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Dealing With Your Ex Partner and Child Moving Away

By: Chris Nickson - Updated: 18 Feb 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
Separated Dads Ex-partner Child Moving

We all know that lives change. In a society that’s become more and more mobile, moving homes, moving cities and even countries, has become fairly commonplace. But if your kids live with your former partner and she has to move away, how do you deal with that?

The move could be work related, or perhaps because her new partner has a job somewhere else, at the other end of the country. What are the ramifications?

Within The UK

An awful lot is going to depend on the type of relationship you have with your ex. If it’s good, then when she moves you’ll be able to re-negotiate contact with your children. It might be that you don’t see them as often, but when you do it’s for a longer period.

If they’ve been spending a few nights a week with you, it can be especially bad, since you won’t have their presence regularly, which you’re used to. But your ex isn’t legally obliged to live near you.

If the relationship is bad, you might need to apply for a change in your Contact Order. This can be a gruelling procedure, not to mention expensive, since you’ll want to have a solicitor to represent you, although you may be able to come to an Agreement Through Mediation. You will still be expected to Pay Child Support as before.

Emotional Impact

Perhaps the biggest factor to deal with is the emotional impact. You should arrange plenty of phone contact with your children, daily if at all possible, so they still feel that you’re involved in their lives (and so you feel that way, too) and try to see them as often as possible. If you can arrange a trip to see them once a month, that’s good, but not economically viable for many people.

School holidays would be the best time to see them, when you might be able to have them for a week – or even several weeks in the summer, if you can negotiate this. Of course, wonderful as it sounds, the practicalities can be real obstacles; after all, you still have to work, and there’s only so much holiday time you can take each year. You need to try to find a balance that works for you.

Going Abroad

But what happens if your ex wants to Move Abroad with your kids? She might be a foreign national, for example, and want to move home, or she might have married someone from another country and be moving. What can you do in the situation where your kids are taken even farther away from you?

Essentially, you have two choices. You can either accept the fact and come to some agreement about when the children can spend time with you or you can fight the move in the courts. If you follow the first route and come to an agreement, have it in writing and legally validated. It should include the number of visits per year and their length. Also, make sure to include who is responsible for airfares, which can avoid tumultuous arguments later. If you’re paying child support, you should try to have a provision saying you don’t have to pay for the period the kids are living with you.

Should you choose to fight the move in court, you will be battling for custody of your kids. This is only going to work if you have parental responsibility for the children (that is, if you’re named as the father on the birth certificate or have a parental responsibility agreement). If not, it’s not worth the effort, because you won’t win.

Rather than the distress this will cause you, what you’ll need to show is how it will adversely affect the kids. If the proposed move is to a non English-speaking country, for example, and your children are in school and have grown up speaking English, you’ll want to cite that – especially if they are in their early teens. You’ll need to develop a valid argument, preferably several, and be well represented in court.

If your ex does move the kids overseas, you’ll feel the loss even more than if they’re just elsewhere in the UK. Use as many different methods of contact as you can to keep in touch with them, daily if possible. It’s not an ideal substitute, but it really is better than nothing at all.

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Hi, Seven years ago i separated from my ex and she refused contact with my son who was 2 years old at that time. through court I managed to get 4 hours contact weekly with my son and soon after she moved 22 miles away and forced me to see my son at play center for 30-45 mins in her presence and even brain washed my son not to talk to me. I regularly kept the contact and did whatever possible as any father could do . I was afraid that she might could make things worse by saying thatchild is getting distressed (also mentioned by social worker at court that someone is brain washing the child) and i kept quite . now she wants to move four hours away and telling me that I can only see my son in holidays. I understand that father and mother are both important for children but I am very sad that will not be able to see my son regularly. Please advise what can i do. regards
Dani - 18-Feb-17 @ 12:09 PM
Aramis - Your Question:
Me and and my ex wife separated just over 2 years ago due to her infidelity. We have two daughters aged 5 and 8. I pick the girls up from school on Friday and drop them off Monday morning with work being very supportive.I currently live in the village where the girls attend school but work 25 miles away. Their Mother lives in the next village. I am planning to move closer to work, approx 20 miles from their school. This won't impact on my ability to pick up/drop off or I wouldn't consider it. The ex has now announced her intention to move 75 miles south. This would curtail my time with them significantly.From reading this very helpful site I understand that I should be considered to have parental responsibility and as such should be able to at least challenge the move. She has no family or friends or even a job at this point where she is planning to move and has a history of mental health issues which I hope would help my case.My concerns are that by moving I may prejudice my position in the eyes of the court if they consider me to have left the area? (In reality moving raises the possibility that I could have the girls full time as I could then juggle school runs and work)In addition I allowed her to divorce me as at the time I didn't want to deal with solicitors, might this affect my rights?

