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Being Falsely Accused of Rape

By: Lorna Elliott LLB (hons), Barrister - Updated: 25 Nov 2023 |
 
Rape False Accused Offence Victim Crime

It is well known that a rape allegation is very easy to make but very difficult to disprove. Despite this, the conviction rate for rape allegations is shockingly low, at around 5% of all complaints made to the police. Often, the only witness is the person who makes the allegation. There is no need to show medical evidence to support the assertion that the complainant has been raped. In a lot of cases, DNA evidence may show that the accused and the victim had intercourse, but the question is that of consent. Because of the nature of rape allegations, it is very often one person’s word against another’s.

Why Does it Happen?

Unfortunately, allegations of rape can be made flippantly and without any consideration for the consequences. The alleged ‘victim’ could be angry, could have been coached into believing that they were raped, for example, by a counsellor or other professional, or they could simply be trying to shed blame onto someone.

How False Allegations Often Start

If a ‘disclosure’ is then made to a third party, that is when the lie begins to gather pace of its own. As people ask more questions, the ‘victim’ can find themselves being given a lot of attention. By the time the proper interview is given to the police, the ‘victim’ may have told their lie so many times that many details about the offence start to surface. This is different from a real allegation of sexual assault, in which the victim’s account generally remains intact throughout the investigation and any subsequent court proceedings. A false allegation changes subtly but rapidly. As a result it is up to the accused to be able to expose the lie, or risk being convicted and facing a prison sentence.

What Can You Do?

There are two things that you can do to help to get yourself out of this situation: first, be consistent in the way you present your version of events; and second, ask yourself what was going on at the time in the ‘victim’s’ life. Although this might sound strange, and you might think that the last thing you want to do is empathise with the person who has falsely accused you, there is an extremely good reason for doing this. If you can identify what was happening at the time, you are in a better position to find out the reason for the false allegation.

Questions to Ask Yourself

  • Were they angry with you, or someone else?
  • Were they going through a particularly stressful time?
  • What reason did they have for wanting you out of the way?
  • Were you absent from their life at the time they made the allegation? If this is the case, could it be that they are blaming you or punishing you – when the reality is that it was because you were emotionally or physically absent from them at the time?

If you find the reason for the lie, you can expose the truth.

Read our articles on Being Falsely Accused of Domestic Violence and Being Falsely Accused of Child Abuse on this site.

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I am in the same situation as tge above people. Been with my partner for 34 years. In October 2022 I came home for my lunch break. 15 mins after I sat down for my lunch two female DC entered my house without warrant or invite. They said I was under arrest for rape against my wife who was present in the house. I was totally shocked and numb. I was detained for 13 hours without legal help. Half way through I decided to represent myself without a solicitor. Half way through the interview one of the detectives left the room, came back 15 minutes later and said it was the quickest turn around of a case she knew. The accuser had dropped all charges but I had all my biometrics taken by then. I was released with nfa, but the whole experience has destroyed who I am.My wife Julie had been going through 3 years of mental health issues and I feel it was revenge because I tried “under pressure “ from her family to get her hospitalised that august 2022 and it went badly wrong. She even said she was rapped in Cornwall and drugged, I was 500 miles away at that time and she reported it to Devon police. She had a obsession with police rapist, MPs who was caught, murder and more. Tge police came to my home many times witnessed her outbursts but she fell through the cracks for help.I feel she did what she did to me out of revenge because I tried to get her hospitalised. In January 2023 she was sectioned for 3.5 months in a secure unit instigated by her controlling brother. I did not go through the channels of getting her sectioned as the last time I tried was a total mess by authorities. Now she is out and her brother says I was the one to put her away which isn’t true. I have hard evidence of him “recording “ saying what he did contacting services police and crisis teams. We are now separated but she constantly puts things online about me, fills in forms for support saying I’m a predator, violent, and more. I have spoken to the police and even tried submitting evidence but they will not acknowledge anything or offer me protection, I fear another visit by them and my life is a utter mess with what I’ve experienced. I can’t get any legal help because it’s way too expensive and I suffer server anxiety that totally affects my ability to regular work that I used to have. PLEASE can anyone help or point me to any legal aid organisations that can, my life isn’t my own anymore. Al
Al - 25-Nov-23 @ 9:18 PM
