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Relationship Breakdown: 'Lies' About Behaviour

By: Lorna Elliott LLB (hons), Barrister - Updated: 22 Nov 2017 |
 
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When a divorce or separation gets ugly, either party or both parties can begin to fling mud at each other. They do this to undermine each other’s position, or simply because they are angry and hurt. Once two people who once felt extreme passion for one another are no longer together, the emotions can quickly turn to hate. The messiest divorces can become very destructive indeed, as both parties decide that it is all about who ‘wins’ and who ‘loses’. In fact, there are no winners in a divorce. Both parties are losing something that they thought was permanent, a relationship that they at some point thought was going to last forever.

The Truth About Lies

Statistically, more than 75% of the accusations that are made during a divorce are untrue. They arise for several reasons:
  • To cause trouble for the other person or an act of pure revenge
  • To discredit the other person, so that they are closer to ‘winning’
  • A combination of the two, to show how much they are ‘in charge’

Types of Lies

Lies about drug abuse are common when relationships break down. This doesn’t necessarily mean illegal drugs, but also alcohol abuse “she always drank too much, she was embarrassing in public” to “he was addicted to painkillers, without them he became a nightmare”. Another common type of lie is about illegal behaviour. Whether it’s tax fraud, animal cruelty, benefits fraud, or flouting planning permission requirements – you might find yourself faced with a whole load of awful allegations that are completely untrue.

A less common allegation is of satanic worship. It may sound far-fetched but in messy divorces it can happen. All of these allegations are usually a ploy to get you investigated by one or more public or legal authorities. It may be a real nuisance to have to deal with, but in the event that this does happen lies told by an ex-partner are usually very quickly exposed.

Perhaps the most common allegation is of promiscuous behaviour during the relationship. This could range from alleging internet pornography use, a string of affairs with unknown others, or an affair with someone you both knew. A high-profile example of this was when Katie Price accused Peter Andre of having an affair with his agent, and had to pay a substantial sum in damages after he brought a claim for libel in the High Court. Sometimes these allegations can be extreme, such as accusations that you took part in commercially available pornographic films or internet clips. With developments in technology, it’s very easy to see how cropped photographs and forged documents can end up being used to back up these types of lies.

If You Are Accused of a Crime

If you find yourself Falsely Accused Of A Criminal Offence, it’s very important that you know your rights. It is always illegal to falsely accuse someone of a crime, and you should not rest until you have cleared your name. Your accuser may be wasting police time, Perverting The Course Of Justice or Committing Perjury – if your case ends up in court. Hopefully, none of this will ever happen to you but if it does, tell your lawyer the truth and be calm but persistent about what you know to be the correct version of evens.

Check out the Separated Dads Forum... It's a great resource where you can ask for advice on topics including Child Access, Maintenance, CAFCASS, Fathers Rights, Court, Behaviour or simply to have a chat with other dads.

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My partner at the time in 2011 accused me of domestic violence but the police officer never said or told me of the accusation made by my partner on the day he made the accusations, he left me for a few hours that day but come back, it was three months after that I found in a pocket of his a leaflet for victim support against domestic violence, I asked him and he just lowered his head, I was broken hearted he could accuse me of this, but why did he come back why ask me to marry him, but he was also setting up accounts with my details, emailing the police as if it was me using his email addresses falsely accused me of trying to hack his dads computer also of harrasment,he walked out on me in 2013 to live with the women he was cheating on me with, I have asked to be arrested or for answers towards question asked to police who brought a mental health team into me threatening to section me in hospital if I carry on asking questions and did not shut up and move on, were is the fairness in providing help and support of getting my questions answered and to prove what he accused me of was all lies.
Kim - 22-Nov-17 @ 5:17 PM
Mark - Your Question:
My wife accused me for domestic violence, the she changed her statement at the police station, she told then firs I hit her then she said she hit herself accidentally, after that, the social workers became involved. However, I was released from the police station without charge. 2 months later she applied for disabilities based on fraud claims and she was awarded the standard rate of £300 a month for daily living and mobility allowance, she told me if you dont apply for carer you will be out and never see your children again. So I had to apply for it and I became her carer. This situation continue for over than 18 months. Until I decided to write to the job centre about her fraud claims. However, she continued receiving £300 a months until now because she claimed she is very depressed because of our relation and she was receiving anti depressant from her Gp and through it in the toilet, she told me this £300 is a big gift, and will cover lots of things that she likes , in addition to blue badge for free parking in any place and free bus tickets and free school meals for five children. My question; I have separated from her since three months. She gave me permission to see my children at any time and to take them out, 2 of my children age 11 and 13 told me she is hitting them very badly they told me that in writing by text messages and verbally when I saw them. When she accused me for domestic violence I was released without charge and she changed her statement on the next day and she told the police it was not my fault, however, she told the social workers I hit her but she forgave me to keep the family united. Now we are separated and she is moving forward to get divorce after 18 years of marriage. She is hitting my young children almost every day but I dont have proof except the text messages from my children can I get the right for custody based on this circumstances?? Thank you

