm on it which should give me rights. I've no idea where she's going to be living in Wales and she's taken her out of school and apparently moved her to another school in Wales. Also it's her birthday next wk and I've planned to take her to Berlin, Germany to a zoo she's always wanted to go to. I'm afraid if I contest her moving there she'll stop me taking her to Berlin which ive already paid for, can she do this? Please help I'm devastated

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. If your ex has moved your child out of the area and you have parental responsibility (registered on the birth certificate), your ex should have asked for your consent to move your child away. You would be able to apply directly to court, please see the link here . Our Separated Dads forum may be of help to you if you need additional advice regarding this matter. With regards to your holiday with your child, you would have to have permission from your ex to take your child out of the country, please see the link here.
SeparatedDads - 7-Sep-18 @ 2:11 PM
Hi, my ex has just taken my 9 year old girl to live 70 miles away in wales without letting me know. I found out as her school rang me to ask why she was absent and they couldn't get hold of her and when I did she informed she has moved to Wales. Is this classed as kidnap. I'm unsure what to do. I provide everything for my little girl and look after her 60/70% of the time. I've sent off for her birth certificate to see if I'm on it which should give me rights. I've no idea where she's going to be living in Wales and she's taken her out of school and apparently moved her to another school in Wales. Also it's her birthday next wk and I've planned to take her to Berlin, Germany to a zoo she's always wanted to go to. I'm afraid if I contest her moving there she'll stop me taking her to Berlin which ive already paid for, can she do this?Please help I'm devastated
Mike - 5-Sep-18 @ 10:04 PM
p41 - Your Question:
Hi, Any advice please. My wife has recently had a breakdown and tried to take her own life. She went to stay with her dad in a different area to get the support she needed to get better - and is currently still there. I have remained in the house with our three girls aged 4, 7 and 10. There school is here and friends and my family. I am considering going for custody - with the hope I will get full residency - Does anyone know of similar stories - Will I have a chance or will she e more likely to win residency.

Our Response:
Much depends upon the circumstances and how long you have been looking after the children for. In this case, I suggest you seek legal advice as if your ex doesn't agree then you would have to take the matter to court. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the children in question. The court will always put the children’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order.
SeparatedDads - 4-Sep-18 @ 12:18 PM
Cheezy- Your Question:
Advice please. I am a lone father and my 6 year old son lives with me. I refused to return my son to his mother at the end of weekend contact after receiving a call from the police saying she had been arrested and I should wait till social services got in touch. Long and short of it, social services verdict was "if I return my son to his mother, they would seek legal advice to remove him and take him into care as the events surrounding the child would result in a second bout of child protection at under 3 years of age" that was 3 years ago. I love having my son live with me, twice the work, twice the reward. She has never contested the fact legally or otherwise that I should return him. She has paid zero towards maintenance and continues to be a degenerated alcoholic. contact has been hit and miss and I've now stopped all contact apart from my sons occasional desire to call his mum, and I grant him that every time. (It's not his fault his mum is crap)I now have an offer on the table to go and stay with my parents for 2 years in Northern Ireland to help them build a house. The outcome would mean I'd have a deposit to put down on buying a house for me and my son back here where we currently live (south England)What do I need to do, to do this legally. I know she will say no, just out of pure evil obstruction. Regardless that this would secure a home and inheritance for her son. Realistically, how much will it cost to do this legally, and how long will it take? Many thanks in advance.

Our Response:
Yes, you would have to either gain the consent of your child's other parent or apply to the courts. If you have residency of your child and you apply to court, if the court thinks it is in your child's best interests to remain with you and you can convince the courts that you can offer your child a better life, then there is no reason why the court should object. The courts will not try to stop a resident parent from getting on with his/her life, what it does object to is if it sees the move as a deliberate obstruction to keep the child from having access or some form of contact to the other parent. If you can maintain that contact can be ongoing, then you have a good chance of being granted permission. If you cannot afford legal representation, you can self-litigate, please see the link here.
