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Being Falsely Accused of Domestic Violence

By: Lorna Elliott LLB (hons), Barrister - Updated: 15 Jun 2019 |
 
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Every year, many people in the UK are falsely accused of domestic violence. The reasons for this are wide-ranging. Some partners or ex-partners make up allegations of domestic violence to get out of a relationship that they are otherwise unhappy with, others do it to spite their partners, while some still want to ensure that they stop (usually) the father from seeing the children.

In other circumstances, a stranger, someone you know, or perhaps your child’s teacher could become concerned about an injury to your child or something your child says – and refers Social Services to you. The tragic fact is that this does happen to people who are totally innocent of any crime. Sadly, although in this country you are ‘innocent until proven guilty’, the truth is that sometimes people can get charged and found guilty for domestic violence on very little evidence.

What Can Happen

You can be arrested while in your own home, in front of your partner and children, and in full view of the neighbours. Then you can be taken to the police station, your DNA taken and held on file, and interviewed while under caution. You could find yourself in court, charged with an offence for which you have done nothing wrong. Worst of all, you could end up with a criminal conviction and sent to prison. The problem is, when emotions are running high after a break up or divorce, one call to the police can have far-reaching consequences. If word gets around your local community, you could suffer verbal abuse, harassment or worse for being a ‘monster’.

Your Rights

If this happens to you, you need to be aware of your rights. You are entitled to legal advice at the police station. If you waive your right, you may end up saying something that could be misconstrued, especially if you are tired or are lulled into a false sense of security by the interviewing officers. There have been many cases that have been successfully brought by the Crown Prosecution Service purely on the basis of an admission in interview at the police station.

If you do speak to a lawyer, tell them the truth because if you are coy, or uncooperative, they are not going to be able to advise you properly. The police may bail you to return to the police station on another date. If they do this, you MUST ensure you go back on the day and at the time specified, or you will be charged with an offence of ‘failure to surrender’ and a warrant may be issued for your arrest. If you are innocent of any crime, be persistent, stick to the truth and try your best not to get angry at any stage. If you find yourself in court, it is vital that you come across as genuine and sincere about your innocence.

Implications For Your Accuser

If your partner or ex-partner accuses you of domestic violence, when you have in fact done nothing wrong, by the time the police are involved your ex has already committed a criminal offence for which they could receive a prison sentence of up to six months. If they then go on to falsify evidence to the authorities – the police, social services etc – they are then perverting the course of justice. If the case actually gets to court, and you find yourself in the dock on trial for something you haven’t done, your accuser would in most circumstances have to give evidence in court. If they are still lying at this stage, they are committing perjury. These are all serious criminal offences for which your ex-partner could serve a long prison sentence.

See our articles on Being Falsely Accused Of Child Abuse and Being Falsely Accused Of Rape on this site.

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it all sounds like playing the domestic violence card to me, all designed for maximum impact, with alot of hurt and pain, toward people who have been accused of something they havant done, and all design to get a house thru domestic violence,and a quick divorce, very clever, and now im having to talk to my solicitor and the Police, and to clear my name, as i did not assault my ex wife never ever, all this has done now is open a hole can of worms, i cant say much more because its being investigated, what mess all this is, why lie i just dont understand
mikyboy - 6-Jun-19 @ 12:52 PM
Hi, I have someone close in a situation wheredomestic violence social services has turned up on his door accusing him while not actually saying what. His partner has strenuously denied all they are accusing and I know for a fact theirs is not true. They have sent police round, she’s sent them away, they have tried putting words in her mouth, and basically are emotionally blackmailing her. They have 4 kids together and know this “woman” has said unless the father stays away from the house they will report her to child social services.....but if he stays away they will drop everything, so long he does. We think someone with a grudge has phoned up making false accusations. Any advice as he seems to be getting nowhere. Even though his partner has fully backed him.