I am in the same situation as tge above people. Been with my partner for 34 years. In October 2022 I came home for my lunch break. 15 mins after I sat down for my lunch two female DC entered my house without warrant or invite. They said I was under arrest for rape against my wife who was present in the house. I was totally shocked and numb. I was detained for 13 hours without legal help. Half way through I decided to represent myself without a solicitor. Half way through the interview one of the detectives left the room, came back 15 minutes later and said it was the quickest turn around of a case she knew. The accuser had dropped all charges but I had all my biometrics taken by then. I was released with nfa, but the whole experience has destroyed who I am.My wife Julie had been going through 3 years of mental health issues and I feel it was revenge because I tried “under pressure “ from her family to get her hospitalised that august 2022 and it went badly wrong. She even said she was rapped in Cornwall and drugged, I was 500 miles away at that time and she reported it to Devon police. She had a obsession with police rapist, MPs who was caught, murder and more. Tge police came to my home many times witnessed her outbursts but she fell through the cracks for help.I feel she did what she did to me out of revenge because I tried to get her hospitalised. In January 2023 she was sectioned for 3.5 months in a secure unit instigated by her controlling brother. I did not go through the channels of getting her sectioned as the last time I tried was a total mess by authorities. Now she is out and her brother says I was the one to put her away which isn’t true. I have hard evidence of him “recording “ saying what he did contacting services police and crisis teams. We are now separated but she constantly puts things online about me, fills in forms for support saying I’m a predator, violent, and more. I have spoken to the police and even tried submitting evidence but they will not acknowledge anything or offer me protection, I fear another visit by them and my life is a utter mess with what I’ve experienced. I can’t get any legal help because it’s way too expensive and I suffer server anxiety that totally affects my ability to regular work that I used to have. PLEASE can anyone help or point me to any legal aid organisations that can, my life isn’t my own anymore. Al
Al - 25-Nov-23 @ 9:17 PM
I need some help for being accused of rape, the case was dropped in 12 hours with no charge, as the accuser turned her story around. My problem is I contacted acro and the SAR people only to be told my details will be kept on their system for a 100 years, I'm devastated. Please anyone help me.
A - 29-Dec-22 @ 7:20 PM
This happened about 6/7 years ago. Back then I was 10/11 and now I'm 16 and people are spreading rumors that I raped the girl. I 100% did not rape or tried to rape anyone. So this is what happened. I and the girl were in the same room. By the way, I was 10/11 while she was about 8-10 (I can't remember how old we both were) so the things I did were very dumb and I wish I wasn't in that room. Now the girl was asleep, then I came up close to her. I did not touch her, or did anything bad to her and I don't know why I was even in that room. She woke up screaming saying I tried to force myself on her (As I said, I didn't even touch her). I didn't really know what I was doing back then, but i knew i didn't rape anybody. 6 years later, she told everyone I tried raping her. She has actually ruined my life. I can't go outside anymore because I feel scared and always get panic attack. What should I do?
Benny1 - 5-Jun-21 @ 9:21 AM
Sounds familiar. My mistake was having a relationship with someone who told me all the bad things her boyfriends did to her previously on our first date in person date. We had been emailing each other for over a year, so I felt the warning bells, but didn't heed them.This was over a decade back when internet dating was new and somewhat primitive. Long story short, we were together over a decade.I married her and had a child, although having a child was unplanned.Our relationship already had a tendency to self destruct, having a child intensified the stakes. Guess what happened after we separated.She told everyone exaggerated stories to garner sympathy for her plight.She even tried to get my father to turn against me.Over time the stories got worse.Two years after the divorce settlement, she was throwing the rape word around.She accused me of the R word in a mild dispute over paying for some of my daughter's activities.I volunteered to pay for half.Getting accused out of the blue of rape took my offer to share expenses off the table. People tell me, "Oh, you could have fought for more time with your daughter"This was during the beginning of "Me Too".It was a "messy divorce", because she got out of the door faster then me. I was mess, I couldn't bear leaving my kid. I wish I new the one garbage bag rule at the time.Get a hefty leaf bag, fill it with as much as you need, and exit as fast as possible.She got her bags packed faster then me.. I blame myself for exhausting all possibilities with this person.I knew it would end bad, but became too comfortable somehow.I had plenty opportunities to leave prior to having a kid, and I didn't take them. I can't imagine life without my child.I chose to negotiate to have joint legal custody, and a limited parenting schedule.I needed to get out of her quagmire, and I went through a ton of garbage to do it.It wasn't fair to my kid, but the alternatives were worse.
