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How Can I Obtain a Contact Order?

By: Chris Nickson - Updated: 1 Aug 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
Contact Order Court Lawyer Ex Family

Q.

How can I obtain a Contact Order when I don't have an address for my wife and children? I only know the town they live in which is 100 miles plus away.

(D.T, 28 September 2008)

A.

First of all, in order to be eligible for a Contact Order, you must have what’s known as Parental Responsibility, which means either that you’re listed on the birth certificates of the children as the father, or you’ve obtained a Parental Responsibility Order (see our article on Your Separated Father's Rights).

Part of Parental Responsibility is the responsibility part, which means you’re almost certainly Paying Child Support of some kind. If you don’t have your ex’s address, it will likely be via the CSA (Child Support Agency).

However, don’t despair if you don’t have an address for your ex. You can go through the courts to obtain a contact order that will allow you time with your children.

You can apply to the court yourself, you will have to pay to submit your form but it is cheaper than the cost of a solicitor. You can use our article Which Court Form Do I Need? to find out which form to use and how to apply. From then on in you can represent yourself in court and with a little research you will be able to present to the court your expectations for contact and why you should be granted it. Read our article Representing Yourself in Court to get yourself started.

Of course, you can use family law solicitor to handle your case for you although you should be aware that the cost will be high.

Courts tend to work on a principle called “presumption of contact”, under which they do everything possible for a father to have contact with his children.

They will want a report on whether you can meet the needs of the child during a contact period, whether there’s any chance of harm coming to the child during contact, what the child desires, as well as their emotional and educational needs.

Although that sounds like a lot, it’s reassuring to know that some 90% of all Contact Orders are granted. If there’s a hearing then there will need to be a report from the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service officer, and interview with you, your ex, and others.

It sounds involved, and it does take some time, but bear in mind that it’s really all in the interests of the children.

So the first real step is for you or your solicitor, if you choose to hire one, to petition the court to grant you a Contact Order for your children. It’s helpful if you can supply their address, but it’s not mandatory, and you’re not the only one who’s not in possession of his ex’s address.

From there the court will contact your ex, and in the best of all possible worlds, they’ll work out an amicable arrangement.

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Gparke5 - Your Question:
Hi ,I broke up with my EX a year ago now. It didn't end on the best of terms. I started seeing a new women around the same time of the break up and my ex demanded she was not allowed around my children while I had them. I have agreed to this for a year. I pay for my children every month. Me and my partner have now moved into my new property together and I am not kicking her out of our home just because my ex says so. Because of this she is now going to stop me seeing them unless my partner doesn't see them which I am not willing to do anymore as I do not want her dictating what she can and cant do with my life with our children. She has told me to take her to court as she feels that the children wouldn't be safe with me. EVEN though I have them every weekend !! I don't know where to go or what to do because of this. I don't want it to drag out as I just want a normal life with my children. Where do I start and what procedure do I have to follow ???