Bert - 5-Jun-19 @ 12:08 PM
My ex wife who I told to leave some 24 months ago because I caught hercheating, anyway,I had her divorce forms come today, and on it she saidI was violent towards her and it’s been logged with the police, that hurt and upset me because I was never violent to her, and if I was to which I wasn’t why havnt the police been to see me or ask me questions ?She as lied. So much, and I guess that’s to get a house thru domestic violence and make the divorce quick, but it’s hurtful because I never ever was violent towards her
Mikyboy - 2-Jun-19 @ 4:19 AM
Is it possible that the mum doesn't realise what harm she is doing? I find it hard to understand why my ex is doing this and making it impossible for me to see my 3 kids. Is it a mental disorder because I never knew she was capable of doing this to me ? I am devastated. Why is she doing this to me ?! No violence but she has made claims I have
Devastateddad - 3-May-19 @ 3:57 PM
Can someone help me .my ex ran off with our son .so i took it to court for custody of him.on which i was granted by a judge .and as no one could find my ex to serve the order i still have not got my son .then 4.5 weeks into the battle my ex claimed domestic abuse which is clearly false.and somehow the order i was granted custody was frozen .as the father who brought our son up for 2 years .my ex now claims domestic abuse .with no evidence at all .and the fact is i as the father have six cd recordings of my ex verbally and mentally abusing myself and my son .which is now entered as evidence .but my ex seems to have also gained legal aid even with no evidence .and the cds of her speaking to myself and my son are very hurtfull aggressive and lots of swearing at myself and my son .and due to the way my ex speaks .anyone who as any common sense can see if i was domestically abusing my ex in anyway no way would she talk to myself and my son the way she did time after time as if that was the case tthen the partner if been abusive would not allow this verbal abuse to him and his son and my ex only claimed this domestic abuse after i won custody of my son .now still at court fighting for custody of my son it seems her lies and minipulation have got her legal aid and considering she as no evidence .and i have 6 cds at court as part of my sct scedule of her verbally abusing myself and my son .its now at the stage were a sycological assesment is to be done .before the next hearing also the fact is that my ex was not abused in anyway and only said it 4.5 weeks into the hearing and as ive stated if any one spoke to you like she would speak to myself and my son and each time get away with it .im sure the other partner would not tollerate this verbal abuse and do something so im confused to why she as legal aid with no evidence of abuse at all just her lies .but ive got evidence of her actually verbally abusing myself and my son which is evidence but still am haveing to fight my own case with no support from anyone .can any one give me any advice on this please i just want my son bk .thankyou .
K.j - 22-Mar-19 @ 7:02 AM
Part 1.....Dear Group I don’t know who to turn to to get this story heard, a massive injustice has been done to my son , my grandchildren and our whole family, my sons life has been ruined, I am going to tell you the story briefly in the hope that someone can help so this doesn’t ever happen to anybody else, I know it’s to late for us but this just must not happen again, In May 20017 my sons wife thought he was having an affair with a neighbor which he totally wasn’t, for a whole week they were arguing about this, it was bank holiday weekend May 2017 my son and the family went down to there caravan, on the Monday teatime my son left the caravan park as he had work the rest of the week and had to bring his teenage daughter from a previous relationship back, his wife stayed down the caravan until the Saturday morning with her mother in the caravan next door, they had been exchanging text messages all week while she was away, on the Saturday morning while my son was at work she returned home, she took some pictures in our bedroom of some injuries she had incurred somehow, my son returned home from work at around 2.45 pm on the Saturday as he was due to fit a carpet for his wife’s sister, he had promised his older son that he could go with him as he often did at weekends, his younger son decided he wanted to go also to play with his cousin, so they all 3 left to go to her sisters house,arrived at her sister house just before 3pm, was due to pick his daughter up around 5pm, so fitted a hall,stairs and landing carpet and arrived home to pick up the family car so he could pick his daughter up as she was spending the weekend with them as she often did, the car was not there and nor was his wife, so he called her to see where she was at cos he was in the van with both boys and there would not be room in van to pick his daughter up, so he called her and spoke to her friend who lived a short distance away, he asked to speak to his wife and she replied she needs space, so at this time he told her he needed to pick his daughter up and didn’t have room in the van, to which her friend replied you can drop them off here, so this is what he done, picked his daughter up and went home, at around 9 pm she arrived at the house with his eldest son who at the time was 7, she said to him she was having a sleepover at her friends house with the other 2 children but the eldest boy didn’t want to stay he wanted to stay at home with his dad, so she went in got some bits for the 2 children and herself and left, not really saying a lot, in the morning his wife’s dad came and picked the boy up, he spent the day with his daughter, at around 4 pm the police turned up and arrested him for gbh on his wife, totally shocked called his daughters mum to collect her, was held in custody all night and interviewed on the Monday, he was accused of on the bank holidayMonday morning down the caravan he got up in a bad mood punched her in the eye threw her out on the decking of caravan and