SeparatedDads - 3-Sep-18 @ 10:47 AM
Advice please. I am a lone father and my 6 year old son lives with me. I refused to return my son to his mother at the end of weekend contact after receiving a call from the police saying she had been arrested and I should wait till social services got in touch. Long and short of it, social services verdict was "if I return my son to his mother, they would seek legal advice to remove him and take him into care as the events surrounding the child would result in a second bout of child protection at under 3 years of age" that was 3 years ago. I love having my son live with me, twice the work, twice the reward. She has never contested the fact legally or otherwise that I should return him. She has paid zero towards maintenance and continues to be a degenerated alcoholic. contact has been hit and miss and I've now stopped all contact apart from my sons occasional desire to call his mum, and I grant him that every time. (It's not his fault his mum is crap) I now have an offer on the table to go and stay with my parents for 2 years in Northern Ireland to help them build a house. The outcome would mean I'd have a deposit to put down on buying a house for me and my son back here where we currently live (south England) What do I need to do, to do this legally. I know she will say no, just out of pure evil obstruction. Regardless that this would secure a home and inheritance for her son. Realistically, how much will it cost to do this legally, and how long will it take? Many thanks in advance.
Cheezy - 2-Sep-18 @ 8:33 AM
My wife and I have been divorced about 6 months, we have a verbal agreement regarding our 6 year old daughter we basically have her 50% each and I pay an agreed sum of maintenance every month. She is now threatening to move away taking our daughter with her, our daughter does not want to leave and all her family and school friends are in her home town. My ex wife has a record for disorderly and verbally abusive behaviour and I have concerns for the welfare of our daughter with her and her new partner. My ex wife also has a son of 14 years to another father who she rarely has contact with due to her volatile behaviour. What are my options as a father to prevent her taking the child to another UK location.
Ed - 28-Aug-18 @ 5:02 PM
Hi, Any advice please. My wife has recently had a breakdown and tried to take her own life. She went to stay with her dad in a different area to get the support she needed to get better - and is currently still there. I have remained in the house with our three girls aged 4, 7 and 10. There school is here and friends and my family. I am considering going for custody - with the hope I will get full residency - Does anyone know of similar stories - Will I have a chance or will she e more likely to win residency.
p41 - 28-Aug-18 @ 4:23 PM
hello we are looking for some advice a couple of nights ago my partner who's been split from his ex 6 yrs senta text out the blue saying shes moving to France next yr whith there 13yr old daughter and leaving there 19 yr old in the UK of course he doesn't want his daughter moving to France but he feels if he says no she will hate him ! also next yr she will be going into yr 10 we don't feel up routing her when she is in the most important yrs of her schooling in regards to gcse exams ect is the best timing..... he also had concerns for his eldest daughter who is being left in the UK on her own..... we know she's an adult now but she has anxiety and depression and because of this she dropped out of college and has had a few jobs.... the ex seems to think she will be able to rent her own place and pay all her bills ext we live 2 hrs away and we know she won't ask us for help if needed just looking for a bit of advice
mich86 - 24-Aug-18 @ 3:00 PM
Please could you elaborate on the comment made above "Should you choose to fight the move in court, you will be battling for custody of your kids." Is simply preventing the move not an option?