Our Response:
As you have parental responsibility of your children, by law your ex should ask you for consent to move out of the area. You have two options to agree, or if you think your ex may move without your consent, then you can apply for a Prohibited Steps Order through the courts. A PSO is an order granted by the court in family cases which prevents either parent from carrying out certain events or making specific trips with their children without the express permission of the other parent. This is more common in cases where there is suspicion that one parent may leave the area with their children. As in all cases, the court’s main concern is the welfare of the children in question. The court will always put the children’s best interests first and this main issue will determine the outcome of any application for an order. Therefore, you would have to prove why it was not in your best interests for your ex to move away with the children i.e disruption from school, friends, family, close network etc. Your ex would have to justify her own reasons as to why she thinks it would be in the children's best inerests. With regards to your own move, this should not impinge on any decision, if your decision to move will not impact on the children's usual routine. You may wish to seek legal advice in order to further explore your options.
SeparatedDads - 10-Feb-17 @ 12:32 PM
Me and and my ex wife separated just over 2 years ago due to her infidelity.We have two daughters aged 5 and 8.I pick the girls up from school on Friday and drop them off Monday morning with work being very supportive. I currently live in the village where the girls attend school but work 25 miles away.Their Mother lives in the next village. I am planning to move closer to work, approx 20 miles from their school.This won't impact on my ability to pick up/drop off or I wouldn't consider it. The ex has now announced her intention to move 75 miles south.This would curtail my time with them significantly. From reading this very helpful site I understand that I should be considered to have parental responsibility and as such should be able to at least challenge the move.She has no family or friends or even a job at this point where she is planning to move and has a history of mental health issues which I hope would help my case. My concerns are that by moving i may prejudice my position in the eyes of the court if they consider me to have left the area?(In reality moving raises the possibility that I could have the girls full time as i could then juggle school runs and work) In addition I allowed her to divorce me as at the time I didn't want to deal with solicitors, might this affect my rights?
Aramis - 9-Feb-17 @ 10:19 AM
anon - Your Question:
Hi There I've been separated from my partner for 7 years now and he sees his son every other weekend. I would like to relocate within the uk with our son who is 9 and still stick to the every other weekend as dont want to stop any access but was told yesterday that I cannot move anywhere without the fathers consent? Please would you be able to advise me any further information many thanks.