debs - 9-Mar-19 @ 9:29 AM
Part 1.....Dear Group I don’t know who to turn to to get this story heard, a massive injustice has been done to my son , my grandchildren and our whole family, my sons life has been ruined, I am going to tell you the story briefly in the hope that someone can help so this doesn’t ever happen to anybody else, I know it’s to late for us but this just must not happen again, In May 20017 my sons wife thought he was having an affair with a neighbor which he totally wasn’t, for a whole week they were arguing about this, it was bank holiday weekend May 2017 my son and the family went down to there caravan, on the Monday teatime my son left the caravan park as he had work the rest of the week and had to bring his teenage daughter from a previous relationship back, his wife stayed down the caravan until the Saturday morning with her mother in the caravan next door, they had been exchanging text messages all week while she was away, on the Saturday morning while my son was at work she returned home, she took some pictures in our bedroom of some injuries she had incurred somehow, my son returned home from work at around 2.45 pm on the Saturday as he was due to fit a carpet for his wife’s sister, he had promised his older son that he could go with him as he often did at weekends, his younger son decided he wanted to go also to play with his cousin, so they all 3 left to go to her sisters house,arrived at her sister house just before 3pm, was due to pick his daughter up around 5pm, so fitted a hall,stairs and landing carpet and arrived home to pick up the family car so he could pick his daughter up as she was spending the weekend with them as she often did, the car was not there and nor was his wife, so he called her to see where she was at cos he was in the van with both boys and there would not be room in van to pick his daughter up, so he called her and spoke to her friend who lived a short distance away, he asked to speak to his wife and she replied she needs space, so at this time he told her he needed to pick his daughter up and didn’t have room in the van, to which her friend replied you can drop them off here, so this is what he done, picked his daughter up and went home, at around 9 pm she arrived at the house with his eldest son who at the time was 7, she said to him she was having a sleepover at her friends house with the other 2 children but the eldest boy didn’t want to stay he wanted to stay at home with his dad, so she went in got some bits for the 2 children and herself and left, not really saying a lot, in the morning his wife’s dad came and picked the boy up, he spent the day with his daughter, at around 4 pm the police turned up and arrested him for gbh on his wife, totally shocked called his daughters mum to collect her, was held in custody all night and interviewed on the Monday, he was accused of on the bank holidayMonday morning down the caravan he got up in a bad mood punched her in the eye threw her out on the decking of caravan and
debs - 6-Mar-19 @ 9:26 PM
Part 3......we had £98,000 in equity in the house and she wanted it all on the grounds she was suffering pstd, she ended up with the majority of the proceeds of the house, cos she said she requires £65000 for a deposit for a shared ownership house, she got it He got the balance but had to clear all associated debts with the house out of his share which will leave him with £3000 towards his own debts that have accumulated by court costs, we have tried going to the police about all of her false accusations and how she has lied to police social services, the courts, we havemultiple folders of evidence on her lies we wanted to provide, they won’t even look, we keep getting told it’s a civil matter, we do not have the money to bring a civil case, she just walks free on everything, my son is a nervous wreck , he was a confident man before all this, he is suffering all of this because of a family court judge found wrongly against him, I don’t believe that a judge in family court should be able to find against somebody on a criminal matter until they are found guilty of what they are being accused of, cos even though he has been cleared of all criminal charges, he is still guilty in the family court, and this has cost him his children, how can this be right? There is so much more to this story that people would not believe, we had a barrister from Bedford row for the criminal case and she said in all her years of being a barrister she has never seen a case with so may accusations; I don’t ever want to see any other family suffer like we have the past couple of years, due to a family court judge: I have even written to the mp on this situation, people like her should be prosecuted themselves for false accusations, if my son had of been found guilty for her false accusations he could have got 10 year in jail, thank the lord it was criminal court and not family, at least the criminal court work on evidence not probability, how many more families have suffered the same as us.