Bulletproof - 21-Jul-18 @ 7:29 AM
I have been with my partner now for nearly 9 years, he has a 1 daughter with his ex who is now 12years old,. In the beginning he had his daughter every single weekend and sometimes would go over amd tuck her into bed during the week. There was always issue about me with the ex if she had the chance and eventually we noticed lack of commitment from the ex for my partner to see his daughter and then it came that she was moving abroad to Cyprus to be with a man from Turkey who is nearly 20years younger than her and my partner made it clear to her that he was not happy with this and totally against it but despite what he said she said it was for her other son's sake as he was going down the wrong path in life. Acouple of years later the her so moved back to England and me and my partner are now planning to move to Cyprus after long thought just so he can see his daughter more regularly and not miss out on anymore years of her life. But! Now after letting the mother know this she is not happy with this at all and says he has no parental rights and that his daughter is now not interested even though she os the one who move his little girl and with him working perminentlyon nightsshe wants no excuses. Can someone please help me with so.e advise as i don't know the law in North Cyprus
Hails - 18-Jul-18 @ 12:30 PM
LH - Your Question:
Hi, I split from my daughters mother 9 years ago. My daughter was 2 years at the time she is 11 now. We have no formal agreements in place. I currently have my daughter 5 nights a week one week and 2 nights the next week then 5 nights etc.She also has 3 other children with two other partners after me she is no longer with them either. She has now met a new partner and been with him 2 months which is 1.5 hours away. He seems to treat them all well and I am happy for her. However she informed me 2 days ago that she is planning to move in with the new partner on August 6th. 4 weeks away. My daughter doesn't know this information yet. I am concerned about her past history with her relationships and the fact my daughter is due to join her new high school (where she lives now) in September. My ex is suggesting that nothing will change with the amount me and my daughter see each other. But the logistics just don't add up. If the very fresh relationship fails where does that leave my daughter? I suggested that my daughter could ask to live with me but she says that's not an option? My ex and the new partner have 7 kids between them and they are planning on moving into a 3 bedroom house for the time being another worry.I am concerned that all of this is not in my daughters best interest as she will have no family where the are planning to move to. I'm pulling my hair out worrying about this and how short the timescales are that she plans to do it. If my daughter wants to live with me then surely my ex cant stop her, with both have parental responsibilities.

Our Response:
If you have parental responsibility, then your ex has to request your permission to relocate. You do have an option of applying for a Prohibited Steps Order through the courts. If your daughter is 11, then her opinion will be taken into consideration. If your daughter wishes to remain at her current school and live with you, then you can apply via court for a child arrangement order, please see link here . As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order. However, as you have your daughter pretty much on a shared-care basis, you will stand a good chance. If you wish to push the issue, in the first instance you may wish to suggest your ex attends mediation in order to try to discuss the issue. Knowing what your daughter's opinion of the move will also help. If your daughter has no objection to relocating, then you may wish to continue with a similar access arrangement to what you have currently.
SeparatedDads - 10-Jul-18 @ 2:08 PM
Hi, I split from my daughters mother 9 years ago. My daughter was 2 years at the time she is 11 now. We have no formal agreements in place. I currently have my daughter 5 nights a week one week and 2 nights the next week then 5 nights etc.... She also has 3 other children with two other partners after me she is no longer with them either. She has now met a new partner and been with him 2 months which is 1.5 hours away. He seems to treat them all well and I am happy for her. However she informed me 2 days ago that she is planning to move in with the new partner on August 6th. 4 weeks away. My daughter doesn't know this information yet. I am concerned about her past history with her relationships and the fact my daughter is due to join her new high school (where she lives now) in September. My ex is suggesting that nothing will change with the amount me and my daughter see each other. But the logistics just don't add up. If the very fresh relationship fails where does that leave my daughter? I suggested that my daughter could ask to live with me but she says that's not an option? My ex and the new partner have 7 kids between them and they are planning on moving into a 3 bedroom house for the time being another worry. I am concerned that all of this is not in my daughters best interest as she will have no family where the are planning to move to. I'm pulling my hair out worrying about this and how short the timescales are that she plans to do it. If my daughter wants to live with me then surely my ex cant stop her, with both have parental responsibilities.