Our Response:
If you have text messages from your children, then those text messages may be used in evidence. If you cannot resolve these issues via talking it through with your ex directly regarding what you think is in the best interests of your children, I can only suggest you seek legal advice. Mediation and possibly court would be your next options. If the matter goes to court, Cafcass would get involved, please see link here .
SeparatedDads - 7-Nov-17 @ 10:59 AM
My wife accused me for domestic violence, the she changed her statement at the police station, she told then firs i hit her then she said she hit herself accidentally, after that, the social workers became involved. However, i was released from the police station without charge. 2 months later she applied for disabilities based on fraud claims and she was awarded the standard rate of £300 a month for daily living and mobility allowance, she told me if you dont apply for carer you will be out and never see your children again. So i had to apply for it and i became her carer. This situation continue for over than 18 months. Until i decided to write to the job centre about her fraud claims. However, she continued receiving £300 a months until now because she claimed she is very depressed because of our relation and she was receiving anti depressant from her Gp and through it in the toilet, she told me this £300 is a big gift, and will cover lots of things that she likes , in addition to blue badge for free parking in any place and free bus tickets and free school meals for five children. My question; i have separated from her since three months. She gave me permission to see my children at any time and to take them out, 2 of my children age 11 and 13 told me she is hitting them very badly they told me that in writing by text messages and verbally when i saw them. When she accused me for domestic violence i was released without charge and she changed her statement on the next day and she told the police it was not my fault, however, she told the social workers i hit her but she forgave me to keep the family united . Now we are separated and she is moving forward to get divorce after 18 years of marriage. She is hitting my young children almost every day but i dont have proof except the text messages from my children can i get the right for custody based on this circumstances?? Thank you
Mark - 6-Nov-17 @ 7:16 PM
Angie- Your Question:
My partners is a Bi-polar, and has had 2 episodes since December 2016. He was discharged from hospital 31 Dec 2016, but since that time his ex is refusing to permit him access to his 2 children. She was aware of the BP when they married and indeed when they had children together. She was permitting access twice weekly until the December episode (she insisted she was present for this contact), but since December 2016 she has not allowed visits, she has permitted phone calls and Skype contact. The 2nd BP episode was in May 2017 and she is now refusing any contact either face to face, phone, Skype, text etc. She says she will not permit any contact with children until she knows exactly what happened in May 2017 around the BP hospital admission (voluntary). We have started mediation/Court process but she is now threatening to tell the Courts the reason she left Mike was he was aggressive to the children. they divorced 6 years ago, if this was the case why had she allowed access up until Dec 2016??? She is saying children don't want to talk to their dad, will Courts take her word on this? CAN SHE DO THIS !!!

Our Response:
She can attempt to do this. However, as there are two sides to every story and the courts have to unpick what they deem to be truth against non-truths. This is where Cafcass comes in, please see link: What Goes into the Cafcass Family Report? here which will explain more. However, the courts do come across parents who tell lies, so are accustomed to dealing with matters such as this. If his ex has any proof he was aggressive to the children, then this will help her case. If your partner has texts or evidence of her threats, this will help his. If she does not have evidence, then lying in front of a judge and court is very different than dishing out idle threats to your partner if he attempts to take the matter to court. The fact your partner made a voluntary hospital admission shows he is sensible and rational regarding any extremes in his personality disorder.
SeparatedDads - 31-Aug-17 @ 11:42 AM
My partners is a Bi-polar, and has had 2 episodes since December 2016.He was discharged from hospital 31 Dec 2016, but since that time his ex is refusing to permit him access to his 2 children.She was aware of the BP when they married and indeed when they had children together... She was permitting access twice weekly until the December episode (she insisted she was present for this contact), but since December 2016 she has not allowed visits, she has permitted phone calls and Skype contact.The 2nd BP episode was in May 2017 and she is now refusing any contact either face to face, phone, Skype, text etc. She says she will not permit any contact with children until she knows exactly what happened in May 2017 around the BP hospital admission (voluntary). We have started mediation/Court process but she is now threatening to tell the Courts the reason she left Mike was he was aggressive to the children... they divorced 6 years ago, if this was the case why had she allowed access up until Dec 2016??? She is saying children don't want to talk to their dad, will Courts take her word on this? CAN SHE DO THIS !!!
Angie - 29-Aug-17 @ 2:38 PM
I recently moved out of my family home so me and my partner could have a break from eachother, it's a joint tenancy so we have equal rights! She contacted the council and community law and she got told the same thing as I did and that, she can't stop me going back! So now my ex as contacted the police and informed them I've hit her because she can't stop me from going back?? Help me please
Helpme - 12-Aug-17 @ 2:38 PM
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1stWorldNews - 11-Aug-17 @ 3:26 AM
kaner - Your Question:
My partner's ex said she has gone to a solicitor today and said I was lyen for him so the solicitor has said I'm never to see there kids ever I have never met his kids we are togather over 2 yes can she really do this ???