debs - 6-Mar-19 @ 9:21 PM
Part 1.....Dear Group, I don’t know who to turn to to get this story heard, a massive injustice has been done to my son , my grandchildren and our whole family, my sons life has been ruined, I am going to tell you the story briefly in the hope that someone can help so this doesn’t ever happen to anybody else, I know it’s to late for us but this just must not happen again, In May 20017 my sons wife thought he was having an affair with a neighbour which he totally wasn’t, for a whole week they were arguing about this, it was bank holiday weekend May 2017 my son and the family went down to there caravan, on the Monday teatime my son left the caravan park as he had work the rest of the week and had to bring his teenage daughter from a previous relationship back, his wife stayed down the caravan until the Saturday morning with her mother in the caravan next door, they had been exchanging text messages all week while she was away, on the Saturday morning while my son was at work she returned home, she took some pictures in our bedroom of some injuries she had incurred somehow, my son returned home from work at around 2.45 pm on the Saturday as he was due to fit a carpet for his wife’s sister, he had promised his older son that he could go with him as he often did at weekends, his younger son decided he wanted to go also to play with his cousin, so they all 3 left to go to her sisters house,arrived at her sister house just before 3pm, was due to pick his daughter up around 5pm, so fitted a hall,stairs and landing carpet and arrived home to pick up the family car so he could pick his daughter up as she was spending the weekend with them as she often did, the car was not there and nor was his wife, so he called her to see where she was at cos he was in the van with both boys and there would not be room in van to pick his daughter up, so he called her and spoke to her friend who lived a short distance away, he asked to speak to his wife and she replied she needs space, so at this time he told her he needed to pick his daughter up and didn’t have room in the van, to which her friend replied you can drop them off here, so this is what he done, picked his daughter up and went home, at around 9 pm she arrived at the house with his eldest son who at the time was 7, she said to him she was having a sleepover at her friends house with the other 2 children but the eldest boy didn’t want to stay he wanted to stay at home with his dad, so she went in got some bits for the 2 children and herself and left, not really saying a lot, in the morning his wife’s dad came and picked the boy up, he spent the day with his daughter, at around 4 pm the police turned up and arrested him for gbh on his wife, totally shocked called his daughters mum to collect her, was held in custody all night and interviewed on the Monday, he was accused of on the bank holiday Monday morning down the caravan he got up in a bad mood punched her in the eye threw her out on the decking of caravan an
debs - 6-Mar-19 @ 8:55 PM
Final part 3 contd... we had £98,000 in equity in the house and she wanted it all on the grounds she was suffering pstd, she ended up with the majority of the proceeds of the house, cos she said she requires £65000 for a deposit for a shared ownership house, she got it He got the balance but had to clear all associated debts with the house out of his share which will leave him with £3000 towards his own debts that have accumulated by court costs, we have tried going to the police about all of her false accusations and how she has lied to police social services, the courts, we havemultiple folders of evidence on her lies we wanted to provide, they won’t even look, we keep getting told it’s a civil matter, we do not have the money to bring a civil case, she just walks free on everything, my son is a nervous wreck , he was a confident man before all this, he is suffering all of this because of a family court judge found wrongly against him, I don’t believe that a judge in family court should be able to find against somebody on a criminal matter until they are found guilty of what they are being accused of, cos even though he has been cleared of all criminal charges, he is still guilty in the family court, and this has cost him his children, how can this be right? There is so much more to this story that people would not believe, we had a barrister from Bedford row for the criminal case and she said in all her years of being a barrister she has never seen a case with so may accusations; I don’t ever want to see any other family suffer like we have the past couple of years, due to a family court judge: I have even written to the mp on this situation, people like her should be prosecuted themselves for false accusations, if my son had of been found guilty for her false accusations he could have got 10 year in jail, thank the lord it was criminal court and not family, at least the criminal court work on evidence not probability, how many more families have suffered the same as us,