Our Response:
Please see link: When Your Ex-Partner Denies You Access, here which will explain further. If you have written evidence such as emails and texts that show why your ex is restricting access, these will help your case 'if' she decides to put forward false accusations.
SeparatedDads - 1-Aug-17 @ 3:38 PM
Hi , I broke up with my EX a year ago now. It didn't end on the best of terms. I started seeing a new women around the same time of the break up and my ex demanded she was not allowed around my children while I had them. I have agreed to this for a year. I pay for my children every month. Me and my partner have now moved into my new property together and I am not kicking her out of our home just because my ex says so. Because of this she is now going to stop me seeing them unless my partner doesn't see them which I am not willing to do anymore as I do not want her dictating what she can and cant do with my life with our children. She has told me to take her to court as she feels that the children wouldn't be safe with me. EVEN though I have them every weekend !! I don't know where to go or what to do because of this. I don't want it to drag out as I just want a normal life with my children. Where do I start and what procedure do I have to follow ???
Gparke5 - 1-Aug-17 @ 3:13 PM
Hi I live in Australia and have not seen my son since 2011 when I moved there from the uk. We are both British but I am becoming an Australian citizen soon. I didn't tell me ex and she's gotten in contact with me. I now what contact but I am a stranger. I want me son to write me letters, Skype and send pictures. I don't know how to go about getting access so it's legal and I don't have to rely on my ex and so I get something in contact terms. I need to know if I have to pay back dated maintenance.I agreed to my son attending a private school but I hear that court orders include fees and my ex gets a big discount because she's military. I have said I don't want to to go now so I don't have to pay extra if she gets a court order, as the fees are classed as reasonable. I want him to go to a state school instead now. Can I force her to put him in one?
Joe - 27-Jul-17 @ 2:35 AM
lmg110 - Your Question:
Hi I split with my wife in March we have 2 young children a boy of 3 and a girl of 7 months. I'd like access to my children without her having to be present. Now I appreciate that due to feeding I cannot take my daughter away but she is refusing to give me access to my boy. I want to be able to take him to the park for a couple of hours but she flatly refused to let me take him. Im under the impression that legally she has no right to do that but what are my options ?Thanks

Our Response:
If your ex is refusing you access to your son, then you should seek mediation as a way to resolve the matter. If your ex refuses to attend mediation, then you can apply to court. The court wants fathers to have a relationship with their children, so unless there are circumstances that should prevent this, then access will be awarded. One other option is to ask a solicitor to write a letter to request access is reinstated, or you will take the matter further, please see link here. Sometimes this can work without having to resort to mediation and/or court.
SeparatedDads - 25-Jul-17 @ 12:02 PM
Hi I split with my wife in March we have 2 young children a boy of 3 and a girl of 7 months. I'd like access to my children without her having to be present. Now I appreciate that due to feeding I cannot take my daughter away but she is refusing to give me access to my boy. I want to be able to take him to the park for a couple of hours but she flatly refused to let me take him. Im under the impression that legally she has no right to do that but what are my options ? Thanks
lmg110 - 24-Jul-17 @ 2:58 PM
Bobby - Your Question:
Hi Me and my ex partner have been separated for several years now. He has always had fortnightly access of our two boys. A couple of months ago my eldest son did not want to see his dad and both me and my current partner did all we could to persuade him to resume contact and he did after missing two lots of contact. During that time his father had already chose to go down the legal route of getting a solicitor. I had a letter about mediation which I booked an appointment for but then seen as my son had resumed contact and everything was fine I no longer felt the need for it so rang up and cancelled. Recently I've even allowed more access time for their father allowing him to both pick them up from school and drop them back on his access weekends. Today I received court papers saying he's taking me to court for a contact order!? I'm confused as to where I stand with this as he has access and in the last 7 years it's only been affected once as explained above. Where do I go from here Many thanks

Our Response:
If you cancelled mediation, regardless of whether you thought the decision had been resolved, then this will have given your ex the option to apply to court. Your only option is to try to reason with your ex or go through the court procedure. If your ex is awarded a contact order, you would have to stick to this or risk being in contempt of court.
SeparatedDads - 14-Jul-17 @ 2:17 PM
Hi Me and my ex partner have been separated for several years now. He has always had fortnightly access of our two boys. A couple of months ago my eldest son did not want to see his dad and both me and my current partner did all we could to persuade him to resume contact and he did after missing two lots of contact. During that time his father had already chose to go down the legal route of getting a solicitor. I had a letter about mediation which I booked an appointment for but then seen as my son had resumed contact and everything was fine I no longer felt the need for it so rang up and cancelled. Recently I've even allowed more access time for their father allowing him to both pick them up from school and drop them back on his access weekends. Today I received court papers saying he's taking me to court for a contact order!? I'm confused as to where I stand with this as he has access and in the last 7 years it's only been affected once as explained above. Where do I go from here Many thanks
Bobby - 14-Jul-17 @ 12:54 AM
thereallady - Your Question:
My partner and I have been together for several months, and his ex-wife and him have been divorced since December 2016. She has unofficial residency of their two daughters. He pays monthly maintenance for the girls using the CSA calculator, and has never missed a payment. His ex-wife has a new boyfriend ,who has an aggressive temperament, and they both live together in the home with the children. After father's day and us telling her that me and my partner (her ex-husband) are getting married, she has cut off access until we can see mediation. All sorts of lies have been spinning around like my partners behavior is causing the girls to be upset, so she is using this as a leverage against us. The reality is that we have done nothing wrong and her and her new boyfriend are really hostile and offensive to us. We now have to go down the mediation route as this is her request but we just feel like we are pandering to everything she wants. My partner has rights, but aside from mediation costing £800 for one hour for all of us. is there nothing else we can do??