Our Response:
if the father has parental responsibility, then by law you have to request his consent to move away. Some resident parents will make the move anyway and hope the courts will not decide to bring them back. However, if your ex decides to pursue the matter through the courts, then this could quite possibly occur. If your ex doesn not agree to the move, then you would have to try to either negotiate the terms through mediation, or take the matter to court and a court will decide upon what it thinks is in your son's best interests.
SeparatedDads - 25-Jan-17 @ 1:58 PM
Hi There I've been separated from my partner for 7 years now and he sees his son every other weekend .I would like to relocate within the uk with our son who is 9 and still stick to the every other weekend as dont want to stop any access but was told yesterday that I cannot move anywhere without the fathers consent? Please would you be able to advise me any further information many thanks .
anon - 25-Jan-17 @ 8:51 AM
hi all found out my partner of 16 years been having affair for 6 month with a man twice her agewe have 3 kids my oldest was the one that found out about affair so he decided to stay with me hes 14 she taken my 2 youngest away from a stable home2 year old and 6year oldand shacked up with this taxi driver who my kids dont even know i can have the kids when ever i want i been having them on saturdays so she can go out drinking having kids on a weekend is stopping me from moving on trying to build my life while she is out enjoying her self even though she has a new partner am i wrong to stop fridays or saturdays so i can finally go out and find someone new so i can move on i still want to see my kids but maybe have them on a sunday and take them to school on a monday please help apprieciated
bri80 - 23-Jan-17 @ 6:12 AM
Hi there, need a little help. Me and my sons father split up about 2 years ago. At the start he was allowed continuous access (after work during the week bathing and putting our son to bed) but this was unrealistic because he always turned it into something about us. I changed it to the weekend either Friday to Saturday then the week after Saturday night to Sunday night. This worked for a while but he wasn't happy as he "wanted a life" he wanted every second weekend, so I complied as it's whatever is best for our son (4years old) I was also supplying him clothes, toys etc every month to keep at his. (Or his fathers as he doesn't have his own home or a separate bed for our son) He drives and I don't. He stays under 10 minutes drive away (or anything up to an hour on public transport)he recently demanded that I start dropping out son off to him on his weekends and picking him up as it wasn't fair on him (not our son) having to do this once a fortnight. I have came to an agreement that his dad picks up our son from nursery on the Friday and he drops him at my sister (5 minutes drive from him...by she stays further from me) and she now drives down to me and my sons home with him. He doesn't ask about his progress at nursery or any of the groups he is in (art and sport) when our son does something bad he laughs and gets angry when our son misbehaves and doesn't understand the impact of his example. (He allowed my son to defecate on a pavement) and still thinks it is funny) So here is my problem: I'm moving away. To a stunning area (my area isn't the greatest)with a very select school. Absolutely better lifestyle for my son. It is 59 miles away now. I am going to even offer half the cost petrol money on his weekends. And Skype and phone calls as many nights as he wants.I will be telling him soon. I just don't know how to approach this. He is a very emotional angry man so I feel that arranging mediation to speak about this would be the best way forward.I'm just looking for confirmation that I am following all the correct procedures and I haven't missed anything really?
CJ81 - 21-Jan-17 @ 5:35 PM
Hi there, need a little help. Me and my sons father split up about 2 years ago. At the start he was allowed continuous access (after work during the week bathing and putting our son to bed) but this was unrealistic because he always turned it into something about us. I changed it to the weekend either Friday to Saturday then the week after Saturday night to Sunday night. This worked for a while but he wasn't happy as he "wanted a life" he wanted every second weekend, so I complied as it's whatever is best for our son (4years old) I was also supplying him clothes, toys etc every month to keep at his. (Or his fathers as he doesn't have his own home or a separate bed for our son) He drives and I don't. He stays under 10 minutes drive away (or anything up to an hour on public transport)he recently demanded that I start dropping out son off to him on his weekends and picking him up as it wasn't fair on him (not our son) having to do this once a fortnight. I have came to an agreement that his dad picks up our son from nursery on the Friday and he drops him at my sister (5 minutes drive from him...by she stays further from me) and she now drives down to me and my sons home with him. He doesn't ask about his progress at nursery or any of the groups he is in (art and sport) when our son does something bad he laughs and gets angry when our son misbehaves and doesn't understand the impact of his example. (He allowed my son to defecate on a pavement) and still thinks it is funny) So here is my problem: I'm moving away. To a stunning area (my area isn't the greatest)with a very select school. Absolutely better lifestyle for my son. It is 59 miles away now. I am going to even offer half the cost petrol money on his weekends. And Skype and phone calls as many nights as he wants.I will be telling him soon. I just don't know how to approach this. He is a very emotional angry man so I feel that arranging mediation to speak about this would be the best way forward.I'm just looking for confirmation that I am following all the correct procedures and I haven't missed anything really?
CJ81 - 21-Jan-17 @ 1:17 PM
Catfish - Your Question:
My childs mum keeps sending me copies of afterschool club yet she is the one who moved away. Before I used to pick the child up from school and take her to her mums after she was done with work. Am I liable for thoes bills and or is maintainance meant to look after the child. Confused as at present please help