debs - 5-Mar-19 @ 9:24 PM
Dear Group, I don’t know who to turn to to get this story heard, a massive injustice has been done to my son , my grandchildren and our whole family, my sons life has been ruined, I am going to tell you the story briefly in the hope that someone can help so this doesn’t ever happen to anybody else, I know it’s to late for us but this just must not happen again, In May 20017 my sons wife thought he was having an affair with a neighbour which he totally wasn’t, for a whole week they were arguing about this, it was bank holiday weekend May 2017 my son and the family went down to there caravan, on the Monday teatime my son left the caravan park as he had work the rest of the week and had to bring his teenage daughter from a previous relationship back, his wife stayed down the caravan until the Saturday morning with her mother in the caravan next door, they had been exchanging text messages all week while she was away, on the Saturday morning while my son was at work she returned home, she took some pictures in our bedroom of some injuries she had incurred somehow, my son returned home from work at around 2.45 pm on the Saturday as he was due to fit a carpet for his wife’s sister, he had promised his older son that he could go with him as he often did at weekends, his younger son decided he wanted to go also to play with his cousin, so they all 3 left to go to her sisters house,arrived at her sister house just before 3pm, was due to pick his daughter up around 5pm, so fitted a hall,stairs and landing carpet and arrived home to pick up the family car so he could pick his daughter up as she was spending the weekend with them as she often did, the car was not there and nor was his wife, so he called her to see where she was at cos he was in the van with both boys and there would not be room in van to pick his daughter up, so he called her and spoke to her friend who lived a short distance away, he asked to speak to his wife and she replied she needs space, so at this time he told her he needed to pick his daughter up and didn’t have room in the van, to which her friend replied you can drop them off here, so this is what he done, picked his daughter up and went home, at around 9 pm she arrived at the house with his eldest son who at the time was 7, she said to him she was having a sleepover at her friends house with the other 2 children but the eldest boy didn’t want to stay he wanted to stay at home with his dad, so she went in got some bits for the 2 children and herself and left, not really saying a lot, in the morning his wife’s dad came and picked the boy up, he spent the day with his daughter, at around 4 pm the police turned up and arrested him for gbh on his wife, totally shocked called his daughters mum to collect her, was held in custody all night and interviewed on the Monday, he was accused of on the bank holiday Monday morning down the caravan he got up in a bad mood punched her in the eye threw her out on the decking of caravan and kicked
debs - 5-Mar-19 @ 9:14 PM
@jim.my x (thinks right )and other )because where I live and the (life style I live )now thinks I am down and a (shadow off my former self) .well let’s set the record straight for starters I like where I live with (my brothers we all get along wouldn’t be there if we didn’t )and the benefits (financially is very rewarding ).just because I didn’t do the whole (marriage thing)or get girlfriend straight away like the rest off (my family they think there is something wrong hey there is (no rule book to life )why is my way wrong ?.i look at there life’s hey I don’t see( picture perfect happiness).as for been a shadow of my former self (dream on )I am (strongest I have ever been) no what I stand for and who I am as person (not little boy anymore )and I don’t need a (women to tell me it’s going to be alright like the rest off my family I know it’s going to be alright .I like been (single )wouldn’t want it any other way .and my ex tries to categorise label me ,like some off my family members ha ha .she is use to men bowing to her with my family members they might .not me mate I can tell you that my mates know who I really am .and as for women I do alright better then most .