Our Response:
Unfortunately, mediation is the only option when parents cannot agree. The positive note is that your partners ex at least does want to try to make some kind of arrangement. It may not be a bad approach, as then at least an agreement will be put in place and if your ex does not agree then it will be open for him to apply to court.
SeparatedDads - 4-Jul-17 @ 2:56 PM
My partner and I have been together for several months, and his ex-wife and him have been divorced since December 2016. She has unofficial residency of their two daughters. He pays monthly maintenance for the girls using the CSA calculator, and has never misseda payment. His ex-wife has a new boyfriend ,who has an aggressive temperament, and they both live together in the home with the children. After father's day and us telling her that me and my partner (her ex-husband) are getting married, she has cut off access until we can see mediation. All sorts of lies have been spinning around like my partners behavior is causing the girls to be upset, so she is using this as a leverage against us. The reality is that we have done nothing wrong and her and her new boyfriend are really hostile and offensive to us. We now have to go down the mediation route as this is her request but we just feel like we are pandering to everything she wants. My partner has rights, but aside from mediation costing £800 for one hour for all of us..... is there nothing else we can do??
thereallady - 20-Jun-17 @ 2:37 PM
Thanks for your reply. I never mentioned that I am in Scotland. If the children point blank refuse to see their mother can the courts actually force them to do so? That would be contravening their rights surely?
SoloDad - 27-May-17 @ 12:21 PM
SoloDad - Your Question:
My wife left me and our three kids for another man. We are separated but not yet divorced. She lives in another town but her boyfriend lives directly across the street from us! As a result my kids (two of whom are under 16) do not want any contact at all with their mother.My wife seems to believe that courts can force our kids to see her but I believe that they have the right to refuse. Who is correct? Surely they have a right not to be forced to see her if they don't want to?

Our Response:
Much depends upon how old they are. Their mother has a right to apply for access to the children regardless of the situation and the reasons why she left - a court will not judge her on this. The children will be allowed to voice their preference regarding seeing their mother if they are over age-11. However, this does not mean the court will agree. It will always make a decision based upon what it thinks is in the children's best interests.
SeparatedDads - 23-May-17 @ 12:50 PM
My wife left me and our three kids for another man. We are separated but not yet divorced. She lives in another town but her boyfriend lives directly across the street from us! As a result my kids (two of whom are under 16) do not want any contact at all with their mother. My wife seems to believe that courts can force our kids to see her but I believe that they have the right to refuse. Who is correct? Surely they have a right not to be forced to see her if they don't want to?
SoloDad - 22-May-17 @ 5:28 PM
aid- Your Question:
Hello I have a little boy who now is 2 and he mum cheat on me with all my friends and now she stop me for see my little boy she only let me see him with one of my family member there and it kill me I can not take no more I want father time with my little boy I have never done anything wrong and all I want to do is be a dad to my son and I want to be able to take away and give a life I didn't have there alot of things that not let me go to court over this ever morning and night I am broke down and feel like I am no good because all I want to do is see my little boy ever day and it hurt me when I do see him and he go home because I never no when he is come back to see me