Too Much - 16-Feb-21 @ 1:33 AM
I’m in such a bad place... my ex girl friend sent me a text message whilst I was at work on the 13th of November telling me she was leaving me... I tried calling, texting, emailing, WApping absolutely everything to talk to her but she had blocked me from every single way to contact her. When I finally spoke to her Mum to find out what was happening it was to my horror that I was told that she had left with my x3 boys to a Shelter for Domestic Violence... If honest I didn’t even know what this had meant until I had Googled it and was sooo confused as I have never hurt her or my boys ever! Over the next few days her Mum and Dad contacted me to ask if they could pick up her belongings and also advised that they will be arriving with the police... When asked why with the police, they said it was standard procedure as she was in a shelter. Ok, they came and I let them take what ever they wanted, with her Mum telling me that they weren’t taking sides and I was still welcome to contact her daily to pass on messages to her daughter and my chilldren, Guess what, they took what they wanted and the next day when I called her she went crazy and blocked my number. Over the next few days I was calling my ex daily, of course I was confused and missed her and my boys sooo much plus it was coming up to my bday on the 27th November so speaking or seeing them on my Birthday was really important to me, I spoke to her daily and asked why? Begged her to come back, not to take my boys away but she was adamant that we was over and told me not to keep calling her as I would ruin her chance of getting a new house for her and boys. Why have you gone into a shelter I asked? So I can move away from you and get our own place, Please stop calling me, it will be better after Xmas as me and boys will be in new place by then... I couldn’t help be be sooo hurt and when I asked if I could have my car back she continued to tell me that the car was her security money for her and boys and if I continued to keep asking her for it not only would there be no chance of us getting back together but she would quote: make my life a living hell!!! I said, believe me you can’t make it any worse as you’ve already left me and stopped me from seeing my boys... Believe me I can she said... I couldn’t get in touch with her for a few days so I instructed my Solicitor to send her a letter requesting for her to return my car with in x7 days, With in the hour of her receiving this she called me to say that age had received email from my Solicitor and that she had told my oldest son that I wasn’t his biological dad, How evil can you get... Getting closer to Xmas, She contacted me as she realised that the Xmas presents we had brought our boys together was here in my cupboard at hone... Can you take them all to my Dads, she asked? Hang on, They are from both us and I thought we could share them between us, Yes that’s fine she says but please just do as I ask and tags them all to my da
Sammy - 21-Jan-21 @ 12:52 PM
I’m in such a bad place... my ex girl friend sent me a text message whilst I was at work on the 13th of November telling me she was leaving me... I tried calling, texting, emailing, WApping absolutely everything to talk to her but she had blocked me from every single way to contact her. When I finally spoke to her Mum to find out what was happening it was to my horror that I was told that she had left with my x3 boys to a Shelter for Domestic Violence... If honest I didn’t even know what this had meant until I had Googled it and was sooo confused as I have never hurt her or my boys ever! Over the next few days her Mum and Dad contacted me to ask if they could pick up her belongings and also advised that they will be arriving with the police... When asked why with the police, they said it was standard procedure as she was in a shelter. Ok, they came and I let them take what ever they wanted, with her Mum telling me that they weren’t taking sides and I was still welcome to contact her daily to pass on messages to her daughter and my chilldren, Guess what, they took what they wanted and the next day when I called her she went crazy and blocked my number. Over the next few days I was calling my ex daily, of course I was confused and missed her and my boys sooo much plus it was coming up to my bday on the 27th November so speaking or seeing them on my Birthday was really important to me, I spoke to her daily and asked why? Begged her to come back, not to take my boys away but she was adamant that we was over and told me not to keep calling her as I would ruin her chance of getting a new house for her and boys. Why have you gone into a shelter I asked? So I can move away from you and get our own place, Please stop calling me, it will be better after Xmas as me and boys will be in new place by then... I couldn’t help be be sooo hurt and when I asked if I could have my car back she continued to tell me that the car was her security money for her and boys and if I continued to keep asking her for it not only would there be no chance of us getting back together but she would quote: make my life a living hell!!! I said, believe me you can’t make it any worse as you’ve already left me and stopped me from seeing my boys... Believe me I can she said... I couldn’t get in touch with her for a few days so I instructed my Solicitor to send her a letter requesting for her to return my car with in x7 days, With in the hour of her receiving this she called me to say that age had received email from my Solicitor and that she had told my oldest son that I wasn’t his biological dad, How evil can you get... Getting closer to Xmas, She contacted me as she realised that the Xmas presents we had brought our boys together was here in my cupboard at hone... Can you take them all to my Dads, she asked? Hang on, They are from both us and I thought we could share them between us, Yes that’s fine she says but please just do as I ask and tags them all to my da