Jake - 28-Jan-19 @ 2:50 PM
@jim.now I look at the (situation and laugh )I view her as a pathetic scared lost twisted individual I seen a photo off her and (I honestly can see the evil in her ).my only regret is (my daughter) I wish I had (full custody )off her .because( I know for a fact she would have been better off with me )i wish I was (older )when she was born .if I was she would have had a (fight on her hands) .like I said to my (uncle and step brother) boys (you can have her) go get her hey in reality boys you oh me big time so why you go get her bring my daughter to me and we call it even .
Gets better - 28-Jan-19 @ 12:23 PM
@jim.i can relate i grown up in a abusvie house then when very young was with a abusvie girlfriend who scream and shout call the police at the drop off a hat cheat beside me with teenage boys have (long affairs with my uncle )witch gave me (anxiety and depression later in life ) she (never worked )just a (nasty peace off work )wouldn’t have a (decent bone in her body )my advice (get out now )it’s so much better. Then you (realise )I should have done this (years ago )but (don’t dwell )on why you stayed for( so long) it will cause depression .write it off as bad life experience in my case I was (young and foolish )and didn’t (really care back then) to busy doing my thing it wasn’t to (later in life )I felt the suffering (she inflicted) onto me but quicker realised how to turn that into something productive and rewarding for my future and mine alone.
Gets better - 28-Jan-19 @ 11:55 AM
I have been with my partner for 9 months most of which she has been abusive and iv developed anxiety because of it. I havew tried to leave many times and I get met with im going to phone the police and put out a cause for concern and on a few occasions she has said I have hit her luckily for me the neighbours hear her all the time and have seen her chasing me about with knives in the past so no it isn't me, my partner has been charged with assaulting me 3 times and yesterday I decided I needed to get out of there I asked for her mum to come up to witness anything she might do. then my partner started shouting at me and her mum left. realising my witness had left I tried to leave behind her. my partner then through herself at the front door whilst screaming hes hit me hes hit me to which her mum reaplyed get a grip no he never and she then phoned the police on me. luckily for me the police and her mum seen through her lies and I was realesed without charge. I feel trapped if I leave will she try and get me jailed and if I stay will she continue to abuse me. I really dunno what to do
Jim - 28-Jan-19 @ 10:28 AM
@ginge.man that’s a story .i never had that much trouble with my ex .i have apologised for the( harassment to her family) .and tried my best for them to understand why I didn’t take legal action and DNA testingeven though it was (pointless and had to go to court again it gave me understanding) .i think they accepted my reasoning and understand the (awkwardness off the situation now i have grown up )and see for what it is .i wish there family all best .if I see my daughter as a adult great to then be happy and love yourself and remember it’s not the end off the world .