Our Response:
You're not obliged to pay any further money on top of your child maintenance (if you pay through the CMS). If you pay via a family-based arrangement, then it is mutually negotiable.
SeparatedDads - 18-Jan-17 @ 1:51 PM
My childs mum keeps sending me copies of afterschool club yet she is the one who moved away. Before I used to pick the child up from school and take her to her mums after she was done with work. Am I liable for thoes bills and or is maintainance meant to look after the child. Confused as at present please help
Catfish - 18-Jan-17 @ 8:58 AM
My husband and I have separated. I have no family here and would like to move home which is a 3 hour drive away with my 2 year old where I think we could have a better life and I would like to do further study there with support of family. I asked for his approval, suggested mediation so we could put plans in place as it is important to me that he maintains a good relationship with his father and I asked that because I will be working 5 days a week if we could each have our son every other weekend. He refused mediation and said that he has a solicitor and will be trying for every weekend but that would mean I won't get any quality time with our son if he gets it and that would mean he is travelling 6 hours over each weekend to be with his father. I just feel so trapped and lonely here but petrified that if I move I lose my son. Will the courts grant him every weekend?
Ss888 - 11-Jan-17 @ 9:36 PM
@soooo - if you leave before the court case, the court could issue a summons to bring you and your child back. You have to be very careful. If you want to leave the country and go back home to live you are best applying to the court directly.
AJ - 11-Jan-17 @ 10:59 AM
hi i have a question if can be accuse of abduction if i go back to my country with my son ? the father is not register in the birth certificate but i let my son overthe weekend lots for me to be able to work.. My son has describe abuse from his dad so i stop the access and now the father try to have access and sent me to court , i have a court case very soon, can i leave and not be prosecuted ?
sooooo - 10-Jan-17 @ 11:00 AM
Hi, I pick my son up from school twice per week and have him for 3 hours per night. I also have him every other weekend from 9am Sat - 6pm. I want him every weekend Is it worth fighting for more through the courts? My ex is a nurse and I know she works long shifts and has different days off but I don't see why I should miss out every other weekend.
Dog - 6-Jan-17 @ 12:47 PM
hk1815 - Your Question:
Hi, my ex and I split before our child was born. Despite repeated assertions that I was still committed to the kid, she didn't tell me he had been born, and registered him before we had even met. I'm now applying for a declaration of parentage and PR, but can she move away in the meantime? If she does, what are my rights? Can PR work retroactively? Thanks for any help.

Our Response:
If your ex is threatening to move, you can also apply for a Prohibited Steps Order. A PSO is an order granted by the court in family cases which prevents either parent from carrying out certain events or making specific trips with their children without the express permission of the other parent. This is more common in cases where there is suspicion that one parent may leave the area with their children. Therefore, you may wish to seek legal advice.
SeparatedDads - 5-Jan-17 @ 12:39 PM
Hi, my ex and I split before our child was born. Despite repeated assertions that I was still committed to the kid, she didn't tell me he had been born, and registered him before we had even met. I'm now applying for a declaration of parentage and PR, but can she move away in the meantime? If she does, what are my rights? Can PR work retroactively? Thanks for any help.
hk1815 - 4-Jan-17 @ 6:05 PM
Pleasehelp - Your Question:
I've been split from my child's father since she was 2 month old. He beat me up, once. He remains to this day aggressive and volatile towards me. I've stressed to him continously that this is unhealthy for our child. He sees her once a week and can never keep to his schedule. I started a new relationship at the beginning of the year however my ex caused alot of trouble for us. My partner is a U.S citizen and has moved there, got a job, a house and everything we need to build a fantastic life. My ex will never consent to it, we were never married but he is named on the birth certificate. This life we are being offered is without a doubt thee best life for my child and myself. I'm terrified that I will be denied the right to relocate, it breaks my heart to think there is nothing I can do to get away from this man. He is ruining my life, I would never stop my child seeing her father and would arrange visits to the UK twice a year, I will pay the flights. I just want to be allowed to move on, with my fiance and my child. Please help me here as I am just destroyed at the moment. I need some good news please. Do I stand a chance?