Sammy - 20-Jan-21 @ 1:18 PM
I’m in such a bad place... my ex girl friend sent me a text message whilst I was at work on the 13th of November telling me she was leaving me... I tried calling, texting, emailing, WApping absolutely everything to talk to her but she had blocked me from every single way to contact her. When I finally spoke to her Mum to find out what was happening it was to my horror that I was told that she had left with my x3 boys to a Shelter for Domestic Violence... If honest I didn’t even know what this had meant until I had Googled it and was sooo confused as I have never hurt her or my boys ever! Over the next few days her Mum and Dad contacted me to ask if they could pick up her belongings and also advised that they will be arriving with the police... When asked why with the police, they said it was standard procedure as she was in a shelter. Ok, they came and I let them take what ever they wanted, with her Mum telling me that they weren’t taking sides and I was still welcome to contact her daily to pass on messages to her daughter and my chilldren, Guess what, they took what they wanted and the next day when I called her she went crazy and blocked my number. Over the next few days I was calling my ex daily, of course I was confused and missed her and my boys sooo much plus it was coming up to my bday on the 27th November so speaking or seeing them on my Birthday was really important to me, I spoke to her daily and asked why? Begged her to come back, not to take my boys away but she was adamant that we was over and told me not to keep calling her as I would ruin her chance of getting a new house for her and boys. Why have you gone into a shelter I asked? So I can move away from you and get our own place, Please stop calling me, it will be better after Xmas as me and boys will be in new place by then... I couldn’t help be be sooo hurt and when I asked if I could have my car back she continued to tell me that the car was her security money for her and boys and if I continued to keep asking her for it not only would there be no chance of us getting back together but she would quote: make my life a living hell!!! I said, believe me you can’t make it any worse as you’ve already left me and stopped me from seeing my boys... Believe me I can she said... I couldn’t get in touch with her for a few days so I instructed my Solicitor to send her a letter requesting for her to return my car with in x7 days, With in the hour of her receiving this she called me to say that age had received email from my Solicitor and that she had told my oldest son that I wasn’t his biological dad, How evil can you get... Getting closer to Xmas, She contacted me as she realised that the Xmas presents we had brought our boys together was here in my cupboard at hone... Can you take them all to my Dads, she asked? Hang on, They are from both us and I thought we could share them between us, Yes that’s fine she says but please just do as I ask and tags them all to my da
Sammy - 20-Jan-21 @ 8:14 AM
I’m in such a bad place... my ex girl friend sent me a text message whilst I was at work on the 13th of November telling me she was leaving me... I tried calling, texting, emailing, WApping absolutely everything to talk to her but she had blocked me from every single way to contact her. When I finally spoke to her Mum to find out what was happening it was to my horror that I was told that she had left with my x3 boys to a Shelter for Domestic Violence... If honest I didn’t even know what this had meant until I had Googled it and was sooo confused as I have never hurt her or my boys ever! Over the next few days her Mum and Dad contacted me to ask if they could pick up her belongings and also advised that they will be arriving with the police... When asked why with the police, they said it was standard procedure as she was in a shelter. Ok, they came and I let them take what ever they wanted, with her Mum telling me that they weren’t taking sides and I was still welcome to contact her daily to pass on messages to her daughter and my chilldren, Guess what, they took what they wanted and the next day when I called her she went crazy and blocked my number. Over the next few days I was calling my ex daily, of course I was confused and missed her and my boys sooo much plus it was coming up to my bday on the 27th November so speaking or seeing them on my Birthday was really important to me, I spoke to her daily and asked why? Begged her to come back, not to take my boys away but she was adamant that we was over and told me not to keep calling her as I would ruin her chance of getting a new house for her and boys. Why have you gone into a shelter I asked? So I can move away from you and get our own place, Please stop calling me, it will be better after Xmas as me and boys will be in new place by then... I couldn’t help be be sooo hurt and when I asked if I could have my car back she continued to tell me that the car was her security money for her and boys and if I continued to keep asking her for it not only would there be no chance of us getting back together but she would quote: make my life a living hell!!! I said, believe me you can’t make it any worse as you’ve already left me and stopped me from seeing my boys... Believe me I can she said... I couldn’t get in touch with her for a few days so I instructed my Solicitor to send her a letter requesting for her to return my car with in x7 days, With in the hour of her receiving this she called me to say that age had received email from my Solicitor and that she had told my oldest son that I wasn’t his biological dad, How evil can you get... Getting closer to Xmas, She contacted me as she realised that the Xmas presents we had brought our boys together was here in my cupboard at hone... Can you take them all to my Dads, she asked? Hang on, They are from both us and I thought we could share them between us, Yes that’s fine she says but please just do as I ask and tags them all to my da