Our Response:
You do have rights to see your son, but you have to go through the correct channels in order to gain this if your ex is refusing you. This means initially suggesting mediation to your ex and then if mediation fails, you can apply to court, please see link here. If you are on a low income, you may be able to gain free mediation, a reduction in court fees and if you cannot afford legal representation in court, you can represent yourself. I also suggest you join a local support group such as Families Need Fathers, please see link here. It sounds as though you would benefit from speaking directly to fathers who are in the same situation and this will help to build your confidence to take the matter further.
SeparatedDads - 26-Apr-17 @ 12:34 PM
Hello I have a little boy who now is 2 and he mum cheat on me with all my friends and now she stop me for see my little boy she only let me see him with one of my family member there and it kill me I can not take no more I want father time with my little boy I have never done anything wrong and all I want to do is be a dad to my son and I want to be able to take away and give a life I didn't have there alot of things that not let me go to court over this ever morning and night I am broke down and feel like I am no good because all I want to do is see my little boy ever day and it hurt me when I do see him and he go home because i never no when he is come back to see me
aid - 25-Apr-17 @ 2:01 PM
My daughter (14) has lived with her mum since we broke up when she was 2. The mother has always made it hard for me to spend anything but small amounts of time with her, and has told me she does not have to tell me about their plans because she is the primary carer. This drives me crazy because I have to work sooo hard just to arrange a short holiday. Lately she says our daughter has mental health issues she attributes to 'trauma' (!?) and is taking her to see a counsellor who agrees (!) but won't tell me who or when. She did not want to take her to see a doctor, which I suggested at the outset. She is now using the mental health issue as a reason for me to spend less time with her 'because she needs to be at home'. I have NEVER seen my daughter behave in the ways she describes. She appears happy, bright, confident, stable, secure, present...my friends say the same things of her. My relationship with her has been great in the short times we have - until, at the end of my tether one day (being told what I was allowed to say to my daughter) I told her mother I would be contacting a solicitor to see that I get to spend meaningful time with my daughter and can be involved in her 'assessment/treatment'. My daughter is now cold towards me, recites things her mother has told her, and sees me as a threat who she does not want to see because I upset her mum. I have been trying to get her mother to agree to mediation but she says I need to get mediation to communicate with my daughter and understand 'her' needs and not be selfish. From experience it is pointless trying to discuss things with her mother myself- it is clear to me she would rather I did not exist. I have so much to offer my daughter- with school work, fun times, holidays, we have had some terrific (though usually short) times, although her mother won't leave her alone and keeps texting/calling which is very annoying. Even in my current 3 hrs per week! It feels like I am losing my daughter and it makes me really sad to see her look at me how she does now. I know the mother is making out that I am doing something bad by persisting with the mediation route, and I think she is scared of losing absolute control. I suspect she is emotionally dependent on our daughter and I fear that the harder I try the worse she will make it for me.
What2do - 21-Apr-17 @ 11:51 AM
sazb - Your Question:
My partner has two children aged 15 (16 this year) and 17 both as far we know in full time education.Can we apply for a contact order for the children (I know it is a long shot for the 17 year old) but my partner has not seen his children in a year and has contacted the mother but to no avail. His has text the children etc but again no response and birthday cards are now being returned.We have sent a letter to the mother requesting access maintenance is paid on time every month, and up to a year ago contact was not regular but at least allowed once every 3 months if lucky.What can we now do?