Our Response:
You do stand a chance, but if your ex is refusing consent, then it will have to be up to a court to decide what it thinks is in your child's best interests. You would have to apply for a specific issue order through the courts, please see link here. If you take your child without your ex's consent, you could be charged with abduction. However, if you can prove to the courts the move is beneficial and you are willing to visit the UK with your child as part of the agreement, then there is a good chance you will be given permission.
SeparatedDads - 28-Nov-16 @ 12:36 PM
I've been split from my child's father since she was 2 month old. He beat me up, once. He remains to this day aggressive and volatile towards me. I've stressed to him continously that this is unhealthy for our child. He sees her once a week and can never keep to his schedule. I started a new relationship at the beginning of the year however my ex caused alot of trouble for us. My partner is a U.S citizen and has moved there, got a job, a house and everything we need to build a fantastic life. My ex will never consent to it, we were never married but he is named on the birth certificate. This life we are being offered is without a doubt thee best life for my child and myself. I'm terrified that I will be denied the right to relocate, it breaks my heart to think there is nothing I can do to get away from this man. He is ruiningmy life, I would never stop my child seeing her father and would arrange visits to the UK twice a year, I will pay the flights. I just want to be allowed to move on, with my fiance and my child. Please help me here as I am just destroyed at the moment. I need some good news please. Do I stand a chance?
Pleasehelp - 27-Nov-16 @ 3:27 PM
Hi my husband is in the forces and yet again we need to move house, i got 4 children which 3 of them are my exhusbands. We will be moving almost 3hrs drive away from where my ex husband lives. He doesn't know yet we will be moving as its few months away yet. At the minute he sees children every other weekend and only pays on weeks when he sees them. He refuses to collect and drop off children saying we should split it in half(we live 1hour from each other), I would happily do that if he would pay regular maintenance. My question is can he possibly stop me from moving house?
Act - 3-Nov-16 @ 11:48 PM
Hi, My girlfriend is currently pregnant with our first child. She is from Ireland and moved over here 2 1/2 yrs ago. She has struggled with the pregnancy from the early stages with hyperemesis gravidarum and recently become more depressed, stating she wishes to move back to Ireland as that is where her family is. We live together in the UK and i have a job that I am unable to move away from or transfer, nor do I wish to. I also have no wish to move to Ireland. I'm led to believe I can stop her moving back to Ireland without my consent on the birth of the child, is this true and what other rights do I have to ensure that I do not lose access to my first born?
Thommo - 1-Nov-16 @ 11:28 PM
Rhianne - Your Question:
Me and my ex have recently separated his is now living with his new partner and I thinking about moving an hour away from where I am now as he and his partner live 3 doors down and it's very difficult for me to do anything with out them getting involved I have job opportunities there's and it's just the fresh start I need to provide a better life for my 3 yr old he will still have access every week end to see his son it's just I don't no how to go about this as he keeps threatening me with going to court I still want him to see him just as much as me I just can't bear being here any longer please help

Our Response:
Your ex is unlikely to have a case if you wish to move an hour away from where you are currently living, as this is unlikley to significantly disrupt his access to your child. You may wish to seek legal advice regarding this, and what the repercussions may be if you move without his consent (if he has parental responsibility). However, even if he is allowed to apply to court, it is highly unlikely a court would rule to bring you back once you were established. Moving to the other end of the country or abroad may significantly hamper his access, but not an hour away.
SeparatedDads - 25-Oct-16 @ 12:25 PM
Me and my ex have recently separated his is now living with his new partner and I thinking about moving an hour away from where I am now as he and his partner live 3 doors down and it's very difficult for me to do anything with out them getting involved I have job opportunities there's and it's just the fresh start I need to provide a better life for my 3 yr old he will still have access every week end to see his son it's just I don't no how to go about this as he keeps threatening me with going to court I still want him to see him just as much as me I just can't bear being here any longer please help
Rhianne - 24-Oct-16 @ 1:49 PM
Danno - Your Question:
I am from the UK and I moved up north 3 hours away with my wife and 2 kids as we we're having marriage problems and needed to get away closer to her family. Since then our marriage has not improved and I am missing my family and old job and dance and acting school I was involved in. Here where we live now my wife and myself just don't act like a married couple. More like friends and I am fed up being the one who does the cooking and housework etc as she is lazy. So many say we should break up and I was wondering if I moved back down south 3 hours away near my family and kids stay with her how will life be? Will be nice the kids not seeing us argue no more etc but what would they think of me being 3 hours away. They are aged 2 and 5.