Sammy - 20-Jan-21 @ 8:11 AM
I’m in such a bad place... my ex girl friend sent me a text message whilst I was at work on the 13th of November telling me she was leaving me... I tried calling, texting, emailing, WApping absolutely everything to talk to her but she had blocked me from every single way to contact her. When I finally spoke to her Mum to find out what was happening it was to my horror that I was told that she had left with my x3 boys to a Shelter for Domestic Violence... If honest I didn’t even know what this had meant until I had Googled it and was sooo confused as I have never hurt her or my boys ever! Over the next few days her Mum and Dad contacted me to ask if they could pick up her belongings and also advised that they will be arriving with the police... When asked why with the police, they said it was standard procedure as she was in a shelter. Ok, they came and I let them take what ever they wanted, with her Mum telling me that they weren’t taking sides and I was still welcome to contact her daily to pass on messages to her daughter and my chilldren, Guess what, they took what they wanted and the next day when I called her she went crazy and blocked my number. Over the next few days I was calling my ex daily, of course I was confused and missed her and my boys sooo much plus it was coming up to my bday on the 27th November so speaking or seeing them on my Birthday was really important to me, I spoke to her daily and asked why? Begged her to come back, not to take my boys away but she was adamant that we was over and told me not to keep calling her as I would ruin her chance of getting a new house for her and boys. Why have you gone into a shelter I asked? So I can move away from you and get our own place, Please stop calling me, it will be better after Xmas as me and boys will be in new place by then... I couldn’t help be be sooo hurt and when I asked if I could have my car back she continued to tell me that the car was her security money for her and boys and if I continued to keep asking her for it not only would there be no chance of us getting back together but she would quote: make my life a living hell!!! I said, believe me you can’t make it any worse as you’ve already left me and stopped me from seeing my boys... Believe me I can she said... I couldn’t get in touch with her for a few days so I instructed my Solicitor to send her a letter requesting for her to return my car with in x7 days, With in the hour of her receiving this she called me to say that age had received email from my Solicitor and that she had told my oldest son that I wasn’t his biological dad, How evil can you get... Getting closer to Xmas, She contacted me as she realised that the Xmas presents we had brought our boys together was here in my cupboard at hone... Can you take them all to my Dads, she asked? Hang on, They are from both us and I thought we could share them between us, Yes that’s fine she says but please just do as I ask and tags them all to my da
Sammy - 20-Jan-21 @ 7:08 AM
I’m in such a bad place... my ex girl friend sent me a text message whilst I was at work on the 13th of November telling me she was leaving me... I tried calling, texting, emailing, WApping absolutely everything to talk to her but she had blocked me from every single way to contact her. When I finally spoke to her Mum to find out what was happening it was to my horror that I was told that she had left with my x3 boys to a Shelter for Domestic Violence... If honest I didn’t even know what this had meant until I had Googled it and was sooo confused as I have never hurt her or my boys ever! Over the next few days her Mum and Dad contacted me to ask if they could pick up her belongings and also advised that they will be arriving with the police... When asked why with the police, they said it was standard procedure as she was in a shelter. Ok, they came and I let them take what ever they wanted, with her Mum telling me that they weren’t taking sides and I was still welcome to contact her daily to pass on messages to her daughter and my chilldren, Guess what, they took what they wanted and the next day when I called her she went crazy and blocked my number. Over the next few days I was calling my ex daily, of course I was confused and missed her and my boys sooo much plus it was coming up to my bday on the 27th November so speaking or seeing them on my Birthday was really important to me, I spoke to her daily and asked why? Begged her to come back, not to take my boys away but she was adamant that we was over and told me not to keep calling her as I would ruin her chance of getting a new house for her and boys. Why have you gone into a shelter I asked? So I can move away from you and get our own place, Please stop calling me, it will be better after Xmas as me and boys will be in new place by then... I couldn’t help be be sooo hurt and when I asked if I could have my car back she continued to tell me that the car was her security money for her and boys and if I continued to keep asking her for it not only would there be no chance of us getting back together but she would quote: make my life a living hell!!! I said, believe me you can’t make it any worse as you’ve already left me and stopped me from seeing my boys... Believe me I can she said... I couldn’t get in touch with her for a few days so I instructed my Solicitor to send her a letter requesting for her to return my car with in x7 days, With in the hour of her receiving this she called me to say that age had received email from my Solicitor and that she had told my oldest son that I wasn’t his biological dad, How evil can you get... Getting closer to Xmas, She contacted me as she realised that the Xmas presents we had brought our boys together was here in my cupboard at hone... Can you take them all to my Dads, she asked? Hang on, They are from both us and I thought we could share them between us, Yes that’s fine she says but please just do as I ask and tags them all to my da