Our Response:
Child maintenance and child access have no bearing on each other which means by law fathers have to pay to help support their children whether they see them or not. If your ex wishes to see his children, in the first place mediation must be suggested as the courts will only allow an application where mediation has been refused or failed - please see link here and herewhich should help further answer your question. Incidently, as the children are both teenagers, should the matter go to court then the children will be able to voice their preference on whether they wish to see their father or not. The court will take on board their opinions and make the final decision based upon what 'it' thinks is in the best interests of the children.
SeparatedDads - 6-Apr-17 @ 10:29 AM
My partner has two children aged 15 (16 this year) and 17 both as far we know in full time education. Can we apply for a contact order for the children (I know it is a long shot for the 17 year old) but my partner has not seen his children in a year and has contacted the mother but to no avail.His has text the children etc but again no response and birthday cards are now being returned. We have sent a letter to the mother requesting access maintenance is paid on time every month, and up to a year ago contact was not regular but at least allowed once every 3 months if lucky. What can we now do?
sazb - 5-Apr-17 @ 3:56 PM
My daughter (14) has lived with her mum since we broke up when she was 2. The mother has always made it hard for me to spend anything but small amounts of time with her, and has told me she does not have to tell me about their plans because she is the primary carer. This drives me crazy because I have to work sooo hard just to arrange a short holiday. Lately she says our daughter has mental health issues she attributes to 'trauma' (!?) and is taking her to see a counsellor who agrees (!) but won't tell me who or when. She did not want to take her to see a doctor, which I suggested at the outset. She is now using the mental health issue as a reason for me to spend less time with her 'because she needs to be at home'. I have NEVER seen my daughter behave in the ways she describes. She appears happy, bright, confident, stable, secure, present...my friends say the same things of her. My relationship with her has been great in the short times we have - until, at the end of my tether one day (being told what I was allowed to say to my daughter) I told her mother I would be contacting a solicitor to see that I get to spend meaningful time with my daughter and can be involved in her 'assessment/treatment'. My daughter is now cold towards me, recites things her mother has told her, and sees me as a threat who she does not want to see because I upset her mum. I have been trying to get her mother to agree to mediation but she says I need to get mediation to communicate with my daughter and understand 'her' needs and not be selfish. From experience it is pointless trying to discuss things with her mother myself- it is clear to me she would rather I did not exist. I have so much to offer my daughter- with school work, fun times, holidays, we have had some terrific (though usually short) times, although her mother won't leave her alone and keeps texting/calling which is very annoying. Even in my current 3 hrs per week! It feels like I am losing my daughter and it makes me really sad to see her look at me how she does now. I know the mother is making out that I am doing something bad by persisting with the mediation route, and I think she is scared of losing absolute control. I suspect she is emotionally dependent on our daughter and I fear that the harder I try the worse she will make it for me.
What2do - 31-Mar-17 @ 11:39 PM
Ziggy - Your Question:
I've got two year old son and I haven't seen him for two months know. Since the relationship between myself and the mom has broken down. She's been coming up with excuses whenever I suppose to see my son. This very frustrating , because still helping out financial towards is up keep, but overall I would love to see him more. Has it is my first child. Any advice and help please. Damion

Our Response:
In the first instance, you would to have to suggest mediation in order to come to an access agreement, please see link here. However, if your ex refuses, or mediation breaks down, only then would you have the opportunity to take the matter to court.
SeparatedDads - 27-Mar-17 @ 2:27 PM
I've got two year old son and I haven't seen him for two months know. Since the relationship between myself and the mom has broken down. She's been coming up with excuses whenever I suppose to see my son. This very frustrating , because still helping out financial towards is up keep, but overall I would love to see him more. Has it is my first child. Any advice and help please. Damion
Ziggy - 25-Mar-17 @ 10:14 AM
Manj - Your Question:
I have been paying tbe wife's mortgage and also was a drunk but had rehab been sober and have not been back to the home due to her outbreaks of anger I left her twice over the last 18 months and now have a girlfriend who I share a room with in london can't afford to keep paying her mortgage and not have access I have had him for 12 days in total since Dec then she knew about my new girlfriend who is not a drinker but a yoga teacher and does not use anything and I can't see him my older boys are abusing to me and one time I did not talk or see him for 10 months. I made her a offer that she can keep the house and I will give £400 for my son every month but she said no and I still can't see him or have him if I get back with her I told her that I'm. Not going to go back as I kept on getting depressed being in a relationship that was harming her and me and I just want a divorce but she is Indian and want s to not have shame but I can't lie and live in a relationship that is not based on love and she does not want to give me my son saying I use drugs and drink which I don't. Her whole family mentally abused me and my family last week and my Dee son articles me and my other older son threatened to kill me and he also gave verbal abuse to my parents. They said they would get wittiness that I hit them and make up things so I can't have my son. I saw my son st his school I sneaked there and he is 12 and he asked me to get help and see lawyers so he can spend time with me as he misses me he hates it that his older brothers control him through religion and force and he just wants to see me. I don't have much money as I'm working to pay for her lifestyle and she is in a house with 250k equity in it and I said it's yours I want to move on and start again but want access to my son but no joy