LH - 6-Jul-18 @ 12:21 PM
Hi my ex partner is thinking of moving to scotland just to be close to her family where as for me im not moving there im on the birth certificate and there is no abusive relationship or any problems like that but I want to no is what makes it right for her to do that if she wants to go why should the kid have to go to when I dont want to and will not be picking a kid up from scotland every weekend or evan go there once for that matter what are my fathers rights
Phil - 4-Jul-18 @ 2:53 PM
Lissi- Your Question:
HiI have only recently (days) separated after 8 years with my partner discovering she was having an affair. We have a 6 year old. I am concerned living in England that my ex may attempt to move back to Northern Ireland where her family are. We have lived in engalnd the past 8 years, my child has been schooled here since birth. Where do I stand? Help!

Our Response:
Your only option would be to apply for a Prohibited Steps Order through the courts. A PSO is an order granted by the court in family cases which prevents either parent from carrying out certain events or making specific trips with their children without the express permission of the other parent. This is more common in cases where there is suspicion that one parent may leave the area with their children. However, there is no guarantee that you would be given the order and that your partner would nt be allowed to move home. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order.
SeparatedDads - 28-Jun-18 @ 2:25 PM
Hi I have only recently (days) separated after 8 years with my partner discovering she was having an affair. We have a 6 year old. I am concerned living in England that my ex may attempt to move back to Northern Ireland where her family are. We have lived in engalnd the past 8 years, my child has been schooled here since birth. Where do I stand? Help!
Lissi - 26-Jun-18 @ 6:05 PM
@Pratts - tbh it's not worth wasting your money taking the matter to court. If your son wants to go and your ex is offering you continued access then the court will agree. Remember, it's about your child, not you. I'd turn it around and try to be supportive - otherwise it's going to cause upset all round - do you really want that?
Jack - 25-Jun-18 @ 3:32 PM
Stefan - Your Question:
My ex girlfriend is recently after getting married. He has a very good job but is being relocated to America and she wants to take out 4 year old with them. As of now I have the child 3 days a week. Overnight one of those days (her mother collects the other days after work) we have never been through the courts before. We have had plenty of rows and arguments about the child but she has never stopped me from seeing her. I have a new born baby with my current girlfriend and my ex is currently expecting and want to move shortly after her new baby is born. Do I have any choices? What would be the odds of me winning a court battle? Neither of us are unfit parents and we both love our daughter very much. But I don't want my daughter to be all the way in America where I can barely see her maybe once or twice a year? Please please please can someone give me advice on how to proceed with this

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. It is always very tricky as a court wil not try to stop a parent getting on with their lives if the parent is not moving away deliberately. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the child in question. The court will always put the child’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order. If that is to remain with the resident parent and new family (especially if your ex is getting married and having a baby) then the court are likely to allow the move if visitation rights are promised. If you have shared-care, you have a better chance of being given residency than if you don't. However, you would have to prove why it was in your child's best interests to remain in the UK with you, which would not be easy. In this case, you may wish to seek some legal advice.
SeparatedDads - 25-Jun-18 @ 3:12 PM
My ex girlfriend is recently after getting married. He has a very good job but is being relocated to America and she wants to take out 4 year old with them. As of now I have the child 3 days a week. Overnight one of those days (her mother collects the other days after work) we have never been through the courts before. We have had plenty of rows and arguments about the child but she has never stopped me from seeing her. I have a new born baby with my current girlfriend and my ex is currently expecting and want to move shortly after her new baby is born. Do I have any choices? What would be the odds of me winning a court battle? Neither of us are unfit parents and we both love our daughter very much. But I don't want my daughter to be all the way in America where I can barely see her maybe once or twice a year?Please please please can someone give me advice on how to proceed with this
Stefan - 25-Jun-18 @ 12:29 AM
My ex wife re married 6 years ago. Although we had joint custody. Our son has always lived with her and I see my son one night a week. And my own admission I have hardly helped with school holidays maybe a total of 6 weeks over the 8 years we have been spilt. Her husband is in the armed forces and she wants to move 150 miles away to be near his base. She has a school and house lined up. And she had told me that our son who is 13 is happy about the move and wants to go. I’m not willing to consent so we have to go to court to sort it I believe . She has offered me access of 2 weekends a month and she has offered to drive half way to meet me one weekend a month and the other she will drive most of the way I will have travel 12 miles on that occasion. She has also offered half of the school hols which I have never done before . What are my chances of stopping her ???