Sammy - 20-Jan-21 @ 6:57 AM
I’m in such a bad place... my ex girl friend sent me a text message whilst I was at work on the 13th of November telling me she was leaving me... I tried calling, texting, emailing, WApping absolutely everything to talk to her but she had blocked me from every single way to contact her. When I finally spoke to her Mum to find out what was happening it was to my horror that I was told that she had left with my x3 boys to a Shelter for Domestic Violence... If honest I didn’t even know what this had meant until I had Googled it and was sooo confused as I have never hurt her or my boys ever! Over the next few days her Mum and Dad contacted me to ask if they could pick up her belongings and also advised that they will be arriving with the police... When asked why with the police, they said it was standard procedure as she was in a shelter. Ok, they came and I let them take what ever they wanted, with her Mum telling me that they weren’t taking sides and I was still welcome to contact her daily to pass on messages to her daughter and my chilldren, Guess what, they took what they wanted and the next day when I called her she went crazy and blocked my number. Over the next few days I was calling my ex daily, of course I was confused and missed her and my boys sooo much plus it was coming up to my bday on the 27th November so speaking or seeing them on my Birthday was really important to me, I spoke to her daily and asked why? Begged her to come back, not to take my boys away but she was adamant that we was over and told me not to keep calling her as I would ruin her chance of getting a new house for her and boys. Why have you gone into a shelter I asked? So I can move away from you and get our own place, Please stop calling me, it will be better after Xmas as me and boys will be in new place by then... I couldn’t help be be sooo hurt and when I asked if I could have my car back she continued to tell me that the car was her security money for her and boys and if I continued to keep asking her for it not only would there be no chance of us getting back together but she would quote: make my life a living hell!!! I said, believe me you can’t make it any worse as you’ve already left me and stopped me from seeing my boys... Believe me I can she said... I couldn’t get in touch with her for a few days so I instructed my Solicitor to send her a letter requesting for her to return my car with in x7 days, With in the hour of her receiving this she called me to say that age had received email from my Solicitor and that she had told my oldest son that I wasn’t his biological dad, How evil can you get... Getting closer to Xmas, She contacted me as she realised that the Xmas presents we had brought our boys together was here in my cupboard at hone... Can you take them all to my Dads, she asked? Hang on, They are from both us and I thought we could share them between us, Yes that’s fine she says but please just do as I ask and tags them all to my da
Sammy - 20-Jan-21 @ 6:52 AM
My nephew has been in a serious relationship with a woman who has a child from a previous relationship.Over the years they spent most of their time together and at the beginning of this year they moved in together.He solely supported them financially, paying the deposit for their rented accommodation, furnished the flat, paid the rent, paid for weekend breaks/family holidays etc., as she did not have any income herself.However, two months ago she broke up the relationship with the reason that he has done nothing but mentally abuse her and didn't do enough for her daughter.They decided to go their separate ways and he moved out only to establish two weeks later that she was in a new relationship.She was also supposed to be an inpatient within a psychiatric unit but then informed him that she no longer needed it as she is receiving regular counselling sessions.She has now contacted him two days ago asking him for assistance with some forms for the job centre etc., to which he agreed.They met in a public place when she all of a sudden said to him that she wanted an electrical item, which he paid for and has the receipt for, and said you either give me this item or I go to the police and tell them that you have been raping me over the past 2 years! My nephew is obviously absolutely distraught as this accusation is absolutely absurd, what would you advice?
Gabi - 27-Oct-20 @ 1:43 PM
My nephew has been in a serious relationship with a woman who has a child from a previous relationship.Over the years they spent most of their time together and at the beginning of this year they moved in together.He solely supported them financially, paying the deposit for their rented accommodation, furnished the flat, paid the rent, paid for weekend breaks/family holidays etc., as she did not have any income herself.However, two months ago she broke up the relationship with the reason that he has done nothing but mentally abuse her and didn't do enough for her daughter.They decided to go their separate ways and he moved out only to establish two weeks later that she was in a new relationship.She was also supposed to be an inpatient within a psychiatric unit but then informed him that she no longer needed it as she is receiving regular counselling sessions.She has now contacted him two days ago asking him for assistance with some forms for the job centre etc., to which he agreed.They met in a public place when she all of a sudden said to him that she wanted an electrical item, which he paid for and has the receipt for, and said you either give me this item or I go to the police and tell them that you have been raping me over the past 2 years! My nephew is obviously absolutely distraught as this accusation is absolutely absurd, what would you advice?