Laurie - 11-Jan-19 @ 12:07 AM
my partner is in a women refuge and my son when they leave the refuge will i be able to live with my family again there are no orders on my partner or son i spoke to the social worker involved for contact with my son and she told my i would have to see a solicitormy partner went up the local church and told the pastor that i was calling her names and she could not take anymore and then she was put in a refuge i have never hit my partner we have had arguing a bit more than normal and thats it can you please help me
tito - 23-Dec-18 @ 9:12 PM
my partner and child left me on november 6th 2018she went up the local church and told the pastor that she said i was calling her names and snappingat her she is now in a womens refuge i spoke to a social services about contact to see my son she told me to get a so;icitorwhen my partner comes out of the refuge will i be able to live with my family again there are no orders on my son or my partner or myself please can you help me with this thank you
tito - 23-Dec-18 @ 8:47 PM
Hi, I've recently had the most beautiful boy in the world. He's 4 weeks old now, first 3 weeks the best of my life the last week the worst and I do not see any way out. Me and my ex had a great relationship, crazy in love and the total best of friends! In the early pregnancy she was attacked by her own family member in which I broke them up with a push and said family member was injured and tried to press charges. Police interviewed me and my partner who explained she was 8 weeks pregnant and being attacked and it was self defence so charges were of course dropped. Family member then decided to be spiteful and go to social services and other routes and my partner then cut off all contact with her. Roll on the birth of our amazing son and 3 weeks of paradise she had been getting more and more stressed and down until one night, drink fuelled, she let loose on me. Attacked me and covered me in scratches, tried to drive away with the kids whilst drunk and uninsured, so I started recording all of this. She returned, took my phone and deleted all of my recordings. The following day she was all apologetic, however I couldn't let go of the driving thing and mentioned social services. She flipped out and took the children and I haven't seen them since. Then I am arrested days later for apparently assaulting her while she had the baby in her arms which is absolutely ludicrous and controlling her for 12 months stopping her see her family and controlling money. In the interview I told them the truth of what happened and that I give her money constantly etc. And I have been bailed without charge pending further investigation for 3 weeks on conditions of no contact! How can I see my child?? I can't face waiting any longer I'm very close to giving up on life I have no purpose anymore and I haven't even done anything wrong. She's not the person I thought she was she's completely changed overnight and made up some absolutely insane allegations which I believe are to prevent me from seeing my boy. This is the most important time in my life to bond with him and I can't cope anymore. I've tried ringing every organisation and solicitor out there and nobody is giving me any answers. What can I do???
Tony - 30-Nov-18 @ 2:27 AM
My ex wife accused me with theft and domestic violence in trail the court see i am guilty and ask to send me to probation officer to make report before make the sentence from the day I arrested my wife ban me to see the kids and i don’t know what should i do and what will happened with me
Tem - 10-Nov-18 @ 4:56 AM
I'm going through the the same with my ex we broke up last year as she didn't have the bravery to tell me she had been cheating, so instead she made allegations about me being domestically violent and managed to disappear with my son, who since he was born I have been the main support for him as my ex thinks it's ok to sleep and use drugs 24/7, we reconciled April of this year now same as last year same time she done it again but this time she broke my hand, and even after I phoned the police on the night of the incident no-one came to see me, next day after working a 12hr shift I get into bed to have a knock at the door and find myself being tackled by 4 of them and being taken to the police station to spend the night and most of my work day with no way if contacting anyone as I was in my PJ's wen arrested, and to top it all off as I was leaving I was told that she had come back to the joint flat had the locks changed now I'm homless, un-emplyed and without my son, is their anyway to prove my inocence without having to face off against her as she has no qualms about lying to benefit herself and by the time I clear my name I would have lost another few years of my boys life ,should I just walk away or fight her?
Rmk - 29-Oct-18 @ 3:55 AM
Ex claimed dv and got legal aid. Dropped in court. Will she be able to claim legal aid again after Final Order?