Our Response:
Your finances and seeing your son are two completely separate issues and are not defined by each other. If you have a mortgage in your name, you are responsible for paying towards it otherwise the house is at risk of being repossessed. However, this does not mean a court would not allow you to see your son if you cannot pay. If you cannot afford legal advice, then the Citizens Advice Bureau may be able to help with some free guidance. If you need to take the matter to court to apply for a contact order to see your son and cannot afford a solicitor, you can self litigate - please see link here . You may also get a reduction in court fees if you are on a low income.
SeparatedDads - 22-Mar-17 @ 12:14 PM
I have been paying tbe wife's mortgage and also was a drunk but had rehab been sober and have not been back to the home due to her outbreaks of anger I left her twice over the last 18 months and now have a girlfriend who I share a room with in london can't afford to keep paying her mortgage and not have access I have had him for 12 days in total since Dec then she knew about my new girlfriend who is not a drinker but a yoga teacher and does not use anything and I can't see him my older boys are abusing to me and one time I did not talk or see him for 10 months. I made her a offer that she can keep the house and I will give £400 for my son every month but she said no and I still can't see him or have him if I get back with her I told her that I'm. Not going to go back as I kept on getting depressed being in a relationship that was harming her and me and I just want a divorce but she is Indian and want s to not have shame but I can't lie and live in a relationship that is not based on love and she does not want to give me my son saying I use drugs and drink which I don't . Her whole family mentally abused me and my family last week and my Dee son articles me and my other older son threatened to kill me and he also gave verbal abuse to my parents. They said they would get wittiness that I hit them and make up things so I can't have my son. I saw my son st his school I sneaked there and he is 12 and he asked me to get help and see lawyers so he can spend time with me as he misses me he hates it that his older brothers control him through religion and force and he just wants to see me. I don't have much money as I'm working to pay for her lifestyle and she is in a house with 250k equity in it and I said it's yours I want to move on and start again but want access to my son but no joy
Manj - 21-Mar-17 @ 8:50 PM
Matt - Your Question:
Hi there I'm in court for the 1st time next week to try and obtain a child arrangement order or a contact order. My ex partner refused to agree to mediation so I applied to the court and that's where I'm going now.I haven't seen my 11 year old since last June when she went heme to ask her mother if she could attend my wedding. I just want to no what's best for me to do as I don't just want to attended to be sent back to try mediation. I want a consent order that says as and when I can see my daughter every week alternate weekends. Is this reasonable or is there a better approach?

Our Response:
You will not be sent back to mediation. I'm going to put your question to our Separated Dads Facebook page and ask our members for some help. Please refer to link here for your answers and advice, which you should view objectively. The main plus with your application to see your child is that by applying for it, you have nothing to lose (as you have not seen your child for a year). Therefore, it will be up to the court to decide what it thinks is in your child's best interets (not your ex's). Also, once (if) a contact order is put in place, your ex will be warned that she has to stick to it. While much depends upon the circumstances surrounding the disagreement, the court in general does want fathers to have contact with their children. I hope this helps and best of luck.
SeparatedDads - 17-Mar-17 @ 11:11 AM
Hi there I'm in court for the 1st time next week to try and obtain a child arrangement order or a contact order. My ex partner refused to agree to mediation so I applied to the court and that's where I'm going now. I haven't seen my 11 year old since last June when she went heme to ask her mother if she could attend my wedding. I just want to no what's best for me to do as I don't just want to attended to be sent back to try mediation. I want a consent order that says as and when I can see my daughter every week alternate weekends. Is this reasonable or is there a better approach?
Matt - 16-Mar-17 @ 5:56 PM
Curlykev - Your Question:
My ex has said she will no longer allow me to see my two children. My ex has a drink and drug problem wich she denies. It all started because my eldest and I had a row and she wouldnt come with me Saturday I tried to explain to my ex but she just said tuff deal with it. As I have to catch 2 buses to wear I live I told her apart from dragging her wot am I supposed to do with that she off loaded a torent of abuse and attacked me snatched my 5 year old of me and told me Im not seeing the kids again and if I wanted to see them Id have to take it to court. I really dont want to drag the kids through all this. I was thinking of calling social services about her drink and drug use as Im being told all she does is scream and shout at them. Im at my witss end and this is really effecting me as I miss them so much.

