It is well known that a rape allegation is very easy to make but very difficult to disprove. Despite this, the conviction rate for rape allegations is shockingly low, at around 5% of all complaints made to the police. Often, the only witness is the person who makes the allegation. There is no need to show medical evidence to support the assertion that the complainant has been raped. In a lot of cases, DNA evidence may show that the accused and the victim had intercourse, but the question is that of consent. Because of the nature of rape allegations, it is very often one person’s word against another’s.
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Why Does it Happen?
Unfortunately, allegations of rape can be made flippantly and without any consideration for the consequences. The alleged ‘victim’ could be angry, could have been coached into believing that they were raped, for example, by a counsellor or other professional, or they could simply be trying to shed blame onto someone.
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If a ‘disclosure’ is then made to a third party, that is when the lie begins to gather pace of its own. As people ask more questions, the ‘victim’ can find themselves being given a lot of attention. By the time the proper interview is given to the police, the ‘victim’ may have told their lie so many times that many details about the offence start to surface. This is different from a real allegation of sexual assault, in which the victim’s account generally remains intact throughout the investigation and any subsequent court proceedings. A false allegation changes subtly but rapidly. As a result it is up to the accused to be able to expose the lie, or risk being convicted and facing a prison sentence.
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What Can You Do?
There are two things that you can do to help to get yourself out of this situation: first, be consistent in the way you present your version of events; and second, ask yourself what was going on at the time in the ‘victim’s’ life. Although this might sound strange, and you might think that the last thing you want to do is empathise with the person who has falsely accused you, there is an extremely good reason for doing this. If you can identify what was happening at the time, you are in a better position to find out the reason for the false allegation.
Questions to Ask Yourself
- Were they angry with you, or someone else?
- Were they going through a particularly stressful time?
- What reason did they have for wanting you out of the way?
- Were you absent from their life at the time they made the allegation? If this is the case, could it be that they are blaming you or punishing you – when the reality is that it was because you were emotionally or physically absent from them at the time?
If you find the reason for the lie, you can expose the truth.
Read our articles on Being Falsely Accused of Domestic Violence and Being Falsely Accused of Child Abuse on this site.
So this is what happened.
I and the girl were in the same room. By the way, I was 10/11 while she was about 8-10 (I can't remember how old we both were) so the things I did were very dumb and I wish I wasn't in that room. Now the girl was asleep, then I came up close to her. I did not touch her, or did anything bad to her and I don't know why I was even in that room. She woke up screaming saying I tried to force myself on her (As I said, I didn't even touch her). I didn't really know what I was doing back then, but i knew i didn't rape anybody. 6 years later, she told everyone I tried raping her.
She has actually ruined my life. I can't go outside anymore because I feel scared and always get panic attack.
What should I do?
My mistake was having a relationship with someone who told me all the bad things her boyfriends did to her previously on our first date in person date. We had been emailing each other for over a year, so I felt the warning bells, but didn't heed them. This was over a decade back when internet dating was new and somewhat primitive.
Long story short, we were together over a decade. I married her and had a child, although having a child was unplanned. Our relationship already had a tendency to self destruct, having a child intensified the stakes.
Guess what happened after we separated. She told everyone exaggerated stories to garner sympathy for her plight. She even tried to get my father to turn against me. Over time the stories got worse. Two years after the divorce settlement, she was throwing the rape word around. She accused me of the R word in a mild dispute over paying for some of my daughter's activities. I volunteered to pay for half. Getting accused out of the blue of rape took my offer to share expenses off the table.
People tell me, "Oh, you could have fought for more time with your daughter" This was during the beginning of "Me Too". It was a "messy divorce", because she got out of the door faster then me. I was mess, I couldn't bear leaving my kid.
I wish I new the one garbage bag rule at the time. Get a hefty leaf bag, fill it with as much as you need, and exit as fast as possible. She got her bags packed faster then me..
I blame myself for exhausting all possibilities with this person. I knew it would end bad, but became too comfortable somehow. I had plenty opportunities to leave prior to having a kid, and I didn't take them.
I can't imagine life without my child. I chose to negotiate to have joint legal custody, and a limited parenting schedule. I needed to get out of her quagmire, and I went through a ton of garbage to do it. It wasn't fair to my kid, but the alternatives were worse.
My ex plays the falsify card, makes everyone believe she is innoccent.
The worst part about it she rang my phone prior to the rape occurring as she couldn’t find me when she pulled up at my house, she forgot t ok hang up when she saw me and recorded 3 minutes - the beginning of the rape
She threatened me with a skateboard, she broke my nose in two places I was screaming for her to stop and said please stop please stop 6 times.once she was done she left me laying in my own blood disorientated and took off to her male fiancé that I didn’t know about.
Everyone accused me of lying or didn’t believe me and believed she was falsely accused. I have it on recording, I have the evidence including the time and the date.
March 7th - worst thing is I listen to it all the time. Support both sides. Don’t judge. Intense emotions and excruciating to live with either way.
Myself Dipkumar Pal Hopefully waiting foryour decision because there is stiil chance for me same like before or otherwise I'm been threatened by Ramsagar Mishra.. Please save my life before it destroys...??????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????Please I beg in front of you for my future
When this child case I.e 2 years now ends, I will have the person charged with false allegations and the police will then do there bit for wasting police time and more on top,
If it happens to you just tell the truth and NO Matter what if you still spk to your ex even if nice no matter how long (Secretly record or video everything and keep all text and email to cloud) YOU WILL NEED IT IN THE FUTURE, BE SAFE DADS STAY STRONG NEVER GIVE UP ?????
This is a total shock to me.
After the contact order is granted I am pretty sure she will tell the police because that is her last resort.
You are experiencing what I'm currently experiencing. I'm traumatized as hell and it's like living in fear of a false accusation. Not cool.
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