Jambo - 30-Sep-18 @ 10:31 AM
I've been with my wife for 12 years. Recently found out she was cheating on me. We argued about it, got heated so since then I've slept on the sofa. 3 weeks later I get served with a non molestation order and an occupation order, I'll seen a solicitor and they said it will cost minimum 2 thousand pounds to defend. She's getting legal aid. I've never laid a finger on her. Need to see if anyone else has been through this situation and won
Kurtisdx - 30-Sep-18 @ 6:46 AM
Need help Social Services are saying I am not allowed to see my son because I've been done for neglect 25 years ago my son is 6 weeks old my oldest daughter Kate who is 25 got adopted I was with the same person we had another two children Sonny and cherish my wife passed away and I bought my kids up on my own they have now moved out and got their own places I have got myself into a new relationship everything was going absolutely fine until social services said that I need to be assessed the stress and trauma that has Arisen they are holding something against me which is in a prehistoric time I am the youngest out for I was mentally tortured as a child and I didn't know what was wrong and right because the way that I've been brought up as a child and as I'm getting older it's getting worse I am a good father I love my son and it is tearing me apart not be able to see him I haven't got much money I just need someone out there to help me and give me support because I can't carry on I love my partner my partner wants to be with me every night I fall asleep with my son's pyjamas because of the smell it is killing me as a human being what word has social services got over me when I bought two kids up on my own there is always fed always gone school on time always clean and tidy nice home now I got social services telling me that I can't see my son because of an offence 25 years ago if they had any concerns they should have done it 25 years ago but I was bringing my kids up on my own
Alec - 28-Sep-18 @ 7:04 PM
My girlfriend has called the police on me over 10 times for apparently not leaving the house and assaulting her. she has got me arrested 3 times for things i haven't done. Now the police have put a28 day restraining order out on me not to see her. she is 9 weeks pregnant with my child and she has a social worker who is trying to stop me from seeing my girlfriend by moving her away. In regards to seeing my child when it is born, because shes made several accusations stating im assaulting her etc when i'm not, will they stop me seeing and being apart of the childs life even if my girlfriend wants me to be. also what shall i do in these 28 days that i cant see or talk to her as she will be all alone and need support physically and mentally as she suffers from depression and will message or ring me to come help.
jordyboy94 - 27-Sep-18 @ 10:28 AM
Hi. Going through divorce as wife having an affair. I froze the joint bank account to stop either of us using it. Only my wages are paid into it. Worried she would rob. I asked if she would go into bank and remove her name to allow bills to be removed. Also pictures of her man appeared on my son's phone. We had a heated argument. I walked away as getting no where. She has then phoned police telling them I raised fist and threatened her. At no point did this happen. My 10 year old son was in and I sat with him. He asked me why mum doesn t love him anymore. How can I prove my innocence in this. I am scared of what she trying to do and use against me now.
Graeme - 25-Sep-18 @ 2:05 AM
How about if you were recorded on a call by your ex, willing to accept any false accusation of domestic abuse because you're having a panic attack and she insinuates that if you do, she would come home and let you see your child again? Because I think that kind of mental torture to extract a false guilty plea should not be able to be entered as evidence for the prosecution.
Merp - 25-Sep-18 @ 12:45 AM
What should i do if my ex wife accused me with falsely domestic violence and when I arrested they asked me to not contact with her directly or indirectly also not allow to see my kids until I arrange it through my solicitor also dont go her street at all so what should i do to see my kids until the case is over my solicitor asked me to go for family solicitor to help me and i am suffering from that case from paying so any advice on any way i can access my kids fast and less cost I Feeling too bad from the time i stop seeing my kids and really don’t know what should I do Thanks
Tim - 8-Sep-18 @ 5:01 PM
Over separation My Ex falsely accused me domestic violence and i found myself one day in morning time arrested and take me to the police station in front of my neighbors stayed there whole the day in the end I found myself charged to attend court and not allow to see or contact my kids and feel too bad fully stressed and I don’t know what will happen tomorrow....
Tim - 8-Sep-18 @ 3:54 AM
@Dan - man - that is not a nice thing to be saying about your son. It depends on what extent the heated arguments were and whether you consider yourself to be a bully. It sounds like your ex has concerns and that's why she is stopping overnight contact. It's time to look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself the honest question of whether she is right and you are wrong? If my ex called my kid a little s**t or similar I'd be worried.
DaveT - 9-Aug-18 @ 10:45 AM
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