Our Response:
If you can't resolve the issues between you, in the first instance you would have to suggest your ex attends mediation in order to try to resolve the issues between you, please see link here. If your ex still refuses, then please see link here which explains the procedure you would have to take. Seeking legal advice is also an option to consider.
SeparatedDads - 27-Feb-17 @ 2:36 PM
My ex has said she will no longer allow me to see my two children. My ex has a drink and drug problem wich she denies. It all started because my eldest and I had a row and she wouldnt come with me Saturday I tried to explain to my ex but she just said tuff deal with it. As I have to catch 2 buses to wear I live I told her apart from dragging her wot am I supposed to do with that she off loaded a torent of abuse and attacked me snatched my 5 year old of me and told me Im not seeing the kids again and if I wanted to see them Id have to take it to court. I really dont want to drag the kids through all this. I was thinking of calling social services about her drink and drug use as Im being told all she does is scream and shout at them. Im at my witss end and this is really effecting me as I miss them so much.
Curlykev - 27-Feb-17 @ 10:04 AM
So my little girl was born 6 weeks ago and her father is on the birth certificate , he has made no effort with her what so ever since she turned 3 days old. I ask him near enough every day or every other day if he wants to see her and he makes out that his going to work , then I later on find out he has been going to the pub. He smokes drugs as well , it took me every bit of strength I had in me to let him have my little girl for a few hours on his own today as he wanted time alone just the 2 of them to bond. We agreed a time to drop her of and to be collected . I took her over their when I arrived he told me he was taking her out with a friend to a job & to paint a door for work. I wasn't happy about as she breathes heavy so paint wouldn't be good especially at 6 weeks old. I said I would wait with my daughter at his house until he got back and he could see her later. He had been messaging throughout the day to say she was ok ,ect. Later on this evening I found out he took her to the pub so lied to me when he new this was the first time I've ever left her so was nervous as hell anyway and very emotional .... He too her to the pub and got a lift home off a friend who I'm positive and believe he was drink driving with her in the car and I found all this out from someone else. He smokes a lot of drugs and is now claiming to take me to court , I've never stopped him from seeing her but after my trust has been broken and he won't tell me where his taking her , I don't want him seeing her alone as I can't trust him anymore , can he do this? Would he get anywhere?
Lol - 26-Feb-17 @ 10:49 PM
Joey - Your Question:
Can someone give me some please. I have my child evey Other Friday. Till the Saturday evening but his mum don't stick to her times and. And don't take him back. And I'm having to ring up work as I can't attend as I have my child to look after. Can I contact a court to arrange set times. Or any think like that thanks

Our Response:
As court is always seen as a last resort, you would have to suggest mediation first to your ex in order to try to resolve the issue out of court. Please see link here.
SeparatedDads - 21-Feb-17 @ 12:32 PM
Can someone give me some please .I have my child evey Other Friday . Till the Saturday evening but his mum don't stick to her times and. And don't take him back . And I'm having to ring up workas I can't attend as I have my child to look after . Can I contact a court to arrange set times . Or any think like that thanks
Joey - 20-Feb-17 @ 4:40 PM
my wife deprive me from my own daughter that i never ever met
sariezz - 10-Feb-17 @ 1:31 AM
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