Gabi - 27-Oct-20 @ 1:43 PM
What interests me is so many people are ‘fasely’ accused. If they are or not the truth is always easy to find. Support them and they will get through false allegations of there is no evidence they will be fine. My ex plays the falsify card, makes everyone believe she is innoccent. The worst part about it she rang my phone prior to the rape occurring as she couldn’t find me when she pulled up at my house, she forgot tok hang up when she saw me and recorded 3 minutes - the beginning of the rape She threatened me with a skateboard, she broke my nose in two places I was screaming for her to stop and said please stop please stop 6 times.once she was done she left me laying in my own blood disorientated and took off to her male fiancé that I didn’t know about. Everyone accused me of lying or didn’t believe me and believed she was falsely accused. I have it on recording, I have the evidence including the time and the date. March 7th - worst thing is I listen to it all the time. Support both sides. Don’t judge. Intense emotions and excruciating to live with either way.
Bricole23092017 - 25-Sep-20 @ 4:34 PM
What interests me is so many people are ‘fasely’ accused. If they are or not the truth is always easy to find. Support them and they will get through false allegations of there is no evidence they will be fine. My ex plays the falsify card, makes everyone believe she is innoccent. The worst part about it she rang my phone prior to the rape occurring as she couldn’t find me when she pulled up at my house, she forgot tok hang up when she saw me and recorded 3 minutes - the beginning of the rape She threatened me with a skateboard, she broke my nose in two places I was screaming for her to stop and said please stop please stop 6 times.once she was done she left me laying in my own blood disorientated and took off to her male fiancé that I didn’t know about. Everyone accused me of lying or didn’t believe me and believed she was falsely accused. I have it on recording, I have the evidence including the time and the date. March 7th - worst thing is I listen to it all the time. Support both sides. Don’t judge. Intense emotions and excruciating to live with either way.
Bricole23092017 - 25-Sep-20 @ 4:14 PM
Please kindly do the job needfully Myself Dipkumar Pal Hopefully waiting foryour decision because there is stiil chance for me same like before or otherwise I'm been threatened by Ramsagar Mishra.. Please save my life before it destroys...??????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????Please I beg in front of you for my future
Karan - 18-Sep-20 @ 8:25 PM
@law-truth.(sound advice).but for me I don’t speak to her mother (Never will again )years ago I sent messages but I been to court for that had( my punishment ).i really don’t think they could accuse me of rape I haven’t seen them in 11 years .truth said here I wouldn’t sleep with that women even if it was consensual that’s( gods truth) .
Chris - 15-Jul-20 @ 9:55 PM
This is what happend to me but I still had my kid and her kid in my care then she said this but now proven false and malicious in family court that they can NOT charge her, When this child case I.e 2 years now ends,I will have the person charged with false allegations and the police will then do there bit for wasting police time and more on top, If it happens to you just tell the truth and NO Matter what if you still spk to your ex even if nice no matter how long (Secretly record or video everything and keep all text and email to cloud) YOU WILL NEED IT IN THE FUTURE, BE SAFE DADS STAY STRONG NEVER GIVE UP ?????
Law-truth - 15-Jul-20 @ 6:18 PM
My boyfriend has been accused of rape with his ex because he is about to take her to court to fight to be able to see their daughter. It’s all lies and there is zero evidence. I’m just really worried about how this can affect him and his future, surely with zero evidence the case will fall through? I wish there were penalties for women who lie about rape and men should have more rights over their children :(
Laur - 11-Jul-20 @ 2:15 AM
My ex wife left me and 2 years later she comes back saying I raped her and she has no proof ! It’s he said/she said case with no evidence!!
Pat93 - 10-Jul-20 @ 2:18 AM
A friend of mine has been in jail in Dunklin county Missouri for over 2 weeks now.He was accused of breaking and entering and also rape.He has. a 50.000! Bond..The accuser his ex girlfriend and him had been separated but would still reunite occasionally.one day after such reconciliation she called the police and falsified a police report.My friend came to me after this happened needing to talkand as he was explaining to me that his ex had contacted him informing him of his warrant his ex girlfriend actually text at thst exact moment telling him that she knows she's a terrible person for falsely accusing him.but that she would rather he be imprisoned6 than to be with another woman.please help
Jan - 10-Jul-20 @ 1:25 AM
My OH Ex is still doing this for attention too, never even went to Cops but still 10 yrs later spreading it around.My OH went to a defamation lawyer and showed him everything, Lawyer said she is clearly sour, vengeful and ridiculous and not worth even giving oxygen to her waffle and online ramblings which clearly show she has mental health issues.