Our Response:
Your partner's ex can forbid you from seeing his children. However, you can challenge this through the courts if you disagree and the courts will decide what it thinks is in the best interests of the children.
SeparatedDads - 20-Jun-17 @ 2:04 PM
My partner's ex said she has gone to a solicitor today and said I was lyen for him so the solicitor has said I'm never to see there kids ever I have never met his kids we are togather over 2 yes can she really do this ???
kaner - 19-Jun-17 @ 6:55 PM
After almost 7 years of marriage I decided to end my relationship and moved separately from my wife that is the European national. I had EEA residence card at the time and still valid when divorce got done around 1 year after separation. After that I stayed around 1 extra year and decided to leave UK by my own decision, still with valid visa during all my stay which was lawfully and true. And I DID NOT try to apply for "retained rights of residence" and I just left the country spontaneously. Because the end of my relationship was not friendly my ex wife keeps on threatening that she accused me to the Home Office of fraudulent visa application and to have married her to get visa. My question is about how much she can prejudice me with these false allegations??? Because soon I will get married with another European national and we are planning to go to the UK. Is it possible for the Home Office or UK border control refuse me entry visa to the UK even after married to another European national because of those false allegations? If so, what should I do to defend myself? I don't want to have problems to return to UK with my new wife.
Eduardo - 7-Jun-17 @ 5:24 AM
Hi just wundering if anyone has any advice my xs 13 year old daughter is making false aliigation about touching her inapropriatly to family and friends and i have two children with my x and im scared of asking to see them because im not sure how far shes prepared to go what shall i do????
Tom - 27-May-17 @ 6:37 AM
jimmy - Your Question:
My sons ex is constantly up and down making big arguements out of nothing,an example being he was concerned about his sons diet because of the stools he was leaving in the potty where constantly hard and he had trouble passing them,so my son asked her when he returned his son,he asked in a polite manner and was told he will only eat pizza,cheese sandwich or toast and shut the door,later that evening she is ranting down the phone and texting basically how dare you question my parenting,and goes on to say "you are making me wonder if you should have contact with our son as you and your parents think I am a bad mother and trying to interfere "and on and on another occassion we noticed he smelt of smoke and we had the same outcome,the period of denying access are getting longer and also she will not tell the child maintance that we have him for more than the one day,it's normally 2 on school time plus a half day after pre school,holidays can be 3 to 5 days.Ihave looked up her behaviour patterns and it points towards Narciccisiam,this is only a snip of her she constantly lies ,saying schools and other assosiations are advising her to withdraw contact out of the blue,so my son contacts these people and is told no defiinatly we did not say this and would not say this,then the abuse starts from her again ,it as now resulted in her being to embarresed to take him to school as she did'nt expect to be caught out,access denied for this at the present time until she decides what is going to happen,please advise us of what can be done and is there anyway she can be assested mentally as the effects can be seen on our grandson.