Pratts - 23-Jun-18 @ 9:30 AM
Chris - Your Question:
Hi, My long time partner and I separated 5 years ago. She moved up to Northumberland from London. I travelled back and forth and I ended up suffering exhaustion. She moved down 3 years ago because she said "she didn't get the support" up there. Since then I have them half of the week and am fully active in our two sons' lives. I push them with the school work and organise playdates with their friends etc etc. I got married last year and now have a 9 week old baby boy with my new wife, who my sons adore. My ex has now decided she wants to move back to Northumberland. She is depressed and wants to be near her family which I get, but I feel its going to have a huge negative impact on our boys because I'm such a big part of their lives. They're only 7 and 9. I won't be able to travel up more than once a month, it takes such a long time to get up there, plus its so draining when I work so hard to pay the bills etc. Do I have any rights hear? Can she move them without my consent, I have PR? She is putting her own happiness before the kids and wants to rip them away from the great school, all their friends, their father and baby brother. Is their anything I can do?

Our Response:
Your ex would have to request your consent to move your children out of the area (if you have parental responsibility). If you refuse, she would have to apply to court for permission. However, it is unlikely a court would refuse your ex's request as it would not attempt to stop a person getting on with their life, especially if she is willing to allow you to see the children. Therefore, it's a tricky situation. Your only recourse would be to suggest mediation to your ex and if she refuses apply to court. You may wish to seek some legal advice before you take any action in order to fully explore your options. Mutual agreement is always the best option, as court is always seen as a last resort given it can be stressful and upsetting all round.
SeparatedDads - 21-Jun-18 @ 11:15 AM
I was with my partner for years I pretty much grow up with her I was only 20 when I meet her and she left when I was 28 .it wasn’t the best relationship had (many issues )we should have addressed but we stayed to the point where we hated each other both did our own thing in the last couple of years pretty much flat mates that fought .she went away to her family but it was a cover for her in front of her family.she had meet a guy online who lived up north she didn’t think that I new but I did and new about a lot of other things to just didn’t care to express it in the end I was done I happy for her to be gone I was sick of fighting with her and the games we played to hurt each other .then I just moved on to be honest I never went court for my daughter before you know it the years roll bye and I honestly forgot about my daughter .i had in it the back of my mind that it is the right thing for me to go to court but I was completely over my x and we just fight and it would have been drama and travel so I made i choice back then and I am sticking to it .had I bit of a melt down over my choice years later and still had bad feelings for my x .and tried to (forgive but can’t) she is still difficult and infuriating to me where it is best to keep our distance she can have our( daughter) it’s best for everyone even the children with so many years gone bye there step father is there father in reality .so that’s it in a nut shell I have walked away for good and forever .
Samantha - 20-Jun-18 @ 9:31 PM
Hi, My long time partner and I separated 5 years ago. She moved up to Northumberland from London. I travelled back and forth and I ended up suffering exhaustion. She moved down 3 years ago because she said "she didn't get the support" up there. Since then I have them half of the week and am fully active in our two sons' lives. I push them with the school work and organise playdates with their friends etc etc. I got married last year and now have a 9 week old baby boy with my new wife, who my sons adore. My ex has now decided she wants to move back to Northumberland. She is depressed and wants to be near her family which I get, but I feel its going to have a huge negative impact on our boys because I'm such a big part of their lives. They're only 7 and 9. I won't be able to travel up more than once a month, it takes such a long time to get up there, plus its so draining when I work so hard to pay the bills etc. Do I have any rights hear? Can she move them without my consent, I have PR? She is putting her own happiness before the kids and wants to rip them away from the great school, all their friends, their father and baby brother. Is their anything I can do?
Chris - 20-Jun-18 @ 11:39 AM
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