Jules - 25-Apr-20 @ 12:55 AM
my boyfriends being falsely accused by his ex girlfriend and now the police are involved and they said that it's up to his ex if she's going to take if further. i don't know what we're supposed to do because it isn't true. they we're together a while ago but a month ago she started saying this. i'm a couple weeks pregnant and i'm feeling so low about this whole situation
B - 30-Dec-19 @ 2:11 PM
@chris.thats why you don’t have friends like that ,anyone who is transgender has serous issues in (my opinion )on top off been mentally ill .truth will come out the police are no fools if he didn’t do it I wouldn’t be depressed.i would have the weirdo charged for making up false statements and with hes history off been in mental hospitals he word means rubbish.they will most likely lock him back up .so tell him not be depressed.
Chris - 21-Nov-19 @ 7:00 PM
My partner has been accused of rape by a transgender friend of his, the thing is this person has severe mental health problems and has been sectioned many times throughout the year. My partner is so depressed about this as he was arrested and had DNA samples taken off him. It's a horrible accusation to put on someone. He is the most sweetest person you would come across.
Chris - 21-Nov-19 @ 12:30 PM
I’ve had 11 alligators made by my ex partner her mother never liked me and have been told by friends who have spoken to my exes brother that there mum made the police call at the time of allegations my ex partner was taking liquid Oramorph from her doctor and would watch her over weeks hallucinate of this pain killer was real hard time looking after her I left on Tuesday and arrested on Thursday for rape and another 10 allegations all very serious e since my arrest I been realised on bail been 4 months now with no charge and my daughter in foster care as I’m a single parent I have sent lots of evidence to police showing her version of events to be false but still it’s gone to cps and still on going wile my daughter is somewhere she doesn’t want to be I won custody of my girl 5 years and since that have kept my nose clean still awaiting a cps decision my life has been one big nightmare am depressed have the shakes and I stutter a lot I never committed one of these allegations but still it drags on I feel a lot of women must be making these allegations to get back at ex boyfriends it’s a horror story I am suffering I also have 2 sons 10 and 8 my oldest now cries himself to sleep often and is suffering anxiety why are we allowing this to happen if I proved half her story to be a lie why are the police taking this all the way and dragging it out so long ???Please someone help me :(
Goggsy - 15-Sep-19 @ 12:26 PM
My girlfriend has opened a case of attempted rape against me we have a month old baby reason being she is angry with me I used to live with her together with her mom and little brother, I used to support her and her family financially it even forced me to sell my car so that we can get a bigger place to rent so that i can accommodate her family, after that I bought a bicycle so that I can utilise to go to work on daily basis, because no one was working, after realising that I cant take it anymore financially I told her I'm moving out to stay alone but before that I suggested that we move out and live together so that we can raise our child together without the presence of her family she refused, when time went by things started to be sower in the home, we will sometimes ran out of food in the house because we were depending in one salary which mine, it even came to where me and her mother stopped talking to each other, it destroyed my relationship with my girlfriend big time where some other time she will take the side of her mother and her mother she was always in our business, this became detrimental to our relationship, there was a day when I was about to move I realised that my bicycle was missing in the house that particular day it was me and her and our 1 month old baby I ask her where is my bicycle she said to me that herself and mother sold it , I told her that she can't sell my bicycle without my consent and that I'm going to open a case against her for selling my bicycle that is when she said that she is going to open a case of rape. she went to the police to open attempted rape and I was arrested. This is very stressing and my career is on the line because she is lying with a serious accusation. Please help
Black T - 6-Sep-19 @ 11:25 AM
After a year of trying to get a contact order to see my children the mother (at the last minute)has now stated that I raped her 4 or 5 times. This is a total shock to me. After the contact order is granted I am pretty sure she will tell the police because that is her last resort.
Dumbfounded - 18-Aug-19 @ 9:33 PM
"My partner has been accused of rape and domestic violence all over social media by his ex wife. We don't know what to do .... His ex wife has already accused my son for "touching" her daughter but the courts didn't even take it to consideration in because she was still allowed to spend time with us. This is been going on for nearly two years. We are living in fear of the next malicious statement. What can we do ...it's draining and really scary day to day." You are experiencing what I'm currently experiencing. I'm traumatized as hell and it's like living in fear of a false accusation. Not cool.
Joe - 19-Apr-19 @ 2:26 AM
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