Our Response:
It is very easy and can be dangerous to label someone with a particular personality disorder if you are not a qualified psychologist. The internet allows us to think we can diagnose others - but it can be grossly inaccurate. Unless that person seeks help themselves, or feels they have a mental-health problem there is little you can do to force this issue. Also, just because that person shows similar traits to certain disorders, it doesn't mean they actually have that disorder. Your only recourse in a situation such as this is for your son to suggest mediation to try and resolve the issues of access, or if she refuses he would have the option to take the matter to court. Once a court order is in place, both parents will have to stick to it. It is not unusual for one or either parent to become irrational after a separation, especially if both parents don't see eye-to-eye. It is not about trying to continually create a one-upmanship against the other parent, parents really need to try to get on and work together for the sake of their kids. Please also see link herewhich may help further. I'm not trying to undermine your son's concern regarding his ex's parenting - but when two people rub each other up the wrong way, it can often result in irrational responses in many different ways and as a result be extremely counter-productive and spiral out of control.
SeparatedDads - 16-May-17 @ 11:17 AM
my sons ex is constantly up and down making big arguements out of nothing,an example being he was concerned about his sons diet because of the stools he was leaving in the potty where constantly hard and he had trouble passing them,so my son asked her when he returned his son,he asked in a polite manner and was told he will only eat pizza,cheese sandwich or toast and shut the door,later that evening she is ranting down the phone and texting basically how dare you question my parenting,and goes on to say "you are making me wonder if you should have contact with our son as you and your parents think i am a bad mother and trying to interfere "and on and on another occassion we noticed he smelt of smoke and we had the same outcome,the period of denying access are getting longer and also she will not tellthe child maintance that we have him for more than the one day,it's normally 2 on school time plus a half day after pre school,holidays can be 3 to 5 days.Ihave looked up her behaviour patterns and it points towards Narciccisiam,this is only a snip of her she constantly lies ,saying schools and other assosiations are advising her to withdraw contact out of the blue,so my son contacts these people and is told no defiinatly we did not say this and would not say this,then the abuse starts from her again ,it as now resulted in her being to embarresed to take him to school as she did'nt expect to be caught out,access denied for this at the present time until she decides what is going to happen,please advise us of what can be done and is there anyway she can be assested mentally as the effects can be seen on our grandson.
jimmy - 15-May-17 @ 1:14 PM
My son and his wife have separated now for 10 months, and she has done nothing but accuse him of abuse and now saying he raped her. He has been arrested and been trying to do everything right for her, she went off with someone else and through him out of the home, he has a number of children and she is doing everything to make his life hell. She has said she will ruin him and brake him. She is now doing it. Please help Worried mum
Worried mum - 6-Apr-17 @ 7:44 AM
My sons ex girlfriend accused my son of asalt he went to court and found not guilty she still has a molestation order in place and makes any excuse to get him arrested falsely accessing him of contacting her when he hasn't every time the police just keep arresting him it all so one sided and unfair
Nellsta - 22-Mar-17 @ 11:01 AM
@H - thanks for this positive advice - this has come just when I need it and when can't currently see a way through this hell that is not allowing me to see my kids. Jake.
JK - 14-Mar-17 @ 2:37 PM
re the comment about being fausly accused of DV i went through the same i had a non molestation order against me, i fought it in court and the judge dimmised it. i know exactly how you feel as a father you are 2 steps behind the mother from the start., i now have full custody of my son and he sees his mum 16 hours a week. you can prove the truth it takes time and a lot of frustration but it can be done. the first thing i advise is to go to court to get a contact order, the rest will follow and good luck to all fathers in the same boat. Always remember Judges are honest and see thru lies, they will never stop a dad from seeing his child unless there is a very serious reason.
H - 14-Mar-17 @ 9:21 AM
My step daughter has went to social services saying that i man handle her and am abusive to her my partners ex was violent i am bot what do i do
Pady - 1-Mar-17 @ 4:57 PM
Camv - Your Question:
Please can someone who has been through this offer me help of what to do. My boyfriend had some kind of breakdown in the night. His ex accused him of several sexually offenses against her to get him out of her life and to stop him being able to see his daughter. He went to prison for several weeks. Was given bail and has been waiting over a year for the trial. He is a broken man now. I woke in the night to find him sobbing like a child. He is not sleeping and blames me that I keep waking him up, but I know it's all the mess in his head. He won't take the anti depressants the doctor gave him and he drinks and thinks it helps him but I feel that makes him worse. What can I do to help him? I am scared of doing the wrong thing and making him worse ??