Our Response:
Questions such as this are always impossible to answer because every family deals with separation in different ways, whether it's the adults or children and it often takes time for the new dynamic to adjust. Of course your kids are likely to miss you and just as much you them. It is easy to visualise what it may be like from the perspective of being inside the family, but I'm afraid this is no match from the reality of the situation and the fact you will be a considerable drive away from your kids and you will not have the day-to-day contact which makes most fathers feel suddenly emotionally distanced from their children's lives. Much also depends upon the love and security they will feel from your wife, once you leave. Our forum may be better able to help here, as you will get the advice of other fathers who have been through the same situation. I will also put a version of your comment on our Separated Dads Facebook page, as our other dads will help put this into perspective. Please refer to the page for answers. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 29-Sep-16 @ 11:37 AM
I am from the UK and I moved up north 3 hours away with my wife and 2 kids as we we're having marriage problems and needed to get away closer to her family. Since then our marriage has not improved and I am missing my family and old job and dance and acting school I was involved in. Here where we live now my wife and myself just don't act like a married couple. More like friends and I am fed up being the one who does the cooking and housework etc as she is lazy. So many say we should break up and I was wondering if I moved back down south 3 hours away near my family and kids stay with her how will life be? Will be nice the kids not seeing us argue no more etc but what would they think of me being 3 hours away. They are aged 2 and 5.
Danno - 28-Sep-16 @ 10:04 AM
My partner and I have recently split and he has takeen a new job and moved 30 miles away we live in Cornwall however I have no close family and my parents and siblings live in wick in the family home and I would like to return. His parents are threatening to try for full custody and if that doesn't work they are going to pay for him to try for full custody. They do not yet know that he was violent while I was pregnant but stupidly I did not think it would come to this all the proof I have is a witnesses to the brushing and the lodger hearing the argument. I have no problem with them having a relationship with our son and come and visit. I would just like to know where I stand and if I am possibly going to lose my son.
Bobby - 21-Sep-16 @ 8:33 PM
Hi I live in south England and the mother of my children has decided in the space of a few days to move to Scotland and take my boys with her. She has stated she's in the middle of a breakdown so i feel the move is an irrational act not fully thought through. Obviously i don't want my boys 500 miles away as I see them regularly but also I don't want to bug their mother too much as she is the type to prevent accesson a whim. Any advice would be great
SD - 17-Sep-16 @ 6:55 PM
Kary - Your Question:
My home situation with my partner is extremely difficult. I'm not going to get into the details but my three year old daughter and 2 month old son are being subjected to nightly shouting matches and no matter how many times I ask my partner to calm down and wait till they're asleep to discuss things, he continues to shout verbal abuse. He let out a torrent of swear words at me purposely with our daughter standing beside him and I've reached my limit. My question is, we live in Scotland but I have no family, job or friends here as all my family are in Northern Ireland, would it be possible for me to move myself and our children to Northern Ireland and discuss custody from there? I have no qualms about him seeing our children anytime he wants and would be completely fine with him visiting anytime he wants and even staying with us for short periods of time if he so desires. If I'm not contesting contact then surely as their primary carer and with him having a full time job I should be granted temporary custody at least until permanent custody was sorted out?

Our Response:
If you want to return to NI, then if he has parental responsibility you would have to request his consent before you made any move. If your partner refuses then the next option would be to take the matter to court and the court will decide what it thinks is in your children's best interests. There are parents that move away without requesting consent, however this can be classed as abduction. Therefore, you have to be careful. I suggest you seek legal advice.
SeparatedDads - 15-Sep-16 @ 2:22 PM
My home situation with my partner is extremely difficult. I'm not going to get into the details but my three year old daughter and 2 month old son are being subjected to nightly shouting matches and no matter how many times I ask my partner to calm down and wait till they're asleep to discuss things, he continues to shout verbal abuse. He let out a torrent of swear words at me purposely with our daughter standing beside him and I've reached my limit. My question is, we live in Scotland but I have no family, job or friends here as all my family are in Northern Ireland, would it be possible for me to move myself and our children to Northern Ireland and discuss custody from there? I have no qualms about him seeing our children anytime he wants and would be completely fine with him visiting anytime he wants and even staying with us for short periods of time if he so desires. If I'm not contesting contact then surely as their primary carer and with him having a full time job I should be granted temporary custody at least until permanent custody was sorted out?
Kary - 15-Sep-16 @ 9:26 AM
Marky - Your Question:
Hi,I am having huge problems getting to see my children. My ex is being very awkward and has now moved house without providing me with a forwarding address. I have now ceased maintenance payments because of this.Can you give me some advice what to do. The maintenance agreement was done via a court order so I will now be in contempt of court, which will obviously make things worse.HELP!

Our Response:
Firstly, you need to re-instate the child maintenance as you will be liable for the arrears, which as you say will make the situation worse and won't do you any favours in court. Your ex should have asked you for permission to move away with your children if you have parental responsibility. Therefore, you will need to apply through court for a contact order (C100) alongside this you can apply via a C4 form, which is an application for an order for disclosure of a child's whereabouts. This will allow the court to put a trace on your children to allow you to apply for contact. If you cannot afford the hefty legal fees, you can self-litigate, please see link here.
SeparatedDads - 1-Sep-16 @ 12:41 PM
Hi, I am having huge problems getting to see my children. My ex is being very awkward and has now moved house without providing me with a forwarding address. I have now ceased maintenance payments because of this. Can you give me some advice what to do. The maintenance agreement was done via a court order so I will now be in contempt of court, which will obviously make things worse. HELP!
Marky - 31-Aug-16 @ 9:55 PM
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