Our Response:
I am sorry to hear this. I can direct you to three links: Being Falsely Accused of Domestic Violence, here, and here. If you also want to find out more about how you can help the person you are supporting, you can contact FASO, please see link here . High anxiety levels, severe depression, ill health, and associated symptoms of trauma are the effects of false allegations and these can overlap into other members of the family who are trying to support the person accused. I can only suggest you and your partner see your GPs to see whether there is any counselling he/you could be referred to. Anti-depressants aren't really the answer to someone who is actually traumatised and needs see a way through these issues with something other than medication.
SeparatedDads - 7-Feb-17 @ 11:11 AM
Please can someone who has been through this offer me help of what to do. My boyfriend had some kind of breakdown in the night. His ex accused him of several sexually offenses against her to get him out of her life and to stop him being able to see his daughter. He went to prison for several weeks. Was given bail and has been waiting over a year for the trial. He is a broken man now. I woke in the night to find him sobbing like a child. He is not sleeping and blames me that I keep waking him up, but I know it's all the mess in his head. He won't take the anti depressants the doctor gave him and he drinks and thinks it helps him but I feel that makes him worse. What can I do to help him? I am scared of doing the wrong thing and making him worse ??
Camv - 6-Feb-17 @ 7:17 AM
LostAndLonelyDad - Your Question:
Just as a post script...last time she did a similar thing and she told them I didnt want to see them. Can I do ANYTHING so I can tell them that it is NOT ME STOPPING THEM..because they will believe her..they did once before. Also they are going to a school disco..am I allowed to turn up at an event like this or will that cause trouble? She has no official order saying I cannot see them but it seems to me she is just allowed to say anything and do anything she likes and I cannot do A SINGLE THING about this?Is this actually true? Can she just make up stories and DECIDE they are FACTS and stop me seeing my kids on the strength of these lies ?Is it really THAT easy for her to do this? Can the school help me?

Our Response:
Turning up at a school disco is probably not the best idea, unless you and your ex have arranged this between you. You always have to think about what is in the best interests of the kids and if you are caught up in slanging matches and arguments, then this will not help your case should it have to go to court. I know this is a very tough time for you, but the courts are not interested in you, your ex, or who has lied etc, the court is only interested in the welfare of the kids and it puts this first and foremost. Any attempt for a parent to cause disruption and distress will not be looked upon sympathetically in court. You may find our Separated Dads forum useful as there are dads who have been through simlar that can advise your best course of action. In answer to your last question, the school cannot intervene. If your ex feels it is in the best interests of your kids not to see you, you have to prove to the courts that it is otherwise.
SeparatedDads - 31-Jan-17 @ 12:40 PM
LostAndLonelyDad - Your Question:
My ex has decided out of the blue...I have mental health issues..and I am not in admittance of this. Because of this...and after yesterday having the time of my life with them becoming secret agents at a place we visited...she has told me that I cannot be trusted with the kids and that I am not seeing them or speaking to them EVER again. She says I will have to go to court..I know this is after screaming at me in the street yesterday and me saying "I know what you did to them".She hurts them..including "throwing the oldest off the sofa while the youngest watched. They BOTH swear this is true.the youngest (aged 6) saying "I was sat there daddy I watched mummy do it. I said I may tell the police..so now she has said "I will not see the kids again"PLEASE HELP ME SOMEONE!! I have no money but will do anything for help on this matter. Should I phone the police or social services...I KNOW MY KIDS WONT LIE WHEN I SAY TO THEM HOW SERIOUS THIS IS...I believe them..what do I need to do..she has hurt them many times now yet IT IS ME who is being punished as well AS THEM..she is punished us all mentally.but the boys PHYSICALLY..Please ANYONE.what can I do?

Our Response:
First of all, you need to keep the situation in context and not do anything rash or get into any slanging matches. If your ex is refusing access, please see: When Your Ex-Partner Denies You Access here. If you cannot afford legal advice, then you can obtain free advice from the Citizens Advice Bureau, please see link here . You can also self litigate if the matter needs to go to court, please see link here. You may also be able to get a reduction in court fees if you are on a low income. However, the first step is to try to negotiate calmly and rationally with your ex about reinstating access. If you feel your ex has hurt your children, you may wish to speak with the NSPCC first, please see link here who can advise you further. I hope this helps.
SeparatedDads - 31-Jan-17 @ 12:08 PM
Just as a post script...................last time she did a similar thing and she told them I didnt want to see them. Can I do ANYTHING so I can tell them that it is NOT ME STOPPING THEM...........because they will believe her...........they did once before. Also they are going to a school disco..........am I allowed to turn up at an event like this or will that cause trouble? She has no official order saying I cannot see them but it seems to me she is just allowed to say anything and do anything she likes and i cannot do A SINGLE THING about this? Is this actually true? Can she just make up stories and DECIDE they are FACTS and stop me seeing my kids on the strength of these lies ? Is it really THAT easy for her to do this? Can the school help me?
LostAndLonelyDad - 30-Jan-17 @ 6:07 PM
My ex has decided out of the blue..................I have mental health issues............and I am not in admittance of this. Because of this..................and after yesterday having the time of my life with them becoming secret agents at a place we visited......................she has told me that I cannot be trusted with the kids and that I am not seeing them or speaking to them EVER again. She says I will have to go to court..........I know this is after screaming at me in the street yesterday and me saying "I know what you did to them". She hurts them................including "throwing the oldest off the sofa while the youngest watched. They BOTH swear this is true........the youngest (aged 6) saying "I was sat there daddy i watched mummy do it. I said I may tell the police...............so now she has said "I will not see the kids again" PLEASE HELP ME SOMEONE!! I have no money but will do anything for help on this matter. Should I phone the police or social services........................I KNOW MY KIDS WONT LIE WHEN I SAY TO THEM HOW SERIOUS THIS IS....................I believe them..........what do i need to do...........she has hurt them many times now yet IT IS ME who is being punished as well AS THEM..........she is punished us all mentally........but the boys PHYSICALLY..........Please ANYONE........what can I do?
LostAndLonelyDad - 30-Jan-17 @ 5:55 PM
Hi My ex wife have spilt up 6 months and she is filling for divorce even though she committed adultery but as the marriage is over I have no reason to contest One thing that bothers me it I have evidence she stole items from her last employer 2 laptops, 3 mobile phones, lcd projector transfered business air miles to her account and gift vouchers worth over £300 along with 2 pairs of shoes from a colleague she worked with do I inform police or the employer as she left some of these items at my house and I do not want to be held reasonable for these items
Pav - 30-Jan-17 @ 12:56 PM
Hi guys I need some help on my issues with my ex partner. We jointly applied CTC which got delayed about an year. When we got paid, it was £6000 altogether in my account. Which we spent together (of which i have no proof). My partner is accusing me that I never spent that money and now she want me to pay her that money. (As she was working and I wasnt). Can this case be brought into court against me? Or can this be case even. Do I have to prove where that money spent etc?
Afi - 24-Jan-17 @ 1:06 AM
Social Services are involved with my partner's children owing to difficult access issues and false allegations by his ex (proved to be false). Social Services told me in an interview that they were extremely concerned for my safety as my partner was a very violent man but there is absolutely no evidence for this apart from another false allegation from his ex.They said they had spoken to lots of people as part of a report but none are listed. He has no police record and I have never seen a scrap on indication that he would be violent in nearly three years we have been together. Can they do this?
Mariland - 18-Jan-17 @ 1:58 PM
My son complained to me on several occasions that my ex girlfriend son who has ADHD is attacking him verbally and physically and he doesn't like being with him in one house. I spoke to my ex about it but he dismissed me and said my son is sugar coating this and he is the one picking the fights. Which I found to be lie as my son doesn't like me arguing. I fear my ex selfishness will put my son in harm ways and I am considering involving social services. My son has respect for my ex and I think he trained him not tell me everything. He goes there every weekend but I am beginning to think we should limit the time with my ex because of his lack of judgment about this issue.He is protecting the boy with ADHD more than my son.I wonder what would be the best thing to do. Any ideas?
evic - 19-Nov-16 @ 8:07 PM
dani - Your Question:
My sister has been split up with her baby's dad and he has stopped her from seeing her daughter because she moved on from him, he is now accusing her of not bothering with her daughter and trying to cause problems and issues so that my sister isn't allowed access. I wanted to know the best possible way to get access for her and to see what action she can take so she can get joint custody?

Our Response:
It would be helpful if your sister could seek legal advice regarding applying for shared care as much depends with how much input she has had into her child's life to date. Please also see link: When Your Ex-Partner Denies You Access, here and go through the motions laid out in the article.
SeparatedDads - 11-Nov-16 @ 11:35 AM
my sister has been split up with her baby's dad and he has stopped her from seeing her daughter because she moved on from him, he is now accusing her of not bothering with her daughter and trying to cause problems and issues so that my sister isn't allowed access. I wanted to know the best possible way to get access for her and to see what action she can take so she can get joint custody?
dani - 10-Nov-16 @ 11:46 AM
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